FabSwingers.com forum: fussy or a matter of taste?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've seen many profiles that state "I'm extremely fussy" and to be honest its a term I've used before. However, isn't being fussy just finding someone who fits your criteria and/or you are attracted to. The men I choose to meet it may not be considered by others that I am being fussy and vice versa.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

I see no reason to say im fussy on my profile, but some people on here do seem to go with just anyone though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

I've never really thought about it til now and yeah I agree, its like saying I have standards but you don't. And how do you define standards anyway..... One mans dream woman might be another mans nightmare (or woman's lol)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have spoken to men who make very derogatory comments about woman, like they were so ugly I had to do them from behind. This is a total turn off fir me as I believe that its horrible to talk about women like that and therefore I wouldn't like their company and also because they clearly are shagging for the sake of it. This has even happened in clubs with guys I have met a lot and I refused to meet them after that.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think fussy probably describes the extremely tight discrimination some people apply over some things in their lives. It could apply to sex partners too, and some people do have tighter restriction on who they find attractive and may have sex with.

I don't think anyone deserves to be criticised however wide or narrow their choice is though.

often we go through stages where we're more open to trying stuff, so different potential partners may appeal more, or we just change our tastes for a while. I'm currently in young mode, but some things are fads, some people will always appeal, others never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

I see no reason to say im fussy on my profile, but some people on here do seem to go with just anyone though.

How do you come to that conclusion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess some women use that term and others to say in other words tthat although they are in a swinging website, they have self respect and don't sleep with any one who comes along. Part of being treated as a lady and fucked as a whore and not the other way around

My own guess.

However if in addition to that you find in a profile, instructions and conditions ect, I tend to consider that the high demand they get in herw has brought their arrogance up to the surface. I go to the next profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think fussy probably describes the extremely tight discrimination some people apply over some things in their lives. It could apply to sex partners too, and some people do have tighter restriction on who they find attractive and may have sex with.

I don't think anyone deserves to be criticised however wide or narrow their choice is though.

You are right, I often get called fussy but it's just because I have certain criteria that are beyond my control. Doesn't make me fussy more practical lol. I feel I am "fussy" when it comes to looks but of course I'd think that, its my taste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define fussy? As the old saying goes beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The most physically attractive person can be a turn off the moment they open their mouth yet someone you wouldn't look twice at in the street can turn out to be a very sexy considerate lover. Go with the flow, talk to people, get to know them. I tend to think fussy is some people's polite way of being shallow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Define fussy? As the old saying goes beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The most physically attractive person can be a turn off the moment they open their mouth yet someone you wouldn't look twice at in the street can turn out to be a very sexy considerate lover. Go with the flow, talk to people, get to know them. I tend to think fussy is some people's polite way of being shallow.

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Is this question directed at me? I did say in my first message that basically you can't define fussy as everyone's tastes difer.

As for getting to know somebody's personality on fab when they are not my type, this is never going to happen, I'd have to speak to every member and then meet them all just to. Check. Obviously, in real life personality always come first but its near impossible on here. There has to be an attraction before I start talking to them. That said they could be the most gorgeous guy ever and if they have a shit personality I stop speaking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

lol no it does,nt.

lol some folk just love slagging others off on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen many profiles that state "I'm extremely fussy" and to be honest its a term I've used before. However, isn't being fussy just finding someone who fits your criteria and/or you are attracted to. The men I choose to meet it may not be considered by others that I am being fussy and vice versa.

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Its an individual choice we all want one so its only fair people accept others have the same.

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Well if they are describing themselves as fussy then it would be sensible to expect them to be more difficult to meet the the average fab user.

Being fussy is paying too much attention to minor or unimportant details, finding someone who meets your criteria is not always the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well if they are describing themselves as fussy then it would be sensible to expect them to be more difficult to meet the the average fab user.

Being fussy is paying too much attention to minor or unimportant details, finding someone who meets your criteria is not always the same thing. "

Good answer

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Well if they are describing themselves as fussy then it would be sensible to expect them to be more difficult to meet the the average fab user.

Being fussy is paying too much attention to minor or unimportant details, finding someone who meets your criteria is not always the same thing.

Good answer

It's all subjective though so what I might consider to be fussy might not be considered fussy by others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess some women use that term and others to say in other words tthat although they are in a swinging website, they have self respect and don't sleep with any one who comes along. Part of being treated as a lady and fucked as a whore and not the other way around

My own guess.

It's not arrogance, it's just personal preference. We all like different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would defo ignore a profile where it sais fussie and move on to the next one lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would defo ignore a profile where it sais fussie and move on to the next one lol

But what if they said I'm a dirty cumslut in penge looking for a Swedish guy with abs like van damme and i'm very fussy? Still ignore?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

I see no reason to say im fussy on my profile, but some people on here do seem to go with just anyone though.

How do you come to that conclusion? "

by looking at peoples verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not fussy. I just like what i like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would defo ignore a profile where it sais fussie and move on to the next one lol

But what if they said I'm a dirty cumslut in penge looking for a Swedish guy with abs like van damme and i'm very fussy? Still ignore?"
Then that would be fine and I would say yes please by cum slut

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

I see no reason to say im fussy on my profile, but some people on here do seem to go with just anyone though.

How do you come to that conclusion?

by looking at peoples verifications.

But I could say that about you. Just coz we have different taste in men doesn't make me any more picky!! I have been guilty of thinking this before but maybe the guys like all types of women and who am I to assume I'm better than the next person?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would defo ignore a profile where it sais fussie and move on to the next one lol

But what if they said I'm a dirty cumslut in penge looking for a Swedish guy with abs like van damme and i'm very fussy? Still ignore?Then that would be fine and I would say yes please by cum slut

See sometimes fussy is good

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

I see no reason to say im fussy on my profile, but some people on here do seem to go with just anyone though.

How do you come to that conclusion?

by looking at peoples verifications.

You can say that about me if you like, doesn't bother me one bit.

I assume I am better than some people, at least im being honest.

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

I dont state on my profile that I am fussy, though I do joke to those I am chatting to am 'fussy' tongue in cheek.

If making sure I continue conversations with people I connect with via messaging and giving a polite no thank you to those I dont is fussy, then yep that's me.

But then, am just as entitled to be That way as everyone else is to be their way.no right or wrong, just different.

I don't see searching for what works for you to particularly be fussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowt wrong with fussy, I'd rather meet someone that shares my passion and wants to meet me, not just my cock. Each to their own, but I need a little bit of chemistry to get me interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

I see no reason to say im fussy on my profile, but some people on here do seem to go with just anyone though.

How do you come to that conclusion?

by looking at peoples verifications.

Someone could look at your verifications and think the same. Does that mean you are doing what you accuse others of? Can you not see that it's down to personal taste?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

I see no reason to say im fussy on my profile, but some people on here do seem to go with just anyone though.

How do you come to that conclusion?

by looking at peoples verifications.

Someone could look at your verifications and think the same. Does that mean you are doing what you accuse others of? Can you not see that it's down to personal taste? "

I only show the best ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

I see no reason to say im fussy on my profile, but some people on here do seem to go with just anyone though.

How do you come to that conclusion?

by looking at peoples verifications.

Someone could look at your verifications and think the same. Does that mean you are doing what you accuse others of? Can you not see that it's down to personal taste?

I only show the best ones.

lol you do make me laugh

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

It's as bizarre as saying "we're professional" or "we're discreet".

I don't see the point of putting that on profiles either. It's not as if any of us would go to work in a tshirt with "I'm a swinger, ask me how" on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

I see no reason to say im fussy on my profile, but some people on here do seem to go with just anyone though.

How do you come to that conclusion?

by looking at peoples verifications.

Someone could look at your verifications and think the same. Does that mean you are doing what you accuse others of? Can you not see that it's down to personal taste?

I only show the best ones.

Me too.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I don't give much of a rat's arse what people think of who I meet. I do what I like not what judgemental strangers I will never meet think I should.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I don't give much of a rat's arse what people think of who I meet. I do what I like not what judgemental strangers I will never meet think I should. "

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

the day I care, I will leave

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't give much of a rat's arse what people think of who I meet. I do what I like not what judgemental strangers I will never meet think I should. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"the day I care, I will leave

About what....fussy people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well for me fabs about trying new things when u feel ur ready. ...

I've tried a new experience today..

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"the day I care, I will leave

About what....fussy people?"

what other people think about what I seek on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"the day I care, I will leave

About what....fussy people?

what other people think about what I seek on here"

And you shouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to say I find it funny when I see it on a profile, like all us others will go with just anybody.

We all have our likes and preferences.

Makes it sound like their up their own arses when I see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would defo ignore a profile where it sais fussie and move on to the next one lol

But what if they said I'm a dirty cumslut in penge looking for a Swedish guy with abs like van damme and i'm very fussy? Still ignore?Then that would be fine and I would say yes please by cum slut

See sometimes fussy is good

lol"
YEs and your right it sometimes is good to be fussie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll meet a man because I'm attracted to him and have some sort of connection with. I don't really care if that's called being fussy or not. My profile, my sex life, my body to share

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would defo ignore a profile where it sais fussie and move on to the next one lol

But what if they said I'm a dirty cumslut in penge looking for a Swedish guy with abs like van damme and i'm very fussy? Still ignore?Then that would be fine and I would say yes please by cum slut

See sometimes fussy is good

lolYEs and your right it sometimes is good to be fussie

As long as they are fussy for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing to do with fussy presence I believe it's called

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would defo ignore a profile where it sais fussie and move on to the next one lol

But what if they said I'm a dirty cumslut in penge looking for a Swedish guy with abs like van damme and i'm very fussy? Still ignore?Then that would be fine and I would say yes please by cum slut

See sometimes fussy is good

lolYEs and your right it sometimes is good to be fussie

As long as they are fussy for you?

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lol and that's right as they have to be fussy over me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's different for men and women -especially on here.

Looking back at some of the women I've 'encountered' they wouldn't have fit into 'my type' but depending on how we met made it possible for things to progress.

Women on here I think have to be seen to be 'fussy' so that at least some of the guys deterred.

I get frustrated with the handful of messages from people who don't fit the bill so dread to think what it's like for you lot.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Fussy implies hard to please. I prefer to think of myself as selective. I will only message people if there is an initial attraction or if there is the potential for attraction.

I only want to meet women that I find attractive and also that find me attractive. I don't think that's being fussy.

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