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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do men (I say men as I've never experienced it from women or couples, although I'm sure it happens) want a message so badly that they don't care what the content? I've had some rude messages and when replying saying that not nice, the response is always "at least you replied"!! But its always followed by a block so I don't understand.

Doubt any of the forumite men can help as they all seem nice and polite… just wanted to get it off my chest lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Attention is attention, doesn't matter if it's good or bad. The best thing to do is not give them what they want so ignore and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get these kind of messages regularly. Don't understand the point as I obviously won't ever meet with someone who's rude so not sure what they actually get out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's clear that many yearn for some form of attention, and just like children if they can't get it in a positive manner, they're happy to get it by provoking.

Be it getting a simple wink or fab or a brief message, many just want attention and can't deal without it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've heard this from females and couples. I have no idea what anyone sending a rude/nasty would hope to get out of it?

Unless they collect blocks?

Certainly not looking to meet. Just another form of time-wasting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

No. I'd rather no message than a rude one. But I'd prefer a polite 'no thanks' to silence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one guys send me a really nasty message once he called me a fat cunt and that he hoped the next guy I met raped me

this was because i hadn't replied to his last message

so i sent one back saying that i though his reply was a bit OOT

he replied back saying at least it got my attention now can we talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe against all the 'hi hows u' and 'fancy a fuck' messages, they think their rude message will stand out.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The reason is like pavlov's dog - when they get a reaction - they get a minute amount of adrenaline, this breaks down in your body into a chemical called andrenochrome, I think, and it's very addictive. They do it for the thrill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had one guys send me a really nasty message once he called me a fat cunt and that he hoped the next guy I met raped me

this was because i hadn't replied to his last message

so i sent one back saying that i though his reply was a bit OOT

he replied back saying at least it got my attention now can we talk "

That's disgusting. I will never understand why so many users on here send messages using language like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 09/12/14 15:14:29]"
I hope he was reported and blocked

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By *r jblMan
over a year ago

from parts unknown

Sounds like people with fake profiles to me. Don't let it worry you. Most fake profiles don't have any verifications. Or pics so just delete them and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like people with fake profiles to me. Don't let it worry you. Most fake profiles don't have any verifications. Or pics so just delete them and move on. "

A lot of verified single men send messages along those lines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had one guys send me a really nasty message once he called me a fat cunt and that he hoped the next guy I met raped me

this was because i hadn't replied to his last message

so i sent one back saying that i though his reply was a bit OOT

he replied back saying at least it got my attention now can we talk "
oh my goodness naturally you thought what a nice guy....

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"Do men (I say men as I've never experienced it from women or couples, although I'm sure it happens) want a message so badly that they don't care what the content? I've had some rude messages and when replying saying that not nice, the response is always "at least you replied"!! But its always followed by a block so I don't understand.

Doubt any of the forumite men can help as they all seem nice and polite… just wanted to get it off my chest lol"

No if i send a message I think it out and am polite

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yesterday I received "all the women on fab are slags, don't know why you think you are so special". This was his first message we hadn't chatted previously and I don't think there is anything in my profile to indicate I think I'm better than others! Lol. Needless to say he was blocked and reported and I didn't give him the negative attention he probably wanted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The reason is like pavlov's dog - when they get a reaction - they get a minute amount of adrenaline, this breaks down in your body into a chemical called andrenochrome, I think, and it's very addictive. They do it for the thrill. "

Very interesting

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

On the rare occasion I do email, if I dont get a repky my attitude is "meh" ... and "next!".

I say rare as so many choose not to repky for farious reasons. Each to their own, stopped letting it bother me years ago.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had one guys send me a really nasty message once he called me a fat cunt and that he hoped the next guy I met raped me

this was because i hadn't replied to his last message

so i sent one back saying that i though his reply was a bit OOT

he replied back saying at least it got my attention now can we talk oh my goodness naturally you thought what a nice guy.... "

Wow that's bad, wish there was something we could do about nasty people like that, to warn others. Xx

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I need to stop posting when on my mobile... auto correct is crap!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"I had one guys send me a really nasty message once he called me a fat cunt and that he hoped the next guy I met raped me

this was because i hadn't replied to his last message

so i sent one back saying that i though his reply was a bit OOT

he replied back saying at least it got my attention now can we talk oh my goodness naturally you thought what a nice guy....

Wow that's bad, wish there was something we could do about nasty people like that, to warn others. Xx"

Look up Malicious Communications Act. I'm fairly sure there's a wagging finger attached to the strong arm of the law on this one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had one guys send me a really nasty message once he called me a fat cunt and that he hoped the next guy I met raped me

this was because i hadn't replied to his last message

so i sent one back saying that i though his reply was a bit OOT

he replied back saying at least it got my attention now can we talk oh my goodness naturally you thought what a nice guy....

Wow that's bad, wish there was something we could do about nasty people like that, to warn others. Xx

Look up Malicious Communications Act. I'm fairly sure there's a wagging finger attached to the strong arm of the law on this one."

Pmsl love that reply

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I think people think all of Fab guys are seasoned swingers. It's not the case. There are a lot of lads, surrounded by pictures and prospective boobs, pussy and bums, all wanting a piece of the action. Frustration kicks in, and they treat every woman the same rather than individual. Soon after, they leave - as their approach isn't working, leaving women with the nasty comments they threw away in temper.

Tricky to handle, but that is how it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think people think all of Fab guys are seasoned swingers. It's not the case. There are a lot of lads, surrounded by pictures and prospective boobs, pussy and bums, all wanting a piece of the action. Frustration kicks in, and they treat every woman the same rather than individual. Soon after, they leave - as their approach isn't working, leaving women with the nasty comments they threw away in temper.

Tricky to handle, but that is how it is. "

This makes sense xx

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I think people think all of Fab guys are seasoned swingers. It's not the case. There are a lot of lads, surrounded by pictures and prospective boobs, pussy and bums, all wanting a piece of the action. Frustration kicks in, and they treat every woman the same rather than individual. Soon after, they leave - as their approach isn't working, leaving women with the nasty comments they threw away in temper.

Tricky to handle, but that is how it is.

This makes sense xx"

I dont mean to be blunt with it, it sounded better when I was typing it lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think people think all of Fab guys are seasoned swingers. It's not the case. There are a lot of lads, surrounded by pictures and prospective boobs, pussy and bums, all wanting a piece of the action. Frustration kicks in, and they treat every woman the same rather than individual. Soon after, they leave - as their approach isn't working, leaving women with the nasty comments they threw away in temper.

Tricky to handle, but that is how it is.

This makes sense xx

I dont mean to be blunt with it, it sounded better when I was typing it lol"

Personally I didn't find it blunt.

Just wish some of the idiots would read the forums and take note of what people do and don't like. The kind of people that post seem intelligent, polite and chatty, which is why I use them.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I think people think all of Fab guys are seasoned swingers. It's not the case. There are a lot of lads, surrounded by pictures and prospective boobs, pussy and bums, all wanting a piece of the action. Frustration kicks in, and they treat every woman the same rather than individual. Soon after, they leave - as their approach isn't working, leaving women with the nasty comments they threw away in temper.

Tricky to handle, but that is how it is.

This makes sense xx

I dont mean to be blunt with it, it sounded better when I was typing it lol

Personally I didn't find it blunt.

Just wish some of the idiots would read the forums and take note of what people do and don't like. The kind of people that post seem intelligent, polite and chatty, which is why I use them. "

ummm, now that is a very big brush you're painting us with!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think people think all of Fab guys are seasoned swingers. It's not the case. There are a lot of lads, surrounded by pictures and prospective boobs, pussy and bums, all wanting a piece of the action. Frustration kicks in, and they treat every woman the same rather than individual. Soon after, they leave - as their approach isn't working, leaving women with the nasty comments they threw away in temper.

Tricky to handle, but that is how it is.

This makes sense xx

I dont mean to be blunt with it, it sounded better when I was typing it lol

Personally I didn't find it blunt.

Just wish some of the idiots would read the forums and take note of what people do and don't like. The kind of people that post seem intelligent, polite and chatty, which is why I use them.

ummm, now that is a very big brush you're painting us with! "

U did say "seem"!! Lmao

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

ahhh - fab out

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Charm school isn't dead

is it wrong to fab pics though ?

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By *mgdaveMan
over a year ago

paisley

I don't know why you would get so upset about not getting a reply to a message they must be sitting waiting with baited breath for that little icon to pop up at the top of the screen and when it doesn't the rage builds and turns them into insecure knobs get a life if you don't get a reply it's not the end of the world

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I had one guys send me a really nasty message once he called me a fat cunt and that he hoped the next guy I met raped me

this was because i hadn't replied to his last message

so i sent one back saying that i though his reply was a bit OOT

he replied back saying at least it got my attention now can we talk "

Unbelievable! Sadly for the good guys the best way to avoid this is to just hit delete when the answer is no....

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By *r jblMan
over a year ago

from parts unknown


"Sounds like people with fake profiles to me. Don't let it worry you. Most fake profiles don't have any verifications. Or pics so just delete them and move on.

A lot of verified single men send messages along those lines. "
. Well I never would. They need to grow up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have not had any nasty or rude messages as of yet, if we did, it would just go over our heads.

We are online.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like children who don't get enough attention. Eventually any attention is a good thing. Block, ignore and move on! Although sometimes a very sarcastic reply makes me feel better

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

After sending message after message ..and nothing coming back any response is better than non.. When a favourable reply comes back it's like Christmas and your birthday wrapped all together

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