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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To the straight women of Fab, what exactly is the appeal of men on here? Everyone's messaging you all the time and if you offer sex to any of them, 99% of the time, you're guaranteed to get what you want. It's like being in a sweet shop where all the sweets are free, aren't you sick of it? For us guys, the thrill of knowing sex is on the cards is an occasional rarity, so what's the thrill for women? You're on a website with a load of panting dogs holding a lead in their mouths begging to be taken for a walk... if you know what I mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Going off your theory id say 'being the boss'. Being in control, having the choice etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thrill is finding that guy that ticks all the boxes, meeting them, and having fantastic sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it "

Elaborate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

Elaborate."

I dont like men who are just up for shagging anyone for example pre-written messages

i hate how men ponder to women on here

i prefer to message guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the straight women of Fab, what exactly is the appeal of men on here? Everyone's messaging you all the time and if you offer sex to any of them, 99% of the time, you're guaranteed to get what you want. It's like being in a sweet shop where all the sweets are free, aren't you sick of it? For us guys, the thrill of knowing sex is on the cards is an occasional rarity, so what's the thrill for women? You're on a website with a load of panting dogs holding a lead in their mouths begging to be taken for a walk... if you know what I mean."
You've kinda answered your own question

It's all (sometimes) about the power it affords us*. (Disclaimer; Them*. I'm not single so I'm assuming)

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all men are begging dogs,quite a few aren't actually. They are the ones I talk to and when the attraction is strong enough,meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

Elaborate.

I dont like men who are just up for shagging anyone for example pre-written messages

i hate how men ponder to women on here

i prefer to message guys

"

I message selected women on here and my messages are always specific and exclusive to whoever I'm contacting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of the men aren't my type though.

its better than nothing.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

cutting through the shit and finding a guy that bonds with both of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

Elaborate.

I dont like men who are just up for shagging anyone for example pre-written messages

i hate how men ponder to women on here

i prefer to message guys

I message selected women on here and my messages are always specific and exclusive to whoever I'm contacting."
thats good lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

Elaborate.

I dont like men who are just up for shagging anyone for example pre-written messages

i hate how men ponder to women on here

i prefer to message guys

"

Same here.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

The begging dogs* are the price single women pay for being on the site. I actually prefer the ones who come across as humans, who are on here for the same reason as me, the ones who can hold a decent conversation and who find me as attractive as I do them.

There's an underlying attitude on here lately that seems to paint women as either helpless lambs who need protecting from all the horrible one line messages, or as arrogant queens who revel in all the attention. The majority of women on this site know exactly why they are here and can manage the site just fine.

* Although its good to know they are up for one off GBs from time to time

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"The thrill is finding that guy that ticks all the boxes, meeting them, and having fantastic sex"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"most of the men aren't my type though.

its better than nothing."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The begging dogs* are the price single women pay for being on the site. I actually prefer the ones who come across as humans, who are on here for the same reason as me, the ones who can hold a decent conversation and who find me as attractive as I do them.

There's an underlying attitude on here lately that seems to paint women as either helpless lambs who need protecting from all the horrible one line messages, or as arrogant queens who revel in all the attention. The majority of women on this site know exactly why they are here and can manage the site just fine.

* Although its good to know they are up for one off GBs from time to time "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

Elaborate.

I dont like men who are just up for shagging anyone for example pre-written messages

i hate how men ponder to women on here

i prefer to message guys

I message selected women on here and my messages are always specific and exclusive to whoever I'm contacting. thats good lol"

Well it would be if they were reciprocated. I suppose what I'm getting at is if you're attracted to someone and you decide to message a guy first, you're almost guaranteed a reply. The excitement has got to be lower for a woman because it's incredibly more likely to "work out", if you get me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it's handed to me on a plate I'm not interested. I like men that are confident enough to make me work for it, so we start off on an equal footing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

Elaborate.

I dont like men who are just up for shagging anyone for example pre-written messages

i hate how men ponder to women on here

i prefer to message guys

I message selected women on here and my messages are always specific and exclusive to whoever I'm contacting."

So the begging dog comment wasn't about yourself? How do you know the men beg? I've never been begged by any of the hundreds of men who have messaged me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if it's handed to me on a plate I'm not interested. I like men that are confident enough to make me work for it, so we start off on an equal footing."

Sounds like there's not a lot of them around.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"if it's handed to me on a plate I'm not interested. I like men that are confident enough to make me work for it, so we start off on an equal footing."

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

Elaborate.

I dont like men who are just up for shagging anyone for example pre-written messages

i hate how men ponder to women on here

i prefer to message guys

I message selected women on here and my messages are always specific and exclusive to whoever I'm contacting.

So the begging dog comment wasn't about yourself? How do you know the men beg? I've never been begged by any of the hundreds of men who have messaged me "

It's more of an exaggerated analogy. It's basically saying men are hardly likely to turn down sex when offered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if it's handed to me on a plate I'm not interested. I like men that are confident enough to make me work for it, so we start off on an equal footing.

Sounds like there's not a lot of them around."

I think you may be surprised. People by nature feel the need to rant about things that are wrong ergo it appears the majority of men here are 'begging dogs' but Im sure there are far more decent guys than you think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if it's handed to me on a plate I'm not interested. I like men that are confident enough to make me work for it, so we start off on an equal footing."

This 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

Elaborate.

I dont like men who are just up for shagging anyone for example pre-written messages

i hate how men ponder to women on here

i prefer to message guys

I message selected women on here and my messages are always specific and exclusive to whoever I'm contacting.

So the begging dog comment wasn't about yourself? How do you know the men beg? I've never been begged by any of the hundreds of men who have messaged me

It's more of an exaggerated analogy. It's basically saying men are hardly likely to turn down sex when offered."

You may work on that principle but it doesn't follow that all or even most men do.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

One uses strategies to keep much of the drooling gunk from the unattractive dogs from disproportionately impinging on one's pleasure.

I'm here like most females for some social interaction with a somewhat diverse group of people as well as to ensure I get my sexual needs met, fairly simply.

There are some straightforward approaches to minimise hassle and anyone contacting me moves at my pace. If they don't, then they've helped make it easier to filter them out. There are those who expect to be around in seconds, humping you, should you momentarily log on. I probably wont see their fancy a fuck message for hours and they're probably all wanked out by then.

It's as troublesome or as relatively easy as you decide to approach it.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why on earth would I behave like a panting dog....

I have self respect by the bucket loads..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's more of an exaggerated analogy. It's basically saying men are hardly likely to turn down sex when offered."

I've turned down plenty and asked for none.

I'm not going to pretend I like "bbw" just to get a shag.

"Fabulous", my arse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

Elaborate.

I dont like men who are just up for shagging anyone for example pre-written messages

i hate how men ponder to women on here

i prefer to message guys

I message selected women on here and my messages are always specific and exclusive to whoever I'm contacting. thats good lol

Well it would be if they were reciprocated. I suppose what I'm getting at is if you're attracted to someone and you decide to message a guy first, you're almost guaranteed a reply. The excitement has got to be lower for a woman because it's incredibly more likely to "work out", if you get me."

I don't think it is any less exciting for a woman than it is for a man when she finds a man that she connects with, the excitement is in the connection and the anticipation of exploring that connection.

We may receive far more messages than single men, it does not follow that we are necessarily attracted to any of the men who message. A lack of self esteem may make some women grateful for the attention and less selective and there are men who will play on that. Having the confidence to know what you are looking for and not settling for less seems to be frowned on by many on here, strong minded women are frowned on as being up themselves divas!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not interested in the panting dogs, as they're invariably just looking for a hole to fuck...

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

Elaborate.

I dont like men who are just up for shagging anyone for example pre-written messages

i hate how men ponder to women on here

i prefer to message guys

I message selected women on here and my messages are always specific and exclusive to whoever I'm contacting."

so you are 'different' and not a 'begging dog'..

its been done before, if it works for you then fine but its not original though it is slightly more eloquent than some others..

god luck..

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

It's more of an exaggerated analogy. It's basically saying men are hardly likely to turn down sex when offered."

speak for yourself.........

I am confident in myself enough to say no thank you to women and couples that have wanted to play with me...

They have to tempt me as much as i have to tempt them.... its very much a two way street.....

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"why on earth would I behave like a panting dog....

I have self respect by the bucket loads.."

this..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm not a begging dog.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if it's handed to me on a plate I'm not interested. I like men that are confident enough to make me work for it, so we start off on an equal footing.

Sounds like there's not a lot of them around."

well so far there's been enough for my needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

Elaborate.

I dont like men who are just up for shagging anyone for example pre-written messages

i hate how men ponder to women on here

i prefer to message guys

I message selected women on here and my messages are always specific and exclusive to whoever I'm contacting."

You're attractive with a good body and you can string a sentence together - so you'd have an advantage anyway. For me the problem isn't trying to sort the 'perfect' meet from the rest - It's trying to filter out the many, many guys who just like the thrill of the chase/chat and won't really meet you! I've come across so many of those that i'll probably just stick to clubs and parties and use fab for socials and the forums. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The appeal is having some of the best sex ever and being able to take control of the situation, to state what you want. In that sense I think this site sexually empowers women in a similar way that men have always enjoyed.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"The appeal is having some of the best sex ever and being able to take control of the situation, to state what you want. In that sense I think this site sexually empowers women in a similar way that men have always enjoyed."

this..

for some men equality especially where sex is concerned is something they cant deal with, and when they get rejected they react adversely to the other person..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thrill is finding that guy that ticks all the boxes, meeting them, and having fantastic sex"

I totally agree x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It maybe appear like a sweet shop but doesn't mean we like all the flavours. Finding a nice one isn't that easy. Or I guess I am just to fussy

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"The begging dogs quote... it does nothing for me... i like to work for it

Elaborate.

I dont like men who are just up for shagging anyone for example pre-written messages

i hate how men ponder to women on here

i prefer to message guys

I message selected women on here and my messages are always specific and exclusive to whoever I'm contacting. thats good lol

Well it would be if they were reciprocated. I suppose what I'm getting at is if you're attracted to someone and you decide to message a guy first, you're almost guaranteed a reply. The excitement has got to be lower for a woman because it's incredibly more likely to "work out", if you get me."

The excitement for me lies in actually finding a guy I want to message, rarer than rocking horse shit on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if a woman messages a man first,without talking for a while you still don't know if you are going to be compatible. There may be no sexual attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it does get stressful when loads of guys offer themselves to you, you don't know who to pick if you like the look of lots of them. When i first came on here i met a few guys, got too many messages and panicked and left it a couple of weeks before i came back. Eventually you figure out a way to make this site work for you though, plus i've ended up getting into regular chats with a fair few people now and they're the ones i'm most interested in now. Is best on here if you fancy a quickie though, can easily get one.

So, for myself, i enjoy chatting to some people on here and looking for quickies. Sometimes i ignore my inbox if it gets a bit much on here though coz it does make me feel stressed, gotta cut of those manners to make this site less stressful as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even if a woman messages a man first,without talking for a while you still don't know if you are going to be compatible. There may be no sexual attraction "

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