FabSwingers.com forum: Hang ups

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I guess this question comes from a comment off someone in here that has had me thinking...

So I am in the unfortunate category of having had testiclular cancer and having one removed. I have always been open about this and not ashamed in the slightest however after someone made a comment recently I would love to hear from another persons aspect... Would it bother you and prevent a future meet or would you comment if I had not mentioned this before a meet and it was noticed during? Just a question really as to be honest at the time it did knock me a little

I know everyone is entitled to there own preferences but....

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, nor would I be concerned if you hadn't mentioned it before. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, nor would I be concerned if you hadn't mentioned it before. X "
What she said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had sex with someone in the same boat as you. He told me before, and it was definitely a bigger deal for him than me. It didn't affect anything, and I didn't really care.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"So I guess this question comes from a comment off someone in here that has had me thinking...

I know everyone is entitled to there own preferences but...."

Undoubtedly there would be a shock factor having a guy with only one ball. After all the people I have met, you kind of build up an indifference to things that initially did shock you. I expect people who swing as 'a bit of fun' rather than someone more experienced or relaxed, would have a different view. Everyone has their opinion, and you cannot judge for that.

Good luck to you. I cannot imagine how difficult that must have been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, nor would I be concerned if you hadn't mentioned it before. X "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was playing with a guy in a club once and i noticed he only had one testicle, it didn't register at first and I though it had just gone up as some mens do so like a twat I was looking for it and he said, I've only got one, as he must have realised what I was doing i just laughed and called myself all the daft sods under the sun and we carried on, never gave it a second though till I read this post

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, nor would I be concerned if you hadn't mentioned it before. X "

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"So I guess this question comes from a comment off someone in here that has had me thinking...

I know everyone is entitled to there own preferences but...."

This is one I can answer as it happened to us.

Our very first meet had a testicle removed because of cancer, he didn't mention it before the meet and it was obviously noticed when the play started and he was the one who mentioned it and we wouldn't have done.

It didn't stop the play or stop the meet from being repeated.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

it would make no difference to find out and to have not been told before..

its only one small part of you and you are the whole person not just that one thing..

and i'm speaking as a bloke who recently had mine in my GP's hands as I thought I felt something..

so guys and gals keep checking..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, nor would I be concerned if you hadn't mentioned it before. X

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Wouldn't bother us.

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

Meet someone who had one removed and replaced and had not told me. Was having a fiddle and I felt compelled to mention something did not feel right down there, he told me blah blah blah and that was it. Made no difference one way or another

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, nor would I be concerned if you hadn't mentioned it before. X "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no bother for me either -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to know beforehand as I think it would take the pressure off the 'notice' moment and everyone could relax. Would it stop me playing with someone…hell no!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I've met a few guys with only one. Some had a falsie put in, others just had one. Some told me before, some didn't mention till later. Tbh I didn't always notice till I went in for a grope.

I've also played with a guy with a colostomy, he told me beforehand and though I was a little unsure how I'd feel (never having seen one) it was fine.

Personally I have a rather dramatic scar which I warn meets about before anything happens, the vast majority of meets haven't been fazed at all by it.

It's your choice whether you mention it upfront or wait till it's noticed, being uni-bollocked is not a big enough deal that I or many of my female friends would be bothered either way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's nice to hear so many positive replies was not expecting that in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't bother me at all. I think maybe I'd like to know before hand but not essential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't experienced it however it wouldn't bother me - I'd just carry on regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once played with a guy who had one of his blown of by and IUD in afghan he mentioned it to me before hand. I didn't think it odd. The way I looked at it was at least I cud focus solely on that one ball and not have to worry about alternating so the other didn't get left out. Lol

I wish you all the luck. But my advice is to be upfront and honest about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To put it in perspective I've had more positive comments than negative. One person went as far too say it felt it better when performing from behind as it kept hitting her clit lol... Being central and all lol....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, nor would I be concerned if you hadn't mentioned it before. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have a new lease of confidence since I have read all the replies... Thanks loads....

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I obviously dont pay close enough attention as Im not sure Id even notice

but wouldnt bother me in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't bother me at all! Congratulations on beating through cancer xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met a few guys with only one. Some had a falsie put in, others just had one. Some told me before, some didn't mention till later. Tbh I didn't always notice till I went in for a grope.

I've also played with a guy with a colostomy, he told me beforehand and though I was a little unsure how I'd feel (never having seen one) it was fine.

Personally I have a rather dramatic scar which I warn meets about before anything happens, the vast majority of meets haven't been fazed at all by it.

It's your choice whether you mention it upfront or wait till it's noticed, being uni-bollocked is not a big enough deal that I or many of my female friends would be bothered either way."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have

And I didn't notice at all

It was only afterwards when the guy told me and I was like 'oh yeah, so you have'

I have a skin condition called vitiligo. It is really quite noticeable (to me at least) round my groin.

Only ever had 1 person quiz me about it even though there were times I would dread taking my undies off in front of someone new.

Don't make your situation any bigger than it needs to be.

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I have a new lease of confidence since I have read all the replies... Thanks loads....

Kudos to you for confronting and beating it and great to hear this has given you some added confidence too

As a cpl with circumstances far from the norm we've found 99.9% of swingers attitudes both confidence boosting and humbling

Take that new confidence and go have yourself some sexy fun

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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago

harlow

Tbh I'd just assume that that particular ball didn't like me and concentrate on the one that does lol and never think any more of it - bit blunt but true.

Other than that big respect for you here and sometimes you will get knocked down on here but the understanding and compliments far outweigh the bad

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Tbh I'd just assume that that particular ball didn't like me and concentrate on the one that does lol and never think any more of it - bit blunt but true.

Other than that big respect for you here and sometimes you will get knocked down on here but the understanding and compliments far outweigh the bad

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The comments in this thread have restored my faith in you lot... you're not a bad bunch really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a new lease of confidence since I have read all the replies... Thanks loads....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"So I guess this question comes from a comment off someone in here that has had me thinking...

to hear from another persons aspect...

Would it bother you and prevent a

future meet or would you comment if I

had not mentioned this before a meet

and it was noticed during? Just a

question really as to be honest at the

time it did knock me a little

I know

everyone is entitled to there own

preferences but...."

....but you'd have to send me a photo or 5 so I could make a proper and informed decision otherwise, if I just said 'wouldn't make any difference to me except for thinking up some inappropriate (but funny) jokes' you might think 'why don't you fuck off and not add nonsense to my thread' and I wouldn't want that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was playing with a guy in a club once and i noticed he only had one testicle, it didn't register at first and I though it had just gone up as some mens do so like a twat I was looking for it and he said, I've only got one, as he must have realised what I was doing i just laughed and called myself all the daft sods under the sun and we carried on, never gave it a second though till I read this post

I've never met any one with just the one bollock, but if I did I'd prob do something like this if I hadn't had prior warning! It wouldn't bother me in the slightest though... I'd prob be intrigued as I am with scars."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To put it in perspective I've had more positive comments than negative. One person went as far too say it felt it better when performing from behind as it kept hitting her clit lol... Being central and all lol...."

You're bionic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably wouldn't notice. Not sure how many there's supposed to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would be no problem with us x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

GLad to see this seems to not put many people off.

Good to hear

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Lack of sex has resulted in me cumming too quick!

Had a meet up a few weeks back and i came waaay to quick

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

"Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, nor would I be concerned if you hadn't mentioned it before. X "

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