FabSwingers.com forum: Anxiety

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's something I've always suffered with.

Panic attacks and that.

Stops me meeting men as become too afraid to go out but can't tell them that as feel embarrassed,only men who stick around to get to know me realise the extent of it all.

I'm going back to the doctor this week for some advice.

What I'm trying to say is....I know this isn't the place for a mental health chat but I feel I can speak freely here.

I dislike cancelling meets.

It's never my intention but it does happen due to high anxiety and ensuing paranoia.

Otherwise I'm a perfectly abnormal woman.

It's exhausting going through the really bad patches so I disappear frequently.

Ramble ramble blah blah blah blah blah.

Not easy typing this but what the hell.

Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something I've always suffered with.

Panic attacks and that.

Stops me meeting men as become too afraid to go out but can't tell them that as feel embarrassed,only men who stick around to get to know me realise the extent of it all.

I'm going back to the doctor this week for some advice.

What I'm trying to say is....I know this isn't the place for a mental health chat but I feel I can speak freely here.

I dislike cancelling meets.

It's never my intention but it does happen due to high anxiety and ensuing paranoia.

Otherwise I'm a perfectly abnormal woman.

It's exhausting going through the really bad patches so I disappear frequently.

Ramble ramble blah blah blah blah blah.

Not easy typing this but what the hell.

Sorry.

Pm me if you need to talk

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Get it off your chest, I think it's good to chat about things that bother you. Hopefully it's something that you get over

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Firstly don't apologise.

I have a friend like this and her anxiety has got to the extent that she rarely sleeps and spends evenings driving around looking for her children who are all in their twenties if she hasn't had a text from them for a couple of hours. She refuses to acknowledge that she has a problem which is why its got this bad I guess and where you're a step ahead of her.

That was no help at all I know but I think you're doing the absolute correct thing in seeking help and I hope you get some good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something I've always suffered with.

Panic attacks and that.

Stops me meeting men as become too afraid to go out but can't tell them that as feel embarrassed,only men who stick around to get to know me realise the extent of it all.

I'm going back to the doctor this week for some advice.

What I'm trying to say is....I know this isn't the place for a mental health chat but I feel I can speak freely here.

I dislike cancelling meets.

It's never my intention but it does happen due to high anxiety and ensuing paranoia.

Otherwise I'm a perfectly abnormal woman.

It's exhausting going through the really bad patches so I disappear frequently.

Ramble ramble blah blah blah blah blah.

Not easy typing this but what the hell.

Sorry.

Aaaaaw that sounds like an extremely difficult thing to cope with

Do you not think if you just on when you're talking about a meet then it will make explanations easier in the long run?

I know it's not really something you want to share with everyone but if people have a problem with it they probably aren't worth your time anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know just how you feel. I had a serious motorbike accident last summer and had to have 3 ops on my leg during the year. Never been one to get stressed or worry but had several panic attacks, starting this spring, was referred to a therapist and diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder. It puts me off meeting or even going out. Its like a catch 22, worry about having an anxiety attack makes you anxious and more likely to have one!

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

good luck with your GP visit and i hope you find a solution to managing it

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am sure the GP will be able to help.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Let on' tut!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just so you know, you're not the only one sweetheart, and just like secret something said you can always PM us for a chat if you need it (or just for someone to listen) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bet you got anxious writing it down? im a mental health support worker and care for a lady and this is her main problem - it rules her life but made worse by the people around her not understanding and most of the family have pandered to her over many years (other issues involved i might add) -

i think you being upfront and honest is a huge hurdle to cross but a necessary one - find something that calms you even if its only a little - be it music - breathing - going for a walk does it best for me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately see the doc. The longer you suffer the worse it gets and negative patterns & thinking set in. Anxiety meds and cognitive behaviour therapy are both excellent at tackling this in the short & long term. You're on the road to recovery! Xxx

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Great you are so open! It's a shame more people can't be as open as affects everyone to one extent or thw othwr in ours lives .

Keep taking the steps toward a happier you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something I've always suffered with.

Panic attacks and that.

Stops me meeting men as become too afraid to go out but can't tell them that as feel embarrassed,only men who stick around to get to know me realise the extent of it all.

I'm going back to the doctor this week for some advice.

What I'm trying to say is....I know this isn't the place for a mental health chat but I feel I can speak freely here.

I dislike cancelling meets.

It's never my intention but it does happen due to high anxiety and ensuing paranoia.

Otherwise I'm a perfectly abnormal woman.

It's exhausting going through the really bad patches so I disappear frequently.

Ramble ramble blah blah blah blah blah.

Not easy typing this but what the hell.

Sorry.

Please dont apoligise.. I used to suffer with severe anxiety.. Would have panic attacks from things like getting a phonecall from an unknown number or if it started to rain when I was driving.. There is a way out.. It just takes a little while to find it is all.. Please feel free to pm me if you'd like to talk and if not I sincerely hope that you find a way of making things easier

T xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something I've always suffered with.

Panic attacks and that.

Stops me meeting men as become too afraid to go out but can't tell them that as feel embarrassed,only men who stick around to get to know me realise the extent of it all.

I'm going back to the doctor this week for some advice.

What I'm trying to say is....I know this isn't the place for a mental health chat but I feel I can speak freely here.

I dislike cancelling meets.

It's never my intention but it does happen due to high anxiety and ensuing paranoia.

Otherwise I'm a perfectly abnormal woman.

It's exhausting going through the really bad patches so I disappear frequently.

Ramble ramble blah blah blah blah blah.

Not easy typing this but what the hell.

Sorry.

Your post sounds so like something a friend of mine would say- she suffers horrendously from anxiety and finds it totally debilitating to the point where she won't leave her home so you have my total sympathy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been suffering with anxiety,panic attacks and depression for 16 years. I take medication for it that has side effects. I prefer the side effects to the illness. It is an illness and not all in your head as some people think. I feel for you,I know how I am without the medication. I got so bad I didn't want to be alive any more. It totally changed who I am,a bus ride can be traumatic,a trip to the fairground with my grandchildren can stress me out with the noise and flashing lights. I can't argue with people as it makes me feel ill. Go to your doctor,you may not need medication,you may. There is a lot of help with your illness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have similar issues. I think it's far more common than people realise. I find talking and being open massively helpful though concede that when I'm really struggling that is sometimes far easier said than done.

I've also accepted it is a part of me and that sometimes it will get the better of me. I bailed on a party last night, crystal was happy to go alone and I don't see that as failing. Christmas left me drained and I just couldn't face it. Everyone knows why I wasn't there, no lies or excuses just the truth that I found tge thought of a night out totally overwhelming.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been suffering with anxiety,panic attacks and depression for 16 years. I take medication for it that has side effects. I prefer the side effects to the illness. It is an illness and not all in your head as some people think. I feel for you,I know how I am without the medication. I got so bad I didn't want to be alive any more. It totally changed who I am,a bus ride can be traumatic,a trip to the fairground with my grandchildren can stress me out with the noise and flashing lights. I can't argue with people as it makes me feel ill. Go to your doctor,you may not need medication,you may. There is a lot of help with your illness "

Thank you.

It's not easy eh?

We keep going though cause life is worth living even at lowest ebb.

I've kept that tiny bit of fire in my belly.

Oh I um.... omitted the fact I'm actually on medicines. Waiting for specialised therapy too.

I've had this along with depression for 24 years.I guess going back to the doctor to ask for something to numb the chest ache and tension.

It gets so bad I can't eat, sleep or indeed think straight.

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

Pm me if you want to talk!

I went through a stage when I couldn't leave the house because I was convinced that gravity would fail! Everyone told me I was being stupid but I'd end up crying and shaking if I was told to go out!

I always get nervous before a meet, and I shake like a leaf before I meet someone. Add to that I don't drive and I'm a nervous passenger I sometimes put off meets because I know I'm gonna have to get in someone's car!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have similar issues. I think it's far more common than people realise. I find talking and being open massively helpful though concede that when I'm really struggling that is sometimes far easier said than done.

Sorry you are having to cope with that.

YeaH and I understand that completely.

Can't handle lots of "normal " stuff.

Loud noises, crowds, bright lights, strangers, pubs and I love pubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pm me if you want to talk!

I went through a stage when I couldn't leave the house because I was convinced that gravity would fail! Everyone told me I was being stupid but I'd end up crying and shaking if I was told to go out!

I still have the panic about gravity failing. When I think about it I laugh but when you're feeling it it's not funny. The mind is a very complicated organ firing thousands of signals a minute with all kinds of chemicals controlling it. It's hardly surprising it fails so easily

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's something I've always suffered with.

Panic attacks and that.

Stops me meeting men as become too afraid to go out but can't tell them that as feel embarrassed,only men who stick around to get to know me realise the extent of it all.

I'm going back to the doctor this week for some advice.

What I'm trying to say is....I know this isn't the place for a mental health chat but I feel I can speak freely here.

I dislike cancelling meets.

It's never my intention but it does happen due to high anxiety and ensuing paranoia.

Otherwise I'm a perfectly abnormal woman.

It's exhausting going through the really bad patches so I disappear frequently.

Ramble ramble blah blah blah blah blah.

Not easy typing this but what the hell.

Sorry.

Pm me if you need to talk

Have done so...Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to say sorry, this is the place for a sorts of subjects I hope the visit to your GP will be helpful. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have suffered with mild agrophobia, anxiety and panic attacks on and off since I was a teenager. my mum was always a bit nervous when I was growing up and I think that's where I get it from. Certain times like when I lost my mum can affect me, I read a good book about panic attacks which helped me a lot, its an old book but the best one I have read, Coping Successfully With Panic Attacks By Shirley Trickett.

Sheldon Press.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pm me if you want to talk!

I went through a stage when I couldn't leave the house because I was convinced that gravity would fail! Everyone told me I was being stupid but I'd end up crying and shaking if I was told to go out!

I have had something vaguely similar.

Something called de realisation and the same obsessive thought over and over.

BLOODY scary.

It was handled with kick arse anti psychotics and a holiday on a ward.

Haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For those who said they suffer from panic/anxiety attacks, what symptoms do you suffer when you have them if you don't mind me asking?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For those who said they suffer from panic/anxiety attacks, what symptoms do you suffer when you have them if you don't mind me asking?"

For me it's always the feeling of losing control.

Then this heavy weight on chest/neck.

I can't think straight or pin down a single train of thought.

The stomach churns, I get chest pain.

I sweat. Can't see a way out except to lie down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For those who said they suffer from panic/anxiety attacks, what symptoms do you suffer when you have them if you don't mind me asking?"

My panic attacks are usually only at night. I wake up feeling like I've been punched in the stomach and sweating profusely. Immediately I focus on my heart rate which will be very fast. I feel sick and very scared,which makes me want to cry. I have to get up. If I'm lucky I can control it with breathing exercises. If I took my medication every day I wouldn't get them but it makes me tired and forgetful so I try to go without for as long as possible. As I calm down I feel tearful and shake. Anxiety can manifest in many ways. It can make you tense up your whole body,sweat,shake,irrational thoughts,not want to be alive any more. I can't even remember half of the symptoms. I don't get nervous meeting men for the first time strangely enough. I think the close contact makes me feel better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks ladies. I feel a bit detached, spaced out like I'm not on this planet, light headed and faint. A couple of times I've had to take deep breaths as I feel like I can't breathe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks ladies. I feel a bit detached, spaced out like I'm not on this planet, light headed and faint. A couple of times I've had to take deep breaths as I feel like I can't breathe. "

Try youtube for breathing exerises.

They do help if you can concentrate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks ladies. I feel a bit detached, spaced out like I'm not on this planet, light headed and faint. A couple of times I've had to take deep breaths as I feel like I can't breathe.

Try youtube for breathing exerises.

They do help if you can concentrate. "

Thanks, I'll have a look x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP has this thread made you feel a bit better, knowing you're not alone? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks ladies. I feel a bit detached, spaced out like I'm not on this planet, light headed and faint. A couple of times I've had to take deep breaths as I feel like I can't breathe. "

I have those feelings,it's because you have upset the carbon dioxide levels in the bottom of your lungs. Too much oxygen makes you light headed. The breathing exercise I was taught was to hold the left nostril closed and breathe in through the right,then hold the right closed and breathe out through the left. Breathe back in through the left and out through the right. Keep alternating and you should start to relax. It really does help me

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

'Mindfullness' may help...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Mindfulness*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks ladies. I feel a bit detached, spaced out like I'm not on this planet, light headed and faint. A couple of times I've had to take deep breaths as I feel like I can't breathe.

Interesting, thanks. I thought it might be like hyperventilating. I'll try that thanks.

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By *ovemenotWoman
over a year ago

yeovil

"Thanks ladies. I feel a bit detached, spaced out like I'm not on this planet, light headed and faint. A couple of times I've had to take deep breaths as I feel like I can't breathe. "

For me I feel like I have forgotten how to breath and I have to contntrat on breathing in and out . This leads to me breathing to hard and then the room spins and I have to sit on kneel down

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP has this thread made you feel a bit better, knowing you're not alone? x"

Yes Scarlet Stars, it has helped.

Some sound folk on here.

Thanks everyone for replying and pm's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww it's good that you have said it, it can be so debilitating, my best friend is in a similar place at the moment. She's finally agreed to medication and counselling. Getting her to the doctors wasn't easy though, she was a wreck in the car then getting her in the surgery was difficult. If you do need to chat PM me, I know you are inundated with people who will chat to you! Yes it's a swingers site but we are all human as well.

Take Care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there suffered for a long time went to see a hypnotherapist was well worth it did help alot

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You can always talk to me. Although my jokes are enough to tip anyone from mania into depression, so maybe avoid rather than kiss then fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Been there suffered for a long time went to see a hypnotherapist was well worth it did help alot "

Really?

I've thought about that avenue.

How many sessions did you need?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can always talk to me. Although my jokes are enough to tip anyone from mania into depression, so maybe avoid rather than kiss then fuck.

Steve you gent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP has this thread made you feel a bit better, knowing you're not alone? x

Yes Scarlet Stars, it has helped.

Some sound folk on here.

Thanks everyone for replying and pm's.

X "

It's help me thanks to Op for posting it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP has this thread made you feel a bit better, knowing you're not alone? x

Yes Scarlet Stars, it has helped.

Some sound folk on here.

Thanks everyone for replying and pm's.

It's help me thanks to Op for posting it x"

me too.

a recent event in my life has left me with feelings I can only describe as panicky & anxious. I think I've managed to surpress a full on panic attack (from what's been described above) through deep breathing & then lying down with my eyes closed but feel is only a matter of time....

I've no hesitation in saying that I need some counselling which I hope to get in place soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a carer for someone who suffers from auditory hallucinations and anxiety ...not qualified to give advice but happy to share my experiences .its hard for pplwho dont suffer or have never experienced ppl that do to understand how complex and scary it can be.I had to learn the hard way .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had three but take as many as needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP has this thread made you feel a bit better, knowing you're not alone? x

Yes Scarlet Stars, it has helped.

Some sound folk on here.

Thanks everyone for replying and pm's.

X "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP has this thread made you feel a bit better, knowing you're not alone? x

Yes Scarlet Stars, it has helped.

Some sound folk on here.

Thanks everyone for replying and pm's.

It's help me thanks to Op for posting it x

me too.

I've no hesitation in saying that I need some counselling which I hope to get in place soon."

I hope you get it sorted out soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Citalopram tablets,, best thing I have done for my anxiety, it used to be terrible,, unexplained terror at just leaving the house on times, or traveling any distance once I got over the agrophobia,, no one else really understands the fear I lived in,, then I was prescribed citalopram, first month of taking these tablets and felt worse, thought why am I taking these and then as if by magic the anxiety began to lift as tho a fog disappeared and I'm finally able to get on with life

,, only now and again have a few wobbles but I can handle those with my new found freedom from hell I endured

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Citalopram tablets,, best thing I have done for my anxiety, it used to be terrible,, unexplained terror at just leaving the house on times, or traveling any distance once I got over the agrophobia,, no one else really understands the fear I lived in,, then I was prescribed citalopram, first month of taking these tablets and felt worse, thought why am I taking these and then as if by magic the anxiety began to lift as tho a fog disappeared and I'm finally able to get on with life

,, only now and again have a few wobbles but I can handle those with my new found freedom from hell I endured"

Have to say Citalopram worked for me too. Took some time, some counseling, getting rid of a person in my life that was negative and finally could function....then better than function.

No more not being able to hold a knife and fork to eat because of shaking or getting to the checkout in Tescos and not being able to put my pin in because of the shakes....

Still times when stressed and it isn't good but not back to worst level

Medication put me back on a level playing field so I could then seek the other help I needed

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Firstly, well done for posting. I was in a right old state a couple of months ago and posted here - I was genuinely astonished by the kindness and support. It looks like you are getting the same and that's great.

Sadly, I've come across this thread on an evening when I reckon I am as anxious as I have ever been in my life (and I reckon it's been an issue for 30 years) It's a physical feeling and it's overwhelming. Something has to change.

I don't want to hijack this thread. I'm going to look elsewhere for help this time and I have people I can speak to. I only really posted to emphasise how real this is. I want you all to focus your thoughts towards the OP. I'll get through it.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Have to say Citalopram worked for me too. Took some time, some counseling, getting rid of a person in my life that was negative and finally could function....then better than function.

that is a great point, it is important to rid yourself of negative influences, I did that a few years ago and it made a huge difference. Other people's negativity just chips away at you over time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always suffered from anxiety. It's effected me on a few fab meets(nothing to do with the other person/people). It just makes me not have quite a good a time as i think I could, if I was more relaxed.

In the new year, I am looking into cutting back on coffee, exercising more, breathing techniques even possibly taking up mediation?

Hopefully one some of these things might work.

It sounds like anxiety is incredibly common and nothing to be ashamed of. Thank you Bluesky for talking about this, and making me feel abit better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have always suffered from anxiety. It's effected me on a few fab meets(nothing to do with the other person/people). It just makes me not have quite a good a time as i think I could, if I was more relaxed.

In the new year, I am looking into cutting back on coffee, exercising more, breathing techniques even possibly taking up mediation?

Hopefully one some of these things might work.

It sounds like anxiety is incredibly common and nothing to be ashamed of. Thank you Bluesky for talking about this, and making me feel abit better. "

Hey Tom,

No worries and I have given up coffee and it can help.

Alcohol is my demon.

It's my intention to cut right back or stop drinking altogether.

Eek!

Happy New Year to you and all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have to say Citalopram worked for me too. Took some time, some counseling, getting rid of a person in my life that was negative and finally could function....then better than function.

that is a great point, it is important to rid yourself of negative influences, I did that a few years ago and it made a huge difference. Other people's negativity just chips away at you over time.

Yup and for all my issues I'm a positive person so I find negativity draining.

Best to surround yourself with laughter, (support) and people who mirror you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to feel we can talk about anYthsie here. If ya need a chat feel free to message. I may not have any good advice but I'm a great listener x

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

No need to apologise for the thread!

Give us a shout if you need, I have a wonderful pair (ears

) but i don't see the bad side in using this as an outlet to let some air into your brain, I think there's only so much it can hold. Perfectly abnormal is perfect

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By *ngel_38Woman
over a year ago

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In the new year, I am looking into cutting back on coffee, exercising more, breathing techniques even possibly taking up mediation?

Hopefully one some of these things might work.

It sounds like anxiety is incredibly common and nothing to be ashamed of. Thank you Bluesky for talking about this, and making me feel abit better. "

Do yoga that's good as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No need to apologise for the thread!

Give us a shout if you need, I have a wonderful pair (ears

) but i don't see the bad side in using this as an outlet to let some air into your brain, I think there's only so much it can hold. Perfectly abnormal is perfect

Thanks Bonbons

I've plenty of air in there.

Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like to feel we can talk about anYthsie here. If ya need a chat feel free to message. I may not have any good advice but I'm a great listener x"

Thank you.

That's kind of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to feel we can talk about anYthsie here. If ya need a chat feel free to message. I may not have any good advice but I'm a great listener x

Thank you.

That's kind of you."
just over 3 years ago I went down with Irritable Bowel syndrome where I regularly blow up Like a puffer fish at the front well you feel bloated anyway which is Caused by gas in your bowel along with This sympton came somatic Issues in my Case it was breathing which comes on when I,m out walking and makes me gasp For air its all in the mind and created by anxiety over a period of time, I have attended a PTS psychological therapies service which Works in partnership with the nhs, When attending the person I saw was Very pleasant and put me at ease, as Someone said earlier on this post your brain is a very complex organ and plays a big part part in how we function, but also OP in being able to Share with people who have similar Issues has to be a good thing I hope Things pick up for you eventually as I do in myself..

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over a year ago

"I like to feel we can talk about anYthsie here. If ya need a chat feel free to message. I may not have any good advice but I'm a great listener x

Thank you.

That's kind of you.just over 3 years ago I went down with Irritable Bowel syndrome where I regularly blow up Like a puffer fish at the front well you feel bloated anyway which is Caused by gas in your bowel along with This sympton came somatic Issues in my Case it was breathing which comes on when I,m out walking and makes me gasp For air its all in the mind and created by anxiety over a period of time, I have attended a PTS psychological therapies service which Works in partnership with the nhs, When attending the person I saw was Very pleasant and put me at ease, as Someone said earlier on this post your brain is a very complex organ and plays a big part part in how we function, but also OP in being able to Share with people who have similar Issues has to be a good thing I hope Things pick up for you eventually as I do in myself..

Thank you.

I'm starting to feel calmer the past couple of days.

It's a funny thing this anxiety.

Comes and goes but fresh air and exercise is definitely helping.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"I like to feel we can talk about anYthsie here. If ya need a chat feel free to message. I may not have any good advice but I'm a great listener x

Thank you.

I'm starting to feel calmer the past couple of days.

It's a funny thing this anxiety.

Comes and goes but fresh air and exercise is definitely helping. "

Walking has been a real help to me.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Anxiety has been a huge problem for me for years and I've been stricken with it for the last eight months.

I'm utterly exhausted by it. I'm a damn good, considerate guy and have continued working through all this. Hell, I've even made good connections and friends on this site and had a few nice meets

I accepted today I can't carry on like this - I've battled it for 30 years and something has to change.

I phoned the Samaritans in desperation this morning and hearing my own voice speaking made me realise that I have a real problem - I forget that often and berate myself for being this way. It also made me realise that I've been bloody brave and this is not my fault.

I'm going into my local branch of MIND tomorrow to see what options and services are available to me. I'm not too proud to ask for help.

Why post this? Well, I already feel a little better for at least trying to tackle this again (I've had a little counselling in the past). If anyone feels the same, I'd suggest they do likewise-it's not a sign of weakness. In fact, you've been incredibly strong to try and cope with this.

Good luck all.

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over a year ago

Can totally relate to OP, I got so bad a few years back, only left the house at obscure hours to avoid people and go to the only shop that was open at that time, chap who ran the shop was very pleasant, but if he said hello or tried to chat, felt like the world was closing in on me and I couldn't breath. Took a long time, with no help, but got past it, now I'm just slightly awkward

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can totally relate to OP, I got so bad a few years back, only left the house at obscure hours to avoid people and go to the only shop that was open at that time, chap who ran the shop was very pleasant, but if he said hello or tried to chat, felt like the world was closing in on me and I couldn't breath. Took a long time, with no help, but got past it, now I'm just slightly awkward

I'm still struggling but accepting help now.

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over a year ago

I'm still struggling but accepting help now.

Glad you're getting help, I was so close to seeking help, but felt as though most of my problems were self inflicted, therefore, I got myself into this mess, I'll damn well get myself out of it. Hardest time of my life, I look back on it, and it kinda shocks me somewhat.

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By *erry50Man
over a year ago

Liverpool and Cotswolds

This subject has taken up a lot of emotion. I have seen this first hand and thought there would be no way out for the person concerned as the doctor was limited in his ability to help even with his network. Then it was suggested this person should seek help from homeopathic consultation. This isn't cheap but it's amazing as these trained people first treat your mind first and gradually allowing you to work out all your own problems. Based on the answers to their many questions that you should answer honestly of course they can gradually administer small remedies. It's painless and drug free you will never look back. Failing this talk to your pharmacist ask for a cheap off the counter NHS tonic and take before you do anything stressful.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

See if you can find a well recommended NLP master practitioner, there are some very effective techniques that should help enormously.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Every human ever born has experienced anxiety. It's completely normal, it's just some of us feel it in more extreme measures.

Normal.

There are plenty of things you can do to control your response to an anxious situation and your GP is a good place to start. In the meantime, stop causing more anxiety by arranging meets and having to cancel them, you are flooding yourself with cortisol and it becomes a viscious circle.

Be kind to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is it you get anxious and paranoid about?

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over a year ago

" It's something I've always suffered with. Panic attacks and that. Stops me meeting men as become too afraid to go out but can't tell them that as feel embarrassed,only men who stick around to get to know me realise the extent of it all. I'm going back to the doctor this week for some advice. What I'm trying to say is....I know this isn't the place for a mental health chat but I feel I can speak freely here. I dislike cancelling meets. It's never my intention but it does happen due to high anxiety and ensuing paranoia. Otherwise I'm a perfectly abnormal woman. It's exhausting going through the really bad patches so I disappear frequently. Ramble ramble blah blah blah blah blah. Not easy typing this but what the hell. Sorry.

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never ever feel obliged to meet. You could just meet on a strictly social basis and let them know that if you like, rthen see how you feel after, see how tohngs go with yr doctor first.. Take care xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm on right track.

Thanks for your kindness.

You lot aren't so bad.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"I'm on right track.

Thanks for your kindness.

You lot aren't so bad.

Good to hear that.

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over a year ago

Stay positive and don't be afraid to be upfront - it will cut out a little anxiety, and there's plenty of good support out there, and online.

All the best

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The forum is here for people to talk to people not necessarily for sexual interaction.

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By *d_deeTV/TS
over a year ago

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It's something I've always suffered with.

Panic attacks and that.

Stops me meeting men as become too afraid to go out but can't tell them that as feel embarrassed,only men who stick around to get to know me realise the extent of it all.

I'm going back to the doctor this week for some advice.

What I'm trying to say is....I know this isn't the place for a mental health chat but I feel I can speak freely here.

I dislike cancelling meets.

It's never my intention but it does happen due to high anxiety and ensuing paranoia.

Otherwise I'm a perfectly abnormal woman.

It's exhausting going through the really bad patches so I disappear frequently.

Ramble ramble blah blah blah blah blah.

Not easy typing this but what the hell.

Sorry.

Been through it. Its a fing awful feeling. I wasnt interested in anything. Couldnt eat, sleep, winding myself up over nothing that was really important.

Was going to pack in my job but told by a m8 who had been through it to see my doctor first.

If you ever need a chat about anxiety drop me a line. Hopefully I can be some help.

I would have done anything to get rid of that feeling.

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over a year ago

"I'm on right track.

Thanks for your kindness.

You lot aren't so bad.

I'm glad you are feeling better. I think anxiety and panic attacks are more common than people realise. I had panic attacks when I first left me ex, I remember even now, how horrid it was. I would wake up early hours, and feel like I couldn't breath. I had moved back in with my Mum, temporarily and she would just hold me telling me it would be ok, until it all eased.

I hope your GP can help. The book and CD that View said about, Mindfulness is really good for keeping you in the here and now.

Keep talking, that is half the battle. x

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