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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello all

I am really keen to try out a bdsm club.. have seen the torture garden.. can anyone advise on a good one… I’m a total novice (aside from being tied and blind folded, and doing the same back).. but realy keen to explore a bit more!!

Thank you!

Elle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come to antichrist on the 3rd with us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ahhh i would certainly be interested.. alas i have a "vanilla" wedding to go to then..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at 10pm?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

no this is an all day event.. staying at hotel away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well there are very, very few people on here with an interest in / going to fetclubs, I'll mail you in a sec, be easier.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"

Well there are very, very few people on here with an interest in / going to fetclubs, I'll mail you in a sec, be easier."

How do you know this?.......have you spoken to everyone?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

BDSM?

I passed my driving test with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well there are very, very few people on here with an interest in / going to fetclubs, I'll mail you in a sec, be easier.

How do you know this?.......have you spoken to everyone?"

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"BDSM?

I passed my driving test with them."

With or without punishment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and so it goes on.............................we're interested but don't have the clothes/courage

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"

Well there are very, very few people on here with an interest in / going to fetclubs, I'll mail you in a sec, be easier.

How do you know this?.......have you spoken to everyone?"

Silly jane, have you not forgotten they know everyone in the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and so it goes on.............................we're interested but don't have the clothes/courage"

Clothes can be such a pain... or rather, they can be so damned expensive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well there are very, very few people on here with an interest in / going to fetclubs, I'll mail you in a sec, be easier.

How do you know this?.......have you spoken to everyone?

Silly jane, have you not forgotten they know everyone in the world "

Good god.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"BDSM?

I passed my driving test with them.

With or without punishment? "

I passed. But i'll say this, they were very strict.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and so it goes on.............................we're interested but don't have the clothes/courage"

Not all BDSM clubs have a strict fetish clothing rule, especially newcomers. Some also have fancy dress nights where you'll get a chance to so if BDSM really is for you without investing in leather/ pvc or whatever floats your boat. It's worth enquiring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well there are very, very few people on here with an interest in / going to fetclubs, I'll mail you in a sec, be easier.

How do you know this?.......have you spoken to everyone?

Silly jane, have you not forgotten they know everyone in the world

Good god."

^ ^^ ^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and so it goes on.............................we're interested but don't have the clothes/courage

Not all BDSM clubs have a strict fetish clothing rule, especially newcomers. Some also have fancy dress nights where you'll get a chance to so if BDSM really is for you without investing in leather/ pvc or whatever floats your boat. It's worth enquiring."

Very true, mostly dresscodes are to keep casual type out - something TG really had to clamp down on last year after it got reviews in papers and suchlike.

Mostly if you look like you've made an "effort", they are fine. It's certainly not worth blowing 200 quid on latex for the first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well there are very, very few people on here with an interest in / going to fetclubs, I'll mail you in a sec, be easier."

You'll probably find there are more than you'd think. The isn't a BDSM category in 'interests' so it's hard to search and 'spanking' doesn't always mean BDSM.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we're worried that if we do something different then certain people may feel it necessary to make a bitchy or negative comment anytime we post anything. its tiresome and rather childish. seems to happen a lot lately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well there are very, very few people on here with an interest in / going to fetclubs, I'll mail you in a sec, be easier.

You'll probably find there are more than you'd think. The isn't a BDSM category in 'interests' so it's hard to search and 'spanking' doesn't always mean BDSM."

Possibly, but there is a limit to just how much you can do to find them. Reading every profile is not practical. Making a point of it on the forums is the best we've managed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well the dress code really shouldnt be too difficult for a woman i would have thought.. but being a newbie virgin to this what do i know!

PVC is my thing... with boots..i already have a lovely leather collar.. certainly happy to look into more fettish gear in time too!

Happy times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ker-Pow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well there are very, very few people on here with an interest in / going to fetclubs, I'll mail you in a sec, be easier.

You'll probably find there are more than you'd think. The isn't a BDSM category in 'interests' so it's hard to search and 'spanking' doesn't always mean BDSM.

Possibly, but there is a limit to just how much you can do to find them. Reading every profile is not practical. Making a point of it on the forums is the best we've managed.

"

If it's important to you contact the site owners and ask if a BDMS checkbox can be added. It'd be dead easy to do and would enhance the site for all users. There's possibly as many people seeking members of the smacked bottom brigade as wishing to avoid tham.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Not for the first time you have bemoaned the lack of other members knowledge or participation in Fetish on this site, you have made a statement about not many members being interested in visiting Fetish clubs without knowing this to be true or not.....

Just because you make constant reference to Fetish clubs on here in your posts it doesn't mean that other members do not frequent them nor have an interest in Fetish, they just don't broadcast the fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well there are very, very few people on here with an interest in / going to fetclubs, I'll mail you in a sec, be easier.

You'll probably find there are more than you'd think. The isn't a BDSM category in 'interests' so it's hard to search and 'spanking' doesn't always mean BDSM.

Possibly, but there is a limit to just how much you can do to find them. Reading every profile is not practical. Making a point of it on the forums is the best we've managed.

If it's important to you contact the site owners and ask if a BDMS checkbox can be added. It'd be dead easy to do and would enhance the site for all users. There's possibly as many people seeking members of the smacked bottom brigade as wishing to avoid tham."

its not important at all!

perhaps we came across wrong? We have out fetish lives all sorted - we are here for swinging But, just like people mention socials, clubs, etc, we mention fetish interests - and quite successfully I ad as most meets we've had have had some fetish slant to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not for the first time you have bemoaned the lack of other members knowledge or participation in Fetish on this site, you have made a statement about not many members being interested in visiting Fetish clubs without knowing this to be true or not.....

Just because you make constant reference to Fetish clubs on here in your posts it doesn't mean that other members do not frequent them nor have an interest in Fetish, they just don't broadcast the fact.

"

You need a hobby to stop keeping a scorecard of what we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well the dress code really shouldnt be too difficult for a woman i would have thought.. but being a newbie virgin to this what do i know!

PVC is my thing... with boots..i already have a lovely leather collar.. certainly happy to look into more fettish gear in time too!

Happy times! "

ne Scottish fetish club publishes their dress code on line. It's

"Leather

Rubber

PVC

Uniform

Velvet

Kilt

TV

Fancy Dress

Glamour

Historical/Period

Dinner suit (proper bow tie or spinning thing)

Lingerie

Gothic

Skin/Body Art

Fantasy

OTT

National Dress

Imaginative

If in doubt (especially if it's your first time) contact us.

What not to wear:

No denim of any colour

Street clothing

Blue jeans (of any shade)

Sports wear (Shell suits etc)

Normal Shirts that you would wear to work unless it is black"

There should be something in there for everyone.

O

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

It's not me that is keeping a score of how many members (or lack of them) have an active interest in Fetish clubs....it is you, as not for the first time you have made comment on it.

I have an active interest in Fetish, as have many others on here, we just don't broadcast it as often as you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

over and out, enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well the dress code really shouldnt be too difficult for a woman i would have thought.. but being a newbie virgin to this what do i know!

PVC is my thing... with boots..i already have a lovely leather collar.. certainly happy to look into more fettish gear in time too!

Happy times!

ne Scottish fetish club publishes their dress code on line. It's

"Leather

Rubber

PVC

Uniform

Velvet

Kilt

TV

Fancy Dress

Glamour

Historical/Period

Dinner suit (proper bow tie or spinning thing)

Lingerie

Gothic

Skin/Body Art

Fantasy

OTT

National Dress

Imaginative

If in doubt (especially if it's your first time) contact us.

What not to wear:

No denim of any colour

Street clothing

Blue jeans (of any shade)

Sports wear (Shell suits etc)

Normal Shirts that you would wear to work unless it is black"

There should be something in there for everyone.

O

"

sounds like the average dress code at my local lol!

no really into the fetish scene personally but do remember jane tellin us a few stories about parties she had been to and funny incidents! x

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By *omer47Man
over a year ago

leigh

hi all...ive been looking for a dominant female for ages on her in my area,but it seems that the women want dominant men & not submissive men on here..so how do men find a dominant woman?...other than pay £300ph for one.any ideas?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well so sorry to have caused such a rumpus in here.. all I did was enquire….

Fetish have been nothing but helpful and given me food for thought and an open invite…surely we are here to enjoy / have fun and leave the school playground behind?

Maybe I’m too naive, all I want is to explore new sides to me which are dying to get out

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"well the dress code really shouldnt be too difficult for a woman i would have thought.. but being a newbie virgin to this what do i know!

PVC is my thing... with boots..i already have a lovely leather collar.. certainly happy to look into more fettish gear in time too!

Happy times!

ne Scottish fetish club publishes their dress code on line. It's

"Leather

Rubber

PVC

Uniform

Velvet

Kilt

TV

Fancy Dress

Glamour

Historical/Period

Dinner suit (proper bow tie or spinning thing)

Lingerie

Gothic

Skin/Body Art

Fantasy

OTT

National Dress

Imaginative

If in doubt (especially if it's your first time) contact us.

What not to wear:

No denim of any colour

Street clothing

Blue jeans (of any shade)

Sports wear (Shell suits etc)

Normal Shirts that you would wear to work unless it is black"

There should be something in there for everyone.

O

sounds like the average dress code at my local lol!

no really into the fetish scene personally but do remember jane tellin us a few stories about parties she had been to and funny incidents! x "

Hope that's not a reference to me falling backwards over a hogtied crossdresser and fracturing my elbow in a fetish club lol......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well there are very, very few people on here with an interest in / going to fetclubs, I'll mail you in a sec, be easier.

You'll probably find there are more than you'd think. The isn't a BDSM category in 'interests' so it's hard to search and 'spanking' doesn't always mean BDSM."

I'd agree with you there if the men that contact me are anything to go by!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we're worried that if we do something different then certain people may feel it necessary to make a bitchy or negative comment anytime we post anything. its tiresome and rather childish. seems to happen a lot lately"

Why on earth would you care what other people think?!!

We're all here to find sexual pleasure to suit our own needs: so embrace and enjoy!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Fetish and an interest in Fetish is more often than not underground amongst it's followers, more so than swinging in my experience.

Because this is not a specialised Fetish site, nor does it have a Fetish/BDSM section it would seem that there is not a large amount of interest in the subject on this site.

However this is not the case, and there are quite a few members on here that I know personally from the Fetish club scene.....they just don't broadcast it all the time in the forums.

I would suggest that the OP continue to seek others through this site and she will soon root out those with an active interest in the scene.....there are plenty of us!

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Forget the vanilla, i'm rapidly developing a fetish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly are !! Anti - christ is good.Theres quite a few places / events similar too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi all...ive been looking for a dominant female for ages on her in my area,but it seems that the women want dominant men & not submissive men on here..so how do men find a dominant woman?...other than pay £300ph for one.any ideas?"

*cough, cough*

£300 an hour???

Hmmmmm, thinks about career change!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi all...ive been looking for a dominant female for ages on her in my area,but it seems that the women want dominant men & not submissive men on here..so how do men find a dominant woman?...other than pay £300ph for one.any ideas?"

Yes. Pay me £500

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well the dress code really shouldnt be too difficult for a woman i would have thought.. but being a newbie virgin to this what do i know!

PVC is my thing... with boots..i already have a lovely leather collar.. certainly happy to look into more fettish gear in time too!

Happy times!

ne Scottish fetish club publishes their dress code on line. It's

"Leather

Rubber

PVC

Uniform

Velvet

Kilt

TV

Fancy Dress

Glamour

Historical/Period

Dinner suit (proper bow tie or spinning thing)

Lingerie

Gothic

Skin/Body Art

Fantasy

OTT

National Dress

Imaginative

If in doubt (especially if it's your first time) contact us.

What not to wear:

No denim of any colour

Street clothing

Blue jeans (of any shade)

Sports wear (Shell suits etc)

Normal Shirts that you would wear to work unless it is black"

There should be something in there for everyone.

O

sounds like the average dress code at my local lol!

no really into the fetish scene personally but do remember jane tellin us a few stories about parties she had been to and funny incidents! x

Hope that's not a reference to me falling backwards over a hogtied crossdresser and fracturing my elbow in a fetish club lol......"

Ooooh I remember that story Jane and your ruined gear they had to cut off you!

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By *un4every1Couple
over a year ago

melton mowbray

Liberty Elite run a fetish night one thurs a month. Have a look at their website for next date.

Nice friendly bunch and your PVC outfits would be fine.

Have fun wherever you go

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i'd quite like to go to a club to see what it is like, have started to explore BDSM, even play with a dom guy who has a big bag of tricks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently Chams at Darlaston has the occasional afternoon BDSM demos, however, I have not been able to verify if this is true yet. I shall do so when I go up there tomorrow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well so sorry to have caused such a rumpus in here.. all I did was enquire….

Fetish have been nothing but helpful and given me food for thought and an open invite…surely we are here to enjoy / have fun and leave the school playground behind?

Maybe I’m too naive, all I want is to explore new sides to me which are dying to get out

"

I am with you too, the playaground and exploring bdsm too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be in trouble.

My fetish is wearing denim and shellsuits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi all...ive been looking for a dominant female for ages on her in my area,but it seems that the women want dominant men & not submissive men on here..so how do men find a dominant woman?...other than pay £300ph for one.any ideas?

*cough, cough*

£300 an hour???

Hmmmmm, thinks about career change! "

I think someone....er..... saw him cumming! lol £300 an hour!!! Woohoo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well the dress code really shouldnt be too difficult for a woman i would have thought.. but being a newbie virgin to this what do i know!

PVC is my thing... with boots..i already have a lovely leather collar.. certainly happy to look into more fettish gear in time too!

Happy times! "

Well you sound utterly delicious, so enjoy yourself, sounds to me you'd look the part! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could be in trouble.

My fetish is wearing denim and shellsuits "

mmmmmmmmmm!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi all...ive been looking for a dominant female for ages on her in my area,but it seems that the women want dominant men & not submissive men on here..so how do men find a dominant woman?...other than pay £300ph for one.any ideas?

*cough, cough*

£300 an hour???

Hmmmmm, thinks about career change!

I think someone....er..... saw him cumming! lol £300 an hour!!! Woohoo!"

DO you mind?!!

I'm trying to gather information here. London rates would be higher so stop putting off my potential clients!

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