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"Unsurprisingly compliments get passed around a lot on here, particularly toward women, but how many people distinguish between complimentary words, I mean are they all equally good or do they have varying degrees of complimentary value? For example, I'd usually say 'pretty' is a lower level of good-looking than 'beautiful', which would be the apex of physical attractiveness, but some faces the word pretty just seems to fit better, like it describes a more fresh faced, girly kind of appeal, rather than beautiful which is more mature and womanly, a bit like if a woman said she met a 'cute' guy I'd imagine he was young and boyish looking, whereas a 'handsome' man would be a more chiselled, square jawed and rugged look. Overthinking? Maybe, but I like to be precise when telling a woman why she appeals to me " I agree with this There are lots and lots of compliments thrown around in here as you say, they're all nice to hear (or rather read) I associate them all with slightly different meanings too so a variation is nice. I'm never really sure about the 'girl next door look'. I've never had hot neighbours though. | |||
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"if i pay a compliment to a man or woman i do think about the words i use. and yeah i agree there is a scale of terms used in regards to looks starts with 'ok looking' " If a woman called me 'ok looking' I'd read that as she doesn't find me appealing at all, and simply made a plain bread, water flavoured remark simply to move the topic on without offending me. | |||
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"if i pay a compliment to a man or woman i do think about the words i use. and yeah i agree there is a scale of terms used in regards to looks starts with 'ok looking' If a woman called me 'ok looking' I'd read that as she doesn't find me appealing at all, and simply made a plain bread, water flavoured remark simply to move the topic on without offending me." Some people don't find giving compliments easy, I'm one of them if I found a guy drop dead gorgeous the best he would get out of me is your OK, cause I just don't find expressing my feelings easy | |||
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"The words used to describe faces are as much about the descriptor as the descriptee. What I consider pretty/beautiful/cute etc. is entirely down to my own aesthetic judgement so the words I choose are accurate only in my own perception. I assume the same in others and also have a healthy dose of cynicism as to why they may be using them. Someone I don't know messaging me out of the blue to tell me I'm pretty or whatever carries less weight than someone I know or have been chatting to telling me the same thing." | |||
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"The words used to describe faces are as much about the descriptor as the descriptee. What I consider pretty/beautiful/cute etc. is entirely down to my own aesthetic judgement so the words I choose are accurate only in my own perception. I assume the same in others and also have a healthy dose of cynicism as to why they may be using them. Someone I don't know messaging me out of the blue to tell me I'm pretty or whatever carries less weight than someone I know or have been chatting to telling me the same thing." I think your current avatar is beautiful. It is my favourite. | |||
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"You're thinking too much." this to a point.. can see why certain terminology may be deemed spot on and appropriate however on such a site as this puddings are over egged daily.. go with how you see it.. | |||
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"if i pay a compliment to a man or woman i do think about the words i use. and yeah i agree there is a scale of terms used in regards to looks starts with 'ok looking' If a woman called me 'ok looking' I'd read that as she doesn't find me appealing at all, and simply made a plain bread, water flavoured remark simply to move the topic on without offending me." Thats my way of saying 'i dont find you attractive, but your not ugly' | |||
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"if i pay a compliment to a man or woman i do think about the words i use. and yeah i agree there is a scale of terms used in regards to looks starts with 'ok looking' If a woman called me 'ok looking' I'd read that as she doesn't find me appealing at all, and simply made a plain bread, water flavoured remark simply to move the topic on without offending me. Thats my way of saying 'i dont find you attractive, but your not ugly' " I use cute for that situation, to me cute means not ugly but not my type | |||
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"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer. Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present. As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for. And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women. We have to move past beauty being just one type of look. The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26? So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you." Wow what a lovely post. | |||
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"Thats my way of saying 'i dont find you attractive, but your not ugly' I use cute for that situation, to me cute means not ugly but not my type" Although its part of my username, its a general comment i get.. down to a rounded face, big eyes and dimples i think .. i dont mind the term, can understand why some might not like it though. | |||
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"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer. Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present. As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for. And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women. We have to move past beauty being just one type of look. The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26? So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you. Wow what a lovely post. " agreed | |||
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"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer. Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present. As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for. And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women. We have to move past beauty being just one type of look. The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26? So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you." | |||
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"Basically seems that something along the lines of...." Yeah, OK. you'll do, grab yer coat then, you've pulled." Might actually be the best approach?" With a wink, yes! | |||
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"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer. Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present. As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for. And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women. We have to move past beauty being just one type of look. The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26? So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you. " Having met you Lickety, your face Exudes warmth, and freindlyness,your smile is infectious, you have a beautiful, memorable face! I think I told you as much, in a round about way. | |||
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"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer. Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present. As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for. And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women. We have to move past beauty being just one type of look. The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26? So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you. Having met you Lickety, your face Exudes warmth, and freindlyness,your smile is infectious, you have a beautiful, memorable face! I think I told you as much, in a round about way. " Agree with this. My first veri for Lickety commented on her beautiful face and I meant it. | |||
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" But yes, there is a scale - average, ok, pretty, beautiful, gorgeous and then stunning." I think everyone's scale is a bit different then, I always think of 'beautiful' as being the epitome - saying more than gorgeous or stunning, but that could be because I think they as compliments are wrapped up more with an element of sexual attraction. But beautiful for me means literally pleasing to my senses...so I can appreciate someone or something as aesthetically beautiful without having any attraction to them whatsoever. | |||
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"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer. Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present. As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for. And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women. We have to move past beauty being just one type of look. The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26? So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you." | |||
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"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer. Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present. As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for. And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women. We have to move past beauty being just one type of look. The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26? So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you. Having met you Lickety, your face Exudes warmth, and freindlyness,your smile is infectious, you have a beautiful, memorable face! I think I told you as much, in a round about way. Agree with this. My first veri for Lickety commented on her beautiful face and I meant it." Thank you both of you. | |||
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"No compliments mean anything to me on here if a guy mails me with compliments I know its just bull shit, I'd sooner them just be honest and say you'll do rather than tell me I'm gorgeous and have a great body when quite clearly I'm not and I don't I'm a realist " don't agree with this at all , you can't tell someone what they do or do not find attractive , after all your never going to be attracted to yourself , and why would any one say those things on here if they didn't find you sexually appealing or pretty Ect , people won't sleep with people they don't fancy , think your selling yourself short Hun and also to a degree judging people in the assumption there "bull shitting " x | |||
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" But yes, there is a scale - average, ok, pretty, beautiful, gorgeous and then stunning. I think everyone's scale is a bit different then, I always think of 'beautiful' as being the epitome - saying more than gorgeous or stunning, but that could be because I think they as compliments are wrapped up more with an element of sexual attraction. But beautiful for me means literally pleasing to my senses...so I can appreciate someone or something as aesthetically beautiful without having any attraction to them whatsoever. " I pretty much (but not beautifully much ) agree, sometimes I can refer to a woman as stunning and in my way that means I really do think she's something VERY special in terms of her sexual appeal, but beautiful really is the very top of the measuring stick - it means there's something about her I'd compare to flower petals, green grass, wind through the tree leaves and rays of sunshine, there's a strong emotional engagement in that word, something that crackles with positive energy, excitement, inspiration and wonder. | |||
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" But yes, there is a scale - average, ok, pretty, beautiful, gorgeous and then stunning. I think everyone's scale is a bit different then, I always think of 'beautiful' as being the epitome - saying more than gorgeous or stunning, but that could be because I think they as compliments are wrapped up more with an element of sexual attraction. But beautiful for me means literally pleasing to my senses...so I can appreciate someone or something as aesthetically beautiful without having any attraction to them whatsoever. I pretty much (but not beautifully much ) agree, sometimes I can refer to a woman as stunning and in my way that means I really do think she's something VERY special in terms of her sexual appeal, but beautiful really is the very top of the measuring stick - it means there's something about her I'd compare to flower petals, green grass, wind through the tree leaves and rays of sunshine, there's a strong emotional engagement in that word, something that crackles with positive energy, excitement, inspiration and wonder." This is positively beautiful. | |||
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"I'm Scottish, so if I do deign to pay a compliment, you'd better take it serious!" Me too Hids | |||
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" But yes, there is a scale - average, ok, pretty, beautiful, gorgeous and then stunning. I think everyone's scale is a bit different then, I always think of 'beautiful' as being the epitome - saying more than gorgeous or stunning, but that could be because I think they as compliments are wrapped up more with an element of sexual attraction. But beautiful for me means literally pleasing to my senses...so I can appreciate someone or something as aesthetically beautiful without having any attraction to them whatsoever. I pretty much (but not beautifully much ) agree, sometimes I can refer to a woman as stunning and in my way that means I really do think she's something VERY special in terms of her sexual appeal, but beautiful really is the very top of the measuring stick - it means there's something about her I'd compare to flower petals, green grass, wind through the tree leaves and rays of sunshine, there's a strong emotional engagement in that word, something that crackles with positive energy, excitement, inspiration and wonder. This is positively beautiful." | |||
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"No compliments mean anything to me on here if a guy mails me with compliments I know its just bull shit, I'd sooner them just be honest and say you'll do rather than tell me I'm gorgeous and have a great body when quite clearly I'm not and I don't I'm a realist " Well believe me or not but you do have a pretty good body, judging by your profile pics anyway. So maybe you're not being the realist you think you are. | |||
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"Unsurprisingly compliments get passed around a lot on here, particularly toward women, but how many people distinguish between complimentary words, I mean are they all equally good or do they have varying degrees of complimentary value? For example, I'd usually say 'pretty' is a lower level of good-looking than 'beautiful', which would be the apex of physical attractiveness, but some faces the word pretty just seems to fit better, like it describes a more fresh faced, girly kind of appeal, rather than beautiful which is more mature and womanly, a bit like if a woman said she met a 'cute' guy I'd imagine he was young and boyish looking, whereas a 'handsome' man would be a more chiselled, square jawed and rugged look. Overthinking? Maybe, but I like to be precise when telling a woman why she appeals to me " I get gorgeous and stunning all the time on here, which is laughable without face pics! I would agree that compliments have varying degrees though. I'd rather be beautiful than pretty (but i'll take pretty thanks very much) | |||
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"I'm Scottish, so if I do deign to pay a compliment, you'd better take it serious! Me too Hids" Me three lol | |||
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"Years and years ago, in a former life (and different country!) I was a boudoir photographer. Most of my clients were women who were about to get married. But some wanted a self esteem boost. Or it was an anniversary present. As I photographed them, I found myself looking at a woman as her husband would. Because that's who the photos were for. And as I got the lighting set up, got them posed (and laughing usually!) saw stunning, mind blowing beauty in every single one of those women. We have to move past beauty being just one type of look. The women I photographed were from every walk of life, from a size 6/8 to.. I think the biggest I photographed was a size 26? So girls, please don't assume those words don't apply to you." | |||
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