FabSwingers.com forum: finding out ur partner is cheating on u

By *erseyriders OP Couple
over a year ago

wallasey

merry Christmas fabbers ,,,,my Christmas present ,,,,my guy been cheating on me since September ,,,,,wot a kickin the teeth this was ,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wow hope your ok

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"merry Christmas fabbers ,,,,my Christmas present ,,,,my guy been cheating on me since September ,,,,,wot a kickin the teeth this was ,,,,

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I take it you are happy about it then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"merry Christmas fabbers ,,,,my Christmas present ,,,,my guy been cheating on me since September ,,,,,wot a kickin the teeth this was ,,,,

Its not a good time to find out at all. Chat to him about it calmly then decide what you are going to do.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I hate it when someone puts up stuff like this then fucks off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate it when someone puts up stuff like this then fucks off.

lol you do have a way with words

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I hate it when someone puts up stuff like this then fucks off.

lol you do have a way with words

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Am I the only one who wants to know what happened then sit on my holier than thou throne and judge?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate it when someone puts up stuff like this then fucks off.

lol you do have a way with words

Am I the only one who wants to know what happened then sit on my holier than thou throne and judge?

no nicks the same i just giggle at things

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I hate it when someone puts up stuff like this then fucks off.

lol you do have a way with words

Am I the only one who wants to know what happened then sit on my holier than thou throne and judge?

no nicks the same i just giggle at things

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I would have thought a

face wsould have been more appropriate or even a

, but a

is puzzling without knowing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She showing her teeth.

where she got kicked.

Many many teeth.

Big kick.

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By *erseyriders OP Couple
over a year ago

wallasey

thanks yes vry big kick ,,,tryin 2 decide wether 2 remain on here ,,or 2 get profiles changed 2single,,,,vry angry indeed ,,,,,

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By *erseyriders OP Couple
over a year ago

wallasey

this is the fem half of partnership in pieces ,,,,[,was the guy cheating] ,,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stop on here change the profile to single dont see why you should leave keep your chin up hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah stay on here

i unintentionally was the cheating other when a guy told me he wanted a relationship but forgot to tell me he was already in one, i'm just gonna carry on fucking other guys who deserve me instead. hate liars.

hope you get something better next christmas.

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By *erseyriders OP Couple
over a year ago

wallasey

thanks every 1 ,,,,ten yrs wasted on him ,,,,,

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

T'is the time to be feckin' jolly.

I hate cheaters.

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By *erseyriders OP Couple
over a year ago

wallasey

so do I ,,,thort he was different ,but guess wot I was so so wrong ,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear - happened to my cousin about this time of year, just before xmas.

Couples counciling can be a big help.

I did a similar thing to my ex

(break up not connected). I went to see a couples councillor and she did not (on my request). I did not ant her there because I thought she would judge me - rather than act as my friend if I should share my desires.

You must have so many questions, first of all is "Why?" I guess? It's very hard to tell someone why you do something, and you also get defensive in answering the question of why. I was just sorry my GF at the time found out and just wanted it to go away - I'd have done anything to please her. It sent me into a pit of despair. One could say it is all my fault, and I did not deserve any sympathy, on the other hand I feel that all I wanted was for my GF to love me and that I just needed some sexual release elsewhere.

I guess the biggest question for me is - is it sexual or emotional the reason for cheating.

The problem is that you are feeling so upset and angry (justifiably!) and your partner just needs a friend to connect to and to be open to them and not to judge them, but support them in meeting their desires. - this is why councilling is good it enables you both to communicate better, and in a more friendly fashion.

As for myself I broke up with my ex, not because of any cheating, but because of my work issues. She was upset at how slowly I was progressing in my accountancy exams, and I got demoted at work. I don't understand why my work demoted me, and it's heading to a tribunal very soon. Anyway the day they demoted me I told my ex that they had changed my contract and that I needed support at work. My ex just looked at me and said "stop being so silly!".

Because she was upset she had stopped acting like a friend - what I needed was someone who would sit down with me and talking things through. If your partner got demoted at work and said they needed support, would you not sit them down and ask them what happened?

My point is in communicating with your partner you have to get over your natural and justifiable anger and talk to them as a supportive and respectful friend.

Good luck, and keep your ears open to what they say. If they clam up maybe they are afraid of losing your friendship, and they just want it back.

The general advice is if there's problems in a relationship swinging might not be for you because it requires a lot of trust and openness - but every couple is different and it's for you to decide what you want to do on here.

All the best.

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By *erseyriders OP Couple
over a year ago

wallasey

thank u so vry much 4 that ,,,yes can relate 2 some of wot u put ,,have allways supported him ,,,,,,work is not a problem ,,,,

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Sometimes things happen for a purpose, lick your wounds and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was he cheating on here, eg meeting women on his own without your knowledge or someone at work etc.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

You don't really seem that bothered op and I don't get the

...personally this is something I'd discuss with my partner, not a public forum.

You're going to get mainly advise to see other men, dump him etc when in reality you need to take stock and digest this devastating news.

Talk to your other half, ask yourself what do YOU want? Can you move on from this etc.

Whatever you decide, I wish you all the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks every 1 ,,,,ten yrs wasted on him ,,,,,"

It wasn't ten years wasted. It was ten years that you had together. Yes he was cheating but you know now. He has given you a great christmas present. May not feel like it but he has given you peace, hope and freedom. Use them wisely and have the best Christmas ever without the sad fucker. There is better out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yeah stay on here

hope you get something better next

christmas."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear it, I'm goin through an amicable split at the mo, although I'd rather we weren't.

It really is a shitty time of year to have to deal with it all.

I hope you can hold it together till the festivities have passed x

Good luck Hun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate it when someone puts up stuff like this then fucks off.

lol you do have a way with words

Am I the only one who wants to know what happened then sit on my holier than thou throne and judge?

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perhaps the OP is too upset to discuss the matter but needed to tell someone and get it off her chest so to speak?

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

"thanks every 1 ,,,,ten yrs wasted on him ,,,,,"

10 years - if they were fun years.. werent necessarily wasted years

Its what you do from now on that counts

shitty time of year tho. but tbh, any time aint a great time to find out that shit

Chin up ballbag!! you got this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you keep the bike tho, soon be summer xx Be positive x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Chin up and good hunting in the future xxx

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

not so good, remember dignity at all costs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks every 1 ,,,,ten yrs wasted on him ,,,,,"

I don't understand this belief that a failed relationship equates to waated years.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

"thanks every 1 ,,,,ten yrs wasted on him ,,,,,

I don't understand this belief that a failed relationship equates to waated years."

I think its because one partner is commited for life whilst the other is still looking for someone else. Its wasted years because the op could have been looking and possibly found a better honest person who would have given the same level of honesty and commitment.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"thanks every 1 ,,,,ten yrs wasted on him ,,,,,

I don't understand this belief that a failed relationship equates to waated years.

Who's to say he wasn't committed but the relationship ran it's course etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate it when someone puts up stuff like this then fucks off.

LMFAO

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"thanks every 1 ,,,,ten yrs wasted on him ,,,,,"
. Sorry to hear about your problems . However it might be best to remember the good times that you had together and forget about the bad times . The detailed post from the gentleman from Reading offered excellent advice and he put consider effort into writing it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not so good, remember dignity at all costs

Wise words as always View

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to read that this has happened to you & that you're upset. I hope you can work out what you want and then move forward, once the initial hurt has subsided of course. Cyber hugs to you x

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I court my ex wife cheating on me. It was yrs ago now but still I can't thank her engh. Funny how time changes your _iew on things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confuses me. Ok you have a couple, on here both swing

So the guy has it good gets to play and have fun etc..

But still decided to cheat.

Honestly some guy's want their cake and eat it!

I know so many guy's who are just greedy and don't deserve a decent woman.

So op sorry to hear that he has been playing away.

I would play the game and have some fun on here.

Take care and try to enjoy some of Christmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks every 1 ten yrs wasted on him "

(((((((BIG HUGS))))

Really sorry about that hun, that proper sucks! The deceipt of lying is the worst, in particular seen that you are Swingers which is so much about trust!

I hope you have some good friends in real life you can turn to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is for you too to discuss and arrive

at a solution. personally I don't understand why put it on fab. whatever floats your boat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks every 1 ,,,,ten yrs wasted on him ,,,,,

I don't understand this belief that a failed relationship equates to waated years."

I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks yes vry big kick ,,,tryin 2 decide wether 2 remain on here ,,or 2 get profiles changed 2single,,,,vry angry indeed ,,,,, "

I think the status of my profile on here would be very far down my list of priorities that need sorting!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"thanks yes vry big kick ,,,tryin 2 decide wether 2 remain on here ,,or 2 get profiles changed 2single,,,,vry angry indeed ,,,,,

I think the status of my profile on here would be very far down my list of priorities that need sorting!!"

Me to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op is your partner the one on your profile? if so, just do the same and email some horney gent for a sneaky sex meet to return the favour to your partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks yes vry big kick ,,,tryin 2 decide wether 2 remain on here ,,or 2 get profiles changed 2single,,,,vry angry indeed ,,,,,

I think the status of my profile on here would be very far down my list of priorities that need sorting!!

Ditto

S x

Me to. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op is your partner the one on your profile? if so, just do the same and email some horney gent for a sneaky sex meet to return the favour to your partner

Makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op is your partner the one on your profile? if so, just do the same and email some horney gent for a sneaky sex meet to return the favour to your partner

Makes sense.

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Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confuses me. Ok you have a couple, on here both swing

So the guy has it good gets to play and have fun etc..

But still decided to cheat.

Honestly some guy's want their cake and eat it!

I know so many guy's who are just greedy and don't deserve a decent woman.

So op sorry to hear that he has been playing away.

I would play the game and have some fun on here.

Take care and try to enjoy some of Christmas. "

couldn't agree more with this post x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh bugger not good at any time year let alone today heart goes out to you can see the need with this life cake and eat it lifestyle xx

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"thanks yes vry big kick ,,,tryin 2 decide wether 2 remain on here ,,or 2 get profiles changed 2single,,,,vry angry indeed ,,,,, "

If youre saying that then I assume the person you are talking about is also the one on this profile, in which case it should be sorted out with them in private rather than discussing it on the forums sorry

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