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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all,

I'm recently separated, Sept this year, how soon is too soon to be looking for new sexual excitement ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as you feel ready. There is no right or wrong answer to this one, it's a personal choice. Good luck

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I would say, it's too soon if you're not ready.

Nobody's opinion should carry any more weight than your own.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say only you can decide that and good luck

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I would say, it's too soon if you're not ready.

Nobody's opinion should carry any more weight than your own.

Cal"

This!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I feel ok about it, had been with her for 24 years. Just didn't wanna appear cold by putting myself out there too soon etc.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I would say, it's too soon if you're not ready.

Nobody's opinion should carry any more weight than your own.

Cal

This! "

I'm obviously in tune with my feminine side this morning. I'd better go and do something manly.

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"Hi all,

I'm recently separated, Sept this year, how soon is too soon to be looking for new sexual excitement ?"

If you feel your mentally ready then you already have your answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel ok about it, had been with her for 24 years. Just didn't wanna appear cold by putting myself out there too soon etc."

Too cold to whom?

Do it when you're ready and you will know that for sure without needing advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel ok about it, had been with her for 24 years. Just didn't wanna appear cold by putting myself out there too soon etc."

If you're separated though, it's not cold. You're on here which suggests you're ready, life is short so enjoy it. Meet someone for a social and you'll know if it feels right or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say, it's too soon if you're not ready.

Nobody's opinion should carry any more weight than your own.

Cal

This!

I'm obviously in tune with my feminine side this morning. I'd better go and do something manly. "

You'd best go and chop some wood!

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I would say, it's too soon if you're not ready.

Nobody's opinion should carry any more weight than your own.

Cal

This!

I'm obviously in tune with my feminine side this morning. I'd better go and do something manly. "

Like wee on the toilet seat?

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

OP was you on here with your partner then as you've been on here for well over a year?

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I feel ok about it, had been with her for 24 years. Just didn't wanna appear cold by putting myself out there too soon etc.

If you're separated though, it's not cold. You're on here which suggests you're ready, life is short so enjoy it. Meet someone for a social and you'll know if it feels right or not. "

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" You're on here which suggests you're ready, life is short so enjoy it. Meet someone for a social and you'll know if it feels right or not. "

I've floated around on here for a while, the break up doesn't involve adultery.

It's other people I was thinking about, having not been in this situation before suddenly there is a whole world of new experiences open to me. Just wanted to start on the right foot without anyone thinking the 24 years didn't mean anything etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When I say floated I haven't met anyone from here during my time.

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

You've been on here for well over a year so it seems you've already been getting sexual excitement......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You've been on here for well over a year so it seems you've already been getting sexual excitement...... "

As I said, I haven't met anyone from here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've been on here for well over a year so it seems you've already been getting sexual excitement......

As I said, I haven't met anyone from here lol"

You don't have to justify why you're here.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on whatbyoure seeking...

A sexual release/encounter or a full blob relationship.

If it's just sex then I don't think any time is too soon, afteral it's just sex and sex makes you feel good for a while.

If it's a full on relationship then that's really up to when you feel ready...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've been on here for well over a year so it seems you've already been getting sexual excitement......

As I said, I haven't met anyone from here lol

You don't have to justify why you're here.

Good luck. "

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth


"OP was you on here with your partner then as you've been on here for well over a year?"

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"OP was you on here with your partner then as you've been on here for well over a year?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is a perfect example of why people leave this site or stay away from the forums.

The guy asks for advice and is instantly judged and probably labeled a cheat despite telling everyone that he's never met anyone and that his breakup doesn't involve adultery....

Quite sad imo...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is a perfect example of why people leave this site or stay away from the forums.

The guy asks for advice and is instantly judged and probably labeled a cheat despite telling everyone that he's never met anyone and that his breakup doesn't involve adultery....

Quite sad imo..."

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth


"This thread is a perfect example of why people leave this site or stay away from the forums.

The guy asks for advice and is instantly judged and probably labeled a cheat despite telling everyone that he's never met anyone and that his breakup doesn't involve adultery....

Quite sad imo..."

After reading this thread and looking at his profile and seeing he was on here before the end of his marriage, how many ladies on here would respond to a message from him?

I have to say that I would be one of those who would just hit the delete button.

People on fab can be rather judgemental, myself included when it comes to people who appear to have been here without knowledge of their partner......Op, maybe it's time for a fresh start in more ways than one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This thread is a perfect example of why people leave this site or stay away from the forums.

The guy asks for advice and is instantly judged and probably labeled a cheat despite telling everyone that he's never met anyone and that his breakup doesn't involve adultery....

Quite sad imo..."

Thanks,

I initially came on to check out the swinging scene and maybe suggest it to my then wife.

I still have an interest in it and feel I'm free to explore it.

The last thing I want is to jump head first into anything serious. But I have got needs and want the release.

Meeting New friends along the way is hopefully where this site will lead.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

On the evening of my dad's funeral I was trying to set my mum up with eligible bachelors

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

good luck and I hope you do well

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By *ike4362ukMan
over a year ago

Cheshunt

As previously said, it's personal choice as to whether it's right or feels wrong. That you are questioning your feelings does suggest that it's not quite time for you.

You also need to separate the idea of sex and a relationship. Whilst there are a few here who have formed relationships, this is a swinging site. The chances of forming a lasting relationship are remote at best!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread is a perfect example of why people leave this site or stay away from the forums.

The guy asks for advice and is instantly judged and probably labeled a cheat despite telling everyone that he's never met anyone and that his breakup doesn't involve adultery....

Quite sad imo...

After reading this thread and looking at his profile and seeing he was on here before the end of his marriage, how many ladies on here would respond to a message from him?

I have to say that I would be one of those who would just hit the delete button.

People on fab can be rather judgemental, myself included when it comes to people who appear to have been here without knowledge of their partner......Op, maybe it's time for a fresh start in more ways than one "

Think this says more about you than him, his profile is honest, his post i think makes him sound quite sincere and i wish him all the best. He hasnt flounced or gone on the defensive when others judged him. Just chilled out. Maybe im reading things with a different tone of voice.

To the OP good luck

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