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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why thay a lot of time wasters on here let down again.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Ah well, onwards and upwards.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

What happened?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is one of my biggest grumbles about this site, it's not funny being stood up, I sympathise totally xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely you can only waste your own time...

After-all no-one is forced into the choices we make on here.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

@ Soxy, you're right to a degree hun, but when you commit to meeting someone at a set time and place and then just don't show, that's just rude, especially if the other person has had to travel to get there.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"@ Soxy, you're right to a degree hun, but when you commit to meeting someone at a set time and place and then just don't show, that's just rude, especially if the other person has had to travel to get there."

I agree. You can cam, chat on the phone or whatever but it can still happen. And that is definitely someone else wasting your time.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

At least meeting in a club there are 20 or more other people there if they don't show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"@ Soxy, you're right to a degree hun, but when you commit to meeting someone at a set time and place and then just don't show, that's just rude, especially if the other person has had to travel to get there."

I agree entirely.....

But there is always more than one side to any story ….

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land


"Why thay a lot of time wasters on here let down again."

Happy new year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why thay a lot of time wasters on here let down again."

because its a swinging site,don't you know swinging and timewasters go together like bacon and eggs?it's part and parcel of this "hobby" we follow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had one let down in the 2 years I've been dong this, a dubious excuse was given but hey ho, it happens. If it happens a lot maybe you need to change the way you go about selecting potential meets ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"@ Soxy, you're right to a degree hun, but when you commit to meeting someone at a set time and place and then just don't show, that's just rude, especially if the other person has had to travel to get there.

I agree. You can cam, chat on the phone or whatever but it can still happen. And that is definitely someone else wasting your time. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn I'd never stand you up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly it happens.

Smile and start again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is one of my biggest grumbles about this site, it's not funny being stood up, I sympathise totally xx"

3 times in the past 6 weeks. Then again it's always the risk on these sites. Have to take everything with a pinch of salt because the genuine people make this site a lot of fun.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I've never had a time waster, and only one guy cancelled with about 6 hours notice.

I chat for a good while before getting to the meet stage, and have a good idea that people will turn up before I agree to meet. If you get a lot of time wasters, perhaps look at your selection criteria as you are the common denominator.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"This is one of my biggest grumbles about this site, it's not funny being stood up, I sympathise totally xx

3 times in the past 6 weeks. Then again it's always the risk on these sites. Have to take everything with a pinch of salt because the genuine people make this site a lot of fun."

If I were you I'd be looking at why I was being so gullible as to fall for it so often?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At least meeting in a club there are 20 or more other people there if they don't show. "

Couldn't put it better myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely you can only waste your own time...

After-all no-one is forced into the choices we make on here.......

"

Soxy i have three kids and a job - and my spare time is precious. When i committ to meeting someone after weeks of chat - turning down many other nice guys in the process simply due to kack of free time - and the guy that i'm supposed to meet doesn't show or dissappears into the ether - then it can get very upsetting at times!

If it weren't for my friends on the forums and at clubs and parties, i'd have ditched fab long ago!!

Good luck op - would recommend chatting lots on the forums and maybe meeting people from there? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is one of my biggest grumbles about this site, it's not funny being stood up, I sympathise totally xx

3 times in the past 6 weeks. Then again it's always the risk on these sites. Have to take everything with a pinch of salt because the genuine people make this site a lot of fun.

If I were you I'd be looking at why I was being so gullible as to fall for it so often? "

I suppose having a rule of not meeting someone unless I've exchanged regular messages with them for over a month and spoken to them on the phone a number of times makes me gullible? I'd suggest I've been unlucky recently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is one of my biggest grumbles about this site, it's not funny being stood up, I sympathise totally xx

3 times in the past 6 weeks. Then again it's always the risk on these sites. Have to take everything with a pinch of salt because the genuine people make this site a lot of fun.

If I were you I'd be looking at why I was being so gullible as to fall for it so often?

I suppose having a rule of not meeting someone unless I've exchanged regular messages with them for over a month and spoken to them on the phone a number of times makes me gullible? I'd suggest I've been unlucky recently "

You spoke over a month ? That seems a very long time to be chatting without arranging a meet. Would that not suggest they just wanted to chat rather than meet ? Still, not nice for that to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes most just do like to chat lol, if there is no sex after the 10th message or so, you can assume its a teaser

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I've been here seven years: never had my time wasted. I set the rules: social meet during my lunch hour, I'd be there anyway or the station after work, I'd be there anyway.

After the social meet I take a day to work from home...should they not show up, I've work to do.

I don't go out of my way, I don't cancel other plans, it really is all about me and I make that crystal clear from the off.

I've found a way that works for me, one has to wonder though if people are constantly being stood up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been here seven years: never had my time wasted. I set the rules: social meet during my lunch hour, I'd be there anyway or the station after work, I'd be there anyway.

After the social meet I take a day to work from home...should they not show up, I've work to do.

I don't go out of my way, I don't cancel other plans, it really is all about me and I make that crystal clear from the off.

I've found a way that works for me, one has to wonder though if people are constantly being stood up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love timewasters, them fookin sudoku puzzles can waste so much.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I've never had a time waster, and only one guy cancelled with about 6 hours notice.

I chat for a good while before getting to the meet stage, and have a good idea that people will turn up before I agree to meet. If you get a lot of time wasters, perhaps look at your selection criteria as you are the common denominator. "

So do I. I'm very careful about how and who I choose. But it can happen. Not often but it does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I totally agree...its diifficult to fit fab in around anything else...totally annoying and frustrating....says the woman who hasnt had a meet since begining of dec due to arranging xmas and all that comes with it.....role on 5th of Jan xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is one of my biggest grumbles about this site, it's not funny being stood up, I sympathise totally xx

3 times in the past 6 weeks. Then again it's always the risk on these sites. Have to take everything with a pinch of salt because the genuine people make this site a lot of fun.

If I were you I'd be looking at why I was being so gullible as to fall for it so often?

I suppose having a rule of not meeting someone unless I've exchanged regular messages with them for over a month and spoken to them on the phone a number of times makes me gullible? I'd suggest I've been unlucky recently

You spoke over a month ? That seems a very long time to be chatting without arranging a meet. Would that not suggest they just wanted to chat rather than meet ? Still, not nice for that to happen.

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Sorry you've misunderstood me. It's me who won't meet unless it's been a month. I'm a single dad and I'm very careful about who I invite into our house. Obviously I don't wait a month if I'm going to a party or club lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is one of my biggest grumbles about this site, it's not funny being stood up, I sympathise totally xx

3 times in the past 6 weeks. Then again it's always the risk on these sites. Have to take everything with a pinch of salt because the genuine people make this site a lot of fun.

If I were you I'd be looking at why I was being so gullible as to fall for it so often?

I suppose having a rule of not meeting someone unless I've exchanged regular messages with them for over a month and spoken to them on the phone a number of times makes me gullible? I'd suggest I've been unlucky recently

You spoke over a month ? That seems a very long time to be chatting without arranging a meet. Would that not suggest they just wanted to chat rather than meet ? Still, not nice for that to happen.

Sorry you've misunderstood me. It's me who won't meet unless it's been a month. I'm a single dad and I'm very careful about who I invite into our house. Obviously I don't wait a month if I'm going to a party or club lol"

Totally understand but why not try a social to get to know someone ? I won't invite anyone around my place until I've met them for a quick drink and at least you know they're up for meeting.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Yes most just do like to chat lol, if there is no sex after the 10th message or so, you can assume its a teaser "

Well dammit, thats me a tease now as well as a fake and a timewaster. FFS, I'll get me coat - someone remind me how to delete my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is one of my biggest grumbles about this site, it's not funny being stood up, I sympathise totally xx

3 times in the past 6 weeks. Then again it's always the risk on these sites. Have to take everything with a pinch of salt because the genuine people make this site a lot of fun.

If I were you I'd be looking at why I was being so gullible as to fall for it so often?

I suppose having a rule of not meeting someone unless I've exchanged regular messages with them for over a month and spoken to them on the phone a number of times makes me gullible? I'd suggest I've been unlucky recently

You spoke over a month ? That seems a very long time to be chatting without arranging a meet. Would that not suggest they just wanted to chat rather than meet ? Still, not nice for that to happen.

Sorry you've misunderstood me. It's me who won't meet unless it's been a month. I'm a single dad and I'm very careful about who I invite into our house. Obviously I don't wait a month if I'm going to a party or club lol

Totally understand but why not try a social to get to know someone ? I won't invite anyone around my place until I've met them for a quick drink and at least you know they're up for meeting.

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I do the social thing and have arranged my own socials in the past. I've had plenty of good meets. Just in the past 6 weeks I've had some bad luck.

No point in crying over spilt milk lol

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