FabSwingers.com forum: message bombardment

By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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when your messages get out of control do you just leave them to stack up or try get through them all?

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I always try to answer them all as promptly as possible, even if it's just to say thank you to acknowledge receipt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bulk delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make myself invisible to search and answer them

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

Erm, what's a message

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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surely bulk delete means u miss some diamonds in the rough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"surely bulk delete means u miss some diamonds in the rough?"

i bulk delete after scan reading the subect title

if theyre interested theyll be persistent lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"surely bulk delete means u miss some diamonds in the rough?"

Me and my vagina are fine with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"surely bulk delete means u miss some diamonds in the rough?"

Yep, plenty of ladies do it though, baby out with the bathwater and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they disappear below the fold, they're gone forever as far as I'm concerned. My inbox moves too quickly to stay on top of, I'd rather focus on those I've previously met anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes I just leave them.

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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so what do you class as an enticing subject title? lol

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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your vagina has its own personality? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always try and answer unless it's a "hey" message. We struggle to have a comeback to that word.

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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yeah i can imagine 'hey' isnt much of a conversation starter lol. doesn't really get anyone anywhere.

so what does grab your attention? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"your vagina has its own personality? lol"

I think it does ya know haha

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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does it have a name too? lol

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By *illysexyMan
over a year ago

West London

Sounds like a nice problem to have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice breezy intro message something about the sender and ideally what they are looking for. Don't need to be war and peace.

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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nice to hear that some people actually appreciate a nice simple intro lol. not a life story lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sure bulk delete means I miss some ------------ probably miss out on quite a few 'gems' and it makes me feel a little guilty ------ but if theyre interested they'll message again. I tend to put it in my status that I've had to do a bulk delete too .

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I get through them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like a nice problem to have

I don't tend to receive nice messages. A lot are offensive, rude or inappropriate. It's a pain to sort through them, let alone being expected to reply to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"does it have a name too? lol"

Yup No Entry hahaha

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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first messages are offensive? that seems rather harsh! or are these people who are pestering when you've refused? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got 509 in my inbox at present

I'm really bad with reading them UNLESS they catch my attention.

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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lol!!! errr so if thats the exit wheres the entrance?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"when your messages get out of control do you just leave them to stack up or try get through them all?"

I don't ever have that problem

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By *illysexyMan
over a year ago

West London

"Sounds like a nice problem to have

I don't tend to receive nice messages. A lot are offensive, rude or inappropriate. It's a pain to sort through them, let alone being expected to reply to them. "

Fair point, that sucks. Looks like I fell victim to thinking that the grass is always greener...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"first messages are offensive? that seems rather harsh! or are these people who are pestering when you've refused? x"

No, first messages. I receive several saying they'll fuck me like the slut I am (I'm not a slut) or they'll force their fetishes on me. For example, I've been messaged 3 times today by 3 different people if I'll shit for them. One man even had requirements for the dress I wore whilst I did it, yet didn't even say hello in the message.

Anyway, it shouldn't matter if it's a first message or not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"when your messages get out of control do you just leave them to stack up or try get through them all?"

I have so many filers in place and a narrow age range so I don't have that problem. Plus for the first four weeks I was back I blocked everyone so no one could message me anyway which has helped as some still think I'm unmessageable

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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yeah it really shouldn't matter. its disrespectful.

yes some people have that kink but you learn that they have it u don't assume and impose yourself on people x

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Try to get to all the ones we're interested in but sometimes some get overlooked and you get the dreaded spitful message for doing so from time to time, like just now.

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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i'm shocked at how many people are getting horrible messages. i mean obviously as a single male you dont get even close to half what a couple or single female do. but horrible messages are few and far between. guess there is a serious stereotype being formed of single guys by the idiots being disrepectful x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some go unlos before you get a chance to reply,can't wait an hour some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was inundated with a message just last week...managed to get it answered just about though, I try and answer the message that builds up in my inbox every month by setting three or four mins a month to one side just for answering it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol!!! errr so if thats the exit wheres the entrance?"

Ah shit didnt think that one through

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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hahaha

the cat is cornered :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i'm shocked at how many people are getting horrible messages. i mean obviously as a single male you dont get even close to half what a couple or single female do. but horrible messages are few and far between. guess there is a serious stereotype being formed of single guys by the idiots being disrepectful x"

It doesn't put me off single men as a whole, it just puts me off checking my messages religiously. The men I've met have been nice.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"first messages are offensive? that seems rather harsh! or are these people who are pestering when you've refused? x

Anyway, it shouldn't matter if it's a first message or not..."

Have you reported them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what kind of emails it is, if its a fuck request I reply imeditialty, but others you can leave few hours or days to reply to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get that many messages lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters in place. When they are not I apply common sense. Not read my profile, one liner, cock pic avatar just delete. Those that have made an effort (cut and paste is not effort) even if not interested will send thanks but no thanks. The others chat and see where it leads. Works for me. If it offends anyone tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"first messages are offensive? that seems rather harsh! or are these people who are pestering when you've refused? x

Anyway, it shouldn't matter if it's a first message or not...

Have you reported them?"

The obscene or aggressive ones, yes. It's a bit of a shame to see some post on the forums though as it makes reporting seem a little pointless even though they were bloody rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stopped looking through mine then turned all filters on and I found them to vanish slowly on their own!

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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surely with all filters on you wont be getting any messages at all? lol

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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least you have the courtesy to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some go unlos before you get a chance to reply,can't wait an hour some people "

Ooo I get this sometimes too. Very strange!

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"when your messages get out of control do you just leave them to stack up or try get through them all?

I don't ever have that problem

This is me too...even in the past when I've taken all filters off I don't get inundated - could be I'm a minger or just that I've shagged everyone local

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"when your messages get out of control do you just leave them to stack up or try get through them all?

I don't ever have that problem

This is me too...even in the past when I've taken all filters off I don't get inundated - could be I'm a minger or just that I've shagged everyone local

I reckon its cos I'm a minger. Or at least my back is.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I was inundated with a message just last week...managed to get it answered just about though, I try and answer the message that builds up in my inbox every month by setting three or four mins a month to one side just for answering it. "

That's funny

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"when your messages get out of control do you just leave them to stack up or try get through them all?"

Skim off the cream and flush the rest.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm invisible to search and they still stack up. I have a long old session when I've got a spare hour or two, answer where appropriate, delete where appropriate and save those I may want to message when I have time to play. It's not a foolproof system but it makes me feel less like I'm swamped in Fab admin and using it for the elements that make it fun for me.

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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how on earth do they find u if yur invisible?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I have any issues with this. Unpopular obviously x

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land

"Some go unlos before you get a chance to reply,can't wait an hour some people

Ooo I get this sometimes too. Very strange!"

I delete all messages after I send them regardless if they have been read or not.Unless we have messaged previously

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

It drives me bonkers , my inbox is brim full of offers , there just aren't enough hours in the day

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"when your messages get out of control do you just leave them to stack up or try get through them all?"

I get through them all eventually.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"when your messages get out of control do you just leave them to stack up or try get through them all?

I get through them all eventually."

Same. Takes about 3 minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 32 unread. Now I'm on the laptop I can find the ones from pages down and see who sent them

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By *ot_Guy999 OP Man
over a year ago

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32?!

most guys struggle to make 10 lol

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Message? What's one of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had this problem to be honest. I ALWAYS reply though, unless it's just a "Hi" or "Hey"......

Not really a problem us single guys have to deal with...lol

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