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By *avger55 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?"

try asking her?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

If she doesn't want to, respect that

Its not for everyone

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

well u cant make her into something shes not

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?"

depends how much you're charging really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she know your on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't. Simple. Some people just can't and if it makes her uncomfortable it won't work.

I couldn't ever be domme personally and if someone tried to convince me to be so it would but me off of them

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By *avger55 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?"

It doesn't seem that great a relationship if you want to change her into something she doesn't want to be.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure."

So give her time! You don't seem to be very good at taking instruction if you can't understand that.

I have to laugh at the last part of your post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure."

She might not enjoy it. As others have said, respect her wishes. Whatever they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

I have to laugh at the last part of your post "

If only all women would do what men wanted... think how happy they'd be....

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure."

Buy her a book, seriously. My second husband saw a bit of dom in me, i brought a book to give me some insight. Can't say as i enjoyed or didn't enjoy the role, but he did. She may well get pleasure from it as you say.

Good luck to both of you.....

But IMHO as she's the dom you wont be telling her to give you pleasure. You'll be on your knees begging for a chance to lick her shoes lol

Mrs WD40

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure."

So she's already trying and has compromised but you're still not happy and are trying to push harder even though she's asked that you take it slowly and give her time?

Wow, aren't you a catch?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"...

I have to laugh at the last part of your post

If only all women would do what men wanted... think how happy they'd be.... "

I got the brochures for Stepford, I think I'll be happy there . I'm quite clearly suited to it ......

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone


"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?"

What's 'FLR'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

I have to laugh at the last part of your post

If only all women would do what men wanted... think how happy they'd be....

I got the brochures for Stepford, I think I'll be happy there . I'm quite clearly suited to it ......"

The outfits are really sexy. I love it.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure.

So give her time! You don't seem to be very good at taking instruction if you can't understand that.

I have to laugh at the last part of your post "

This is typical of a lot of guys who think they are submissive. They want to be told what to do, but only if it's the things they want to do, and how they want to do them.

As for the Dominant, they are expected to want to enjoy it because they are giving instructions. Never mind that they are being expected to give instructions according to what someone else wants.

Some people have a really odd _iew of domination and submission!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?

What's 'FLR'?"

Female Lead Relationship

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"...

I have to laugh at the last part of your post

If only all women would do what men wanted... think how happy they'd be.... "

Quite. It's my ultimate dream.

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone


"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?

What's 'FLR'?

Female Lead Relationship"

Got it, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?"

Perhaps she is attracted to men who know what they want and how to get it

I find women are generally into that sort of thing

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Talk about it I'd say.

Kink limits respected as non-kink. Reversing the roles I'm sure you wouldn't want to be a forced sub if it wasn't totally your thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

I have to laugh at the last part of your post

If only all women would do what men wanted... think how happy they'd be....

Quite. It's my ultimate dream."

You and me both.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?

Perhaps she is attracted to men who know what they want and how to get it

I find women are generally into that sort of thing "

Tis thread is great for a laugh this afternoon

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Talk about it I'd say.

Kink limits respected as non-kink. Reversing the roles I'm sure you wouldn't want to be a forced sub if it wasn't totally your thing.

"

That's different though because he's sure she'd enjoy this if only she'd do as he wants...

That's not the same as being forced to do something you're not into. She just doesn't realise how much she'd love it, so he'd be doing her a favour really...

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"...

I have to laugh at the last part of your post

If only all women would do what men wanted... think how happy they'd be....

Quite. It's my ultimate dream.

You and me both. "

Well, yes, we are equally subservient types so that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?

Perhaps she is attracted to men who know what they want and how to get it

I find women are generally into that sort of thing

Tis thread is great for a laugh this afternoon

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i would like my mrs to wear a bikini top and shorts when washing the car but she doesn't

Does anyone have any advice how I can changer her

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By *avger55 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Thx for all the advice it because of respect for her that I don't push the idea. I can live in hope that in time her desires will be the same as mine

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?

Perhaps she is attracted to men who know what they want and how to get it

I find women are generally into that sort of thing

Tis thread is great for a laugh this afternoon

i would like my mrs to wear a bikini top and shorts when washing the car but she doesn't

Does anyone have any advice how I can changer her "

Hide all her other clothes and hand her a soapy bucket and sponge!

That should do the trick

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Thx for all the advice it because of respect for her that I don't push the idea. I can live in hope that in time her desires will be the same as mine"

She's asked you for time yet you are still trying to change her and asking advice on how to change her! That's not pushing the idea? Really?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have discussed and she is natural in some aspects keen to instruct me how to please her but has ask me for time to adjust to some areas am finding it difficult to explain the enjoyment she might receive from giving me pleasure.

So give her time! You don't seem to be very good at taking instruction if you can't understand that.

I have to laugh at the last part of your post

This is typical of a lot of guys who think they are submissive. They want to be told what to do, but only if it's the things they want to do, and how they want to do them.

As for the Dominant, they are expected to want to enjoy it because they are giving instructions. Never mind that they are being expected to give instructions according to what someone else wants.

Some people have a really odd _iew of domination and submission! "

This is the problem I have found with men saying they are submissive and then proceed to tell me what they want. My very submissive regular friend doesn't tell me what to do. He gets pleasure from doing or taking what I want. I'm rarely dominant with a man as I have a natural passive nature,but when a man is truly submissive my dominating personality comes out. You need to submit to her,if she has any kind of dominance in her it will come out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a sub in control

i looked into all this a while back - not to get into just curious about it all - if i remember rightly the sub is in control in a true sub/dom relationship as boundaries are kept to = maybe i got it wrong it was years ago i read about it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?

Perhaps she is attracted to men who know what they want and how to get it

I find women are generally into that sort of thing

Tis thread is great for a laugh this afternoon

i would like my mrs to wear a bikini top and shorts when washing the car but she doesn't

Does anyone have any advice how I can changer her "

Set an example and wear the same next time you clean the loo

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Talk about it I'd say.

Kink limits respected as non-kink. Reversing the roles I'm sure you wouldn't want to be a forced sub if it wasn't totally your thing.

That's different though because he's sure she'd enjoy this if only she'd do as he wants...

That's not the same as being forced to do something you're not into. She just doesn't realise how much she'd love it, so he'd be doing her a favour really...

"

he would indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a sub in control

i looked into all this a while back - not to get into just curious about it all - if i remember rightly the sub is in control in a true sub/dom relationship as boundaries are kept to = maybe i got it wrong it was years ago i read about it "

A person can only take what they can take physically. A person can always say no. That is the extent of control in my life. Relationships aren't always about the sexual side,it's about controlling what a person does. If they really are submissive to every extent they would tear their own heart out. No one does that.

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By *avger55 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Does anyone know if there's any sites offering free bikinis with a karcher pressure washer and what size bikini will I need 44" chest 36" waist?

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By *iuliettaWoman
over a year ago

DEVIZES


"Does she know your on here ?"

She does NOW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a sub in control

i looked into all this a while back - not to get into just curious about it all - if i remember rightly the sub is in control in a true sub/dom relationship as boundaries are kept to = maybe i got it wrong it was years ago i read about it "

I don't think there's a one size fits all for the relationship between a Dom/me and sub, rather like swinging.

I'm not owned or collared but willingly submit to my fwb who is Dom. This didn't happen overnight and came about through communication, honesty and being honest about boundaries.

I'm not helpless at all as the Dom may push boundaries but will always respect the safety word, never had to use it so far

I'm a single bisexual female on fabs and some swingers may not consider me to be swinger, but what I do is no drama fun. Works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talk about it I'd say.

Kink limits respected as non-kink. Reversing the roles I'm sure you wouldn't want to be a forced sub if it wasn't totally your thing.

That's different though because he's sure she'd enjoy this if only she'd do as he wants...

Lovely start to the thread year

That's not the same as being forced to do something you're not into. She just doesn't realise how much she'd love it, so he'd be doing her a favour really...

he would indeed. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does she know your on here ?

She does NOW "

You told her?

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By *iuliettaWoman
over a year ago

DEVIZES


"Does she know your on here ?

She does NOW

You told her?"

No, I already know he is on here, just not what he was posting about me

Time for a talk methinks..........

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I think I ll get my lover to wear a bikini top and shorts and wash my car when its warmer this year .. Mm cracking idea

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Does she know your on here ?

She does NOW

You told her?

No, I already know he is on here, just not what he was posting about me

Time for a talk methinks.........."

Oh God! How awful...so sorry you had to see this.

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"Does she know your on here ?

She does NOW

You told her?

No, I already know he is on here, just not what he was posting about me

Time for a talk methinks.........."

Good grief

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone


"I have a great relationship with my lover but I know from previous relationships that I enjoy being submissive, she has issues with some aspects of a FLR how can I get her to buy into this type of relationship?

What's 'FLR'?

Female Lead Relationship best you had Mr smith!!!

Got it, thanks "

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Does she know your on here ?

She does NOW

You told her?

No, I already know he is on here, just not what he was posting about me

Time for a talk methinks.........."

In which case its probably best to leave it there

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