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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I told my Mum about my sexuality last night. I didn't go into details. I didn't tell her I dress either.

I told her I'm bisexual & my wife knows and is comfortable with it.

I had a cry and a she gave me a cuddle. I can't put into words the way it felt but, after 33 years it felt great, if awkward, to say out loud.

Just wanted to share after all the support I got from fabsters when I was doubting myself

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I told my Mum about my sexuality last night. I didn't go into details. I didn't tell her I dress either.

I told her I'm bisexual & my wife knows and is comfortable with it.

I had a cry and a she gave me a cuddle. I can't put into words the way it felt but, after 33 years it felt great, if awkward, to say out loud.

Just wanted to share after all the support I got from fabsters when I was doubting myself "

never doubt yourself, it sounds like you have a good supporting family, i'm pleased for you, takes a lot of courage to open yourself up, chin up and move forward now x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

that was nice to read & all the best to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's marvellous

Kudos to you

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Well done Rachel .. I'm glad you managed to talk to your mum .. You must feel better about things too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's lovely to read and I'm really glad you could share that with your Mum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well done Rachel .. I'm glad you managed to talk to your mum .. You must feel better about things too xx"

I think I do. I'm currently crying my eyes out though.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

my mum always put it down to 'my son being artistic'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done. I'm glad it went well well. Its not easy to discuss your sexuality to friends and family... I know that very well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done you . It takes a lot of courage to come out . It sounds like you have a good supportive family behind you . Good luck in the future and have fun . Great photos btw . X

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By *rc83Man
over a year ago

warrington

Well done, it takes a lot of courage to be able to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab high 5!

Did you skip round the house after?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well done bet you are glad you did it ,you should feel proud .hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great - courageous and positive reaction, hope you feel like you can be 'you' a bit more

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Congratulations for doing what was right for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done. Must be huge relief to get it out in the open. x

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Most mums would be the same and accept their child no matter what direction their life took and it was obviously the right thing to do for yourself.

Can I ask why you felt the need to tell her ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good on you!!! Total respect to you!!!

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By *ancs30Man
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Good on you!!! Total respect to you!!!"

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By *arteeneWoman
over a year ago

aylesbury


"Good on you!!! Total respect to you!!!"

Hi darling good on you hope to see you Wednesday and I will give you a big hug xxx

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Congratulations, it takes courage and its nice not to have to hide a large part of your life. It's also too late for her to send your Christmas present back xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good on you!!! Total respect to you!!!

Hi darling good on you hope to see you Wednesday and I will give you a big hug xxx"

I'll be there late but I'll make it if I can. Hold you to the hug xxxx

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By *ench and StripeCouple
over a year ago

Stenalees

congratulations

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

There are some things my parents don't need to know and my sexuality is one of the things....however well done you for taking the brave step in telling your mum. I'm glad it went well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done you!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"my mum always put it down to 'my son being artistic' "

My son is *artistic too .

Rachael its good you managed to talk with your Mum. We have been through this talk some years ago.

I have the most wonderful caring gorgeous kind Gay son. He is my world.. Just make your Mum proud.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Well done

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Well done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I knew I liked both guys and gals when I was 12.

One cruel verbal exchange from my sister and growing up in, what I percieved to be, a homophobic environment, ensured I buried my feelings. Not even admitting them to myself.

Certain guys over the years would look into my eyes as we spoke and I'd have to look away to shake the effect I felt of their gaze.

A bisexual girl asked me if I'd ever consider sleeping with a guy as she watched when I was 42 and suddenly I couldn't hide any more. I wanted to know me.

I told my partner and my life totally transformed.

By 43 I started to dress to allow me to show my softer, submissive, bi side.

So many things have been affected by the hiding of my true self over the years

In answer to the question asked "why did I need to tell my Mum?" I can only say it was to explain to her why I've behaved the way I have all my life and because "coming out" to those who are close to you feels so damn good. If rather emotional!

People can't know you if they don't understand such a defining thing as your sexuality.

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By *ove bi guysWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Well done you

Glad your mom was so ... as we all hope our parents would be.

xx

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I'm so glad it went well for you.

My exes brother is gay. Told his parents and older brother when he was 15, they all take the piss out of him all the time, make jokes about it and are downright nasty. He stays shut away in his room and they wonder why. It's awful!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well done - my son told me when he was 16 - his dad still doesnt and possibly never will xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's great that it went so well for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well done Rachel .. I'm glad you managed to talk to your mum .. You must feel better about things too xx

I think I do. I'm currently crying my eyes out though. "

Big hugs to you lovely, go with the emotions - its much healthier than denying them xx

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Well done, glad it went well. A close family member of mine struggled to be open about begin gay when she was in her teens. It's never easy to tell family & friends. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm back on form again after having a chat with my Mistress. She has a softer side to her too, when needed. She's shared wise words. Combined with you lovely forumites that's another emotional ride ridden.

I appreciate that not everyone agrees or understands the need to come out to people close to you. I don't intend to be telling the world my business. This virtual one has its uses.

I also hope by sharing my thoughts on here that it may help someone else with their mental struggle too. Who knows, eh?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"

In answer to the question asked "why did I need to tell my Mum?" I can only say it was to explain to her why I've behaved the way I have all my life and because "coming out" to those who are close to you feels so damn good. If rather emotional!

"

Ok Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think she may have known already ? Mums are good at knowing things.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Do you think she may have known already ? Mums are good at knowing things. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you think she may have known already ? Mums are good at knowing things.

"

Nope. She says not. I buried it too well.

It's me with the intuition in this family.

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By *ornyspiceCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"I told my Mum about my sexuality last night. I didn't go into details. I didn't tell her I dress either.

I told her I'm bisexual & my wife knows and is comfortable with it.

I had a cry and a she gave me a cuddle. I can't put into words the way it felt but, after 33 years it felt great, if awkward, to say out loud.

Just wanted to share after all the support I got from fabsters when I was doubting myself "

Rachel - well done - we know that you had been thinking about this for a while - lovely to read that your mum and your wife are so supportive - Hope this is a big weight of your shoulders and you can now continue to enjoy your sexuality in what ever way you wish.

We both wish you well and hope to catch up again in 2015.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree shows u av suport wen others dont which is a shame xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I told my Mum about my sexuality last night. I didn't go into details. I didn't tell her I dress either.

I told her I'm bisexual & my wife knows and is comfortable with it.

I had a cry and a she gave me a cuddle. I can't put into words the way it felt but, after 33 years it felt great, if awkward, to say out loud.

Just wanted to share after all the support I got from fabsters when I was doubting myself

Rachel - well done - we know that you had been thinking about this for a while - lovely to read that your mum and your wife are so supportive - Hope this is a big weight of your shoulders and you can now continue to enjoy your sexuality in what ever way you wish.

We both wish you well and hope to catch up again in 2015.xx "

Thanks guys. Look forward to seeing you again soon xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I text yesterday to ask how Mum was feeling after a night to think about it. She was out all day golfing.

We didn't get to phone later either as we were both going out.

So.... Due a phone call full of questions later, I guess. Nervous again now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done you. My mum would b fine as my brother is gay. My wife wud b the problem so my secret will stay that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I text yesterday to ask how Mum was feeling after a night to think about it. She was out all day golfing.

We didn't get to phone later either as we were both going out.

So.... Due a phone call full of questions later, I guess. Nervous again now! "

Your mum has shown she will be supportive and loves you, any questions will just be wanting to understand more. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good on you Rachel, must have taken balls (excuse the pun) for you to do it.

Wouldnt be a problem if any of ours were xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I text yesterday to ask how Mum was feeling after a night to think about it. She was out all day golfing.

We didn't get to phone later either as we were both going out.

So.... Due a phone call full of questions later, I guess. Nervous again now!

Your mum has shown she will be supportive and loves you, any questions will just be wanting to understand more. Good luck x "

Lol. Yeah. Not sure I'm willing to disclose everything!! Some stuff she's better off not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I text yesterday to ask how Mum was feeling after a night to think about it. She was out all day golfing.

We didn't get to phone later either as we were both going out.

So.... Due a phone call full of questions later, I guess. Nervous again now!

Your mum has shown she will be supportive and loves you, any questions will just be wanting to understand more. Good luck x

Lol. Yeah. Not sure I'm willing to disclose everything!! Some stuff she's better off not. "

There are things about ALL of our sex lives our mums are best not knowing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol. Soooo true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How lovely and well done to you

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I am not sure why you will get questions, she has accepted what you said as being you, what more is there to say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am not sure why you will get questions, she has accepted what you said as being you, what more is there to say "

My mother likes to try to know everything. She asked straight off if I'd acted on my feelings and if my wife knew.

Believe me; there will be plenty of questions! I'm contemplating telling her I dress but not that I meet or that I have a Domme.

She'll want to try to understand the me I've admitted to. I know she's always known I've not been entirely honest with her. She's just never guessed what it was I was hiding

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I told my Mum about my sexuality last night. I didn't go into details. I didn't tell her I dress either.

I told her I'm bisexual & my wife knows and is comfortable with it.

I had a cry and a she gave me a cuddle. I can't put into words the way it felt but, after 33 years it felt great, if awkward, to say out loud.

Just wanted to share after all the support I got from fabsters when I was doubting myself "

You already had a supportive partner. Now you have a supportive mother too. Very happy for you and I, for one, feel that you did the right thing

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I told my Mum about my sexuality last night. I didn't go into details. I didn't tell her I dress either.

I told her I'm bisexual & my wife knows and is comfortable with it.

I had a cry and a she gave me a cuddle. I can't put into words the way it felt but, after 33 years it felt great, if awkward, to say out loud.

Just wanted to share after all the support I got from fabsters when I was doubting myself

You already had a supportive partner. Now you have a supportive mother too. Very happy for you and I, for one, feel that you did the right thing

x"

Thank you. I think I did too

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By *uper_gMan
over a year ago

london


"Well I text yesterday to ask how Mum was feeling after a night to think about it. She was out all day golfing.

We didn't get to phone later either as we were both going out.

So.... Due a phone call full of questions later, I guess. Nervous again now!

Your mum has shown she will be supportive and loves you, any questions will just be wanting to understand more. Good luck x

Lol. Yeah. Not sure I'm willing to disclose everything!! Some stuff she's better off not.

There are things about ALL of our sex lives our mums are best not knowing! "

Maybe she thinks the same also!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I told my Mum about my sexuality last night. I didn't go into details. I didn't tell her I dress either.

I told her I'm bisexual & my wife knows and is comfortable with it.

I had a cry and a she gave me a cuddle. I can't put into words the way it felt but, after 33 years it felt great, if awkward, to say out loud.

Just wanted to share after all the support I got from fabsters when I was doubting myself "
x

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By *iuliettaWoman
over a year ago

DEVIZES

Whatever my son was to tell me about his sexuality, it would never change the way I feel about him, never stop me loving him and never stop me being proud of him

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Well done,I am really pleased for you and,have a great family Christmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"that was nice to read & all the best to you "

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Another nice thread...my faith in the forums is restored. Lovely!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I told my Mum about my sexuality last night. I didn't go into details. I didn't tell her I dress either.

I told her I'm bisexual & my wife knows and is comfortable with it.

I had a cry and a she gave me a cuddle. I can't put into words the way it felt but, after 33 years it felt great, if awkward, to say out loud.

Just wanted to share after all the support I got from fabsters when I was doubting myself

never doubt yourself, it sounds like you have a good supporting family, i'm pleased for you, takes a lot of courage to open yourself up, chin up and move forward now x"

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By *aughtynottsCouple
over a year ago

Outside Nottingham

This is so lovely to read you should feel really proud of yourself it's something a lot of people will never feel comfortable to do.

And credit to your mum for being so understanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember when told my mum about my sexuality was a bit of an anticlimax to be honest lol well done and glad she was understanding

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I told my Mum about my sexuality last night. I didn't go into details. I didn't tell her I dress either.

I told her I'm bisexual & my wife knows and is comfortable with it.

I had a cry and a she gave me a cuddle. I can't put into words the way it felt but, after 33 years it felt great, if awkward, to say out loud.

Just wanted to share after all the support I got from fabsters when I was doubting myself "

Why did you feel the need to tell her?

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts


"I knew I liked both guys and gals when I was 12.

One cruel verbal exchange from my sister and growing up in, what I percieved to be, a homophobic environment, ensured I buried my feelings. Not even admitting them to myself.

Certain guys over the years would look into my eyes as we spoke and I'd have to look away to shake the effect I felt of their gaze.

A bisexual girl asked me if I'd ever consider sleeping with a guy as she watched when I was 42 and suddenly I couldn't hide any more. I wanted to know me.

I told my partner and my life totally transformed.

By 43 I started to dress to allow me to show my softer, submissive, bi side.

So many things have been affected by the hiding of my true self over the years

In answer to the question asked "why did I need to tell my Mum?" I can only say it was to explain to her why I've behaved the way I have all my life and because "coming out" to those who are close to you feels so damn good. If rather emotional!

People can't know you if they don't understand such a defining thing as your sexuality. "

It takes so much strength to admit our true selves sometimes.you are very brave and you can now concentrate on not having a life half lived.such a burden to carry when such a big part of who you are is hidden. Then ones we love always have the power to hurt us most and so its always scary to let them see our true self,but sometimes even the people we think we know can surprise us. Am so glad she was positive but more importantly am glad you were able to do it for you.

Tig x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I told my Mum about my sexuality last night. I didn't go into details. I didn't tell her I dress either. I told her I'm bisexual & my wife knows and is comfortable with it. I had a cry and a she gave me a cuddle. I can't put into words the way it felt but, after 33 years it felt great, if awkward, to say out loud. Just wanted to share after all the support I got from fabsters when I was doubting myself "
Always be true to yourself... Well done mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something I could admit to my partner or family and never will

But you did and well done

You must be so happy it went well

Your lucky to have a supportive partner and now a Mum (probably full of questions lol)

Answer her questions if you can

Congratulations

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