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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I spoke with someone last night from here that I've known for a few years. He was desperate to tell me he'd been "lying" and what I'd been calling him isn't his real name. Weird, as I've called him the fake name in person numerous times with him never correcting me, and he's even booked tables at restaurants with the fake name.

I'm open about everything, although I'd rather withhold my company name and surname. I'd still probably tell someone if we'd met several times though.

Would you rather be anonymous or would you be open with someone from here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm careful initially due to work, and I don't think there's much need to know people's surnames in this kind of situation. But once I trust someone I'm quite happy to be as open as they'd like me to be.

Strange maintaining a fake name when you've actually met though. I don't see the point in that really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are really transparent it's our real names, we show face pics and we are completely honest with our meets about our life. I'm trusting someone enough to share my body with them then I will trust them with information about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once we meet up people know our names or in messaging.

To be honest if he is lying about that, what else is he lying about.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm open. . As you well know . And when i meet a fab friend. . Whatever they share. . I share. . I think it builds mutual trust . I'm a good judge of character and not found myself compromised yet

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Its all up my sleeve and try not to give any genuine info away on the forums when its in open view to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My real name isn't on my profile but I've never given a false name to anyone

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are really transparent it's our real names, we show face pics and we are completely honest with our meets about our life. I'm trusting someone enough to share my body with them then I will trust them with information about me"

That's my sentiment too. Plus, I'm really not important enough to have to lie about a name. I just can't get my head around the fear of being outed by a first name when I've stayed at their house and had sex multiple times. Seems to be an odd priority.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

You only have to look at the personal information being posted maliciously after a fall out or the stories of stalkers to guess it isn't a good idea to give out too much information.

When we first started this we used different names, but that soon stopped when I wondered who the hell the man who was on one end of a spitroast was calling Sue....so people know our real first names if we play with them....but that's it.

This is a fantasy for us, we like the fact that it is a mystery and we don't have to hear about peoples problems with their washing machine that week so we don't need to know their real name if they don't want to tell us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When we first started this we used different names, but that soon stopped when I wondered who the hell the man who was on one end of a spitroast was calling Sue...."

Hahaha! That's what I find weird, I've said his name when we were in bed and he maintained it for about 3 years.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"You only have to look at the personal information being posted maliciously after a fall out or the stories of stalkers to guess it isn't a good idea to give out too much information.

When we first started this we used different names, but that soon stopped when I wondered who the hell the man who was on one end of a spitroast was calling Sue....so people know our real first names if we play with them....but that's it.

This is a fantasy for us, we like the fact that it is a mystery and we don't have to hear about peoples problems with their washing machine that week so we don't need to know their real name if they don't want to tell us."

That's about it for us too.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"When we first started this we used different names, but that soon stopped when I wondered who the hell the man who was on one end of a spitroast was calling Sue....

Hahaha! That's what I find weird, I've said his name when we were in bed and he maintained it for about 3 years. "

haha, I lasted one half of the first meet before saying sod this call me by my real name

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm not BrightonSteve BWAHAHAHAHAH!!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm not BrightonSteve BWAHAHAHAHAH!!!! "

You are! Or I was sitting next to an imposter on Saturday .

Or are you Brighton Brian?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use our real names in messages but never put them on the forum. We are also deliberately vague about our employers and type of work we do as this makes us fairly easily identifiable. We will share that with people we meet.

We know a few people that use aliases but all (as far as we know!) have told us when we've met for real.

After that length of time I'd find ot odd that they felt the need to share the truth

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I'm not BrightonSteve BWAHAHAHAHAH!!!!

You are! Or I was sitting next to an imposter on Saturday .

Or are you Brighton Brian?"

That's a stupid name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to remain fairly anonymous.

Like others suggest, this is almost a fantasy and not part of my everyday life.

It takes time to build trust and to reveal things;after all, most people on here are out to satisfy their own fantasies and agenda so we're all being used to some degree, so best keep things private until the true individual is revealed.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I sometimes meet people and I can never remember their name anyway as its either a fab name, a fab alias or their real name. I can come home after an evening and think I've had sex with 3 different women, when in fact, it was the same one.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

As open as I need to be, I am open about my real first name, its obvious where I am originally from, I am part of a couple, that's all some people need to know. Sexual likes and dislikes are only discussed with prospective meets, unless its forum banter.

Anything else is on a need to know basis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people know what they need to know to meet us - then we open up a little more sometimes

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By *ike4362ukMan
over a year ago

Cheshunt

Never felt a need to use a fake name, location, etc. The thing I do is not put up pictures that would identify me. It's too difficult trying to maintain a pretense.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I'm careful initially due to work, and I don't think there's much need to know people's surnames in this kind of situation. But once I trust someone I'm quite happy to be as open as they'd like me to be.

Strange maintaining a fake name when you've actually met though. I don't see the point in that really"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"people know what they need to know to meet us - then we open up a little more sometimes "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"people know what they need to know to meet us - then we open up a little more sometimes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"people know what they need to know to meet us - then we open up a little more sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My real name is evhard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more anonymous , wouldn't open up , i see no point too

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Quite a few call me Gordon, even though my username is not to be taken literally as my actual name...I usually correct them as soon as we meet..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work with the public, hence my display name.

But once you begin chatting with someone and plan a meet, then all is revealed (personal details ) i find it very strange to be called by another name when being intimate and developing ( hopefully ) lasting friendships xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty open with people who I meet. And I expect the same from them. I have to think of my safety x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm more anonymous , wouldn't open up , i see no point too "

To what degree are you anonymous? Would you share any personal details at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see the need to share any personal details , my life to fab is private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell people what they need to know, I've met a few guys and not exchanged names depends, I wouldn't give people details on where I work or my address or phone number though they are things that meets don't need to known

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been relatively open on here. A few friends know quite a lot about me. I am more circumspect now than I was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes me think we're way too honest but it's just the way we are as people, we don't do "fake" we wouldn't know how to be fake and to be fair if we felt we had to be then we would give up the lifestyle as its not us and we generally make friends with our meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Makes me think we're way too honest but it's just the way we are as people, we don't do "fake" we wouldn't know how to be fake and to be fair if we felt we had to be then we would give up the lifestyle as its not us and we generally make friends with our meets "

I don't think there's anything wrong with being open, although do understand why some people prefer remaining private (so long as it's not with malicious motives). I'd prefer open partners from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes me think we're way too honest but it's just the way we are as people, we don't do "fake" we wouldn't know how to be fake and to be fair if we felt we had to be then we would give up the lifestyle as its not us and we generally make friends with our meets

I don't think there's anything wrong with being open, although do understand why some people prefer remaining private (so long as it's not with malicious motives). I'd prefer open partners from here. "

depends what you mean by open and private, if you asked for someone's full name would you expect them to give it you, or where they worked for example? I don't think keeping such things private makes you not open its just sensible, I don't put on a show or lie but there are somethings I don't share and if people ask i simply say I'd sooner not tell them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes me think we're way too honest but it's just the way we are as people, we don't do "fake" we wouldn't know how to be fake and to be fair if we felt we had to be then we would give up the lifestyle as its not us and we generally make friends with our meets

I don't think there's anything wrong with being open, although do understand why some people prefer remaining private (so long as it's not with malicious motives). I'd prefer open partners from here.

depends what you mean by open and private, if you asked for someone's full name would you expect them to give it you, or where they worked for example? I don't think keeping such things private makes you not open its just sensible, I don't put on a show or lie but there are somethings I don't share and if people ask i simply say I'd sooner not tell them"

Oh I totally agree, what I mean is the fake name etc. I only give my first name but I'll happily tell them what I do for a living and that I run a business too, I am pretty easy to trace through my business to be fair

As for Paul he's in a public role and has seen half of his customers in chams lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I spoke with someone last night from here that I've known for a few years. He was desperate to tell me he'd been "lying" and what I'd been calling him isn't his real name. Weird, as I've called him the fake name in person numerous times with him never correcting me, and he's even booked tables at restaurants with the fake name.

I'm open about everything, although I'd rather withhold my company name and surname. I'd still probably tell someone if we'd met several times though.

Would you rather be anonymous or would you be open with someone from here?"

There are lots of stalkers and deviant people who delight in fucking others up for mischief. For a no strings causal relationship there is no need to use a name someone else gave you rather than one you have decided to call yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I spoke with someone last night from here that I've known for a few years. He was desperate to tell me he'd been "lying" and what I'd been calling him isn't his real name. Weird, as I've called him the fake name in person numerous times with him never correcting me, and he's even booked tables at restaurants with the fake name.

I'm open about everything, although I'd rather withhold my company name and surname. I'd still probably tell someone if we'd met several times though.

Would you rather be anonymous or would you be open with someone from here?

There are lots of stalkers and deviant people who delight in fucking others up for mischief. For a no strings causal relationship there is no need to use a name someone else gave you rather than one you have decided to call yourself."

i agree, though I have never used a false name i have met many guys and just not told them my name, I never give my phone number out either, I met one guys on and off for a few months and he said to me.on one meet....you know i have met you 8 times now and I don't even know your name

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Makes me think we're way too honest but it's just the way we are as people, we don't do "fake" we wouldn't know how to be fake and to be fair if we felt we had to be then we would give up the lifestyle as its not us and we generally make friends with our meets

I don't think there's anything wrong with being open, although do understand why some people prefer remaining private (so long as it's not with malicious motives). I'd prefer open partners from here.

depends what you mean by open and private, if you asked for someone's full name would you expect them to give it you, or where they worked for example? I don't think keeping such things private makes you not open its just sensible, I don't put on a show or lie but there are somethings I don't share and if people ask i simply say I'd sooner not tell them"

I don't ask for details unless it's in conversation (I'm always asked first). I do think it's odd to suddenly come clean about a fake name after so long. I'd have preferred it if they'd said "I'm not comfortable giving that information out" instead of lying.

Anyway, I genuinely don't think giving your first name is high risk.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Down to trust. In the flesh happy to use my real name but in cyberspace all bets are off Call me paranoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I new his real name but a lot never and one couple really got upset and would not meet him again as felt he was being very rude and they could not trust him . I new from day one .. even let me see his passport . Its strange as I really could not care I would call him his name on here. He has left now so its ok to say .

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Makes me think we're way too honest but it's just the way we are as people, we don't do "fake" we wouldn't know how to be fake and to be fair if we felt we had to be then we would give up the lifestyle as its not us and we generally make friends with our meets

I don't think there's anything wrong with being open, although do understand why some people prefer remaining private (so long as it's not with malicious motives). I'd prefer open partners from here.

depends what you mean by open and private, if you asked for someone's full name would you expect them to give it you, or where they worked for example? I don't think keeping such things private makes you not open its just sensible, I don't put on a show or lie but there are somethings I don't share and if people ask i simply say I'd sooner not tell them

I don't ask for details unless it's in conversation (I'm always asked first). I do think it's odd to suddenly come clean about a fake name after so long. I'd have preferred it if they'd said "I'm not comfortable giving that information out" instead of lying.

Anyway, I genuinely don't think giving your first name is high risk. "
I agree, people on the forums give far too much personal information about themselves in the forum in my opinion, but it's a risk they take knowingly I would imagine.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Makes me think we're way too honest but it's just the way we are as people, we don't do "fake" we wouldn't know how to be fake and to be fair if we felt we had to be then we would give up the lifestyle as its not us and we generally make friends with our meets

I don't think there's anything wrong with being open, although do understand why some people prefer remaining private (so long as it's not with malicious motives). I'd prefer open partners from here.

depends what you mean by open and private, if you asked for someone's full name would you expect them to give it you, or where they worked for example? I don't think keeping such things private makes you not open its just sensible, I don't put on a show or lie but there are somethings I don't share and if people ask i simply say I'd sooner not tell them

I don't ask for details unless it's in conversation (I'm always asked first). I do think it's odd to suddenly come clean about a fake name after so long. I'd have preferred it if they'd said "I'm not comfortable giving that information out" instead of lying.

Anyway, I genuinely don't think giving your first name is high risk. I agree, people on the forums give far too much personal information about themselves in the forum in my opinion, but it's a risk they take knowingly I would imagine."

Yes they do. I recall one thread that made it possible to identify not only the person posting but their family too. I was horrified because you just never know who's reading.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"You only have to look at the personal information being posted maliciously after a fall out or the stories of stalkers to guess it isn't a good idea to give out too much information.

When we first started this we used different names, but that soon stopped when I wondered who the hell the man who was on one end of a spitroast was calling Sue....so people know our real first names if we play with them....but that's it.

This is a fantasy for us, we like the fact that it is a mystery and we don't have to hear about peoples problems with their washing machine that week so we don't need to know their real name if they don't want to tell us."
agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not BrightonSteve BWAHAHAHAHAH!!!! "
are you a number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes me think we're way too honest but it's just the way we are as people, we don't do "fake" we wouldn't know how to be fake and to be fair if we felt we had to be then we would give up the lifestyle as its not us and we generally make friends with our meets

I don't think there's anything wrong with being open, although do understand why some people prefer remaining private (so long as it's not with malicious motives). I'd prefer open partners from here.

depends what you mean by open and private, if you asked for someone's full name would you expect them to give it you, or where they worked for example? I don't think keeping such things private makes you not open its just sensible, I don't put on a show or lie but there are somethings I don't share and if people ask i simply say I'd sooner not tell them

I don't ask for details unless it's in conversation (I'm always asked first). I do think it's odd to suddenly come clean about a fake name after so long. I'd have preferred it if they'd said "I'm not comfortable giving that information out" instead of lying.

Anyway, I genuinely don't think giving your first name is high risk. I agree, people on the forums give far too much personal information about themselves in the forum in my opinion, but it's a risk they take knowingly I would imagine.

Yes they do. I recall one thread that made it possible to identify not only the person posting but their family too. I was horrified because you just never know who's reading."

On the claim to fame thread earlier this week there was a post like that. Crazy

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By *andJ2227Couple
over a year ago

Swadlincote

We don't use false names and have nothing to hide regarding our careers. We don't shout about what we get up to but at the same time have no secrets.

With regard to the false names or not knowing a name, I was checking into a hotel and was to be joined by a single male later in the evening, the receptionist ask if it were single occupancy and I said no and she asked to take his name so I said yes no problem his name is Dan and she said Dan what!? I just looked and thought oh shit, I had no idea so ended up giving her Jordan's surname and trying to not act fazed! Bloody nosey receptionist!

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