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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Like to know did you know the job you wish to do when you left school ? and did it really help going of to university spending years there and not knowing what to do after ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always wanted to be in the print industry from an early age, and started my first job at 17 (didnt bother with uni), been doing the prepress side of things ever since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Left school in 1973, at 16 and got an apprenticeship at our local steelworks.

I'm still loosely involved in the job I trained to do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

just worrie me my son now going to un 3 years have not a clue what he wish to do really and just know he like Biology and maths .. and it miles away.

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

I studied business and finance, and now run my own business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

left school at 15, regreted it ever since, have done 3 degrees with the open university

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I'm still working out what I want to be when I grow up ... for the time being I just do what I enjoy until I don't enjoy it as much and then move to something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always wanted to be a nannie in london before i left school...look at me now a real life nannie...lol but in yeovil not london...

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

I thought i did. And went for it.

Later realised it wasn't what i wanted and took a different track.

In the current circumstances i would seriously question whether it was worth going to "Uni" and what value could be obtained therefrom.

I'm a fan of learning and training on the job, always open to offers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My degree gave me a worthwhile bit of paper and I've never, ever, worked in the industry you'd "expect" me to have.

Ironically, 13 of 14 of my class haven't either - just one went on to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been a nurse, college lecturer, secretary to the board of trustees for a major charity, trade union negotiator, now legal officer.

I have a couple of degrees and loads of certificates. I'm 50 next month and STILL not doing the job I'd like to do...probation officer.

Your son has all the time in the world, the main thing is getting his degree as it does open the world up and you'll be surprised how versatile degrees are!

Don't worry!

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over a year ago

There were 3 things I told the careers officer at school that I wanted to do

Ive done 2 of them but sadly im too old to do the 3rd choice which I should maybe have gone for sooner

No regrets though, It has made me laugh to myself that although I probably did'nt have a clue at the time where I would end up or what I would be doing,its matched what I originally said

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My degree gave me a worthwhile bit of paper and I've never, ever, worked in the industry you'd "expect" me to have.

Ironically, 13 of 14 of my class haven't either - just one went on to do that."
did it help to make you the person you are today ? about life?? if you had to go back would you do it again ???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been a nurse, college lecturer, secretary to the board of trustees for a major charity, trade union negotiator, now legal officer.

I have a couple of degrees and loads of certificates. I'm 50 next month and STILL not doing the job I'd like to do...probation officer.

Your son has all the time in the world, the main thing is getting his degree as it does open the world up and you'll be surprised how versatile degrees are!

Don't worry!

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I do worrie but i hope end of the day it will help him grow as a person. I just wish he was not so layed back about it all ... its like he dont care... all he say is he dont really know. Thanks for taking time and helping me see things here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My degree gave me a worthwhile bit of paper and I've never, ever, worked in the industry you'd "expect" me to have.

Ironically, 13 of 14 of my class haven't either - just one went on to do that. did it help to make you the person you are today ? about life?? if you had to go back would you do it again ???"

If I could go back I'd have done a more art- based course, although my course was a BA, it didn't really do a lot to stimulate me over the years. The best thing I got from it was a few very,very good friends and I met my (ex)wife. I was also introduced to swinging and the fetish scene though someone I met there who went on to start the Torture Garden!

I don't think it particularly shaped me, or anything in all honesty but then I've always been very belligerent and have a strong belief in who I am. Don't get me wrong, it was a very good course (and at the time it was one of three places in the EU that even did it).

If your question was more "if I could go back would I have gone to uni at all" then yes, absolutely I wouldve. Was a great 4 years overall.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I always wanted to be a superhero at school, I used to lie to people and tell them that I had a bionic arm and legs.

Unfortunately to this day I still have boring human appendages. (except my telescopic penis girls

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My second choice was graphic designer, I studied to be one and I am one, never had another job.

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

"left school at 15, regreted it ever since, have done 3 degrees with the open university"

Did they sing "When Will I See You Again"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been a nurse, college lecturer, secretary to the board of trustees for a major charity, trade union negotiator, now legal officer.

I have a couple of degrees and loads of certificates. I'm 50 next month and STILL not doing the job I'd like to do...probation officer.

Your son has all the time in the world, the main thing is getting his degree as it does open the world up and you'll be surprised how versatile degrees are!

Don't worry!

I do worrie but i hope end of the day it will help him grow as a person. I just wish he was not so layed back about it all ... its like he dont care... all he say is he dont really know. Thanks for taking time and helping me see things here."

Look at it this way: you'd be more worried if he was stressed an panicking. Personally I think he sounds grounded and will take his time deciding what to do.

Is there really any urgency for him to make his mind up now?!!

My youngest is off to Derby next month to uni and wants to be the next J K Rowling. We've encouraged her to follow her dream, but also consider what she'll do when she graduates to support herself until then.

She doesn't know and we've not pushed her. She'll get their eventually, as will your son.

In the meantime, be proud as punch he's off to uni, and be thankful you've raised what appears a relaxed young man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often Uni is a stepping off place. I went into the NHS first nursing then back to use my degree in the management side so its never wasted but it might not directly lead to the job aimed for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well he was told get B s end up getting C s as I found out spending alot of time on his games not working as hard as he could ... would have been at Norwich if had his Bs now un is miles away how do i make sure he is not on games on lap top and un? when miles away ,,need it for work there now at 18 not so easy as when 10... he is like me Dyslexia but thay have helped him to over come it, god here i am asking just you people help me to see the bigger pic ,, lol i am to close to see it myself.

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

A degree means nothing to me, and I fear it will mean less an less in society as time goes on. Graduates often come to me looking for jobs and I rarely give them much of a chance, all it means to me is that they deferred making life choices in favour of going away and drinking subsidised beer and smoking pot.

In particular I give short shrift to those who have either Fluff degrees (ie. Media Studies) or who have degrees with no relevance to my profession. I'd rather employ someone with common sense and a bit of drive, a spark of ambition, than someone who plonks his degree in front of me and thinks the world owes him a living. Once upon a time, maybe, but not now..

One lad came to me at 16, offered simply to sweep up and make tea, just to get his foot in the door. He turned out to to be intelligent and I helped him pay for professional qualifications. He went on, after 10 years with me, to become a top producer , working for A-list musicians, kinda makes me proud!

For me, a degree is a bit of paper, it means nothing, and just like an A Level which used to be special, they now chuck them out like confetti.

There are notable exceptions : I always prefer my doctor to have a degree (in Medicine, not in French thank you).

If I had kids, and they weren't set on going down any particular academic path, I'd advise them to get a trade than waste their time doing a Fluff degree and being none the wiser at the end of it. It's harder for a 23 year old to be told he's on £100 per week whilst he takes his electrician's exams than for a 17 year old. When that 17 year old reaches 23, he will have his Sparks' paperwork under his belt, the world is his oyster - he can stay on the tools (and make a damned good living), or go further into Electrical based academic study.

He's shown he has practical and academic ability already by becoming a qualified sparks, I'd choose him every single day over any 23 year old who has just finished a degree but still doesn't know what he's going to do with his life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i allways wanted to retire ,and be a lollipop man in our street ,,,i live in a culdisac ,,,or second choice ,a baby maker

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

I forgot to say:

These days too many kids are told they need to go to Uni and get a degree. Yes, the clever ones should go and become scientists, doctors etc, but it's about time we accepted that some kids are just not destined for such success, but that doesn't make them worth any less to society.

They might make cracking plumbers, brickies, electricians, etc etc, or any of the "everyday" professions and trades that keep this country going, and which we now have serious lack of because kids were encouraged to go and get degrees in Media Studies instead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes i see where your coming from too in that letter ,,, Its just he could end up working for us like my two others have and would hate him to miss out on life ,,, He is so not sure what he wish to do . like other lady said here we can only be there if thay need us. Its the unknown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day, rightly or wrongly, if an employer has two CVs and one has a degree, the one with a degree is more likely to get an interview.

Of course there are exceptions, but this is the norm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah wanted to be a fashion designer and considered teaching commerce too. Ma n Pa pressganged me into secretarial but I ended up going back to college and became a graphic designer and I am now a teacher. (Whispered to the universe).

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By *havenangel1Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I do worrie but i hope end of the day it will help him grow as a person. I just wish he was not so layed back about it all ... its like he dont care... all he say is he dont really know. Thanks for taking time and helping me see things here."

Look at it this way it could be far worse my son is joining the army and as proud of him as i am i worry about him so much

I wish he was off to uni but it's his choice his career and i'll support him all the way and no doubt worry all the way too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do worrie but i hope end of the day it will help him grow as a person. I just wish he was not so layed back about it all ... its like he dont care... all he say is he dont really know. Thanks for taking time and helping me see things here.

Look at it this way it could be far worse my son is joining the army and as proud of him as i am i worry about him so much

I wish he was off to uni but it's his choice his career and i'll support him all the way and no doubt worry all the way too

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yes i bet you will worrie too ,., I would be on valum tablets ... but all you can do it be there xxx thay have to find there own way in life ,, xx I know a young girl 18 in army too .,, loves it say best job in the world . Yes your right i would find that had to cope with. Hugs and kisses xxxxxxx jo

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I really wanted to be a carpenter when I left school, and did do it for about 12 years, with breaks where I worked on a farm and in a motor spares warehouse. I realised carpentry wasnt what I thought it would be and went back to college to train as an outdoor pursuits instructor. Did the job for 5 years but for personal reasons stopped doing it.

Then worked in Bosnia for 9 months, and when I came back I ended up as a manager of a security company for a while.

Now I am a phone engineer.

None of the tangents I went off on were ever planned, they just happened. I think its because I was easily bored unless I was challenged, and thats why I think I enjoy my job now, each day throws up diferent challenges.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well its helped me today this post x see its not all about sex on site like this ,,,, I was made to see it could be my son going in army could be my son going down other paths. Its not so bad after all ,,,, its just the unknown and lifes a bit like that at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like to know did you know the job you wish to do when you left school ? and did it really help going of to university spending years there and not knowing what to do after ? "

Yes I did. Just wish my bloody son did too! Mind you, it helped in those days that the Government (sorry, that's you the taxpayer) actually paid us cash to go on a 3-year piss up at University

...have paid it all back, honest! Not seen a dentist in years!

Shit, that's put everyone off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I left school I wanted to be either an Occupational Therapist or a teacher. Due to family circmstances though I had to drop out of college and turn down the opportunity to go to medical school so that I could look after our home.

I then went on a business apprenticeship scheme which incorporated college day release where I did a couple of NVQs in Business Admin.

It was during this apprenticeship that I really enjoyed working in the training & personnel team so my Boss at the time recommended that I do a HNC in Business and Finance.

After the apprenticeship scheme ended I basically just took the first job that was offered to me and that was working in a share registration team for a very big accountancy firm. The whole department were made redundant after a couple of years however I was offered a job in HR. Little did I know that the HR Officer there had her beady eye on me already after some career progression chats I'd previously had with her.

The rest is history. I have a couple more qualifications under my belt now and have been in HR for about 12 years now and I love it.

Funny how I'd never even considered a career in HR all those years ago. I'm not sure that at that age you actually have a big enough understanding of what job roles actually exist out there in work-land to make a fully informed decision. It's bad really because making a wrong turn with your career can take a very long time to correct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's great that you are thinking ahead for your son. A few things I'd say.

Uni is an amazing time. The best of your life in many ways and there are different ways to look at it depending on what students are there for.

Some folks do a particular course so they can graduate into a certain career. Many use it as 3 years to think about what they might do in the future and to get a set of skills that can transferred to many varied careers.

I wouldnt get hung up about degrees as many folks I know didnt get into their careers through the degree itself but it can open up some doors. Nothing wrong with apprenticeships/vocational training either if your lad knows what he wants to do.

I'd just try and support him and over the time he has at uni get him to narrow down his career choices. Good luck to him as it can be an amazing time in life. Wish I was there now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would encourage my daughters to carry on in their education.

The main reason being I never did and it held me back, I never got to do what I wanted when I was younger and now its too late for me

If I hadnt listened to my mother and went ahead I may have done what I wanted but sadly as the oldest child I was expected to go out and get a job and contribute to the family income.

My oldest is not sure what she wants to be when she grows up (aged 12 thats not a big deal) but we have told her that she has 2 years to think about it because some of the subjects she may do in her third and fourth years in high school may help her pick a job area.

For example getting a start in office and imformation studies (ok my mother made me do that) may help if she wants to work in an office, or home economics if she wants to go into the hospitality business. A step in the right direction if you understand what I mean.

Shona

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