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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Inspired by several posts I've read about crappy single male messages to women, I'm curious as to how effective guys on here think their abilities are when it comes to engaging women in conversation, rate yourselves (honestly) out of 10. Women can join in by commenting on whether or not they agree or disagree with the guys scores, pointing out what the guys can do better, etc

I'd give myself 8/10, good overall but sometimes I lack subtlety, or do the complete opposite and don't get to the point quick enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a 4/10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A 1 for me, based on the amount of replies received from the first message.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

8/10

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Via messages? I'd say 9.

In person? Another 9.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just send 'em a picture of myself naked, pointing at my cock with a 'this ain't gonna suck itself' expression my face.

Either that or wine 'em, dine 'em, lie to them, promise them the world. And always leave a tray of milk chocolates by their bed and an insulting note

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just send 'em a picture of myself naked, pointing at my cock with a 'this ain't gonna suck itself' expression my face.

Either that or wine 'em, dine 'em, lie to them, promise them the world. And always leave a tray of milk chocolates by their bed and an insulting note "

Hahaa best post I've read today

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Same as Obi, I'd say, having carefully and thoughtfully considered this, but hey, I might be completely fucking clueless and living in stevie world.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I just send 'em a picture of myself naked, pointing at my cock with a 'this ain't gonna suck itself' expression my face.

Either that or wine 'em, dine 'em, lie to them, promise them the world. And always leave a tray of milk chocolates by their bed and an insulting note "

And you may think you are saying that tongue in cheek but somehow I doubt it! You just disguise it in different ways!

As a female, do men know how to communicate? In my experience 90% no they do not and no, I have not just made up that figure!

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Honestly , depends upon the woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just send 'em a picture of myself naked, pointing at my cock with a 'this ain't gonna suck itself' expression my face.

Either that or wine 'em, dine 'em, lie to them, promise them the world. And always leave a tray of milk chocolates by their bed and an insulting note

And you may think you are saying that tongue in cheek but somehow I doubt it! You just disguise it in different ways!

As a female, do men know how to communicate? In my experience 90% no they do not and no, I have not just made up that figure! "

It was the milk chocolates, wasn't it? Damn it, knew I should've said dark.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Oh and my mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women love me

I know they know they're safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3/10 then when they actually talk an 8

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

on giving advice on their driving, cooking and ability with power tools about a 7 or 8..

mind you i only ever think it so maybe it doesn't count..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I welcome any comments to the contrary, just so I know which areas to improve on or I have seriously over-rated myself:

In person - 9/10

Via first message - 2/10

Once in conversation via pm - 8/10

Comedy threads - 1/10

Serious threads - 7/10

Overall assessment - Hit and miss

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"About a 4/10"

Ithink you're better than that!!

Tig

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About a 4/10

Ithink you're better than that!!

Tig"

Shush!!! I'm keeping expectations low lol

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"I welcome any comments to the contrary, just so I know which areas to improve on or I have seriously over-rated myself:

In person - 9/10

Via first message - 2/10

Once in conversation via pm - 8/10

Comedy threads - 1/10

Serious threads - 7/10

Overall assessment - Hit and miss "

Can't comment on in person yet.

I messaged you but your response was great.no where near two!

Conversation via PM- 9

Comedy threads... Nah much higher!

Serious threads.. Could do better.

Overall 7-only because I've not had the honour in person yet.

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"About a 4/10

Ithink you're better than that!!

Tig

Shush!!! I'm keeping expectations low lol"
whoops ok I take it back, being a ditzy are who clearly doesn't know what she's talking about- 1 is my revised number.

Best let me win the space hopper race now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I welcome any comments to the contrary, just so I know which areas to improve on or I have seriously over-rated myself:

In person - 9/10

Via first message - 2/10

Once in conversation via pm - 8/10

Comedy threads - 1/10

Serious threads - 7/10

Overall assessment - Hit and miss

Can't comment on in person yet.

I messaged you but your response was great.no where near two!

Conversation via PM- 9

Comedy threads... Nah much higher!

Serious threads.. Could do better.

Overall 7-only because I've not had the honour in person yet.

"

I'll settle for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About a 4/10

Ithink you're better than that!!

Tig

Shush!!! I'm keeping expectations low lol whoops ok I take it back, being a ditzy are who clearly doesn't know what she's talking about- 1 is my revised number.

Best let me win the space hopper race now "

Deal if you make it a 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I'm not ^_^ not much of a talker anyway

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"About a 4/10

Ithink you're better than that!!

Tig

Shush!!! I'm keeping expectations low lol whoops ok I take it back, being a ditzy are who clearly doesn't know what she's talking about- 1 is my revised number.

Best let me win the space hopper race now

Deal if you make it a 3 "

You're raising there expectations a bit there... That's edging close to room for improvement territory. But hey if It gets me 20 mins with the loser of my choice who am I to argue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here is mine:

In person 2

First message 3

Big brother chattings both in pms and forum 10

Chatting in the forum 8

Overall a modest 5

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By *o1mrtlcMan
over a year ago

cannock

It's about being able to hold a good conversation and being confirdent find something that you both can talk about

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I seem to do ok, but do get a bit carried away with mirth. I was chatting to a lass in Pink Punters on Friday night whilst her bf chatted to my companion and she was the recipient of several puns, a couple of cross talk segments and some surreal observations regarding her ancestry linked to a back payment of Danegeld....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About a 4/10

Ithink you're better than that!!

Tig

Shush!!! I'm keeping expectations low lol whoops ok I take it back, being a ditzy are who clearly doesn't know what she's talking about- 1 is my revised number.

Best let me win the space hopper race now

Deal if you make it a 3

You're raising there expectations a bit there... That's edging close to room for improvement territory. But hey if It gets me 20 mins with the loser of my choice who am I to argue "

You know it makes sense. Under a 3 suggests I'm pretty much still at the "Show me your Tits" stage.

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

In person very good,on here crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to do ok, but do get a bit carried away with mirth. I was chatting to a lass in Pink Punters on Friday night whilst her bf chatted to my companion and she was the recipient of several puns, a couple of cross talk segments and some surreal observations regarding her ancestry linked to a back payment of Danegeld.... "

And that is called paying the Dane-geld;

But we've proved it again and again,

That if once you have paid him the Dane-geld

You never get rid of the Dane

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

A healthy 7/10. Whether they'll entertain a conversation is a different matter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that the ladies I have attracted by my messages have taken my dry humour as the smooth talk they need but a lot of others just either don't get me or don't want too!! Lol So if humour works then 8 otherwise 0!!

I actually find it harder to converse in person... It normally flows on here if there's a connection between us

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"About a 4/10

Ithink you're better than that!!

Tig

Shush!!! I'm keeping expectations low lol whoops ok I take it back, being a ditzy are who clearly doesn't know what she's talking about- 1 is my revised number.

Best let me win the space hopper race now

Deal if you make it a 3

You're raising there expectations a bit there... That's edging close to room for improvement territory. But hey if It gets me 20 mins with the loser of my choice who am I to argue

You know it makes sense. Under a 3 suggests I'm pretty much still at the "Show me your Tits" stage."

Can't argue with your logic; well negotiated that man.

Have yourself a three.

Crap, that doesn't count towards your score, does it?

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

From the responses I get I'd say,

Vis messages 8

In person. 9

If we're naked 10 well she can't disagree with her mouthful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About a 4/10

Ithink you're better than that!!

Tig

Shush!!! I'm keeping expectations low lol whoops ok I take it back, being a ditzy are who clearly doesn't know what she's talking about- 1 is my revised number.

Best let me win the space hopper race now

Deal if you make it a 3

You're raising there expectations a bit there... That's edging close to room for improvement territory. But hey if It gets me 20 mins with the loser of my choice who am I to argue

You know it makes sense. Under a 3 suggests I'm pretty much still at the "Show me your Tits" stage.

Can't argue with your logic; well negotiated that man.

Have yourself a three.

Crap, that doesn't count towards your score, does it? "

No it's all good. I'm a 3/10

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"I welcome any comments to the contrary, just so I know which areas to improve on or I have seriously over-rated myself:

In person - 9/10

Via first message - 2/10

Once in conversation via pm - 8/10

Comedy threads - 1/10

Serious threads - 7/10

Overall assessment - Hit and miss "

In person - 7/10

Via first message - 3/10

In conversation via PM - 8/10

Comedy threads - 3/10

Serious threads 8/10

Stealing other peoples Ideas 10/10

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"Same as Obi, I'd say, having carefully and thoughtfully considered this, but hey, I might be completely fucking clueless and living in stevie world. "

You're definitely up there with the big boys; a solid 8 on here. Whether you go up to a 9 depends how good you are at pointing out the hotties before me when you find the coffee shop

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"About a 4/10

Ithink you're better than that!!

Tig

Shush!!! I'm keeping expectations low lol whoops ok I take it back, being a ditzy are who clearly doesn't know what she's talking about- 1 is my revised number.

Best let me win the space hopper race now

Deal if you make it a 3

You're raising there expectations a bit there... That's edging close to room for improvement territory. But hey if It gets me 20 mins with the loser of my choice who am I to argue

You know it makes sense. Under a 3 suggests I'm pretty much still at the "Show me your Tits" stage.

Can't argue with your logic; well negotiated that man.

Have yourself a three.

Crap, that doesn't count towards your score, does it?

No it's all good. I'm a 3/10 "

In the interests of niceness you realise you've talked yourself down a point, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After years of practice and working in people's home find it no different to talking to guys sometimes easier lol

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"

And that is called paying the Dane-geld;

But we've proved it again and again,

That if once you have paid him the Dane-geld

You never get rid of the Dane"

Yes, but she was a great example of Danish descent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About a 4/10

Ithink you're better than that!!

Tig

Shush!!! I'm keeping expectations low lol whoops ok I take it back, being a ditzy are who clearly doesn't know what she's talking about- 1 is my revised number.

Best let me win the space hopper race now

Deal if you make it a 3

You're raising there expectations a bit there... That's edging close to room for improvement territory. But hey if It gets me 20 mins with the loser of my choice who am I to argue

You know it makes sense. Under a 3 suggests I'm pretty much still at the "Show me your Tits" stage.

Can't argue with your logic; well negotiated that man.

Have yourself a three.

Crap, that doesn't count towards your score, does it?

No it's all good. I'm a 3/10

In the interests of niceness you realise you've talked yourself down a point, right? "

I do but the only difference between 3 and 4 is full stops.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Wouldn't know where to start in the awarding marks for categories, but as a 52 yr old who has been on here for 8 yrs now, I cant see that it's any different to talking to a lass in a bar in vanilla land

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say 5/10

But it's not really what I think, Only the Women I chat with can judge me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just don't engage with the ones that can't communicate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Via message: 6/10.

In person: 8/10 (just in general being confident chatting to women: not just 'chatting up')

When I was 16: 0/10

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Fook knows. I wouldn't even try to rate myself. I seem to get on with people, wherever though, so it can't be too bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who knows??? 4 maybe 5 out of 10. I do try though and I'm happy to have a laugh at myself!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd like to see those who rate themselves highly post a few of their introductory messages they've sent - after removal of any identifying data of the recipients.

Most drivers rate their driving skill as above average, which is statistically impossible if true. Anyone brave enough to post the messages they send?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

In person - 7/10

Via first message - 3/10

In conversation via PM - 8/10

Comedy threads - 3/10

Serious threads 8/10

Stealing other peoples Ideas 10/10

"

BOOM!

I see what you did there. Take an extra point for cunning

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I find very, very few guys on here are really engaging, sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find very, very few guys on here are really engaging, sadly. "

I recently found one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm a 6. But my feedback - spoken feed or veri's make me think I could be an 8.5!?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find very, very few guys on here are really engaging, sadly. "

I came across a really interesting GUY on here once, to my surprise. He was witty, smart, had lots of interesting things to say, and seemed to see eye to eye with me on pretty much everything, until I checked out his profile that is, and realised I'd been messaging myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fine once I get chatting, but sometimes still a little shy about initial contact. Getting better at it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm a 6. But my feedback - spoken feed or veri's make me think I could be an 8.5!? "
Your drawing skills on kik make you a 12

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm a 6. But my feedback - spoken feed or veri's make me think I could be an 8.5!? Your drawing skills on kik make you a 12"

Ha ha. Any excuse to draw a super hero or perverted doodle. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm a 6. But my feedback - spoken feed or veri's make me think I could be an 8.5!? Your drawing skills on kik make you a 12

Ha ha. Any excuse to draw a super hero or perverted doodle. Thank you. "

Iron man is still the best one you did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm a 6. But my feedback - spoken feed or veri's make me think I could be an 8.5!? Your drawing skills on kik make you a 12

Ha ha. Any excuse to draw a super hero or perverted doodle. Thank you.

Iron man is still the best one you did "

Oh yeah! Iron man throwing up in his suit! I'd forgot about that. I lost all my pics when I made a more fab friendly kik account.

Last week I drew a shortsighted kitten in a peep hole bra and knickers for a fellow Fab'er.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find fab is a strange place to begin convos. Il go for a cheeky, funny or pleasant opener and get no replies or very few. Often when I am just being friendly and chatty I get the rude not interested and never would be responses

More vulgar and to the point post do get more replies.

This contradicts a lot of female status I read saying dont talk to me like a piece of meat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm a 6. But my feedback - spoken feed or veri's make me think I could be an 8.5!? Your drawing skills on kik make you a 12

Ha ha. Any excuse to draw a super hero or perverted doodle. Thank you.

Iron man is still the best one you did

Oh yeah! Iron man throwing up in his suit! I'd forgot about that. I lost all my pics when I made a more fab friendly kik account.

Last week I drew a shortsighted kitten in a peep hole bra and knickers for a fellow Fab'er. "

Haha sounds lush!! Aww i liked your normal kik and hey we met on a dating site!! )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last week I drew a shortsighted kitten in a peep hole bra and knickers for a fellow Fab'er.

Haha sounds lush!! Aww i liked your normal kik and hey we met on a dating site!! )"

Ha ha, I know how we met! But I'm exclusively on this site now. So everyone I talk to is a fellow Fab'er.

Obviously I was more open with giving out my real name on that site than this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last week I drew a shortsighted kitten in a peep hole bra and knickers for a fellow Fab'er.

Haha sounds lush!! Aww i liked your normal kik and hey we met on a dating site!! )

Ha ha, I know how we met! But I'm exclusively on this site now. So everyone I talk to is a fellow Fab'er.

Obviously I was more open with giving out my real name on that site than this. "

Haha i will never ever ever be just a fellow fabber young man!

I still think theres a date you need to take me on lol! :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last week I drew a shortsighted kitten in a peep hole bra and knickers for a fellow Fab'er.

Haha sounds lush!! Aww i liked your normal kik and hey we met on a dating site!! )

Ha ha, I know how we met! But I'm exclusively on this site now. So everyone I talk to is a fellow Fab'er.

Obviously I was more open with giving out my real name on that site than this.

Haha i will never ever ever be just a fellow fabber young man!

I still think theres a date you need to take me on lol! :p"

Hmmm. I do remember promising you drink in Mnc sometime. Okay, my word is my bond. Let's make it happen soon. February could work... But let's not go watch 50 Shades' . Cocktails in the Northern Quarter, maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last week I drew a shortsighted kitten in a peep hole bra and knickers for a fellow Fab'er.

Haha sounds lush!! Aww i liked your normal kik and hey we met on a dating site!! )

Ha ha, I know how we met! But I'm exclusively on this site now. So everyone I talk to is a fellow Fab'er.

Obviously I was more open with giving out my real name on that site than this.

Haha i will never ever ever be just a fellow fabber young man!

I still think theres a date you need to take me on lol! :p

Hmmm. I do remember promising you drink in Mnc sometime. Okay, my word is my bond. Let's make it happen soon. February could work... But let's not go watch 50 Shades' . Cocktails in the Northern Quarter, maybe? "

Lola's is good with me your on xx

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By *ral.steveMan
over a year ago

LEEDS

When first meet I am shy but once get going iam still shy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he is - he has many sisters think that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in sales, so in a bar or in the supermarket, it's easy for me On here it appears to be not so easy lol

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I am crap at talking to women in a pub/club environment. But, anywhere else, including messaging on here, and my natural affinity comes to the fore.

I have far more to talk with ladies about than guys. I was raised by a single mother who had a lot of similar friends. I listened to mainly oestrogen fed conversation as a child and, as a result, I am unusual amongst guys I know. I struggle to talk about football or beer or careers; but get me onto emotions and feelings and I am away.

Some of the Fab ladies here are way more masculine in their sexual alignment and I have struggled to get base enough for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the Real World i'm quite good at people and always get a reaction, Ok its usually them making the sign of the Cross and then running away but at least they acknowledge i exist

On Here.....

Oh am i talking to myself again

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if really interested in her ... 10/10 after investigations lol

if not really interested in her 3/10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a fan of quality not quantity when it comes to chat and tend not to blather away. As a result sometimes I find it hard to get started... I'd say about a 4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slightly off topic but an input nonetheless.

I work predominantly with men and have done for around 3 and a half year. (My last job was half n half). What they call 'banter' sometimes astonishes me - even still now.

The way in which they all think/talk about women is absolutely disgusting, they talk to women fairly normally most of the time but when said woman walks away or as she's approaching....

It makes me very cautious when talking to men now, I didn't realise how bad it actually is.

Yes I know all men aren't the same before you give me shit.

I'm not easily shocked and I live in the real world but is there always an ulterior motive?

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Do woman ever listen when your talking to them ,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Slightly off topic but an input nonetheless.

I work predominantly with men and have done for around 3 and a half year. (My last job was half n half). What they call 'banter' sometimes astonishes me - even still now.

The way in which they all think/talk about women is absolutely disgusting, they talk to women fairly normally most of the time but when said woman walks away or as she's approaching....

It makes me very cautious when talking to men now, I didn't realise how bad it actually is.

Yes I know all men aren't the same before you give me shit.

I'm not easily shocked and I live in the real world but is there always an ulterior motive?"

I think a lot of testosterone in one place can make guys do or say some pretty extreme things in an attempt to outdo one another, it doesn't necessarily mean that's what they really feel.

Or they could just be twats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slightly off topic but an input nonetheless.

I work predominantly with men and have done for around 3 and a half year. (My last job was half n half). What they call 'banter' sometimes astonishes me - even still now.

The way in which they all think/talk about women is absolutely disgusting, they talk to women fairly normally most of the time but when said woman walks away or as she's approaching....

It makes me very cautious when talking to men now, I didn't realise how bad it actually is.

Yes I know all men aren't the same before you give me shit.

I'm not easily shocked and I live in the real world but is there always an ulterior motive?

I think a lot of testosterone in one place can make guys do or say some pretty extreme things in an attempt to outdo one another, it doesn't necessarily mean that's what they really feel.

Or they could just be twats."

Yeah I can see that, it's the part I hate the most. The difference when another man walks into the room. They're all more than 25 too you know!

They're mostly twats yep.

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over a year ago


"Slightly off topic but an input nonetheless.

I work predominantly with men and have done for around 3 and a half year. (My last job was half n half). What they call 'banter' sometimes astonishes me - even still now.

The way in which they all think/talk about women is absolutely disgusting, they talk to women fairly normally most of the time but when said woman walks away or as she's approaching....

It makes me very cautious when talking to men now, I didn't realise how bad it actually is.

Yes I know all men aren't the same before you give me shit.

I'm not easily shocked and I live in the real world but is there always an ulterior motive?

I think a lot of testosterone in one place can make guys do or say some pretty extreme things in an attempt to outdo one another, it doesn't necessarily mean that's what they really feel.

Or they could just be twats.

Yeah I can see that, it's the part I hate the most. The difference when another man walks into the room. They're all more than 25 too you know!

"

I think most guys have both a sensitive and a bullish side, which one comes to the fore depends on what's going on around them. You have to take the rough with the smooth, ok, so lots of guys are arseholes who are misogynistic simply because they don't understand women, and want to blame their failures as men on them, but don't hate a man just because he can be a bit outrageous or sexist when he's with his mates, after all, you wouldn't want us if we were all a bunch of simpering toadies x

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over a year ago

Talking to women is easy,as for them listening,that's a whole different topic

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"Slightly off topic but an input nonetheless.

I work predominantly with men and have done for around 3 and a half year. (My last job was half n half). What they call 'banter' sometimes astonishes me - even still now.

The way in which they all think/talk about women is absolutely disgusting, they talk to women fairly normally most of the time but when said woman walks away or as she's approaching....

It makes me very cautious when talking to men now, I didn't realise how bad it actually is.

Yes I know all men aren't the same before you give me shit.

I'm not easily shocked and I live in the real world but is there always an ulterior motive?

I think a lot of testosterone in one place can make guys do or say some pretty extreme things in an attempt to outdo one another, it doesn't necessarily mean that's what they really feel.

Or they could just be twats.

Yeah I can see that, it's the part I hate the most. The difference when another man walks into the room. They're all more than 25 too you know!

I think most guys have both a sensitive and a bullish side, which one comes to the fore depends on what's going on around them. You have to take the rough with the smooth, ok, so lots of guys are arseholes who are misogynistic simply because they don't understand women, and want to blame their failures as men on them, but don't hate a man just because he can be a bit outrageous or sexist when he's with his mates, after all, you wouldn't want us if we were all a bunch of simpering toadies x"

Lol that's true, I like a manly man if I'm honest but to me that means he doesn't need to be a chameleon.

I know it's hard work being a guy so I do understand where it comes from. It's quite entertaining to watch most of the time.

Don't worry I'm not a man hater! X

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"Talking to women is easy,as for them listening,that's a whole different topic "

That's true, it's hard to concentrate on boring conversation you know!

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over a year ago

Touche

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over a year ago


"Slightly off topic but an input nonetheless.

I work predominantly with men and have done for around 3 and a half year. (My last job was half n half). What they call 'banter' sometimes astonishes me - even still now.

The way in which they all think/talk about women is absolutely disgusting, they talk to women fairly normally most of the time but when said woman walks away or as she's approaching....

It makes me very cautious when talking to men now, I didn't realise how bad it actually is.

Yes I know all men aren't the same before you give me shit.

I'm not easily shocked and I live in the real world but is there always an ulterior motive?

I think a lot of testosterone in one place can make guys do or say some pretty extreme things in an attempt to outdo one another, it doesn't necessarily mean that's what they really feel.

Or they could just be twats.

Yeah I can see that, it's the part I hate the most. The difference when another man walks into the room. They're all more than 25 too you know!

I think most guys have both a sensitive and a bullish side, which one comes to the fore depends on what's going on around them. You have to take the rough with the smooth, ok, so lots of guys are arseholes who are misogynistic simply because they don't understand women, and want to blame their failures as men on them, but don't hate a man just because he can be a bit outrageous or sexist when he's with his mates, after all, you wouldn't want us if we were all a bunch of simpering toadies x

Lol that's true, I like a manly man if I'm honest but to me that means he doesn't need to be a chameleon.

I know it's hard work being a guy so I do understand where it comes from. It's quite entertaining to watch most of the time.

Don't worry I'm not a man hater! X"

Yeah yeah

Woah here she comes

Watch out boys, she'll chew you up!

Woah here she comes

She's a man hater!

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over a year ago


"Slightly off topic but an input nonetheless.

I work predominantly with men and have done for around 3 and a half year. (My last job was half n half). What they call 'banter' sometimes astonishes me - even still now.

The way in which they all think/talk about women is absolutely disgusting, they talk to women fairly normally most of the time but when said woman walks away or as she's approaching....

It makes me very cautious when talking to men now, I didn't realise how bad it actually is.

Yes I know all men aren't the same before you give me shit.

I'm not easily shocked and I live in the real world but is there always an ulterior motive?

I think a lot of testosterone in one place can make guys do or say some pretty extreme things in an attempt to outdo one another, it doesn't necessarily mean that's what they really feel.

Or they could just be twats.

Yeah I can see that, it's the part I hate the most. The difference when another man walks into the room. They're all more than 25 too you know!

I think most guys have both a sensitive and a bullish side, which one comes to the fore depends on what's going on around them. You have to take the rough with the smooth, ok, so lots of guys are arseholes who are misogynistic simply because they don't understand women, and want to blame their failures as men on them, but don't hate a man just because he can be a bit outrageous or sexist when he's with his mates, after all, you wouldn't want us if we were all a bunch of simpering toadies x

Lol that's true, I like a manly man if I'm honest but to me that means he doesn't need to be a chameleon.

I know it's hard work being a guy so I do understand where it comes from. It's quite entertaining to watch most of the time.

Don't worry I'm not a man hater! X

Yeah yeah

Woah here she comes

Watch out boys, she'll chew you up!

Woah here she comes

She's a man hater!"

Haha I prefer the Nellie Furtado version thank you x

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