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"I'd show some if I were looking to meet, and I would like to see at least one to see what other people think of that person. It would make me feel more comfortable about meeting a stranger, it's not a comment on your personality. It's a good tool and usually works in your interest. " Yes, true but as an opening conversation? I understand why someone would ask pre-meet. And I understand that someone would want to know the kind if people you've been with but again conversation would cover that. Additionally, I was also asked if that was my ass lol | |||
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"I'd show some if I were looking to meet, and I would like to see at least one to see what other people think of that person. It would make me feel more comfortable about meeting a stranger, it's not a comment on your personality. It's a good tool and usually works in your interest. Yes, true but as an opening conversation? I understand why someone would ask pre-meet. And I understand that someone would want to know the kind if people you've been with but again conversation would cover that. Additionally, I was also asked if that was my ass lol " Maybe it prevents a conversation if the verifications would mean a meet is not going to happen. I've seen verifications detailing sex acts that I don't enjoy, so I choose to not engage with that person as we aren't compatible sexually. | |||
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"Twice in the space of 3 days I've been asked to show my veris and then only get hassle and general rudeness when I don't. For me veris are moot. No one is going to send a bad one and no one is going to post a bad one. They basically prove that I have met and I'm genuine. Now, I'm not so naive to think that some are false but surely time and conversation (as well as instinct) will prove that. Now, show them if you want that's your choice but don't get ugly when it's private. The irony was that both women had no veris of their own. " Actually I wrote a bad VERI for my last meet because it was a bad meet. I say it how it is | |||
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"I'd show some if I were looking to meet, and I would like to see at least one to see what other people think of that person. It would make me feel more comfortable about meeting a stranger, it's not a comment on your personality. It's a good tool and usually works in your interest. Yes, true but as an opening conversation? I understand why someone would ask pre-meet. And I understand that someone would want to know the kind if people you've been with but again conversation would cover that. Additionally, I was also asked if that was my ass lol Maybe it prevents a conversation if the verifications would mean a meet is not going to happen. I've seen verifications detailing sex acts that I don't enjoy, so I choose to not engage with that person as we aren't compatible sexually. " Why does that make you assume you won't enjoy meeting someone? We don't always have the same sexual experience with the same people - that's the beauty of physical attraction between different people - it's different. Verifications can be far too personal sometimes, and I've read some that although they're well meant, are actually really offputting when they're overly graphic. | |||
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"I'd show some if I were looking to meet, and I would like to see at least one to see what other people think of that person. It would make me feel more comfortable about meeting a stranger, it's not a comment on your personality. It's a good tool and usually works in your interest. Yes, true but as an opening conversation? I understand why someone would ask pre-meet. And I understand that someone would want to know the kind if people you've been with but again conversation would cover that. Additionally, I was also asked if that was my ass lol " We women may get a lot more attention than the men on here, but there's a heck of a lot of 'chaff' to sort through to get to the good ones!! there are also guys who will hide things until they are well in to a conversation in order to try and con you into meeting getting involved. I'd say show the lady immediately, she may just be trying to reassure herself you are not wasting her time, sadly a lot will do. I am afraid I too would be suspicious if no veris were displayed. | |||
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"Twice in the space of 3 days I've been asked to show my veris and then only get hassle and general rudeness when I don't. For me veris are moot. No one is going to send a bad one and no one is going to post a bad one. They basically prove that I have met and I'm genuine. Now, I'm not so naive to think that some are false but surely time and conversation (as well as instinct) will prove that. Now, show them if you want that's your choice but don't get ugly when it's private. The irony was that both women had no veris of their own. " I don't see why people get so hung up on it. I've met a couple of people from here socially and they've been unverified, so none of us have got any further. I'm not sure I'd display them on my profile if I *was* verified, because to be honest I don't want people to know who I've been sleeping with. | |||
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"I'd show some if I were looking to meet, and I would like to see at least one to see what other people think of that person. It would make me feel more comfortable about meeting a stranger, it's not a comment on your personality. It's a good tool and usually works in your interest. Yes, true but as an opening conversation? I understand why someone would ask pre-meet. And I understand that someone would want to know the kind if people you've been with but again conversation would cover that. Additionally, I was also asked if that was my ass lol Maybe it prevents a conversation if the verifications would mean a meet is not going to happen. I've seen verifications detailing sex acts that I don't enjoy, so I choose to not engage with that person as we aren't compatible sexually. Why does that make you assume you won't enjoy meeting someone? We don't always have the same sexual experience with the same people - that's the beauty of physical attraction between different people - it's different. Verifications can be far too personal sometimes, and I've read some that although they're well meant, are actually really offputting when they're overly graphic." Because I know what I'm looking for. If someone were to have the majority of their verifications detailing watersports or extreme Dom situations, I know we're not a match. I'd rather meet someone who is on my level. | |||
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"Maybe it prevents a conversation if the verifications would mean a meet is not going to happen. I've seen verifications detailing sex acts that I don't enjoy, so I choose to not engage with that person as we aren't compatible sexually. Why does that make you assume you won't enjoy meeting someone? We don't always have the same sexual experience with the same people - that's the beauty of physical attraction between different people - it's different. Verifications can be far too personal sometimes, and I've read some that although they're well meant, are actually really offputting when they're overly graphic. Because I know what I'm looking for. If someone were to have the majority of their verifications detailing watersports or extreme Dom situations, I know we're not a match. I'd rather meet someone who is on my level. " Fair point - I guess if you're talking about slightly more extreme sexual play then yes, you might not want to get involved. I guess my mind was a little further down the scale when I read your post | |||
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"I dont really like veris its off putting viewing a profile with 20 .I think 2or3 though does help to prove you're a genuine person. " Exactly | |||
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"I'd show some if I were looking to meet, and I would like to see at least one to see what other people think of that person. It would make me feel more comfortable about meeting a stranger, it's not a comment on your personality. It's a good tool and usually works in your interest. Yes, true but as an opening conversation? I understand why someone would ask pre-meet. And I understand that someone would want to know the kind if people you've been with but again conversation would cover that. Additionally, I was also asked if that was my ass lol We women may get a lot more attention than the men on here, but there's a heck of a lot of 'chaff' to sort through to get to the good ones!! there are also guys who will hide things until they are well in to a conversation in order to try and con you into meeting getting involved. I'd say show the lady immediately, she may just be trying to reassure herself you are not wasting her time, sadly a lot will do. I am afraid I too would be suspicious if no veris were displayed." I get that. But she didn't have any. That's a little like double standards. | |||
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" I get that. But she didn't have any. That's a little like double standards. " You aren't the only one to get harsh message over that scenario! | |||
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"Twice in the space of 3 days I've been asked to show my veris and then only get hassle and general rudeness when I don't. For me veris are moot. No one is going to send a bad one and no one is going to post a bad one. They basically prove that I have met and I'm genuine. Now, I'm not so Naïve to think that some are false but surely time and conversation (as well as instinct) will prove that. Now, show them if you want that's your choice but don't get ugly when it's private. The irony was that both women had no veris of their own. Actually I wrote a bad VERI for my last meet because it was a bad meet. I say it how it is " Good for you but they won't publish it and that's what I meant. Is like to think I tell it as it is too | |||
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"You have your summary showing 5 meets with different woman think that's anough to show your genuine, really isn't any need to be told to show them, if there private That's your choice, people are so nosey (I am abit and if thinking of meeting someone I will have a nosey if showing verification, if not I respect that as meet new people at party's anyway.rarely meet local always social first anyhow so it dosent matter who they met)" Thank you one and all. There's nothing wrong with being nosey | |||
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"Twice in the space of 3 days I've been asked to show my veris and then only get hassle and general rudeness when I don't. For me veris are moot. No one is going to send a bad one and no one is going to post a bad one. They basically prove that I have met and I'm genuine. Now, I'm not so Naïve to think that some are false but surely time and conversation (as well as instinct) will prove that. Now, show them if you want that's your choice but don't get ugly when it's private. The irony was that both women had no veris of their own. Actually I wrote a bad VERI for my last meet because it was a bad meet. I say it how it is Good for you but they won't publish it and that's what I meant. Is like to think I tell it as it is too" Yes it was publish but he left the site anyway | |||
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"I'd show some if I were looking to meet, and I would like to see at least one to see what other people think of that person. It would make me feel more comfortable about meeting a stranger, it's not a comment on your personality. It's a good tool and usually works in your interest. Yes, true but as an opening conversation? I understand why someone would ask pre-meet. And I understand that someone would want to know the kind if people you've been with but again conversation would cover that. Additionally, I was also asked if that was my ass lol We women may get a lot more attention than the men on here, but there's a heck of a lot of 'chaff' to sort through to get to the good ones!! there are also guys who will hide things until they are well in to a conversation in order to try and con you into meeting getting involved. I'd say show the lady immediately, she may just be trying to reassure herself you are not wasting her time, sadly a lot will do. I am afraid I too would be suspicious if no veris were displayed. I get that. But she didn't have any. That's a little like double standards. " I can see why you might feel that way, but to me it's not necessarily. I meet people who are not verified, that's fine, so far my judgement has been good with those guys and if they have none they have nothing to hide. But if a man has verifications and chooses to hide them - hmm, I am suspicious he doesn't have any good enough to display or he is hiding something. I once met someone who never showed their veris and it was the worst meet ever, I vowed never again. Sadly it is often from bitter experience, though I would never 'go off on one' I would just move along probably, we ladies are spoiled for choice, I accept that. | |||
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"Twice in the space of 3 days I've been asked to show my veris and then only get hassle and general rudeness when I don't. For me veris are moot. No one is going to send a bad one and no one is going to post a bad one. They basically prove that I have met and I'm genuine. Now, I'm not so Naïve to think that some are false but surely time and conversation (as well as instinct) will prove that. Now, show them if you want that's your choice but don't get ugly when it's private. The irony was that both women had no veris of their own. Actually I wrote a bad VERI for my last meet because it was a bad meet. I say it how it is Good for you but they won't publish it and that's what I meant. Is like to think I tell it as it is too Yes it was publish but he left the site anyway " Mollified by your acerbic criticism no doubt | |||
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"I'd show some if I were looking to meet, and I would like to see at least one to see what other people think of that person. It would make me feel more comfortable about meeting a stranger, it's not a comment on your personality. It's a good tool and usually works in your interest. Yes, true but as an opening conversation? I understand why someone would ask pre-meet. And I understand that someone would want to know the kind if people you've been with but again conversation would cover that. Additionally, I was also asked if that was my ass lol We women may get a lot more attention than the men on here, but there's a heck of a lot of 'chaff' to sort through to get to the good ones!! there are also guys who will hide things until they are well in to a conversation in order to try and con you into meeting getting involved. I'd say show the lady immediately, she may just be trying to reassure herself you are not wasting her time, sadly a lot will do. I am afraid I too would be suspicious if no veris were displayed. I get that. But she didn't have any. That's a little like double standards. I can see why you might feel that way, but to me it's not necessarily. I meet people who are not verified, that's fine, so far my judgement has been good with those guys and if they have none they have nothing to hide. But if a man has verifications and chooses to hide them - hmm, I am suspicious he doesn't have any good enough to display or he is hiding something. I once met someone who never showed their veris and it was the worst meet ever, I vowed never again. Sadly it is often from bitter experience, though I would never 'go off on one' I would just move along probably, we ladies are spoiled for choice, I accept that. " Tis the nature of the site I guess. I never said I wouldn't show them but I choose not to initially. They are obviously glowing reports of my wit and charm I accept that us men are in the majority and you woman have to be extra careful. | |||
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"I'd show some if I were looking to meet, and I would like to see at least one to see what other people think of that person. It would make me feel more comfortable about meeting a stranger, it's not a comment on your personality. It's a good tool and usually works in your interest. Yes, true but as an opening conversation? I understand why someone would ask pre-meet. And I understand that someone would want to know the kind if people you've been with but again conversation would cover that. Additionally, I was also asked if that was my ass lol We women may get a lot more attention than the men on here, but there's a heck of a lot of 'chaff' to sort through to get to the good ones!! there are also guys who will hide things until they are well in to a conversation in order to try and con you into meeting getting involved. I'd say show the lady immediately, she may just be trying to reassure herself you are not wasting her time, sadly a lot will do. I am afraid I too would be suspicious if no veris were displayed. I get that. But she didn't have any. That's a little like double standards. I can see why you might feel that way, but to me it's not necessarily. I meet people who are not verified, that's fine, so far my judgement has been good with those guys and if they have none they have nothing to hide. But if a man has verifications and chooses to hide them - hmm, I am suspicious he doesn't have any good enough to display or he is hiding something. I once met someone who never showed their veris and it was the worst meet ever, I vowed never again. Sadly it is often from bitter experience, though I would never 'go off on one' I would just move along probably, we ladies are spoiled for choice, I accept that. Tis the nature of the site I guess. I never said I wouldn't show them but I choose not to initially. They are obviously glowing reports of my wit and charm I accept that us men are in the majority and you woman have to be extra careful. " Ah well, only considerable wit and charm might make me wait for the confirmation of godlike status in other areas. | |||
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"I'd show some if I were looking to meet, and I would like to see at least one to see what other people think of that person. It would make me feel more comfortable about meeting a stranger, it's not a comment on your personality. It's a good tool and usually works in your interest. Yes, true but as an opening conversation? I understand why someone would ask pre-meet. And I understand that someone would want to know the kind if people you've been with but again conversation would cover that. Additionally, I was also asked if that was my ass lol We women may get a lot more attention than the men on here, but there's a heck of a lot of 'chaff' to sort through to get to the good ones!! there are also guys who will hide things until they are well in to a conversation in order to try and con you into meeting getting involved. I'd say show the lady immediately, she may just be trying to reassure herself you are not wasting her time, sadly a lot will do. I am afraid I too would be suspicious if no veris were displayed. I get that. But she didn't have any. That's a little like double standards. I can see why you might feel that way, but to me it's not necessarily. I meet people who are not verified, that's fine, so far my judgement has been good with those guys and if they have none they have nothing to hide. But if a man has verifications and chooses to hide them - hmm, I am suspicious he doesn't have any good enough to display or he is hiding something. I once met someone who never showed their veris and it was the worst meet ever, I vowed never again. Sadly it is often from bitter experience, though I would never 'go off on one' I would just move along probably, we ladies are spoiled for choice, I accept that. Tis the nature of the site I guess. I never said I wouldn't show them but I choose not to initially. They are obviously glowing reports of my wit and charm I accept that us men are in the majority and you woman have to be extra careful. Ah well, only considerable wit and charm might make me wait for the confirmation of godlike status in other areas. " Lol. Nice veris btw Frisky. Ah sweet irony! | |||
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"I'd show some if I were looking to meet, and I would like to see at least one to see what other people think of that person. It would make me feel more comfortable about meeting a stranger, it's not a comment on your personality. It's a good tool and usually works in your interest. Yes, true but as an opening conversation? I understand why someone would ask pre-meet. And I understand that someone would want to know the kind if people you've been with but again conversation would cover that. Additionally, I was also asked if that was my ass lol We women may get a lot more attention than the men on here, but there's a heck of a lot of 'chaff' to sort through to get to the good ones!! there are also guys who will hide things until they are well in to a conversation in order to try and con you into meeting getting involved. I'd say show the lady immediately, she may just be trying to reassure herself you are not wasting her time, sadly a lot will do. I am afraid I too would be suspicious if no veris were displayed. I get that. But she didn't have any. That's a little like double standards. I can see why you might feel that way, but to me it's not necessarily. I meet people who are not verified, that's fine, so far my judgement has been good with those guys and if they have none they have nothing to hide. But if a man has verifications and chooses to hide them - hmm, I am suspicious he doesn't have any good enough to display or he is hiding something. I once met someone who never showed their veris and it was the worst meet ever, I vowed never again. Sadly it is often from bitter experience, though I would never 'go off on one' I would just move along probably, we ladies are spoiled for choice, I accept that. Tis the nature of the site I guess. I never said I wouldn't show them but I choose not to initially. They are obviously glowing reports of my wit and charm I accept that us men are in the majority and you woman have to be extra careful. Ah well, only considerable wit and charm might make me wait for the confirmation of godlike status in other areas. Lol. Nice veris btw Frisky. Ah sweet irony! " Lol, QED! | |||
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"Twice in the space of 3 days I've been asked to show my veris and then only get hassle and general rudeness when I don't. For me veris are moot. No one is going to send a bad one and no one is going to post a bad one. They basically prove that I have met and I'm genuine. Now, I'm not so naive to think that some are false but surely time and conversation (as well as instinct) will prove that. Now, show them if you want that's your choice but don't get ugly when it's private. The irony was that both women had no veris of their own. " A lot just want to see who you have met, many on here will judge you on who you have met looks like, they more want to look at who's verified you's profile rather than read what they have put about your meet | |||
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"I don't mind people seeing mine as I don't have graphic ones up. They really make me queasy but each to their own " I don't particularly mind what mine say, but I've hidden certain ones off people who have gone on to become friends for various reasons, to lewd etc and then I get questioned why am I not displaying there's but am with other people's so I've come to the solution that I just display my last one...and that's that. Beyond that, I just don't feel the need to show them all To me though, if someone doesen't like that, and needs to see them to trust me, then I probably don't want to meet them, I don't like the idea I need to prove myself in that way...people trust me, or they don't, an odd filter of mine I guess | |||
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"I don't mind people seeing mine as I don't have graphic ones up. They really make me queasy but each to their own I don't particularly mind what mine say, but I've hidden certain ones off people who have gone on to become friends for various reasons, to lewd etc and then I get questioned why am I not displaying there's but am with other people's so I've come to the solution that I just display my last one...and that's that. Beyond that, I just don't feel the need to show them all To me though, if someone doesen't like that, and needs to see them to trust me, then I probably don't want to meet them, I don't like the idea I need to prove myself in that way...people trust me, or they don't, an odd filter of mine I guess " I find it weird you would get questioned why you weren't showing there's like their stalking your profile watching what you do and don't put up | |||
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"Twice in the space of 3 days I've been asked to show my veris and then only get hassle and general rudeness when I don't. For me veris are moot. No one is going to send a bad one and no one is going to post a bad one. They basically prove that I have met and I'm genuine. Now, I'm not so naive to think that some are false but surely time and conversation (as well as instinct) will prove that. Now, show them if you want that's your choice but don't get ugly when it's private. The irony was that both women had no veris of their own. A lot just want to see who you have met, many on here will judge you on who you have met looks like, they more want to look at who's verified you's profile rather than read what they have put about your meet" I agree totally its not what you do....its where you do it | |||
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