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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Only moved into my own wee place a couple of months ago, the flat next door was empty until 3 weeks ago, when a couple moved in.

On their 2nd day, they had an blazing fight, with what sounded like the house getting smashed up and her getting a beating. On that day I did call the police (who were as much good as a chocolate teapot).

Since then the row/arguments/fights have contiued on a daily basis. You know the stuff, slamming doors, smashing furniture, physical violence, tonights started at the back of 8 and as I write this at 3.08am its still going on, its not been continuous, they must make up, then they start again.

I dont really know where im going with this post, just had enough, and its only 3 weeks!

Now if they seemed reasonable people I would try and have a word with them, but they are skanky wee neds, and I think the type that if I said anything they would just be louder and more annoying.

So what do I do? Ignore and hope it stops? Phone the police every time it kicks off? Contact the council? I just really dont know.

From Annoyed and sleep deprived.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I know what to say that will be of comfort to you...

I have a similar situation next door to me, and has been going on for about 3 years.

So far involves: fights in the street, him threatening to kill her and the kids, drug dealing, stolen property, dangerous dogs, anti social behavior, driving untaxed/uninsured cars, you name it.

The police are there at least once a week, several times people have been led off in handcuffs, to be back the next night.

There were a spate of break-ins in the area earlier in the week, and some of the property was recovered from nextdoor, by the police; nobody arrested.

The police are involved, residents, housing association, a ranking council member lives in the village also.

Basically, the gist is that the police are reluctant to do anything, and the housing association have basically no powers, other than through a court, which they seem reluctant to do...

I hope your situation resolves itself, but my experience is that the authorities are not very interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am very reluctant to involve the authorities, after my one and only call to the police, my kitchen window was banged on and grass shouted.

Should I choose to go down that path, its a long drawn out process, in which time I still have to live next door to them. And I think that could be very unpleasant for me. Maybe thats a cowardly attitude but I just want an easy life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it your concil tennents buy you saying...contact the council

I had my neighbours evicted about 3 years ago because their kids was making my life hell

What i di was go to the CAB so when i went to the council i was armed and ready with all my legal rights

We had a meeting with me and the neighbours and a housing officer to see if we could work things out, everything was ok when we left but soon as i got home nothing had changed so went back, in fact it got worse, with my windows being broken and our car being danaged, as well as the usual verbal abuse on a daily basis, they gave them two written warnings still nothing changed so they slapped a ASBO on the family, took them to court and evicted them, all this took about 6 months to do tho

but it could go on for a lot longer than 6 months if you do nothing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes council tennents.

I do understand what your saying, 6 months of grief compared to what could be years of grief. I supose its just getting myself mentally prepared for that 6 months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am very reluctant to involve the authorities, after my one and only call to the police, my kitchen window was banged on and grass shouted.

no its not a cowardly attitude you have to think of your own safty

i put up with the abuse from my neighbours for years b4 i took a stand, their kids made my life hell, i couldnt walk out my front door without them spitting and swearing at me, it wasnt untill the day their dad had me pinned up against the wall i realised i had to do something, ignoring kids is one thing, a full grown mans another, its hard and i went thro hell in the prosses but glad i did now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes council tennents.

I do understand what your saying, 6 months of grief compared to what could be years of grief. I supose its just getting myself mentally prepared for that 6 months."

seriously go to the CAB they are worth their weight in gold, they will give you all the info you need, then take it to the council, the council will not tell them whos complained they are not allowed to, and if you live in flats it could be any of a number of people x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you. In situations like this you think your alone(even though you know sensibly, that other have gone through it), its just when your home alone at silly o'clock just wanting them to shut up, so you can get some sleep.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes council tennents.

I do understand what your saying, 6 months of grief compared to what could be years of grief. I supose its just getting myself mentally prepared for that 6 months.

Oh didnt know the council werent allowed to tell them who had complained. That would make it much easier. x

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Noise nusiance is another possible route with the Council, after all they recently did a woman for noisy sex in our area and this sounds a lot louder.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Noise nusiance is another possible route with the Council, after all they recently did a woman for noisy sex in our area and this sounds a lot louder."

Thanks....supose I had better start finding out all the information of the routes I can take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Noise nusiance is another possible route with the Council, after all they recently did a woman for noisy sex in our area and this sounds a lot louder."

annie saw this and wants a sex asbo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My neighour is also a bit strange and suddenly puts music loud in the middle of the night and starts thumping around and calling his gf abusive things.

I had a word and he denied it. My son had a word and said "you better watch out" and he said "no need to threaten me".

Contact police get an incident number. Contact council about noise and they should send you a sheet to record subsequent incidents and then will eventually take action based on your records.

I decided to write a letter first encouraging good neighbourly relations and pointing out that I would prefer not to involve the police or council officers. This seems to have worked to a large extent and the disturbances are only occasional now. When they occur I knock and mention the time!

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