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do we, or don't. ?

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By *atrick mcg OP   Man
over a year ago

birkenhead

Long story short, do we, or not ? Don't want to lose her, but I think she's up for it, first time nerves may be, on my behalf, and what the hell does a fella wear to a bdsm night away ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck knows mate.

Still trying to decipher the code

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Long story short, do we, or not ? Don't want to lose her, but I think she's up for it, first time nerves may be, on my behalf, and what the hell does a fella wear to a bdsm night away ?????"

Do you or don't you what? Don't think you know how she's feeling.....ask.

No idea what a man wears, any pictures of the venue so you can see what other men wear?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Long story short, do we, or not ? Don't want to lose her, but I think she's up for it, first time nerves may be, on my behalf, and what the hell does a fella wear to a bdsm night away ?????"

How about a rubber outfit?

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

How about a sheepish smile, a set of handcuffs and a blindfold?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"How about a sheepish smile, a set of handcuffs and a blindfold?"

Lol at sheepish smile

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"Fuck knows mate.

Still trying to decipher the code"

sounds like a job for Alan Turing

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury


"How about a sheepish smile, a set of handcuffs and a blindfold?

Lol at sheepish smile "

Baaaaaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Long story short, do we, or not ? Don't want to lose her, but I think she's up for it, first time nerves may be, on my behalf, and what the hell does a fella wear to a bdsm night away ?????"

Clown suit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Long story short, do we, or not ? Don't want to lose her, but I think she's up for it, first time nerves may be, on my behalf, and what the hell does a fella wear to a bdsm night away ?????"

I can answer what people wear. The rest is not making sense though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you in a BDSM relationship, or just occasionally play at it? Either way what role do you play? Will affect how you dress and who decides how you dress quite significantly.

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By *atrick mcg OP   Man
over a year ago

birkenhead

There are some sarcastic people around , what I meant was do my my partner and myself attend this party ? If so, do we dress accordingly, if so what, and do we do full blown swing the first time? Or just see what happens, x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"There are some sarcastic people around , what I meant was do my my partner and myself attend this party ? If so, do we dress accordingly, if so what, and do we do full blown swing the first time? Or just see what happens, x"

To be fair it was difficult to tell that from your initial post and the information in your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some sarcastic people around , what I meant was do my my partner and myself attend this party ? If so, do we dress accordingly, if so what, and do we do full blown swing the first time? Or just see what happens, x"

What on earth are you on about? What party? What's your history? How can people offer advice if they have no information?

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By *atrick mcg OP   Man
over a year ago

birkenhead

Sorry new and nervous to all this, my partner and I have fantasy's about going to a swingers bdsm club night, but we're both nervous, and its a relatively new relationship, don't really know whether to cross that boundary from fantasy to reality just yet, only wanted a bit of advice as to when do you know its right to cross that boundary, please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wha'?

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By *heffmMan
over a year ago

sheffield

A balaclava and wellies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some sarcastic people around , what I meant was do my my partner and myself attend this party ? If so, do we dress accordingly, if so what, and do we do full blown swing the first time? Or just see what happens, x"

Genuine enquiry not sarcasm. Almost all bdsm events have no swinging involved, so would think you may need to consider exactly what to expect from wherever you are going.

What you wear will be dependant on which of you is dom or sub. where the party is and if its a real bdsm or a swingers party with bdsm fancy dress theme

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Do you want to go? If yes, go, and research the club via this site, it's website or outside reviewers, you'll find info about how to dress by doing this.

Go to the club, you don't have to play and take a week for both of you to reflect to see if it's something you want to do, go again, as players or watchers or not for you. Having considered what's been said here and the hoops to jump through if you're not put off you'll be going for sure. Looking forward to reading the experience if so.

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By *atrick mcg OP   Man
over a year ago

birkenhead

Thank you _evaquit and artificialname, good advice thanks, and as for the rest of you, I am nervous, not sure and naive and I'll take your piss taking as constructive criticism, and try and be more direct with my questions, thanks

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Sorry new and nervous to all this, my partner and I have fantasy's about going to a swingers bdsm club night, but we're both nervous, and its a relatively new relationship, don't really know whether to cross that boundary from fantasy to reality just yet, only wanted a bit of advice as to when do you know its right to cross that boundary, please"

My advice would be to forget the party until you both know this definitely is your thing. It's a relatively new relationship you say? That should be a clue to your question.

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By *atrick mcg OP   Man
over a year ago

birkenhead

Thanks Roma, I think you're right, but in the meantime I'll wind her up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you _evaquit and artificialname, good advice thanks, and as for the rest of you, I am nervous, not sure and naive and I'll take your piss taking as constructive criticism, and try and be more direct with my questions, thanks "

I wasn't piss taking. I like your replies, you're ready to go. Make sure she is too. As already said (better than I ever could), you can just watch and go from there. Good luck.

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By *atrick mcg OP   Man
over a year ago

birkenhead

Well we went, read disappointed

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By *ench and StripeCouple
over a year ago

Stenalees

Dont let it put you off. Been to several clubs now ourselves and its definatly a different experience at each.

Talk about what you would like to achieve realistically not just fantasy.

If you can find another couple or single to go with you as a buffer. We have done this in new clubs. Gives you someone to talk to and relax with that you know. Without the full pressure of the club.

Find a club thats couples only at first. Even if you are interested in playing mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmf as clubs that have an open door policy can be a little intimidating at 1st.

Make sure you are both comfortable before playing or moving round seperate. It can be a little like a kid in a sweet shop at some clubs just the visual overload. But 1 of you might not be 100% ready for it.

Relax and enjoy ive yet to be at any club yet where NO doesnt mean NO, everyone is always respectful and there is always someone to chat to.

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try different clubs ...there are plenty of them !

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Thank you _evaquit and artificialname, good advice thanks, and as for the rest of you, I am nervous, not sure and naive and I'll take your piss taking as constructive criticism, and try and be more direct with my questions, thanks "

Explain to me in what way me suggesting a rubber outfit for a bsdm munch was piss taking or sarcastic? It's not me asking for help, matey-boi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well we went, read disappointed "

You have been?

Hard to tell as you don't write clearly op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you in a BDSM relationship, or just occasionally play at it? Either way what role do you play? Will affect how you dress and who decides how you dress quite significantly. "

Maybe also wether or not "she" knows you are on here....you have a single profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about a PVC G string can get one from An summer .

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

If you are going just to 'see if you like it' then we'd suggest either a bdsm event or a swinging one. Or both with a week in between and see which you like best.

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