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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we are now speaking again ,and i asked her the question again if she would take me back this is what she put

"well see how i feel after this weeks finished,i wanted to take it slow from the start tbh babe after everything ive been though espesh with lads theres no way im rushing into anything ,i hate pressure "

what do you guys and girls think advice please

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think she is quite clear... give her space and time.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

No advice needed it's clear from her text.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Stop reading between the lines and read the message. She's perfectly clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bullshit

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Why don't you do some old fashioned ed courting, don't live your relationship through cyber land. Try not to be in touch all the while but when you are go out and do fun things. Relationships should be fun not hard work.

Good luck

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Are you asking us what we think you should say?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bullshit"

ill send the screen shot if you dont believe me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you asking us what we think you should say?"

no just want to know what you think you are a women after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are now speaking again ,and i asked her the question again if she would take me back this is what she put

"well see how i feel after this weeks finished,i wanted to take it slow from the start tbh babe after everything ive been though espesh with lads theres no way im rushing into anything ,i hate pressure "

what do you guys and girls think advice please"

Mate, you know what? Move on - it hardly works a second time.

Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is all a bit....here we go again.

On the last posts wasn't it a Facebook problem from a girl who didn't know you were on here as a single guy?

Most of the advice seemed to be to actually go and see her, speak words to her etc. rather than focussing on this site?

Good luck tho...hope you sort things out and she doesn't find out you are on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

look im here for the forums ,hence im asking for advice ,if you had a message like that how did it work or if your a lady what does it mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not get this you show alleged message of a girl you say you got feelings for yet the message is clear as others say she maybe thinking wtf do i have a potential stalker.

Bar sympathy I fail to see why you post this because its clear to anyone including yourself what it says.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"look im here for the forums ,hence im asking for advice ,if you had a message like that how did it work or if your a lady what does it mean "

You do not have to be female to know what the alleged message says.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Are you asking us what we think you should say?

no just want to know what you think you are a women after all "

I'll tell you what I honestly think, a fortnight ago you were on here moaning you couldn't get meets from this site, so this relationship isn't very old, in that time you've deleted her off Facebook more than once just to get a reaction. You both seem to be quite immature when It comes to relationships (again this is just my opinion from your other threads) and now she's telling you to give her some space. It's either letting you down gently or she actually wants to take it slowly, either way leave the girl alone as ringing/texting her isn't gonna help matters. If she hasn't contacted you again in a few days I'd send text or call asking where you stand either way. As it also isn't fair of her to leave you hanging Indefinetly.

Personally if this was me having this much drama in the space of a couple of weeks in a new relationship I'd be calling it off. It shouldn't be this much hard work this early on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"look im here for the forums ,hence im asking for advice ,if you had a message like that how did it work or if your a lady what does it mean

You do not have to be female to know what the alleged message says."

ive know her year back to school days ,only been dating a month ,all im asking is it a good sign or a bad considering she wasnt speaking to me now we are freinds on facebook again ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know the ins and outs of your relationship mate but I had the longest break up in history, my ex wife was leaving me for 6 long years, it almost ruined me trying to keep my family together but It wasn't to be, I'd say move on with your dignity in tact, I didn't think I'd ever get over my wife but I did, it takes two years I reckon to fully get over someone but it's worth it in the end. Don't try and flog a dead horse, there are 4 billion girls in the world, don't get hung up on just one. Good luck to both of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'd message someone I was allegedly in a relationship with and he then printed it for all to see on a public Forum, then to say I'd be totally pissed off is an understatement

My comment from yesterday still stands!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"look im here for the forums ,hence im asking for advice ,if you had a message like that how did it work or if your a lady what does it mean

You do not have to be female to know what the alleged message says.

ive know her year back to school days ,only been dating a month ,all im asking is it a good sign or a bad considering she wasnt speaking to me now we are freinds on facebook again ?"

Get a grip mate just because you friends on facebook means just that you appear to be coming across either desperate or hounding the woman neither is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a relationship this new involves so much drama, stress and angst I really don't think it is worth bothering with.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"we are now speaking again ,and i asked her the question again if she would take me back this is what she put

"well see how i feel after this weeks finished,i wanted to take it slow from the start tbh babe after everything ive been though espesh with lads theres no way im rushing into anything ,i hate pressure "

what do you guys and girls think advice please"

I don't know your history why you split, however I've always thought that the reason people break up will still be there causing that same problem.

from the text you've quoted it seems the lady has reservations.... Give her time like she asks,

Good luck

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I wish you luck in your relationship but if I am btutally honest, it seems doomed. You seem ill equipped to be able to deal with it, you are unable to step back and consider what is being said to you in communication ( albeit, it is early days ) by the girl in question...

I would leave it entirely up to the girl to lead, you say you are sub so let her lead this at her pace and rules.

and maybe update your profile to say you are not looking just now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She is asking you to back off and take it slow . If you don't she may go .. Just let her be . And time will tell .

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Ok if you are going to give join in the thread please be civil about it....and please leave the mans status out of the advice as it causes mayhem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She is asking you to back off and take it slow . If you don't she may go .. Just let her be . And time will tell ."

thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wish you luck in your relationship but if I am btutally honest, it seems doomed. You seem ill equipped to be able to deal with it, you are unable to step back and consider what is being said to you in communication ( albeit, it is early days ) by the girl in question...

I would leave it entirely up to the girl to lead, you say you are sub so let her lead this at her pace and rules.

and maybe update your profile to say you are not looking just now"

profile updated

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"look im here for the forums ,hence im asking for advice ,if you had a message like that how did it work or if your a lady what does it mean

You do not have to be female to know what the alleged message says.

ive know her year back to school days ,only been dating a month ,all im asking is it a good sign or a bad considering she wasnt speaking to me now we are freinds on facebook again ?"
it does sound a very immature relationship. All this silly talk about add deleting on face book. Read up what I said earlier. I don't know how old the girl is but the relationship sounds like a couple of 15 year olds

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"we are now speaking again ,and i asked her the question again if she would take me back this is what she put

"well see how i feel after this weeks finished,i wanted to take it slow from the start tbh babe after everything ive been though espesh with lads theres no way im rushing into anything ,i hate pressure "

what do you guys and girls think advice please"

I am struggling to know why you need advice to be honest, the girl says leave me alone for a while...I would do just that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a relationship this new involves so much drama, stress and angst I really don't think it is worth bothering with."

Not sure if friensz on facebook constitutes a relationship perhaps in eyes of o p it does if so god help the lass.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we are now speaking again ,and i asked her the question again if she would take me back this is what she put

"well see how i feel after this weeks finished,i wanted to take it slow from the start tbh babe after everything ive been though espesh with lads theres no way im rushing into anything ,i hate pressure "

what do you guys and girls think advice please

I am struggling to know why you need advice to be honest, the girl says leave me alone for a while...I would do just that."

yeah i know that just wanted to know if it good bad ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If a relationship this new involves so much drama, stress and angst I really don't think it is worth bothering with.

Not sure if friensz on facebook constitutes a relationship perhaps in eyes of o p it does if so god help the lass."

we met on facebook after she tracked me down we used to go school together primary and secondary

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

all the best

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"we are now speaking again ,and i asked her the question again if she would take me back this is what she put

"well see how i feel after this weeks finished,i wanted to take it slow from the start tbh babe after everything ive been though espesh with lads theres no way im rushing into anything ,i hate pressure "

what do you guys and girls think advice please

I am struggling to know why you need advice to be honest, the girl says leave me alone for a while...I would do just that.

yeah i know that just wanted to know if it good bad ? "

Like I said she's eithertrying to let you let you down gently or she wants some time to think, as none of us can see inside her head we can't say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"all the best "

thanks kind sir

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also your previous thread you at best seemed very needy. At worst you seemed controlling, possessive manipulative and even bullying could have applied. The fact that her message is so clear yet you seek advice on what to do only further reinforces that negative impression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a relationship this new involves so much drama, stress and angst I really don't think it is worth bothering with.

Not sure if friensz on facebook constitutes a relationship perhaps in eyes of o p it does if so god help the lass.

we met on facebook after she tracked me down we used to go school together primary and secondary"

So basically you were friends on facebook and think because she tracked you down she wanted relationship.

Clearly sge does not so as others said let it go just chat on facebook as friends as seems all it will be.

Continue and she will rightly block you.

You may not like some of the comments on here but I think you seem very clingy I may well be wrong but doubt it.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

She is quite clear, she wants a little space.

Respect that, and maybe respect her by not sharing her private communication with you with a bunch of strangers online. I would hate to think of a friend of mine doing that to me.

Good luck.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?"

If she's told you to leave her alone and you've already apologised by text and phone and she's told you she doesn't want to be pressured what do you think???

I hate to be the bearer of bad news OP (and I could be wrong) but I think she might be trying to let you down gently as you seem quite intense and maybe it's put her off

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"we are now speaking again ,and i asked her the question again if she would take me back this is what she put

"well see how i feel after this weeks finished,i wanted to take it slow from the start tbh babe after everything ive been though espesh with lads theres no way im rushing into anything ,i hate pressure "

what do you guys and girls think advice please

I am struggling to know why you need advice to be honest, the girl says leave me alone for a while...I would do just that.

yeah i know that just wanted to know if it good bad ? "

Who knows, only she will.

What I would say is, if you obsess like this to her it will end up bad probably

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If a relationship this new involves so much drama, stress and angst I really don't think it is worth bothering with.

Not sure if friensz on facebook constitutes a relationship perhaps in eyes of o p it does if so god help the lass.

we met on facebook after she tracked me down we used to go school together primary and secondary

So basically you were friends on facebook and think because she tracked you down she wanted relationship.

Clearly sge does not so as others said let it go just chat on facebook as friends as seems all it will be.

Continue and she will rightly block you.

You may not like some of the comments on here but I think you seem very clingy I may well be wrong but doubt it."

ok thanks for you opionion

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By *emonWoman84Woman
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Have you tried talking to HER about your relationship. Seeing as it's YOUR relationship.

Top tip: If you don't know what a woman means, ask her.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Yaaaawwwnnnn

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?

If she's told you to leave her alone and you've already apologised by text and phone and she's told you she doesn't want to be pressured what do you think???

I hate to be the bearer of bad news OP (and I could be wrong) but I think she might be trying to let you down gently as you seem quite intense and maybe it's put her off"

tried to cancel but already out on delivery :/

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over a year ago


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?"

You are not a child grow up fact you say you sent flowers now is quite poor and attempt to continue things she does not want I dont know you but you seem you could be a bloody nuisance if she blocks again on facebook. She may not block you because may feel threatened by your behaviour thus far based on what you have posted on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you asking us what we think you should say?

no just want to know what you think you are a women after all "

Has it ever occurred to you that although we are all women, we do not share our thoughts and feelings in a Borg like manner?! We are all individuals and rather than trying to second guess what she's saying, if you feel you need clarification, why not just ask her?!

crystal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?

You are not a child grow up fact you say you sent flowers now is quite poor and attempt to continue things she does not want I dont know you but you seem you could be a bloody nuisance if she blocks again on facebook. She may not block you because may feel threatened by your behaviour thus far based on what you have posted on here."

these where order on sat night online shop was closed sunday so couldnt cancel then and rang first think and said it out for delivery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?

You are not a child grow up fact you say you sent flowers now is quite poor and attempt to continue things she does not want I dont know you but you seem you could be a bloody nuisance if she blocks again on facebook. She may not block you because may feel threatened by your behaviour thus far based on what you have posted on here.

these where order on sat night online shop was closed sunday so couldnt cancel then and rang first think and said it out for delivery"

I think you need to totally back ofc do not even message her as you could be seen to be harassing her especially after you shown the alleged message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?

You are not a child grow up fact you say you sent flowers now is quite poor and attempt to continue things she does not want I dont know you but you seem you could be a bloody nuisance if she blocks again on facebook. She may not block you because may feel threatened by your behaviour thus far based on what you have posted on here.

these where order on sat night online shop was closed sunday so couldnt cancel then and rang first think and said it out for delivery

I think you need to totally back ofc do not even message her as you could be seen to be harassing her especially after you shown the alleged message."

i aint harassing her ? she asked for space and she will have it not my fault i cant cancel the flowers which was order mid argument ,i like her but what will be will be

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Can you explain what is your relationship with the lady in question is, from what I've read so far, you're face book friends that have been to school together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jesus a 23 year old asking advice on a site he doesnt know people

the reply is simple stop pressuring her and give her space

and you being on here, does she know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?

You are not a child grow up fact you say you sent flowers now is quite poor and attempt to continue things she does not want I dont know you but you seem you could be a bloody nuisance if she blocks again on facebook. She may not block you because may feel threatened by your behaviour thus far based on what you have posted on here.

these where order on sat night online shop was closed sunday so couldnt cancel then and rang first think and said it out for delivery

I think you need to totally back ofc do not even message her as you could be seen to be harassing her especially after you shown the alleged message.

i aint harassing her ? she asked for space and she will have it not my fault i cant cancel the flowers which was order mid argument ,i like her but what will be will be "

You are harrassing her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can you explain what is your relationship with the lady in question is, from what I've read so far, you're face book friends that have been to school together? "

my relationship is as follows been dating a month slept together 4 times both very busy people work wise i run two companies and she full time and doing her degree ,she contacted me first we chatted for 6 months before

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over a year ago


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?

You are not a child grow up fact you say you sent flowers now is quite poor and attempt to continue things she does not want I dont know you but you seem you could be a bloody nuisance if she blocks again on facebook. She may not block you because may feel threatened by your behaviour thus far based on what you have posted on here."

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?

You are not a child grow up fact you say you sent flowers now is quite poor and attempt to continue things she does not want I dont know you but you seem you could be a bloody nuisance if she blocks again on facebook. She may not block you because may feel threatened by your behaviour thus far based on what you have posted on here.

these where order on sat night online shop was closed sunday so couldnt cancel then and rang first think and said it out for delivery

I think you need to totally back ofc do not even message her as you could be seen to be harassing her especially after you shown the alleged message.

i aint harassing her ? she asked for space and she will have it not my fault i cant cancel the flowers which was order mid argument ,i like her but what will be will be

You are harrassing her"

how ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Have you actually been out with her? Or is it just an online thing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?

You are not a child grow up fact you say you sent flowers now is quite poor and attempt to continue things she does not want I dont know you but you seem you could be a bloody nuisance if she blocks again on facebook. She may not block you because may feel threatened by your behaviour thus far based on what you have posted on here.

This"

lol if she does she does

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Can you explain what is your relationship with the lady in question is, from what I've read so far, you're face book friends that have been to school together?

my relationship is as follows been dating a month slept together 4 times both very busy people work wise i run two companies and she full time and doing her degree ,she contacted me first we chatted for 6 months before "
so you've seen her in the last couple of days then as you'd only slept with her twice on your last thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you actually been out with her? Or is it just an online thing?

"

6 dates yes stayed at hers 4 times which ended in sex

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Just step away from the flower ordering services, the saucepan, boiling water and bugs bunny...give her some space there is nothing worse than the smell of desperation and neediness just chill out a bit and let her come to you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just step away from the flower ordering services, the saucepan, boiling water and bugs bunny...give her some space there is nothing worse than the smell of desperation and neediness just chill out a bit and let her come to you..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?

You are not a child grow up fact you say you sent flowers now is quite poor and attempt to continue things she does not want I dont know you but you seem you could be a bloody nuisance if she blocks again on facebook. She may not block you because may feel threatened by your behaviour thus far based on what you have posted on here.

these where order on sat night online shop was closed sunday so couldnt cancel then and rang first think and said it out for delivery

I think you need to totally back ofc do not even message her as you could be seen to be harassing her especially after you shown the alleged message.

i aint harassing her ? she asked for space and she will have it not my fault i cant cancel the flowers which was order mid argument ,i like her but what will be will be

You are harrassing her

how ? "

Your previous thread where you bonbarded her with texts as she was ignoring. I'd call that harassment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just step away from the flower ordering services, the saucepan, boiling water and bugs bunny...give her some space there is nothing worse than the smell of desperation and neediness just chill out a bit and let her come to you...

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yes i know i wont message her again until she message me ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?

You are not a child grow up fact you say you sent flowers now is quite poor and attempt to continue things she does not want I dont know you but you seem you could be a bloody nuisance if she blocks again on facebook. She may not block you because may feel threatened by your behaviour thus far based on what you have posted on here.

these where order on sat night online shop was closed sunday so couldnt cancel then and rang first think and said it out for delivery

I think you need to totally back ofc do not even message her as you could be seen to be harassing her especially after you shown the alleged message.

i aint harassing her ? she asked for space and she will have it not my fault i cant cancel the flowers which was order mid argument ,i like her but what will be will be

You are harrassing her

how ?

Your previous thread where you bonbarded her with texts as she was ignoring. I'd call that harassment"

i agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i have sent flowers with an apology on it ,should i cancel ?

You are not a child grow up fact you say you sent flowers now is quite poor and attempt to continue things she does not want I dont know you but you seem you could be a bloody nuisance if she blocks again on facebook. She may not block you because may feel threatened by your behaviour thus far based on what you have posted on here.

these where order on sat night online shop was closed sunday so couldnt cancel then and rang first think and said it out for delivery

I think you need to totally back ofc do not even message her as you could be seen to be harassing her especially after you shown the alleged message.

i aint harassing her ? she asked for space and she will have it not my fault i cant cancel the flowers which was order mid argument ,i like her but what will be will be

You are harrassing her

how ?

Your previous thread where you bonbarded her with texts as she was ignoring. I'd call that harassment"

well no you say that lol maybe

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Can you explain what is your relationship with the lady in question is, from what I've read so far, you're face book friends that have been to school together?

my relationship is as follows been dating a month slept together 4 times both very busy people work wise i run two companies and she full time and doing her degree ,she contacted me first we chatted for 6 months before "

Right. My advice stands from my previous post as she asked for time and space give her that. We're given two ears two eyes and only one mouth use them in that order good luck.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Just step away from the flower ordering services, the saucepan, boiling water and bugs bunny...give her some space there is nothing worse than the smell of desperation and neediness just chill out a bit and let her come to you...

yes i know i wont message her again until she message me ,"

Seriously you need to....what you are doing is becoming a nuisance do you by doing what you are doing is going to win her back? All I can see is it's going to drive her away..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can you explain what is your relationship with the lady in question is, from what I've read so far, you're face book friends that have been to school together?

my relationship is as follows been dating a month slept together 4 times both very busy people work wise i run two companies and she full time and doing her degree ,she contacted me first we chatted for 6 months before

Right. My advice stands from my previous post as she asked for time and space give her that. We're given two ears two eyes and only one mouth use them in that order good luck."

just looking at my texts i sent it does forewarn her of flowers being sent but that was sat ,should i tell her or just leave it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what made the last thread you started disappear? is this one going the same way?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just step away from the flower ordering services, the saucepan, boiling water and bugs bunny...give her some space there is nothing worse than the smell of desperation and neediness just chill out a bit and let her come to you...

yes i know i wont message her again until she message me ,

Seriously you need to....what you are doing is becoming a nuisance do you by doing what you are doing is going to win her back? All I can see is it's going to drive her away.."

yes i see that now my head was shot ,will leave her alone and hopefully she has a change of heart

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what made the last thread you started disappear? is this one going the same way?"

i honestly dont know where it went ,think i insulted someone lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you explain what is your relationship with the lady in question is, from what I've read so far, you're face book friends that have been to school together?

my relationship is as follows been dating a month slept together 4 times both very busy people work wise i run two companies and she full time and doing her degree ,she contacted me first we chatted for 6 months before

Right. My advice stands from my previous post as she asked for time and space give her that. We're given two ears two eyes and only one mouth use them in that order good luck.

just looking at my texts i sent it does forewarn her of flowers being sent but that was sat ,should i tell her or just leave it ?"

For the love of god, just stop sending her messages.

You're a grown ass man, allegedly with businesses to run. Your actions are not ones of a rational human being. Stop acting like a lovesick 12 year old and show some maturity towards this woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you explain what is your relationship with the lady in question is, from what I've read so far, you're face book friends that have been to school together?

my relationship is as follows been dating a month slept together 4 times both very busy people work wise i run two companies and she full time and doing her degree ,she contacted me first we chatted for 6 months before "

All due respect, but if you run 2 companies I really would hope and expect you can read what she wants a bit better. Trust her words as they read, and use the facts of the relationship to steer your judgement. It's not easy putting your issues on the forum I imagine, but you'll always get mixed responses so I don't know how much they help you?

Good luck, I'd suggest coming off here unless she knows about it, and working on your relationship if you really want it. And take on all the constructive advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can you explain what is your relationship with the lady in question is, from what I've read so far, you're face book friends that have been to school together?

my relationship is as follows been dating a month slept together 4 times both very busy people work wise i run two companies and she full time and doing her degree ,she contacted me first we chatted for 6 months before

Right. My advice stands from my previous post as she asked for time and space give her that. We're given two ears two eyes and only one mouth use them in that order good luck.

just looking at my texts i sent it does forewarn her of flowers being sent but that was sat ,should i tell her or just leave it ?

For the love of god, just stop sending her messages.

You're a grown ass man, allegedly with businesses to run. Your actions are not ones of a rational human being. Stop acting like a lovesick 12 year old and show some maturity towards this woman."

well i havent had many relationships so find i hard ,yeah if my business was as successful as my lovelife i would be happy as a pig in shit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can you explain what is your relationship with the lady in question is, from what I've read so far, you're face book friends that have been to school together?

my relationship is as follows been dating a month slept together 4 times both very busy people work wise i run two companies and she full time and doing her degree ,she contacted me first we chatted for 6 months before

All due respect, but if you run 2 companies I really would hope and expect you can read what she wants a bit better. Trust her words as they read, and use the facts of the relationship to steer your judgement. It's not easy putting your issues on the forum I imagine, but you'll always get mixed responses so I don't know how much they help you?

Good luck, I'd suggest coming off here unless she knows about it, and working on your relationship if you really want it. And take on all the constructive advice "

got trust issues ,she alot better looking than me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what made the last thread you started disappear? is this one going the same way?

i honestly dont know where it went ,think i insulted someone lol "

You know you did!!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Just step away from the flower ordering services, the saucepan, boiling water and bugs bunny...give her some space there is nothing worse than the smell of desperation and neediness just chill out a bit and let her come to you...

yes i know i wont message her again until she message me ,

Seriously you need to....what you are doing is becoming a nuisance do you by doing what you are doing is going to win her back? All I can see is it's going to drive her away..

yes i see that now my head was shot ,will leave her alone and hopefully she has a change of heart "

She may have a change of number rather than heart at this rate....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are now speaking again ,and i asked her the question again if she would take me back this is what she put

"well see how i feel after this weeks finished,i wanted to take it slow from the start tbh babe after everything ive been though espesh with lads theres no way im rushing into anything ,i hate pressure "

what do you guys and girls think advice please"

As per my comment on your previous thread I'm actually worried you do have a social issue.

Her message is loud and clear but because your texting and fb messaging you don't get the "tone" in what's being said.

The lady in question obviously has had relationship issues where things have got claustrophobic and clingy very quickly and she's hoping for you to be different.

Ask her out on a date, something towards the end of the week be it cinema, bowling or a drink in the pub and then leave her till then, maybe message her the day before but above all give her the space she craves.

She may not be ready for another relationship yet or she may even want to play the field either way above everything else she needs a friend and you could be that friend.

Not every friend stays in the friendzone take it from me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what made the last thread you started disappear? is this one going the same way?

i honestly dont know where it went ,think i insulted someone lol

You know you did!!"

yeah i did ,i did apologize tho seem to be doing that alot recently lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stop reading between the lines and read the message. She's perfectly clear. "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You sound like my sick twisted mind playing ex that uses fab wrongly also and my gut instinct is your using the forum to make your actions ok.

Simples...

Leave the girl alone mate or she will be gone forever.

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

This is comedy gold ......in my mind's eye it's Rodders chasing Cassandra.......... Just one tip. Pop this over to "Stories" where it belongs ......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You sound like my sick twisted mind playing ex that uses fab wrongly also and my gut instinct is your using the forum to make your actions ok.

Simples...

Leave the girl alone mate or she will be gone forever."

ok how long would you leave her or wait for her to text you ? also what to do about these flowers ? would it piss you off if you recived flowers ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is comedy gold ......in my mind's eye it's Rodders chasing Cassandra.......... Just one tip. Pop this over to "Stories" where it belongs ......"

story ? nonononono

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You sound like my sick twisted mind playing ex that uses fab wrongly also and my gut instinct is your using the forum to make your actions ok.

Simples...

Leave the girl alone mate or she will be gone forever.

ok how long would you leave her or wait for her to text you ? also what to do about these flowers ? would it piss you off if you recived flowers ?"

Just

Stop, stop, stop, stop. The message people are giving you cant be any plainer than this.

LEAVE IT ALONE. DO NOTHING ELSE FROM HERE!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You sound like my sick twisted mind playing ex that uses fab wrongly also and my gut instinct is your using the forum to make your actions ok.

Simples...

Leave the girl alone mate or she will be gone forever.

ok how long would you leave her or wait for her to text you ? also what to do about these flowers ? would it piss you off if you recived flowers ?"

She wants space so what do you think? Do you give your mates flowers when you see them? She wants space and your trying to romance her.

In the words of my 22 year old partner "epic fail"

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I think you need to stay away from relationships until your mature enough for them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You sound like my sick twisted mind playing ex that uses fab wrongly also and my gut instinct is your using the forum to make your actions ok.

Simples...

Leave the girl alone mate or she will be gone forever.

ok how long would you leave her or wait for her to text you ? also what to do about these flowers ? would it piss you off if you recived flowers ?

Just

Stop, stop, stop, stop. The message people are giving you cant be any plainer than this.

LEAVE IT ALONE. DO NOTHING ELSE FROM HERE!"

im just going to leave it she what comes back shame i cant cancel the flowers but one of them

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By *ickalotapuss80Man
over a year ago

bolton

She may have tracked you down on fb to just be friends like most women do in there. It sound like there is a lot of tension and pressure between you both. I would leave her alone and if she is interested she will contact you. Just because you're now friends again on there doesn't mean you're lovers again. Personally the only reason I can think you've truly posted that on here is attention seeking. Sympathy maybe off women in here which has backfired drastically. Just shake it off and get in with things as someone else said there's plenty more out there don't get so emotionally attached in short space of time you may know her from the past but life changes you and you don't really know her now

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Where's the banging-head-against-brick-wall emoticon?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you need to stay away from relationships until your mature enough for them

"

well the more relationship you have the better you get so thanks but even if this dont work im going to keep dating

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"what made the last thread you started disappear? is this one going the same way?"

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From your recent post and this one ---- if i was the woman involved I would be feeling very uneasy and would avoid you at all costs - even if I'd known you years - she obviously doesn't want to know and is trying to let you know in the kindest possible way .... Maybe doing it this way because if she just told you to '**ck off ' you'd probably cause grief and not listen anyway x just my own personal take on this but gotta be said !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She may have tracked you down on fb to just be friends like most women do in there. It sound like there is a lot of tension and pressure between you both. I would leave her alone and if she is interested she will contact you. Just because you're now friends again on there doesn't mean you're lovers again. Personally the only reason I can think you've truly posted that on here is attention seeking. Sympathy maybe off women in here which has backfired drastically. Just shake it off and get in with things as someone else said there's plenty more out there don't get so emotionally attached in short space of time you may know her from the past but life changes you and you don't really know her now"

shes wanted to date me since she was 7 she said mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because the op is a grown man doesn't mean he has the experience to deal with what's going on. He's asked for genuine advice as far as I can tell and he has admitted that he hasn't had many relationships, try giving constructive advice rather than calling him childish or immature, and whilst having a relationship via Facebook does sound daft to us more mature people unfortunately this is the norm for the younger generation. Give the guy a break and offer him some support, it's Christmas

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just because the op is a grown man doesn't mean he has the experience to deal with what's going on. He's asked for genuine advice as far as I can tell and he has admitted that he hasn't had many relationships, try giving constructive advice rather than calling him childish or immature, and whilst having a relationship via Facebook does sound daft to us more mature people unfortunately this is the norm for the younger generation. Give the guy a break and offer him some support, it's Christmas "

thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

just looking at my texts i sent it does forewarn her of flowers being sent but that was sat ,should i tell her or just leave it ?"

she asked for space GIVE IT HER and no dont text her to forwarn her about the flowers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

just looking at my texts i sent it does forewarn her of flowers being sent but that was sat ,should i tell her or just leave it ?

she asked for space GIVE IT HER and no dont text her to forwarn her about the flowers"

thanks thats all i wanted to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally

if i was the woman mentioned i would be fucked off it was allover here

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Ok. People can ask for advice on most things on here and no one bats an eyelid, so please, if the question is annoying you, just leave the thread and enjoy some of the others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where's the banging-head-against-brick-wall emoticon?"

Google ostrich pillow. It saves the grey matter I hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because the op is a grown man doesn't mean he has the experience to deal with what's going on. He's asked for genuine advice as far as I can tell and he has admitted that he hasn't had many relationships, try giving constructive advice rather than calling him childish or immature, and whilst having a relationship via Facebook does sound daft to us more mature people unfortunately this is the norm for the younger generation. Give the guy a break and offer him some support, it's Christmas "

I'd agree with this! Seems like the poor guy's being bashed on the head for no reason! Do none of you remember how shit it feels being crazy about someone and not knowing if it's reciprocated? Analysing everything a hundred times for 'clues'? Well I sure as hell do!!

Good luck hun. Take it slowly - let her lead - and I hope it works for you!

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By *ickalotapuss80Man
over a year ago

bolton


"She may have tracked you down on fb to just be friends like most women do in there. It sound like there is a lot of tension and pressure between you both. I would leave her alone and if she is interested she will contact you. Just because you're now friends again on there doesn't mean you're lovers again. Personally the only reason I can think you've truly posted that on here is attention seeking. Sympathy maybe off women in here which has backfired drastically. Just shake it off and get in with things as someone else said there's plenty more out there don't get so emotionally attached in short space of time you may know her from the past but life changes you and you don't really know her now

shes wanted to date me since she was 7 she said mate "

She may have said that at the time fella but women are a species unlike no other, they change their minds quicker than a piano changes tune. A woman has ways of getting in your head and knowing you before you even know yourself. Just back off from her and like I said if she wants you she will come for you. If she doesn't then it's no great loss because in the meantime your life shouldn't be on hold just get out there and enjoy yourself

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area

Trying to decide whether this is Fabbook or Faceswingers???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trying to decide whether this is Fabbook or Faceswingers??? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Trying to decide whether this is Fabbook or Faceswingers??? "

its a public forum and can ask for advice thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"personally

if i was the woman mentioned i would be fucked off it was allover here

"

yeah and rightfully so but if im going to lose her im willing to do whatever it takes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok. People can ask for advice on most things on here and no one bats an eyelid, so please, if the question is annoying you, just leave the thread and enjoy some of the others."

it was a genuine question, we tried to see how the first 1 ended, purely asking, just like you said, 'you can ask for advice on most things on here'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She wants space, leave her alone you can not force a relationship to happen.

Remove all alpha male thoughts from your head and let the lady decide what if anything she wants.

No flowers

No texts (unless she messages you)

No Facebook messages or wall posts (unless your replying to her)

And no sitting outside her house or phone calls at random times.

Let her decide is the General advise your getting.

If you carry on as you are at best you will lose a friend at worst your will get branded and maybe arrested for stalking!

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Are you still in touch with the 4 numbers you got on your 'chocolate kettle' thread ?

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area


"Trying to decide whether this is Fabbook or Faceswingers???

its a public forum and can ask for advice thank you"

Error 605:.... sense of humour failure detected

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you still in touch with the 4 numbers you got on your 'chocolate kettle' thread ?"

decided not to act apon them ,as she the one i want was just illustrating that its easier to get numbers out of cyber world than in it

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Are you still in touch with the 4 numbers you got on your 'chocolate kettle' thread ?

decided not to act apon them ,as she the one i want was just illustrating that its easier to get numbers out of cyber world than in it "

Ok. Well I wish you luck fella

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By *y2funMan
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"what do you guys and girls think advice please"

i think she might be pissed off with you discussing her on a swingers site...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what do you guys and girls think advice please

i think she might be pissed off with you discussing her on a swingers site... "

yes but she wont find out ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what do you guys and girls think advice please

i think she might be pissed off with you discussing her on a swingers site...

yes but she wont find out ? "

how are you sure

this forum is a public forum anyone can see it and _iew it.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Ok. People can ask for advice on most things on here and no one bats an eyelid, so please, if the question is annoying you, just leave the thread and enjoy some of the others.

it was a genuine question, we tried to see how the first 1 ended, purely asking, just like you said, 'you can ask for advice on most things on here'

"

I answered you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what do you guys and girls think advice please

i think she might be pissed off with you discussing her on a swingers site...

yes but she wont find out ?

how are you sure

this forum is a public forum anyone can see it and _iew it.

"

well im sure she wont look on a swingers forum ,got to be unlucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what do you guys and girls think advice please

i think she might be pissed off with you discussing her on a swingers site...

yes but she wont find out ?

how are you sure

this forum is a public forum anyone can see it and _iew it.

well im sure she wont look on a swingers forum ,got to be unlucky"

so she doesnt know about this then

u want her in your life and you havent been honest. what a lucky escape shes had

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what do you guys and girls think advice please

i think she might be pissed off with you discussing her on a swingers site...

yes but she wont find out ?

was waiting for the right time ,not a thing you say in the first date is it ?

how are you sure

this forum is a public forum anyone can see it and _iew it.

well im sure she wont look on a swingers forum ,got to be unlucky

so she doesnt know about this then

u want her in your life and you havent been honest. what a lucky escape shes had "

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Ok lets put this to bed.

It seems you have had the advice you are after OP so I will shut this now. Don't start another please.

To anyone this applies to....anyone can ask a question on a forum, if it doesn't suit you then leave the thread alone rather than keep coming back for more as it looks like you are doing it to be awkward or to goad the mods into banning you when they have asked you to leave things alone.

Thanks

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