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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I met for a coffee today

After weeks of email and texts and cam chats we finally met in the flesh

It was just for coffee

And you never said a word

It was uncomfortable and a little sad

So now the email I get is full of gushing adjectives for a great afternoon?

Where was I in this little jaunt because in the real world I was left wondering what had gone wrong !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like a malfunction on the part of the meetee to me.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

And here is the best place to ask that question?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had one of those too- you wonder at what point you dozed off and started talking in your sleep after a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What no feedback along the lines best meet ever, can't wait till next time.

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By *pecializedMan
over a year ago

newcastle/northumberland

i had a nightmare in glasgow as it goes once... apparently she didnt realise i was english,

we meet up but she nevers says a lot lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh don't worry the meet person is not on this site

And it was posted more out of wanting to share the frustration of a meet that didn't go that well . Not out of temper

Although I was a little sad

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Is this for us or was it meant to be a pm for the guy you met today

I think you have pressed the wrong button somewhere,I don't think the forums is the place for this

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By *pecializedMan
over a year ago

newcastle/northumberland

she's not happy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol did she not want to meet an englisman ??

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Is this for us or was it meant to be a pm for the guy you met today

I think you have pressed the wrong button somewhere,I don't think the forums is the place for this "

Lol thats what i was thinking, thought she had put it here by mistake

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By *pecializedMan
over a year ago

newcastle/northumberland

no idea guess she may have a brave heart fetish or something she was lively but seemed in a bad mood

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is this for us or was it meant to be a pm for the guy you met today

I think you have pressed the wrong button somewhere,I don't think the forums is the place for this "

I think a lot of experiences are shared here and I see nothing wrong in sharing the not so great times as well as the good times

It's not a dig at my meet as my meet isn't on this site - and I see so many people sharing different experiences on the forum I thought it was applicable

Having said that I'm also aware of how these forums can respond sometimes - but I took that chance

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By *pecializedMan
over a year ago

newcastle/northumberland

ah stuff it say what you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Is this for us or was it meant to be a pm for the guy you met today

I think you have pressed the wrong button somewhere,I don't think the forums is the place for this

I think a lot of experiences are shared here and I see nothing wrong in sharing the not so great times as well as the good times

It's not a dig at my meet as my meet isn't on this site - and I see so many people sharing different experiences on the forum I thought it was applicable

Having said that I'm also aware of how these forums can respond sometimes - but I took that chance "

If the guy is'nt on this site then thats fine,I was'nt aware he is'nt from this site when I posted

It would'nt have been a fair thread if he was a site user too

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By *pecializedMan
over a year ago

newcastle/northumberland

everyone happy and friends now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No your right - it would have been most unfair of me if he was on here

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"everyone happy and friends now "

Why are you rolling your eyes

I have a job to make sure that no-one would feel like shit if they read this thread and it was about them as a site user too

If thats ok with you

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"No your right - it would have been most unfair of me if he was on here "

And your doing it too now

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I met for a coffee today

After weeks of email and texts and cam chats we finally met in the flesh

It was just for coffee

And you never said a word

It was uncomfortable and a little sad

So now the email I get is full of gushing adjectives for a great afternoon?

Where was I in this little jaunt because in the real world I was left wondering what had gone wrong ! "

Ive had this happen to me too think they have the secutity of their screens but when they come face to face with ppl they dont actually have any social skills at all so instead of a screen they have a brick wall

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By *pecializedMan
over a year ago

newcastle/northumberland

ooops yep sorry wrong smiley was meant to be , your doing a fab job crack on

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By *pecializedMan
over a year ago

newcastle/northumberland

aw come on its never easy on the first meet unless ya made of stone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can empathise with you on this Sometimes, I think you build up an expectation or a familiarity when you speak regularly or write to each other regularly, but meeting face to face is a different thing all together. A different set of senses take over and you see a different person in front of you to the one you thought you knew

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

whoops i read it as an open message to the user, didnt realize he wasnt on this site. Maybe you could send him the message to see why he behaved in such a manner. Some people can be extremely shy and use the pc to take that shyness away yet when it comes to meets clam up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I think your right cumplaywithme - so much had been said and done by text it left a certain expectation

Not sure how to not repeat the situation but it's nice to know I'm not alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can empathise with you on this Sometimes, I think you build up an expectation or a familiarity when you speak regularly or write to each other regularly, but meeting face to face is a different thing all together. A different set of senses take over and you see a different person in front of you to the one you thought you knew "
. That's it!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No your right - it would have been most unfair of me if he was on here

And your doing it too now "
lol sorry I'm on my iPhone and my fat fingers chose the wrong icon - I shouldn't giggle

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By *pecializedMan
over a year ago

newcastle/northumberland

whats the wrong icon between friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Never been naughty before!!! Oh heck who am I kidding - never been thus type of naughty before

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By *pecializedMan
over a year ago

newcastle/northumberland

little secret... we love naughty

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"little secret... we love naughty "

Oh and I find this out now???!!!!!

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By *pecializedMan
over a year ago

newcastle/northumberland

you never asked me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you never asked me"

Oh I guess that begs the question what else should I ask you ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps that person enjoyed him/herself by your presence. Perhaps he/she needs to get out more?!

Personally, I do not find shy introverts fun to have around, and would think twice about meeting someone whose messages via FAB fail to grip my attention.

If I find them hard work via PMs and chats, then it is likely they will be hard work face to face!

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By *pecializedMan
over a year ago

newcastle/northumberland


"you never asked me

Oh I guess that begs the question what else should I ask you ??"

anything you want fire away

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's what was so odd Pearl as we have chatted to the wee hours on text

I honestly didn't see it coming but I guess real life just didn't match up for either of us!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's what was so odd Pearl as we have chatted to the wee hours on text

I honestly didn't see it coming but I guess real life just didn't match up for either of us!!"

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Some people are bolder behind the safety and security of a computer screen, and often appear to be a lot more outgoing/arsey/confrontational/whatever than when meeting face to face!

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By *ifuncplMan
over a year ago

wisbech

as we have met in the past and knowing how stunning you are, in a nice sexy black dress with black nylon clad legs maybe the guy was just lost for words, xx andy n dee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met for a coffee today

After weeks of email and texts and cam chats we finally met in the flesh

It was just for coffee

And you never said a word

It was uncomfortable and a little sad

So now the email I get is full of gushing adjectives for a great afternoon?

Where was I in this little jaunt because in the real world I was left wondering what had gone wrong !

Ive had this happen to me too think they have the secutity of their screens but when they come face to face with ppl they dont actually have any social skills at all so instead of a screen they have a brick wall "

I doubt it's a brick wall they're facing !! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Pearl. When ever I get a message from a guy saying 'im a little shy at first' I politely decline. What good is shy ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a very shy young man once, it was as painful as having my teeth out at the dentist!

Never again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with Pearl. When ever I get a message from a guy saying 'im a little shy at first' I politely decline. What good is shy ?"

I'm shy first meets face to face do not see me at my best but I always seem to get a second chance

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I agree about the shy bit as it makes me nervous as I am very much not shy and my confidence makes their shyness seem exaggerated so all very uncomfy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well. I didn't think this thread would go this far but I guess the thing I take from this is that initial meets may need a different approach to the one you have on line

Perhaps I scared them - perhaps not but it's been interesting reading all your notes and quite comforting actually - so thankyou x

Andy & dee - cheque is in the post you little darlings

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

Perhaps you didnt live up to his expectations and he was too polite to leg it.

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By *ayceeCouple
over a year ago

northampton


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I'm shy first meets face to face do not see me at my best but I always seem to get a second chance "

I find leaning over you and sticking my tits in your face gets rid of those nerves Jack hehe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perhaps you didnt live up to his expectations and he was too polite to leg it. "

That did cross my mind !!! First thing I thought of

Shouldn't stop a chat though - but I guess for some it dies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im lost is there anybody in lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm shy first meets face to face do not see me at my best but I always seem to get a second chance

I find leaning over you and sticking my tits in your face gets rid of those nerves Jack hehe "

Yes, Jem, that worked a treat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with Pearl. When ever I get a message from a guy saying 'im a little shy at first' I politely decline. What good is shy ?

I'm shy first meets face to face do not see me at my best but I always seem to get a second chance "

You are not shy Jack. Seriously xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit to being really nervous when first meeting anyone,but jeez,you got to make conversation!

I think too much msn and texting can take the edge off things. Get a social (and I mean social)meeting and you will know in the first few minutes whether there is anything there or not.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Dont think id notice if they where talking back or not as i would easily be talking for two

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By *ifuncplMan
over a year ago

wisbech

lol no cheque needed was a great way to have spent a sunday afternoon with 2 great hosts, we have similar meets 1 cpl we had emailed and spoke on the phone with was fantastic pic`s was great too but was all taken alone and in different settings when we met, they was older than pic`s and gained lots of weight it turned out they had only been together 3 months and married a week or 2!!!!! and had faces like a smacked arse, it was the worst meet we ever had and was pleased to leave the pub and go to a back up cpl who was plenty of fun and had been swinging for yrs and pics was up to date, the other cpl was threatening to sue the pub for serving him a dodgy burger causing a massive scene very embarrassing, soon after there profile was deleted thank god lol, happy swinging to all but it just goes that way sometimes x andy n dee

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