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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I feel like I have gone through different phases in my life...

16-25 didn't stress or worry about anything. In hindsight there was plenty to stress about, I moved out at 16 had to study, work and run a house. Married and had a baby young and had to spend months alone whilst my husband was in some of the most dangerous situations to support us.

25-35 ultra organised, making lists, making sure everything was done to schedules. I absolutely thrived on the stress an it made me focused and determined.

Last few years; I can cope with anything, the slightest things upset me and I bury my head in the sand if anything becomes remotely difficult.

My child is now grown, I have a great job which provides us with the best of things and its stress free, no worries at all. Yet one small thing can set me spiraling out of control.... Is if my age, hormones, what I've no idea?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It might be age, hormones and a change from a stress that you could manage to a strain that you can't.

Some find being busy all the time relaxing - they strive on it all. For others it's too much. Ask either to flip into the other mode and they will struggle.

Work out what your stress triggers are, how often it happens, whether it is linked to anything you have been eating, the time of your cycle or disturbed sleep.

Try practicing mindfulness and look at yoga.

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By *my-blackTV/TS
over a year ago

Poole

Thats quite something. i think you have just described my life. even down to a temporary lapse from reality a while back when it all got a bit much.

Dont know is the answer to your main question. but it is interesting to see it in writing so clearly and know im not the only one who has gone through the same stages.

Good luck and best wishes with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thats quite something. i think you have just described my life. even down to a temporary lapse from reality a while back when it all got a bit much.

Dont know is the answer to your main question. but it is interesting to see it in writing so clearly and know im not the only one who has gone through the same stages.

Good luck and best wishes with it.

"

Really? That's strange isn't it.... My friend said the same when I was telling her, wonder if its an age thing Hope your OK xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It might be age, hormones and a change from a stress that you could manage to a strain that you can't.

Some find being busy all the time relaxing - they strive on it all. For others it's too much. Ask either to flip into the other mode and they will struggle.

Work out what your stress triggers are, how often it happens, whether it is linked to anything you have been eating, the time of your cycle or disturbed sleep.

Try practicing mindfulness and look at yoga.

"

Lol no reasons... I cried the other day when I had to go Xmas shopping Maybe I should try yoga, thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been the same. I just plod on regardless of what's going on around me. I don't do drama or stress really. Now and then I have a meltdown and yell at anyone and anything then its back to plodding on.

I have always seen little point in worrying about stuff. If you can do something about it then do it, otherwise it's out of your control so no amount of worrying will change a thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've always been the same. I just plod on regardless of what's going on around me. I don't do drama or stress really. Now and then I have a meltdown and yell at anyone and anything then its back to plodding on.

I have always seen little point in worrying about stuff. If you can do something about it then do it, otherwise it's out of your control so no amount of worrying will change a thing."

That great, I wish I could be like that xx

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

Combination of exercise and chill out.

I go for a run with my 'stressed out' playlist, then either read or watch something I really enjoy that I've seen oodles of times.

Walk in the country and just be, no music, no phone surfing, just me,the dog and nature.

Bake, as the recipes require concentration and the process soothes me.

Gardening. Because you get to get grubby!

Run around the park with the kids, reminds me to be present in the moment and not carry it with me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Combination of exercise and chill out.

I go for a run with my 'stressed out' playlist, then either read or watch something I really enjoy that I've seen oodles of times.

Walk in the country and just be, no music, no phone surfing, just me,the dog and nature.

Bake, as the recipes require concentration and the process soothes me.

Gardening. Because you get to get grubby!

Run around the park with the kids, reminds me to be present in the moment and not carry it with me."

I have a chilled out life in general, as I stated, get abroad once a month, great friend and family, get to the gym everyday.... But still, get a speeding ticket and I turn into a jibbering wreck that won't even fill in the forms and hope it'll just disappear!! lol

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"Combination of exercise and chill out.

I go for a run with my 'stressed out' playlist, then either read or watch something I really enjoy that I've seen oodles of times.

Walk in the country and just be, no music, no phone surfing, just me,the dog and nature.

Bake, as the recipes require concentration and the process soothes me.

Gardening. Because you get to get grubby!

Run around the park with the kids, reminds me to be present in the moment and not carry it with me.

I have a chilled out life in general, as I stated, get abroad once a month, great friend and family, get to the gym everyday.... But still, get a speeding ticket and I turn into a jibbering wreck that won't even fill in the forms and hope it'll just disappear!! lol"

I'd consider if you have any anxiety triggers esp if you say you previously handled stress in general well, could be nothing at all, or it could be something.perhaps worth mentioning to your doctor.

Tig x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"

I have a chilled out life in general, as I stated, get abroad once a month, great friend and family, get to the gym everyday.... But still, get a speeding ticket and I turn into a jibbering wreck that won't even fill in the forms and hope it'll just disappear!! lol"

Ah! you've lost the ability to manage official stuff. When that happens to me it's a sign that my depression is on the rise. The longer you leave it the worse it gets and then it becomes stressful.

Try making a little list and setting yourself an achievable target. A little bit every day. It doesn't always work for me but sometimes it does.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I have a chilled out life in general, as I stated, get abroad once a month, great friend and family, get to the gym everyday.... But still, get a speeding ticket and I turn into a jibbering wreck that won't even fill in the forms and hope it'll just disappear!! lol

Ah! you've lost the ability to manage official stuff. When that happens to me it's a sign that my depression is on the rise. The longer you leave it the worse it gets and then it becomes stressful.

Try making a little list and setting yourself an achievable target. A little bit every day. It doesn't always work for me but sometimes it does.

"

Stopped taking my anti depressants in may coz of the excessive weight gain, against doctors orders. I am aware that it may be that but with the amount of exercise I'm getting I do feel the natural endorphins are far better than the medication, I genuinely do feel happier. Just the fecking 2 stone I have to shed, that won't shift is driving me mad!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I have a chilled out life in general, as I stated, get abroad once a month, great friend and family, get to the gym everyday.... But still, get a speeding ticket and I turn into a jibbering wreck that won't even fill in the forms and hope it'll just disappear!! lol

Ah! you've lost the ability to manage official stuff. When that happens to me it's a sign that my depression is on the rise. The longer you leave it the worse it gets and then it becomes stressful.

Try making a little list and setting yourself an achievable target. A little bit every day. It doesn't always work for me but sometimes it does.

Stopped taking my anti depressants in may coz of the excessive weight gain, against doctors orders. I am aware that it may be that but with the amount of exercise I'm getting I do feel the natural endorphins are far better than the medication, I genuinely do feel happier. Just the fecking 2 stone I have to shed, that won't shift is driving me mad!! "

Oh and its not just official stuff, its just stuff that NEEDS doing, so even cleaning and shopping can get me flustered. I just wanna do what I want when I want!!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"

I have a chilled out life in general, as I stated, get abroad once a month, great friend and family, get to the gym everyday.... But still, get a speeding ticket and I turn into a jibbering wreck that won't even fill in the forms and hope it'll just disappear!! lol

Ah! you've lost the ability to manage official stuff. When that happens to me it's a sign that my depression is on the rise. The longer you leave it the worse it gets and then it becomes stressful.

Try making a little list and setting yourself an achievable target. A little bit every day. It doesn't always work for me but sometimes it does.

Stopped taking my anti depressants in may coz of the excessive weight gain, against doctors orders. I am aware that it may be that but with the amount of exercise I'm getting I do feel the natural endorphins are far better than the medication, I genuinely do feel happier. Just the fecking 2 stone I have to shed, that won't shift is driving me mad!! "

Ok, I understand that. I am the fattest I have ever been after changing antidepressants a couple of years ago.

Keep an eye on yourself if the tears are coming when you have to do things as the natural endorphins may not be enough during the dark months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I deal with it with a hard gym workout and finish of with the treadmill, you get in such a high state of mind after that you have secured the status to be untouchable and all negative thoughts and stress erases

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I deal with it with a hard gym workout and finish of with the treadmill, you get in such a high state of mind after that you have secured the status to be untouchable and all negative thoughts and stress erases "

I need to workout more to relax. I never find the time.

But when I do it works. Lack of sleep kills me too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I deal with it with a hard gym workout and finish of with the treadmill, you get in such a high state of mind after that you have secured the status to be untouchable and all negative thoughts and stress erases "

I do love the running its really gives me a rush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prozac or alcohol or sleeping tablets, if it's really shit, Prozac and sleeping tablets washed down with a good helping of alcohol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I deal with it with a hard gym workout and finish of with the treadmill, you get in such a high state of mind after that you have secured the status to be untouchable and all negative thoughts and stress erases

I do love the running its really gives me a rush"
Yes me to, it cleanses your mind don't it to x.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I have a chilled out life in general, as I stated, get abroad once a month, great friend and family, get to the gym everyday.... But still, get a speeding ticket and I turn into a jibbering wreck that won't even fill in the forms and hope it'll just disappear!! pop

Ah! you've lost the ability to manage official stuff. When that happens to me it's a sign that my depression is on the rise. The longer you leave it the worse it gets and then it becomes stressful.

Try making a little list and setting yourself an achievable target. A little bit every day. It doesn't always work for me but sometimes it does.

Stopped taking my anti depressants in may coz of the excessive weight gain, against doctors orders. I am aware that it may be that but with the amount of exercise I'm getting I do feel the natural endorphins are far better than the medication, I genuinely do feel happier. Just the fecking 2 stone I have to shed, that won't shift is driving me mad!!

Ok, I understand that. I am the fattest I have ever been after changing antidepressants a couple of years ago.

Keep an eye on yourself if the tears are coming when you have to do things as the natural endorphins may not be enough during the dark months.

"

Thanks hun... I've gone from a size 8 to 12 and it is upsetting especially as it won't come of regardless of eating clean, under 1000 cals per day and running approx. 50km a week. But I'll persevere

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Have you been checked out for thyroid problems. simple blood test. Can make you depressed / stressed .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My gran once phoned my mum , said she was really worried , my mum asked why what's wrong ? My gran replyed well Iv nothing to worry about ! . Maybe it's just times off ur life few years back I got terrible panic attacks .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you been checked out for thyroid problems. simple blood test. Can make you depressed / stressed ."

Yep. All fine x

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By *my-blackTV/TS
over a year ago

Poole


"Thats quite something. i think you have just described my life. even down to a temporary lapse from reality a while back when it all got a bit much.

Dont know is the answer to your main question. but it is interesting to see it in writing so clearly and know im not the only one who has gone through the same stages.

Good luck and best wishes with it.

Really? That's strange isn't it.... My friend said the same when I was telling her, wonder if its an age thing Hope your OK xx"

Hi, thanks for asking, not too bad now though I think something like that does change you a bit.

Perhaps its a part of getting older and changing responsibilities, sometimes it doesnt seem logical.

Hope you work it out in a positive way, some of the advice being given seems quite logical and sound

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thats quite something. i think you have just described my life. even down to a temporary lapse from reality a while back when it all got a bit much.

Dont know is the answer to your main question. but it is interesting to see it in writing so clearly and know im not the only one who has gone through the same stages.

Good luck and best wishes with it.

Really? That's strange isn't it.... My friend said the same when I was telling her, wonder if its an age thing Hope your OK xx

Hi, thanks for asking, not too bad now though I think something like that does change you a bit.

Perhaps its a part of getting older and changing responsibilities, sometimes it doesnt seem logical.

Hope you work it out in a positive way, some of the advice being given seems quite logical and sound

"

Yes it is. I do feel fine most of the time and sure when I get the festive "spirit" I'll be even better lol xx

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"I deal with it with a hard gym workout and finish of with the treadmill, you get in such a high state of mind after that you have secured the status to be untouchable and all negative thoughts and stress erases

I do love the running its really gives me a rush"

I do find exercise to be a good stress buster aswel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither of us really stress out much were pretty chilled out 99% of the time.

If I am ever stressed or a bit peeved off I just sit and watch our sausage dog for 5 mins.....he's a 4 legged walking comedy show, always cheers me up

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I hardly ever get stress; everyone I come into contact with seems to get it, though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a good cry, beat the hell out of some pillows or if possible find a way to laugh my cares away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner is a paramedic and he finds listning to music after a shift works for him.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffered a couple of years bak had a full blown melt down at work ended up off for 3months cudnt cope it so wasnt me i usually cope with anything n everything.had counselling n cbt n im fine now but wud say more sensitive to things. Tends to be alot of things piled on top of each other n can go bak many years wher u havent dealt with things just put them to oneside n ignored them. U mite of changed ur behaviour slightly which stops u releaving the stress which then builds up. Talking about it with good friends helps alot but choose who u tell wisely. Worst thing that can be said is pull urself together cos sumtimes u just cant its also a way ur body tells u thers sumthing wrong

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I scream........trust me it helps.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Vigorous exercise.

Or sex.

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