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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just took our youngest out to and indoor play center.

Lots of crazy kids and all boisterous but two lads were running by littles first about 3yrs then the other was about 6yrs.

The eldest kicked the little straight in the back and run up and pushed him so he face planted.

I had to say something as he went to hit him again.

But was kind of shocked when his mum was quick to shout at me saying they were brothers. My answer to that was SO shall we just let him keep hitting then. Just because they are brothers??

She wasnt impressed.

Now I doubt should i have said what i did??

What would u guys have done????

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

Fair play to you , I hate getting involved ,but sometimes you just have too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's two kids who know each other . . I just look around as if to say ' is anyone else shocked' the second anyone else gets in the way, i say something firm but polite. If any kid is mean to mine. . I tell it to stop straight away. I'm just as mindful to make sure mine are being good

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'd have looked at the children to see if they were bothered.

I'd have looked at the mother and seen if she was bothered.

If the little one looked bothered I'd have asked him if he was okay.

I'd have listened to the mother if she said they always play that way.

I wouldn't have had a go at the 6 year old.

Deal with adults.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"If it's two kids who know each other . . I just look around as if to say ' is anyone else shocked' the second anyone else gets in the way, i say something firm but polite. If any kid is mean to mine. . I tell it to stop straight away. I'm just as mindful to make sure mine are being good "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think any parents ever likes being told what to do about their children but honestly if me and my brothers faught my parents would be the first to break it up!

You didnt know they were brothers intially so you were standing up for a small child not to be hurt, i think the parent could have handled the situation better but then again that may be their idea of parenting :/

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By *oxerjoshleeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

End of the day you were concerned for the welfare of a child.... what's more important than that regardless who you offend. Good on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a parent is not paying attention . . I feel totally within my rights to say something to the child. Most times the parent isn't anywhere near, or you can't tell who they are

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd have looked at the children to see if they were bothered.

I'd have looked at the mother and seen if she was bothered.

If the little one looked bothered I'd have asked him if he was okay.

I'd have listened to the mother if she said they always play that way.

I wouldn't have had a go at the 6 year old.

Deal with adults. "

I didnt shout and tell him off i just told him to stop. And yes the little one was crying so i assume it did hurt

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"End of the day you were concerned for the welfare of a child.... what's more important than that regardless who you offend. Good on you "

I agree.

It's great to see someone caring enough to stop a child being hurt.

In today's world deal with the adult. You can't be accused of anything then. If the six year old was upset an adult can be seen as intimidating a minor.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If a parent is not paying attention . . I feel totally within my rights to say something to the child. Most times the parent isn't anywhere near, or you can't tell who they are "

Well the woman was sat there tbh i didnt realise it was their mum as she didnt even bat an eye lid.

The only words to come out of her mouth were that they were brothers.

She didnt even comfort the little one after

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I'd have looked at the children to see if they were bothered.

I'd have looked at the mother and seen if she was bothered.

If the little one looked bothered I'd have asked him if he was okay.

I'd have listened to the mother if she said they always play that way.

I wouldn't have had a go at the 6 year old.

Deal with adults.

I didnt shout and tell him off i just told him to stop. And yes the little one was crying so i assume it did hurt"

Then she was probably thick.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd have looked at the children to see if they were bothered.

I'd have looked at the mother and seen if she was bothered.

If the little one looked bothered I'd have asked him if he was okay.

I'd have listened to the mother if she said they always play that way.

I wouldn't have had a go at the 6 year old.

Deal with adults.

I didnt shout and tell him off i just told him to stop. And yes the little one was crying so i assume it did hurt

Then she was probably thick."

Sadly i think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"End of the day you were concerned for the welfare of a child.... what's more important than that regardless who you offend. Good on you "

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"Just took our youngest out to and indoor play center.

Lots of crazy kids and all boisterous but two lads were running by littles first about 3yrs then the other was about 6yrs.

The eldest kicked the little straight in the back and run up and pushed him so he face planted.

I had to say something as he went to hit him again.

But was kind of shocked when his mum was quick to shout at me saying they were brothers. My answer to that was SO shall we just let him keep hitting then. Just because they are brothers??

She wasnt impressed.

Now I doubt should i have said what i did??

What would u guys have done????"

It's a difficult one, I was once on a bus where a woman was sat with 3 kids. - Eldest was about 5, youngest can't have been more than 6 months and was I a buggy.

The mother was Sa talking on her phone when the 5 year old started pulling on the Baby's arm and pinched her. The baby cried out only for the 5 year old to then smack her in the face, bite her hand and then carry on hitting her as she started screaming. All the while, this woman watched them without batting an eyelid and just carried on talking on her phone.

I lost it and shouted "How can you just sit there and let her do that?!" only to get a barage of abuse back from the Mother to "Mind my own business".

Another woman who saw it jumped to my side and a massive argument ensued.

I made a call to the police but as I didn't know who she was and they wouldn't chase the bus company for footage, I felt so powerless.

You can say something, although you may get abuse for it. But other than that, what can you REALLY do?

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for you Amy . I'm of the school of thought that if several people make judgements about behaviour, something may sink in ! So I challenge litter louts, poor parenting, rudeness to staff in shops or other members of the public . I'll take the flak if someone bites back. I always keep the focus on the act not the person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boys will be boys it's kitten play. We used to play wwf quite rough we used to have real but pretend boxing matches. I love seeing kids being real kids fighting climbing trees, tracking, etc.

I see your view as a concerned parent but my 2 boys fight it's good for them plus they do kick boxing. Making a man from a boy. I don't like violence bully's etc but when boys get together its like girls and shopping make up. A woman would never understand the testrone In males it's what makes us show off the pride of the pack. Just roll the eyes and let boys be boys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The very reason I hate soft play centres. Kids think there is too much going on and can get away with it and some parents thinking the same so don't need to watch their children.

My OH probably scared the shit out of a child (about 6 year old girl) who was jumping off the slide onto my sons back who was laid on the floor, my son was only just 2. She had jumped twice from when we saw and he flew in there shouting to get off him and asking where her parents were.

I would have said something in that situation because how were you to know they were realted (still doesnt make it OK) and obviously their mother thinks its fine. And being honest, if it were my 2 boys I'd thank you not shout at you!

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I will always say something if I think something is inappropriate or out of order.

If they act that way in public then imagine what happens in private.

I don't give a damn. If you can't be a parent to your children in a responsible way then I will step in.

Too many people turn a blind eye when they should be standing up for those who can't stand up for themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just took our youngest out to and indoor play center.

Lots of crazy kids and all boisterous but two lads were running by littles first about 3yrs then the other was about 6yrs.

The eldest kicked the little straight in the back and run up and pushed him so he face planted.

I had to say something as he went to hit him again.

But was kind of shocked when his mum was quick to shout at me saying they were brothers. My answer to that was SO shall we just let him keep hitting then. Just because they are brothers??

She wasnt impressed.

Now I doubt should i have said what i did??

What would u guys have done????

It's a difficult one, I was once on a bus where a woman was sat with 3 kids. - Eldest was about 5, youngest can't have been more than 6 months and was I a buggy.

The mother was Sa talking on her phone when the 5 year old started pulling on the Baby's arm and pinched her. The baby cried out only for the 5 year old to then smack her in the face, bite her hand and then carry on hitting her as she started screaming. All the while, this woman watched them without batting an eyelid and just carried on talking on her phone.

I lost it and shouted "How can you just sit there and let her do that?!" only to get a barage of abuse back from the Mother to "Mind my own business".

Another woman who saw it jumped to my side and a massive argument ensued.

I made a call to the police but as I didn't know who she was and they wouldn't chase the bus company for footage, I felt so powerless.

You can say something, although you may get abuse for it. But other than that, what can you REALLY do?

- Amy. x"

I think i would have done the same well done u x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Boys will be boys it's kitten play. We used to play wwf quite rough we used to have real but pretend boxing matches. I love seeing kids being real kids fighting climbing trees, tracking, etc.

I see your view as a concerned parent but my 2 boys fight it's good for them plus they do kick boxing. Making a man from a boy. I don't like violence bully's etc but when boys get together its like girls and shopping make up. A woman would never understand the testrone In males it's what makes us show off the pride of the pack. Just roll the eyes and let boys be boys "

I have boys both train in mma also my front room ends up as a ring for them all to play fight.

It can get crazy. And boys will genraly fight. But the little one was exactly that very little and i dont think it was just a bit of rough and tumble. Its was pure viciousness u could see it in his face

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The very reason I hate soft play centres. Kids think there is too much going on and can get away with it and some parents thinking the same so don't need to watch their children.

My OH probably scared the shit out of a child (about 6 year old girl) who was jumping off the slide onto my sons back who was laid on the floor, my son was only just 2. She had jumped twice from when we saw and he flew in there shouting to get off him and asking where her parents were.

I would have said something in that situation because how were you to know they were realted (still doesnt make it OK) and obviously their mother thinks its fine. And being honest, if it were my 2 boys I'd thank you not shout at you!"

I think the same. I would want someone to stop my kids if it were them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I will always say something if I think something is inappropriate or out of order.

If they act that way in public then imagine what happens in private.

I don't give a damn. If you can't be a parent to your children in a responsible way then I will step in.

Too many people turn a blind eye when they should be standing up for those who can't stand up for themselves. "

Exactly that to many ppl turn a blind eye these days xx

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