FabSwingers.com forum: Need to get this off my chest

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On Saturday night we were on cam when a couple decided to be abusive to my partner, they called her a slut and ugly and other things and then blocked us so we could not reply. We have found this very upsetting and this has put us off caming which we both enjoyed and found a turn on .

This has also knocked her confidence as l had just made her feel good about herself we are not all blessed with looking like models although I think she is lovely, we are just a ordinary couple who were enjoying fab and looking forward to our first meet x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why let the words of others knock your confidence, they are words on a screen from people who are insignificant to you both...

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By *aughty grease monkeyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Well all I can say they must have been arse holes and full of them selves take no notice and keep on having fun xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 minutes of research over your photos revealed your Mrs is fit and your not do bad yourself ...and I'm straight

So me thinks the other couple if indeed they were a couple were typing out their ass ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can also block, that would be my advice with any person whos abusive to you, besides as was stated there words and you will always get trolls wherever you go, dont let it spoil your enjoyment xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you get bad comments on here on forums, pms and chatrooms, but i bet you got good comments apart from that one person - we cant all please all but no need for rudeness -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unfortunately there are people about that enjoy running others down and when I first joined fab being called a fat whale etc nearly had me leaving fab but theres lots of nice people too, try not to let the remarks get you down and find the good people out there .good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for sharing. I had been deciding whether to cam or not and that's just decided for me.

Yes that would really knock my confidence too.

I had a similar experience after my first ever MMMF in my early 20's and it has stopped me being adventurous sexually in a lot of ways.

Why do people do this? Do they want to put women off sex and never get any?

I don't understand!

Huge sympathies to your partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are just jealous.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"On Saturday night we were on cam when a couple decided to be abusive to my partner, they called her a slut and ugly and other things and then blocked us so we could not reply. We have found this very upsetting and this has put us off caming which we both enjoyed and found a turn on .

Its wrong of that person and Im sorry it happened.

If it was the real world you wouldnt take any notice of it and I doubt you'd go to the police to say you were called names.

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By *or Fox SakeCouple
over a year ago

Thornaby

First of all this place has as many dickheads and nobbers on it as you'll find anywhere.

Don't let it put you off enjoying yourselves.

Second don't have any qualms about naming and shaming them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First of all this place has as many dickheads and nobbers on it as you'll find anywhere.

Don't let it put you off enjoying yourselves.

Second don't have any qualms about naming and shaming them."

naming and shaming isnt allowed

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Don't focus on one idiots nasty comments and instead focus on the nice comments you've had and I'm sure there have been more of them than nasty comments.

if you ever find yourself the victim of other peoples bitterness.smallness or insecurities just remember things could be worse YOU COULD BE THEM!!

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

OP - I strongly believe that people being nasty normally are not happy within themselves. Feel sorry for them over anything else.

Makes me _iew negative comments in a whole other light.

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By *exine xCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Report them. Simples. No one should be open to abuse. It's against the rules, both on here and in the Chat Rooms x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First of all this place has as many dickheads and nobbers on it as you'll find anywhere.

Don't let it put you off enjoying yourselves.

Second don't have any qualms about naming and shaming them."

You are indeed right except for the naming and shaming. They will be sent to the naughty step for that

The best thing is to report them to the room mods or and admin x

Take no notice of them op and enjoy the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have a single profile on here. I had to close it down because I couldn't take the constant abuse I would get. I would get called a slut,slag std whore they felt sorry for my bf having to sleep with me. And this was just from saying thank you but no thank you. We are all beautiful you don't have to look like a barbie doll or an action man. These people became this way because they are also conscious of their looks. Ignore them and enjoy what you do. Don't let the bastards grind you down xxx toria xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Name them and shame them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First of all this place has as many dickheads and nobbers on it as you'll find anywhere.

Don't let it put you off enjoying yourselves.

Second don't have any qualms about naming and shaming them.

naming and shaming isnt allowed "

I was just going to say name and shame too. Didn't realise it wasn't allowed. Feel free to pm me who they were for me to block them too. Thanks

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

You kinda need tough skin on here from what I've seen due to a minority of fuck wits. I've looked at your pics and you both have awesome bodies. I've read your certifications and sounds like your wife is top notch at giving head which is a winner!

It's tough but report the fuck wit, block them and move on. Concentrate on your positives

Bugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On sites like this some get off on being nasty. And the thing that get to them I find is being positive and not going down to there negative levels .. You are as good as the rest, So do not let there negative thought get to you .... Keep going on Cam, AND go on even more that will pee them off . lol Have fun and show them your not going to run away .. As your here and loving it. If you get this again report to fab and just move room .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we can relate to this thread in a way,on Saturday j sent a msg to a cpl who wanted to have photo fun with another cpl.J. said"pity we are not closer",to which the reply was "and a lot f...... thinner,then blocked us so we couldnt reply.we admit we are no stick insects but she was very upset and took some persuading to stay on here. him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been told there's a guy going around saying we've got aids, I'm bi, Vera is a slag who'll do anything to anyone! He's started up new profiles everytime we've blocked him! So we sort of understand, but we've met so many nice people it outweighs the one prick, hope you can find the same outcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some nasty people on here you keep camming and enjoy self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just seen your profile and you've got loads of fab'ed images and a clutch of great verifications too. It is definitely their problem. dust yourselves off and happy swinging xx

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

Don't let the barstewards grind you down , chin up and move on , they are the people with issues

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Just ignore them. Who cares what they think?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your posts and messages happy christmas to you all x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"why let the words of others knock your confidence, they are words on a screen from people who are insignificant to you both...

This! A thousand percent!!

It's the internet. People will say all manner of things for all manner of reasons - in messages, on the forums and via PM. Some even choose to gossip and bitch offline with others.

It is what it is - and letting it get to you or reacting in any way gives them the small victory that fuels they're fragile egos, sad little minds and insecure lives.

Zero is the only amount of fucks to give about the thoughts and opinions of such people. Once people realise this and are comfortable in doing so life gets a whole lot easier!

Good luck OP!

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"Name them and shame them "

did you read other comments, its against the rules to name and shame, best advice is to report and let admin deal with it, abuse in any form should not be taken lightly.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Please dont advise people to name and shame as they will get a ban.

To anyone who has received an abusive message, you need to report the message to Admin and block the sender rather than posting in the forums about it.

Abusive messages are not acceptable so you need to let Admin deal with it.

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