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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham

So after kind of hijacking feral fawning's thread by going on about my cycle I did some googling (I know, I know!) and this is one of the possibilities that it's thrown up.

Has anyone gone through it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So after kind of hijacking feral fawning's thread by going on about my cycle I did some googling (I know, I know!) and this is one of the possibilities that it's thrown up.

Has anyone gone through it? "

Yep! And out the other side

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Yes. Mine started when I was about 36 and after the hysterectomy I went straight into full menopause.

You can get a blood test to see how close to menopause you are. If you're within four years it will show up.

However, your cycle being so frequent may have other causes too. Go and get checked and ask for a scan to check for fibroids.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Funny you should say that when I saw your post I wondered if you where having early menopause.

Its the stage women go through for a couple of years before the full change

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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago

Staines

*ambles into forum.

Perimenopause

Hysterectomy

Fibroids

*legs it back out again

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Unless your cycle is normal then a trip to the docs is always a better option as irregular bleeding always needs checking out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, I am going through it now!!!

I take yam, soy and sage tablets (Holland and Barrett) they work wonderful.

No more hot flushes and got my mojo back yeahhhh xx

Much better than the hrt my Doctor offered me. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even know if I have been through it , started it or am in middle of it

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Unless your cycle is normal then a trip to the docs is always a better option as irregular bleeding always needs checking out.

"

I am going to go but (and this is no excuse really) booking an appointment with the dr here is such a faff.

You have to ring, tell the receptionist why you want an appointment, they put you on a call back list for the dr but can't say when they will call you back, get a call back and they decide whether you need to go in or not.

I guess it's good as you get an appointment that day if needed or the dr will write a prescription up for you you collect etc but I work in an open plan office with no other space to use, I cannot have my mobile in work by law, they can't tell me when they'll call back so can't go wait in my car for the call and I have to talk about my bits and bobs in front of all my colleagues

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Unless your cycle is normal then a trip to the docs is always a better option as irregular bleeding always needs checking out.

I am going to go but (and this is no excuse really) booking an appointment with the dr here is such a faff.

You have to ring, tell the receptionist why you want an appointment, they put you on a call back list for the dr but can't say when they will call you back, get a call back and they decide whether you need to go in or not.

I guess it's good as you get an appointment that day if needed or the dr will write a prescription up for you you collect etc but I work in an open plan office with no other space to use, I cannot have my mobile in work by law, they can't tell me when they'll call back so can't go wait in my car for the call and I have to talk about my bits and bobs in front of all my colleagues "

FGS! What a shower your doctors surgery is!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I don't even know if I have been through it , started it or am in middle of it "

If you've still got an ovary then you should be starting now or soon.

I had mine taken away so I started my menopause immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no sign of anything stopping yet - 52 and still going strong - ggrrrr -

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"no sign of anything stopping yet - 52 and still going strong - ggrrrr - "

52 is the average age so lots of us go on longer. My doctor said that as we live longer, are nourished better and take more care of ourselves menopause occurs later and later

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Unless your cycle is normal then a trip to the docs is always a better option as irregular bleeding always needs checking out.

I am going to go but (and this is no excuse really) booking an appointment with the dr here is such a faff.

You have to ring, tell the receptionist why you want an appointment, they put you on a call back list for the dr but can't say when they will call you back, get a call back and they decide whether you need to go in or not.

I guess it's good as you get an appointment that day if needed or the dr will write a prescription up for you you collect etc but I work in an open plan office with no other space to use, I cannot have my mobile in work by law, they can't tell me when they'll call back so can't go wait in my car for the call and I have to talk about my bits and bobs in front of all my colleagues "

Can you speak to HR about working somewhere else for half a day in order to be able to take the call back?

My GP receptionist doesn't ask anything but name and date of birth.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm scared that when I next 35 next week that all my eggs will scramble and die. It's all this stuff about having kids when you are 35 etc it actually freaks me out slightly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no sign of anything stopping yet - 52 and still going strong - ggrrrr -

52 is the average age so lots of us go on longer. My doctor said that as we live longer, are nourished better and take more care of ourselves menopause occurs later and later"

gawd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless your cycle is normal then a trip to the docs is always a better option as irregular bleeding always needs checking out.

I am going to go but (and this is no excuse really) booking an appointment with the dr here is such a faff.

You have to ring, tell the receptionist why you want an appointment, they put you on a call back list for the dr but can't say when they will call you back, get a call back and they decide whether you need to go in or not.

I guess it's good as you get an appointment that day if needed or the dr will write a prescription up for you you collect etc but I work in an open plan office with no other space to use, I cannot have my mobile in work by law, they can't tell me when they'll call back so can't go wait in my car for the call and I have to talk about my bits and bobs in front of all my colleagues "

I'm not sure how feasible this is but have you thought about changing GP's ~ you shouldn't have to give anyone apart from the doctor your medical information.

I only get asked if I need a 5 / 10 min or phone appointment.

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Sorry took a wrong turn...

Carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm scared that when I next 35 next week that all my eggs will scramble and die. It's all this stuff about having kids when you are 35 etc it actually freaks me out slightly "

I was pregnant at 39.

Apparently there's greater chance of having twins after the age of 35...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm just starting now. They won't confirm it but they've tested me for everything else and its all come up normal so they say the only thing it MIGHT be is perimenopause.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Unless your cycle is normal then a trip to the docs is always a better option as irregular bleeding always needs checking out.

I am going to go but (and this is no excuse really) booking an appointment with the dr here is such a faff.

You have to ring, tell the receptionist why you want an appointment, they put you on a call back list for the dr but can't say when they will call you back, get a call back and they decide whether you need to go in or not.

I guess it's good as you get an appointment that day if needed or the dr will write a prescription up for you you collect etc but I work in an open plan office with no other space to use, I cannot have my mobile in work by law, they can't tell me when they'll call back so can't go wait in my car for the call and I have to talk about my bits and bobs in front of all my colleagues "
you just tell the receptionist its private, they can't make you tell them. Could you not pop in after work to make an appointment

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Unless your cycle is normal then a trip to the docs is always a better option as irregular bleeding always needs checking out.

I am going to go but (and this is no excuse really) booking an appointment with the dr here is such a faff.

You have to ring, tell the receptionist why you want an appointment, they put you on a call back list for the dr but can't say when they will call you back, get a call back and they decide whether you need to go in or not.

I guess it's good as you get an appointment that day if needed or the dr will write a prescription up for you you collect etc but I work in an open plan office with no other space to use, I cannot have my mobile in work by law, they can't tell me when they'll call back so can't go wait in my car for the call and I have to talk about my bits and bobs in front of all my colleagues "

Cant you book an advanced appointment? we can book two weeks in advance online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm scared that when I next 35 next week that all my eggs will scramble and die. It's all this stuff about having kids when you are 35 etc it actually freaks me out slightly

I was pregnant at 39.

Apparently there's greater chance of having twins after the age of 35... "

My mum had me and my twin at 35 and my twin brother and sister at 40. I had my children young,just in case. I've had a hysterectomy and still have periods,lucky me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm scared that when I next 35 next week that all my eggs will scramble and die. It's all this stuff about having kids when you are 35 etc it actually freaks me out slightly "

Lots of my friends were 35 or over when they had their first child. One friend had twins at 40.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Unless your cycle is normal then a trip to the docs is always a better option as irregular bleeding always needs checking out.

I am going to go but (and this is no excuse really) booking an appointment with the dr here is such a faff.

You have to ring, tell the receptionist why you want an appointment, they put you on a call back list for the dr but can't say when they will call you back, get a call back and they decide whether you need to go in or not.

I guess it's good as you get an appointment that day if needed or the dr will write a prescription up for you you collect etc but I work in an open plan office with no other space to use, I cannot have my mobile in work by law, they can't tell me when they'll call back so can't go wait in my car for the call and I have to talk about my bits and bobs in front of all my colleagues

Cant you book an advanced appointment? we can book two weeks in advance online."

Nope. I explained my issues with this new system and just got told 'thats the way it works now'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless your cycle is normal then a trip to the docs is always a better option as irregular bleeding always needs checking out.

I am going to go but (and this is no excuse really) booking an appointment with the dr here is such a faff.

You have to ring, tell the receptionist why you want an appointment, they put you on a call back list for the dr but can't say when they will call you back, get a call back and they decide whether you need to go in or not.

I guess it's good as you get an appointment that day if needed or the dr will write a prescription up for you you collect etc but I work in an open plan office with no other space to use, I cannot have my mobile in work by law, they can't tell me when they'll call back so can't go wait in my car for the call and I have to talk about my bits and bobs in front of all my colleagues

Cant you book an advanced appointment? we can book two weeks in advance online.

Nope. I explained my issues with this new system and just got told 'thats the way it works now' "

its very wrong - you have privacy rights and no receptionist or anybody else but the doc needs to know what is wrong with you - i would change doctors or complain through the approprate complaints procedures - the surgery will have one as does the nhs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless your cycle is normal then a trip to the docs is always a better option as irregular bleeding always needs checking out.

I am going to go but (and this is no excuse really) booking an appointment with the dr here is such a faff.

You have to ring, tell the receptionist why you want an appointment, they put you on a call back list for the dr but can't say when they will call you back, get a call back and they decide whether you need to go in or not.

I guess it's good as you get an appointment that day if needed or the dr will write a prescription up for you you collect etc but I work in an open plan office with no other space to use, I cannot have my mobile in work by law, they can't tell me when they'll call back so can't go wait in my car for the call and I have to talk about my bits and bobs in front of all my colleagues

Cant you book an advanced appointment? we can book two weeks in advance online.

Nope. I explained my issues with this new system and just got told 'thats the way it works now'

its very wrong - you have privacy rights and no receptionist or anybody else but the doc needs to know what is wrong with you - i would change doctors or complain through the approprate complaints procedures - the surgery will have one as does the nhs"

I agree that it's outrageous. My doctors only ask things like that if it's a emergency appointment x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So after kind of hijacking feral fawning's thread by going on about my cycle I did some googling (I know, I know!) and this is one of the possibilities that it's thrown up.

Has anyone gone through it? "

Seem to be going through it for over a decade! I didn't have a period for eleven months...then they came back with a vengeance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless your cycle is normal then a trip to the docs is always a better option as irregular bleeding always needs checking out.

I am going to go but (and this is no excuse really) booking an appointment with the dr here is such a faff.

You have to ring, tell the receptionist why you want an appointment, they put you on a call back list for the dr but can't say when they will call you back, get a call back and they decide whether you need to go in or not.

I guess it's good as you get an appointment that day if needed or the dr will write a prescription up for you you collect etc but I work in an open plan office with no other space to use, I cannot have my mobile in work by law, they can't tell me when they'll call back so can't go wait in my car for the call and I have to talk about my bits and bobs in front of all my colleagues

Can you speak to HR about working somewhere else for half a day in order to be able to take the call back?

My GP receptionist doesn't ask anything but name and date of birth.

"
surely your surgery should be a bit more flexible. I would explain your situation to receptionist, if they are not sympathetic to your circumstances, then in the words of Russell Crowe unleash hell on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*ambles into forum.

Perimenopause

Hysterectomy

Fibroids

*legs it back out again"

Don't run! They are alerted by sudden movement. Don't look anyone in the eye, just turn around slowly and walk. No matter what you hear; Do Not Look Back

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"

Nope. I explained my issues with this new system and just got told 'thats the way it works now' "

Bugger that for a game of soldiers then, I would be swopping doctors as 1. I wouldn't be telling a receptionist what I wanted to see the doctor for and 2, you may never get an appointment if you are in work all day.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"*ambles into forum.

Perimenopause

Hysterectomy

Fibroids

*legs it back out again

Don't run! They are alerted by sudden movement. Don't look anyone in the eye, just turn around slowly and walk. No matter what you hear; Do Not Look Back "

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By *wingersrus465Couple
over a year ago

Cheshire

I went to the GP and had a blood test last year at 51 and apparently I have no sign of the menopause. At 52, my cycle is starting to become erratic and I don't sleep well, surely it a sign? !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes went through it at 42 terrible twice a month weight gain , come through the other side, feeling a whole lot better.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you on any form of contraception Evie?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP   Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Are you on any form of contraception Evie?"

I've got the implant and have been periodless for ages until October last year. I took norethisterone to postpone the first one as I was going on holiday and since then it's been every 2 weeks.

Update on the dr thing. They have seen the light and you can book an appointment a week in advance now if it's not an emergency...still had to give a reason though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you on any form of contraception Evie?

I've got the implant and have been periodless for ages until October last year. I took norethisterone to postpone the first one as I was going on holiday and since then it's been every 2 weeks.

Update on the dr thing. They have seen the light and you can book an appointment a week in advance now if it's not an emergency...still had to give a reason though "

tell them youre ill

glad they seen a bit of sense though - our docs are brill i work silly shifts and have gaps in my days and they fit me in round them - my girlie who has a serious illness can come home from uni and be seen most times at the drop of a hat by a doc or by the nurse for her blood tests and jabs - i think we are lucky though

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Are you on any form of contraception Evie?

I've got the implant and have been periodless for ages until October last year. I took norethisterone to postpone the first one as I was going on holiday and since then it's been every 2 weeks.

Update on the dr thing. They have seen the light and you can book an appointment a week in advance now if it's not an emergency...still had to give a reason though "

I would refuse.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

Update on the dr thing. They have seen the light and you can book an appointment a week in advance now if it's not an emergency...still had to give a reason though

I would refuse."

It's actually ok, they're not being nosey, it's more about trying to work out whether you could be seen by a nurse instead. Modern receptionists are more like a form of triage.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had premature menopause haven't had a period for over 10 years now, didn't really realise that I had started the menopause, I had missed a couple of periods so went to the Drs, they did a blood test and hormone levels indicted that the menopause had well and truly started! No major symptoms or side effects, few hot flushes here and there but that's about it really! Had a scan last year that revealed that my ovaries no longer exist, so I'm guessing that I am now post menopause.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"

Update on the dr thing. They have seen the light and you can book an appointment a week in advance now if it's not an emergency...still had to give a reason though

I would refuse.

It's actually ok, they're not being nosey, it's more about trying to work out whether you could be seen by a nurse instead. Modern receptionists are more like a form of triage.

Mr ddc"

And a receptionist with no medical qualifications decides who I should see? No thanks, I would still refuse.

The only people I would discuss my health with is a doctor or nurse.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

Update on the dr thing. They have seen the light and you can book an appointment a week in advance now if it's not an emergency...still had to give a reason though

I would refuse.

It's actually ok, they're not being nosey, it's more about trying to work out whether you could be seen by a nurse instead. Modern receptionists are more like a form of triage.

Mr ddc

And a receptionist with no medical qualifications decides who I should see? No thanks, I would still refuse.

The only people I would discuss my health with is a doctor or nurse. "

As is your right, they, and I, are only trying to help. Often it is quicker to see a nurse, and if they feel they need a doctor's opinion, they can pop out and get it there and then. Everyone's a winner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Update on the dr thing. They have seen the light and you can book an appointment a week in advance now if it's not an emergency...still had to give a reason though

I would refuse.

It's actually ok, they're not being nosey, it's more about trying to work out whether you could be seen by a nurse instead. Modern receptionists are more like a form of triage.

Mr ddc"

Are they?

Noooo. I think as grown ups we know whether a doctor or nurse is needed. Right?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

Update on the dr thing. They have seen the light and you can book an appointment a week in advance now if it's not an emergency...still had to give a reason though

I would refuse.

It's actually ok, they're not being nosey, it's more about trying to work out whether you could be seen by a nurse instead. Modern receptionists are more like a form of triage.

Mr ddc

Are they?

Noooo. I think as grown ups we know whether a doctor or nurse is needed. Right?"

Or simply a chemist? Or AnE? Sadly many people do not.

Still, think I'd better back out now, no point riling Chesh any further.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"

Update on the dr thing. They have seen the light and you can book an appointment a week in advance now if it's not an emergency...still had to give a reason though

I would refuse.

It's actually ok, they're not being nosey, it's more about trying to work out whether you could be seen by a nurse instead. Modern receptionists are more like a form of triage.

Mr ddc

And a receptionist with no medical qualifications decides who I should see? No thanks, I would still refuse.

The only people I would discuss my health with is a doctor or nurse.

As is your right, they, and I, are only trying to help. Often it is quicker to see a nurse, and if they feel they need a doctor's opinion, they can pop out and get it there and then. Everyone's a winner!

"

They and you are trying to help? I see you answering a post, not really helping me as I can't remember asking for help.

For the receptionist who think they are helping....I think people who are not qualified to make decisions about a persons health should do what they were employed for.

I cant believe Doctors are now employing receptionists as Triage nurses, but if it ever got that way in our docs, we would be doing the same as what we would do now, refuse to discuss what we want to see a Doctor for with someone who answers phones

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've asked my mum since this last thread, she was head doctors receptionist and in charge of other receptionists. When you ring up the receptionist can ask what the problem is, the reason is sometimes its not actually a doctor you need to speak to but a nurse. IF you do not want to give the receptionist your details you just say its private, they cannot demand to know you your ailments or treat you any differently and anyone that tells you differently is talking bollocks

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24


"*ambles into forum.

Perimenopause

Hysterectomy

Fibroids

*legs it back out again"

Just as well! You don't wanna see my story lol

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I've been convinced I was perimenopausal for several years. Several bloods tests have shown that I'm still of full reproductive age though. Damn. Don't want to run that risk any more!

But I'm so dry down there I must be perimenopausal! God it's awful! Advice from other dry ladies most welcome.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"So after kind of hijacking feral fawning's thread by going on about my cycle I did some googling (I know, I know!) and this is one of the possibilities that it's thrown up.

Has anyone gone through it? "

You can actually buy a test ( like a pregnancy test) to see if you are perimenopausal I took one and it was positive, so I went to GP for a blood test and he said if the test was positive then I was!! He was right! That was 9 years ago. Now out the other side! Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't even know if I have been through it , started it or am in middle of it

If you've still got an ovary then you should be starting now or soon.

I had mine taken away so I started my menopause immediately.

"

My daughter had a hysterectomy at 18 and went through the menopause

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

Oh that's hard. Poor girl. Endometriosis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh that's hard. Poor girl. Endometriosis?"

No, one of her overies and tubes died when she was a child, she's suffered infections most of her life, she was supposed to have a operation to have it removed when she was 10 but on the day of the op the surgeon refused to do it due to her age and decide he could treat her without removing the dead tissue, basically it was left to the point the infection was so bad they had to remove the lot as they said if the infection got into her blood it would kill her, so at 18 she had a full hysterectomy, but doctors know best I was just an over protective mum when I kept complaining....as you can tell I'm not at all bitter

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

Oh that's terrible. I've never heard of that before.

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