FabSwingers.com forum: Gentlemen, do you say no to Ladies?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We often hear about ladies being fussy/picky and saying no etc...

However, how often do gentlemen on here say no to ladies?

Just wondering, that's all!

I have had my fair share of refusal. Often I scared them off for being so direct and forward!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes when theyve messed me around and let me down over a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been turned down. Then again, I've never done any asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can honestly say i only ever messaged one guy on here and he said no as he isn't a fan of BBW

we had a good laugh and a giggle actually. If we all fancied the same people it would be a bloody boring world!

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

Yep if it doesn't feel right then i decline politely. There is nothing wrong with declining gracefully i think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I dont fancy them I say no thanks

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

well, ......... if she has a pulse it does make it difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you are polite, most ladies will accept a "no"

In reality though, if you are a couple and you receive a rejection, you don't usually get told which of you was rejected. Or do you?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

sure I have politely declined.... you can't fancy everyone... and my pet peeve people wanting a "black guy" rather than actually wanting me... so yes... i've done it.....

then there are those who i have met socially and decided i didn't want to take it any further.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't get a gallop on for someone I don't fancy so if I don't decline then it's only going to lead to embarrassment later on.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"I can't get a gallop on for someone I don't fancy so if I don't decline then it's only going to lead to embarrassment later on. "

Could you not even manage a trot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't get a gallop on for someone I don't fancy so if I don't decline then it's only going to lead to embarrassment later on. "

ha ha ha - 'get a gallop on' - mint phrase!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get any offers to turn down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never message anyone so I've never heard "thanks but no thanks".

I've had meets where there hasn't been a mutual attraction which we've both recognised, had a drink and gone our merry way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had great pleasure in rejecting a female after she had said no to me a few months beforehand.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Just try asking the 12 men who I recently invited to join me for a gangbang.

Although none of them actually said no. Just none of them turned up!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just try asking the 12 men who I recently invited to join me for a gangbang.

Although none of them actually said no. Just none of them turned up!!! lol

Lol! Sorry, but that did make me laugh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sure I have politely declined.... you can't fancy everyone... and my pet peeve people wanting a "black guy" rather than actually wanting me... so yes... i've done it.....

then there are those who i have met socially and decided i didn't want to take it any further....."

Interesting viewpoint.. the social meet gives you the fuller picture and that then leads to not taking it further. I used to think that was more a woman's thing but think it is good to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get any offers to turn down

shame that but your a bit far away hun xxx

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"Just try asking the 12 men who I recently invited to join me for a gangbang.

Although none of them actually said no. Just none of them turned up!!! lol

Lol! Sorry, but that did make me laugh!

Its ok, made me laugh too!!! Eventually!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as you are polite, most ladies will accept a "no"

In reality though, if you are a couple and you receive a rejection, you don't usually get told which of you was rejected. Or do you?

I think it's a good thing that couples are generally not told why as i know if people rejected us because of me and not mat i would feel guilty lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely 100% yes everyday and often to women I quite like the look of.

1. One look at thier p

e and you see "Won't meet smokers" - total non-starter for us no matter what they look like, hit delete button.

2. Maximum age limit 49 or below - again non-starter and hit delete

3. Minimum age 24 (yes does happen occasionally) non-starter hit delete

4. Safe sex not indicated in likes - delete.

5. One or both of us doesn't fancy one or both of those contacting us - send polite thanks but no thanks.

6. Very aggressive profile ie lots of capitals and lots of "get the message" "can't you read" "sick of timewasters" (of course we all are but if they are getting that many then maybe it isn't just the people contacting them)

7. Year on site, no verifications for real meets, mile long friends list.

8. Friends invite is first contact.

9. No pictures.

10. All single women contacting us online. (we do play with them at clubs when we can)

Call us picky, we are, we play for fun and would rather play with each other than compromise our way of thinking.

Even when I was single I turned away a lot of couples that the chemistry just wasn't right for me, thats not a boast far more turn me down everyday lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had great pleasure in rejecting a female after she had said no to me a few months beforehand.

Admit to quietly enjoying the refusal when that happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works both ways doesnt it.

I said No when meeting someone last year and had to suffer the consequenses after.

He didnt like the word No but friendship would be nice.

I was gutted.......NOT . lmao

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By *ixson-BallsMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

i have also had to say no...purely because they didn't match up to the pics they sent..

...in fact...wish it would have been the lady in the pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just dont "measure" up do they ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never been turned down. Then again, I've never done any asking

im like that, ive never made the first move on anyone, be it sending a message on here for asking in a club/party if people want to play

I always ask for people to ask me first, i fugure that way i cant make a twat of myself lol

so because of that ive never been turned down lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely 100% yes everyday and often to women I quite like the look of.

1. One look at thier p

e and you see "Won't meet smokers" - total non-starter for us no matter what they look like, hit delete button.

2. Maximum age limit 49 or below - again non-starter and hit delete

3. Minimum age 24 (yes does happen occasionally) non-starter hit delete

4. Safe sex not indicated in likes - delete.

5. One or both of us doesn't fancy one or both of those contacting us - send polite thanks but no thanks.

7. Year on site, no verifications for real meets, mile long friends list.

8. Friends invite is first contact.

9. No pictures.

10. All single women contacting us online. (we do play with them at clubs when we can)

Call us picky, we are, we play for fun and would rather play with each other than compromise our way of thinking.

Even when I was single I turned away a lot of couples that the chemistry just wasn't right for me, thats not a boast far more turn me down everyday lol

yep we follow a similar pattern, works for us.

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