FabSwingers.com forum: Arrogant?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

One of my friends told me last night that, when I first contacted her, she thought my profile (including pics) made me seem arrogant!!! Been seeing each other on and off for a while and she did say she couldn't have been more wrong, but it did make me think.

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pass I don't know you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One of my friends told me last night that, when I first contacted her, she thought my profile (including pics) made me seem arrogant!!! Been seeing each other on and off for a while and she did say she couldn't have been more wrong, but it did make me think.

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

do you care what people think on here i mean its the internet how many of these people off here would u actually meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

do you care what people think on here i mean its the internet how many of these people off here would u actually meet "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not arrogant. I'm just fucking brilliant and great at everything

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By *ngel_38Woman
over a year ago

Staffs

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

No one cares

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good way to get profile views though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it's everyone's personal perception but no I wouldn't have thought you were arrogant at all and I don't know you, I'm just making a judgement based on what's on your profile and the threads you put up, which mostly leaves the ladies with hearts fluttering.

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

pmsl

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

do you care what people think on here i mean its the internet how many of these people off here would u actually meet

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must admit. I definitely care what people think.im totally honest from the start but don't get me wrong I wouldn't change for anyone. But still care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

Why invite opinion from mostly strangers?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Does it really matter?

There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. And what some people see as confident, others will read as arrogant.

I get told I'm a bitch and blunt all the time - but it doesn't bother me, as chances are, if someone sees me like that on here, we are unlikely to get along anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

No one cares "

Bit harsh.

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By *ngel_38Woman
over a year ago

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Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

No one cares

Bit harsh."

He'll live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does it really matter?

There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. And what some people see as confident, others will read as arrogant.

I get told I'm a bitch and blunt all the time - but it doesn't bother me, as chances are, if someone sees me like that on here, we are unlikely to get along anyway."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

You are a fit looking guy , you know what you like and dislike . Your profile covers this very well as do your pics .

I have noticed the odd post which may appear a bit arrogant when you discuss subjects such as swingers like us who enjoy random sex without knowing the person . And that social using is an important part of swinging , which we don't necessarily agree with .

But that's cool as you are expressing how you see things and that should be a positive .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socialising - not social using .... bloody phone lol !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank guys, know it shouldn't bother me but I was a bit concerned. The people I've met and the friends I've made are all lovely people, and I get a lot out of the forums, just don't want to come across as a nob really. Self criticism is my strongest quality unfortunately.

Love you all

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By *bfoxxxMan
over a year ago

Crete or LANCASTER

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

Do you drive and Audi?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ha ha, no, got a 16 year old merc, but she's my baby

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

" i mean its the internet how many of these people off here would u actually meet "

Ooooh, there's a dilemma, come on Mr LoveO, if not names, we at least want percentages.

(In which case, if it includes people like us, you're a charming, self-confident man. If your doesn't, you're an arrogant twat

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Oh, hang on, or if you would meet people like us, does that just make you desperate?

Your posts and profile show your personality, but please don't ask me to look at any willy pics. Suffice to say, if you're waving it around, next to a family sized can of deodorant, you're a bit of a show-off

Mr ddc

(Oh feck, do you think I should check for deodorant pics, just in case I offend

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By *iscomanMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Arrogant maybe

Self oppinated yes

Get over yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Arrogant maybe

Self oppinated yes

Get over yourself"

You've got to be really flexible to be able to do that !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

No one cares "

Some of us like to discuss matters like this. If you don't care I suggest you go to a thread concerning something you do care about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first saw you on here I didn't see an arrogant man. Nothing you have said that I have read has come across as arrogant. We all read into things differently and I wouldn't take it to heart if someone said something negative to me

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Didn't detect any arrogance from your profile, found it non-offensive. We're not too aware of your topics, will look out for them for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A tad self indulgent to start a thread about yourself even if it's to ask if you're arrogant, maybe a touch of narcissism, you'll delight in the compliments and also be proud of your arrogance!

Answer these questions,

1) what order do you make a cup of tea?

2) if you could change one thing about yourself what would it be?

3) if you had a loved one with terminal cancer trapped inside a burning building along with a young doctor that in 2 years time would discover a cure for all cancers, you only have time to save one person, who would you save?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

No one cares

Some of us like to discuss matters like this. If you don't care I suggest you go to a thread concerning something you do care about. "

Ah she is entitled to comment.

Whether it's negative or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

What do you care, you got the meet and became friends... result

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't know about arrogant I would say you sound too serious which always puts me off, slightly arrogant on the forums.

there is quite a lot of information though which is good. anyway it doesn't matter to me because you aren't my type anyway.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

As someone who has actually met you I con confirm that you are not arrogant, far from it and I suppose that is the point, sometimes the words we write don't always come out the way we intend them to.

Just enjoy your friendships and not over analyse all that people say, you know my feeling on the subject, you can turn yourself inside out to please others but you really need to just be yourself and have some mutual fun with people that like you and don't worry about the rest.

And so endeth the lesson

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok send the profile text to 3 people you know and ask them honestly.

If u are that concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear

really

. Nice bottom. ..

Why invite opinion from mostly strangers? "

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By *hatFellaNZMan
over a year ago

London

I guess the OP is just concerned that the way he portrays himself on here isn't a great reflection of how he sees himself in general. If that's the case, I can understand that... Few people want to be remembered as someone that they aren't.

Thing is, perception is reality for most people. If someone thinks you come across as an arrogant twat, then to them you *are* an arrogant twat. As long as you think the way you come across is an accurate reflection of who you are, then people disagreeing with who you are shouldn't matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op...

I don't know u personally but we have spoke on a few occasions. .. you were even on my friends list at one.. lol

Just be who u are...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

Profile too long, didn't read it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

No one cares

Some of us like to discuss matters like this. If you don't care I suggest you go to a thread concerning something you do care about.

Ah she is entitled to comment.

Whether it's negative or not.

And I'm entitled to mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

No one cares

Some of us like to discuss matters like this. If you don't care I suggest you go to a thread concerning something you do care about.

Ah she is entitled to comment.

Whether it's negative or not.

And I'm entitled to mine

Ya are. I'm on the limoncello.

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

I didn't think it seemed arrogant at all. Looked like the kind of profile most would like to see; well written,clear, with a splash of your personality thrown in and all your likes and dislikes presented sensibly. Good pictures too

Tig

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I come across as arrogant, forums et al. Bit concerned thats how I appear really

No one cares

Some of us like to discuss matters like this. If you don't care I suggest you go to a thread concerning something you do care about.

Ah she is entitled to comment.

Whether it's negative or not.

And I'm entitled to mine

Ya are. I'm on the limoncello. "

I know. I saw your comments

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