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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My girlfriend is not very kinky in the bedroom and I'm finding it hard to try and convince her to let loose an enjoy herself, how do I go about to tell her about this site and what can I do? I want her to be naughty because I know she can be!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

If she doesn't want to be naughty why should she?

Maybe tell her you're on the site and let her make up her own mind about her sex life, with or without you.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

If she's not confident in the bedroom enough to let herself go when she's just with you. Then swinging will probably scare the life out of her!

Try helping her gain confidence in herself first then... Maybe see if she wants to go further. Right now from what you've said that seems a ways off to me.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Been there mate best of luck your going to need it

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"My girlfriend is not very kinky in the bedroom and I'm finding it hard to try and convince her to let loose an enjoy herself, how do I go about to tell her about this site and what can I do? I want her to be naughty because I know she can be! "

Ditch her and get a kinky bitch then.

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By *iggerooooCouple
over a year ago

Conwy

If you cant make her feel at ease enough with it being just the two of you ... Id suggest that you focus on that more than anything to do with this site or involving others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My girlfriend is not very kinky in the bedroom and I'm finding it hard to try and convince her to let loose an enjoy herself, how do I go about to tell her about this site and what can I do? I want her to be naughty because I know she can be!

Ditch her and get a kinky bitch then."

"I love her and don't want to get rid of her"

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

Sex is a gradual discovery , take your time to discover each other fully before you even think about involving others , in my humble opinion

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"My girlfriend is not very kinky in the bedroom and I'm finding it hard to try and convince her to let loose an enjoy herself, how do I go about to tell her about this site and what can I do? I want her to be naughty because I know she can be! "

I've got the T-shirt.

Good luck with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope that's your girlfriends pussy you're fucking bareback.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

To be perfectly honest I could never be with someone I was not sexually compatible with. If I'm considering a relationship with a person I will always talk about sexual preferences and if we clash then I don't see the point in taking things further than a friendship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My girlfriend is not very kinky in the bedroom and I'm finding it hard to try and convince her to let loose an enjoy herself, how do I go about to tell her about this site and what can I do? I want her to be naughty because I know she can be!

Ditch her and get a kinky bitch then.

"I love her and don't want to get rid of her"

"

You love her yet cheating on her what a class act you are.

Man up if you love her be honest see how long before she dumps you.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Maybe it's just you she doesn't want to get kinky with? Maybe she is on here as a single female and getting lots of kinky sex elsewhere??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe it's just you she doesn't want to get kinky with? Maybe she is on here as a single female and getting lots of kinky sex elsewhere?? "
u never know lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"My girlfriend is not very kinky in the bedroom and I'm finding it hard to try and convince her to let loose an enjoy herself, how do I go about to tell her about this site and what can I do? I want her to be naughty because I know she can be! "

Why do you want to change who she is just to suit you? Why do you think showing her this site is the best way to do it?

If my boyfriend were to jump straight in with a swingers site suggestion I tell him where to go (well I wouldn't as I met him on here but if it were different i would).

If she is bit enjoying herself with you what makes you think she would enjoy herself more with others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting the moral dilemma aside (the fact you're cheating on someone you claim to love).

Try, and I'm loathed to say this, writing a 50 Shades style list and both of you fill it out. That way you'll have a good indication of what she likes, what she's open to trying and whst her hard limits are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try some honesty and talk to her about what you want.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"My girlfriend is not very kinky in the bedroom and I'm finding it hard to try and convince her to let loose an enjoy herself, how do I go about to tell her about this site and what can I do? I want her to be naughty because I know she can be! "

Do you mean that she doesn't know you've uploaded her pics ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My girlfriend is not very kinky in the bedroom and I'm finding it hard to try and convince her to let loose an enjoy herself, how do I go about to tell her about this site and what can I do? I want her to be naughty because I know she can be!

Do you mean that she doesn't know you've uploaded her pics ?

"

Do you think he is going to incriminate himself

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Is she not enjoying sex with you? If she is why try to force her into playing a role YOU want?

Sounds pretty selfish to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just try and be honist with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps you're not pushing the right buttons, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If she's not confident in the bedroom enough to let herself go when she's just with you. Then swinging will probably scare the life out of her!

Try helping her gain confidence in herself first then... Maybe see if she wants to go further. Right now from what you've said that seems a ways off to me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My girlfriend is not very kinky in the bedroom and I'm finding it hard to try and convince her to let loose an enjoy herself, how do I go about to tell her about this site and what can I do? I want her to be naughty because I know she can be! "

OP not everyone has a kinky streak in them, she may see some things as kinky and you may view them as normal nilla, how do you tell her about this site? Simple just show her your profile!

Don't try and push something on her just to satisfy your needs and wants.

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

Slow process.. Get her some sexy outfits.. Tell her how good she looks.. have a few drinks. Get her to lap dance for you.. Even if it is bad to start with tell her she is brilliant... Let her build up some confidence.. Have naughty conversation and chat about fantasies (keep them low level at first, just the two of you... A few small dares. Sex out side in safe places, bit of minor roll play.. ie both meet up some where like in the woods, no talking an have sex and then part with a wink.)

But you must tell her she is great all along. Never say anyone else is better or more adventurous..

As here confidence grows encourage her.. Introduce some porn (soft at first and as she gets into It more adventurous stuff ie swinging clips)

On another swinging website SH they have a good stories section... One fun game to play once her confidence increases is: Get her (and take it in turns) to read some stories out to where you can only play with each other and have to hold off having sex for as long as possible.. This is good in that you are both thinking about sex and fighting it at the same time. The more you play this game she will realise it is ok to have fantasies, lots of sex and she is not the only female who is adventurous... The more she see that other women enjoy this lifestyle the more it will become more like normal life and she will push her own boundaries in time..

But let her make decisions. Keep away from areas that degrade women. Stick to areas where women are injoying the lifestyle.

But most of all. Relentlessly tell her you love her.. She means the world to you

As she gets more adventurous let her her feel like she is in control. Reward her with sexy outfits.. Not all women feel sexy but the more choice of sexy outfits she has and the more she wears them the more she will fell sexy..

Have some fun with a camera... Bit of roll playing..

Lots of ideas there for you .. Over to you ... And good luck..

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

All of the above replies are totally irrelevant until you have met me

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Just remember that coercion is being made illegal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Slow process.. Get her some sexy outfits.. Tell her how good she looks.. have a few drinks. Get her to lap dance for you.. Even if it is bad to start with tell her she is brilliant... Let her build up some confidence.. Have naughty conversation and chat about fantasies (keep them low level at first, just the two of you... A few small dares. Sex out side in safe places, bit of minor roll play.. ie both meet up some where like in the woods, no talking an have sex and then part with a wink.)

But you must tell her she is great all along. Never say anyone else is better or more adventurous..

As here confidence grows encourage her.. Introduce some porn (soft at first and as she gets into It more adventurous stuff ie swinging clips)

On another swinging website SH they have a good stories section... One fun game to play once her confidence increases is: Get her (and take it in turns) to read some stories out to where you can only play with each other and have to hold off having sex for as long as possible.. This is good in that you are both thinking about sex and fighting it at the same time. The more you play this game she will realise it is ok to have fantasies, lots of sex and she is not the only female who is adventurous... The more she see that other women enjoy this lifestyle the more it will become more like normal life and she will push her own boundaries in time..

But let her make decisions. Keep away from areas that degrade women. Stick to areas where women are injoying the lifestyle.

But most of all. Relentlessly tell her you love her.. She means the world to you

As she gets more adventurous let her her feel like she is in control. Reward her with sexy outfits.. Not all women feel sexy but the more choice of sexy outfits she has and the more she wears them the more she will fell sexy..

Have some fun with a camera... Bit of roll playing..

Lots of ideas there for you .. Over to you ... And good luck..

"

That's brilliant advice, I hope the op takes it. However the fact that he's cheating on here speaks volumes about him and his relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If she doesn't want to be naughty why should she?

Maybe tell her you're on the site and let her make up her own mind about her sex life, with or without you.

"

Agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My girlfriend is not very kinky in the bedroom and I'm finding it hard to try and convince her to let loose an enjoy herself, how do I go about to tell her about this site and what can I do? I want her to be naughty because I know she can be!

Ditch her and get a kinky bitch

then."

I know I shouldn't laugh but this did make me chuckle lol

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"To be perfectly honest I could never be with someone I was not sexually compatible with. If I'm considering a relationship with a person I will always talk about sexual preferences and if we clash then I don't see the point in taking things further than a friendship"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My girlfriend is not very kinky in the bedroom and I'm finding it hard to try and convince her to let loose an enjoy herself, how do I go about to tell her about this site and what can I do? I want her to be naughty because I know she can be! "

If your not happy with her in any way , do the decent thing and end the relationship

It's really not worth staying with someone who doesn't make you happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you meeting other people, the swinging lifestyle isn't to every ones taste, some people have to be emotionally connected to a person in order to have sex with them.

It may not be in her to do this, in which case you need to decide what you want. It's not fair on her to contine to be deceitful and ultimately the relationship will fail. Equally if you try to monogamous you may become unhappy yourself.

Possibly if you discuss this with her and she is dead against swinging you may damage the relationship anyway. This has happened to me in the past. Most of the people who frequent this site are comfortable with the concept of swinging. But actually for a lot of people swinging is pretty extreme on the perv scale. So tread carefully my friend.

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