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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any ideas how u can get out of the friends zone I've known a beautiful girl for 20yrs get on like a house on fire can talk for hours and laugh like hyenas haha but don't know how to approach her to tell her I'm not scared of rejection got a Hyde like a rhino but don't want to spoil our friendship if I do crash and burn answers on a postcard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I knew mate- I'm in the same boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just put it to her if she's not interested she'll tell you and if your that good friends it won't affect what you've got, but if she is interested you could have the time of your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just put it to her if she's not interested she'll tell you and if your that good friends it won't affect what you've got, but if she is interested you could have the time of your life"

just harass her till she give in lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be true to yourself and just say it how it is . Will drive you mad if you don't . Maybe in a light hearted way so its not to much to take . At least you will know and have peace of mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking from a woman's perspective, I would imagine she already knows and has chosen to turn a blind eye because she's not interested but doesn't want to say anything and hurt your feelings. I could be wrong though and wish you luck with whatever you decide to do xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol thanks but the harass not my style don't find it hard to meet women but it keeps knocking in my head think I'm watching to many rom coms haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And she has hinted saying stuff like we should get together but laughing about it that's why in unsure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally i wouldnt risk spoiling the friendship and i think a good friend is far more important, if you tell her how you feel and she does not feel the same i find it unlikely things would carry on as if nothing had happened, ask yourself if your willing to risk that before you broach the subject

good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she's not interested she'll most prob not acknowledge your offer, seems the way these days

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury


"And she has hinted saying stuff like we should get together but laughing about it that's why in unsure "

Sounds like she maybe feels the same.

Say something or you'll regret it forever.. If she's JUST your friend she will laugh it off

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"Personally i wouldnt risk spoiling the friendship and i think a good friend is far more important, if you tell her how you feel and she does not feel the same i find it unlikely things would carry on as if nothing had happened, ask yourself if your willing to risk that before you broach the subject

good luck x"

Not entirely the same situation however My once best male friend friend and I got a bit too d*unk one night ......and Well, the above wording should tell you the rest.

We didn't even 'go all the way', and we agreed nothing would change... But slowly and surely, boy how it did.

Now, iam not for a minute saying you'd end up like us, miles apart and reduced to the odd awkward hello when you pass, but I would say think very carefully about stepping across any lines or putting something out there you can't take back.

You might find that having the guts to tell her brings amazing rewards, but there's a chance it could take away something wonderful too.

I still miss him.

Proceed with caution, that would be my advise.

Wishing you all the best

Tig

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see a film yesterday about a woman who had mail from a Secret Santa . So maybe wright it all down and send in a card . Be very different and sweet . x

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"Personally i wouldnt risk spoiling the friendship and i think a good friend is far more important, if you tell her how you feel and she does not feel the same i find it unlikely things would carry on as if nothing had happened, ask yourself if your willing to risk that before you broach the subject

good luck x

Not entirely the same situation however My once best male friend friend and I got a bit too d*unk one night ......and Well, the above wording should tell you the rest.

We didn't even 'go all the way', and we agreed nothing would change... But slowly and surely, boy how it did.

Now, iam not for a minute saying you'd end up like us, miles apart and reduced to the odd awkward hello when you pass, but I would say think very carefully about stepping across any lines or putting something out there you can't take back.

You might find that having the guts to tell her brings amazing rewards, but there's a chance it could take away something wonderful too.

I still miss him.

Proceed with caution, that would be my advise.

Wishing you all the best

Tig "

And take time to work out what you really want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your take on the situation it's still one have them tricky ones haha but I'm sure as Doris day sings whatever will be will be x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell her.

Sometimes, you just have to roll the dice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Speaking from a woman's perspective, I would imagine she already knows and has chosen to turn a blind eye because she's not interested but doesn't want to say anything and hurt your feelings. I could be wrong though and wish you luck with whatever you decide to do xxx"

This

Definitely worth asking, although no doubt she may well feel uncomfortable. If you don't, you may regret it but likewise, if you do, it could spoil things a little. Having said that, if you've been friends for as long as you've said, I honestly don't think (or at least hope) she'll part ways with you. Friend or more, you'd hope something like that would last.

'Friend Zone' is a horrible term though. It should be to the tone of 'I genuinely respect and enjoy spending time with you as a person, and don't see you as object to fuck' zone.

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By *emonWoman84Woman
over a year ago

Hartlepool

You're in the friend zone?

GREAT! Let's have a party. We can dedicate it to you and your friend!

I'll be over here in the corner doing the friend zone boogie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You couldn't handle my moves haha

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Going off my experience the only way I found was to back away from the friends bit, she misses the attention now and won't leave me alone at time.

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"Any ideas how u can get out of the friends zone I've known a beautiful girl for 20yrs get on like a house on fire can talk for hours and laugh like hyenas haha but don't know how to approach her to tell her I'm not scared of rejection got a Hyde like a rhino but don't want to spoil our friendship if I do crash and burn answers on a postcard "

Bite the bullet tell her you have feelings for her. If she refuses take her out

WITH A RIGHT HOOK

No I hope it works for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think in this day and age its just lovely to have a real friend not a fair weather friend who is around now and again when stuff is on offer. So OP your a lucky man even if you do wish more. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ruins a friendship in my experience when you don't see someone other than a friend and they see you as more. It is hard to say I dont fancy you but you also won't ever know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my male best friend are still mates 20+ years down the line after having sex a few times but deciding we would rather be friends. Just tell her, if she doesn't feel the same it doesn't necessarily mean the friendship is lost

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

The friend zone is a cold cold place to be for a bro.

My friend Gary (who is not a ninja) was friend zoned and he said that she had his number in her phone under 'free meal'. Cold. So cold.

My friend Mark (who is a ninja) said if a chick put him in the friend zone he would like totally put her in the dead zone and make a lampshade out of her skin yo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh well her joking about getting together might change things, maybe that's her subtle way of saying, 'make a move!' Gosh us women are so difficult to read! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her how you feel. I wish I had known how one of my best friends felt about me. Found out much too late...I had married and moved away. Better a moments rejection than a lifetime wondering 'what if?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can ask her for a meal and tell her how you feel and see how it goes

or

let her make the 1st move as if she is interested she will make some sort of move

or

20 years is a long time and sometimes it can ruin a good friendship and it could be hard to get back if it went tits up

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lucky girl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havent fucked my best friend thpugh he pervs me lol

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