FabSwingers.com forum: why is this so crap

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is crap they start a covisation then when it comes too meeting they dont y am i doing something wrong ???

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"This is crap they start a covisation then when it comes too meeting they dont y am i doing something wrong ???

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Dunno, are ya?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I dont no haveing general chit chat then nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 meets in 4 months is pretty good going for a single man - if all you hear on here is to be taken seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens, don't let it bother you,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone cant be borhered, fuck them off.

Her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I no but y join if ur just going to chat then say u want to meet then dont doesnt make sence

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Bloody cheek id leave that'll show them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think yourself lucky can't even say I've had a proper convo with anyone yet. It's guna happen don't let it get to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to establish very early on what the intent is...

It's not a case of "I want to fuck you so you should also want to fuck me too"...

If the intent isn't there, then the convo is pointless.

And whoever said 2 meets in 4 months is good..if that's good I wouldn't be on this site...

Estabilish early on what the intent is, but that's STILL NOT a guarantee they are in fact, going to meet you.

It just means, "I'm interested at this point"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they're now too busy redacting their dictionaries?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Tryed that dont get a reply half the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a fake profile, that wold seem to be the most likely scenario for such a fast disappearing act!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A better offer came up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tryed that dont get a reply half the time "

Well then that tells you everything you need to know.

Move on..

Actually READ profiles.

MAKE SURE they are a good match and you are LIKELY to be what they **might** be interested in.

Honestly, guys would do a LOT better if they read fucking profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 meets in 4 months is pretty good going for a single man - if all you hear on here is to be taken seriously

1 meet per two months....I'd call that pretty poor! So maybe the OP is doing something is wrong?

Whinging on here is one wrong thing.... Not good form!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe get your messages proof read ? Picky. . But there's a whole thread that seems to conclude that well written stuff puts you ahead of the rest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do that still dont work

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By *luezuluMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

Happens to the best of us.

Get over it and move on fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens to the best of us.

Get over it and move on fella"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tryed that dont get a reply half the time

Well then that tells you everything you need to know.

Move on..

Actually READ profiles.

MAKE SURE they are a good match and you are LIKELY to be what they **might** be interested in.

Honestly, guys would do a LOT better if they read fucking profiles."

Well said my lovely

Saves you sending loads of messages to random women and getting disheartened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe get your messages proof read ? Picky. . But there's a whole thread that seems to conclude that well written stuff puts you ahead of the rest "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is crap they start a covisation then when it comes too meeting they dont y am i doing something wrong ???

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happening to me now.. She strings me along trhen when i think a meet is on... It isn't .. Bit frustrating as sehe poss veris. So she meets others and not me. . I'll wait for her to reply and if she doesn't .. I'll Move on.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"This is crap they start a covisation then when it comes too meeting they dont y am i doing something wrong ???

This is why some women behave like this. Because some men let them.

If a woman is chatting and not meeting you, but is meeting other men, she doesn't want to meet you. Sorry to be blunt but that's the way it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear what your saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I read profiles, I am respectful, dont send cock pics and basically I'm not a arse.

Still nothing, its probably nothing us guys are doing wrong. If I get let down it doesn't normally bother me... but 3 times in one week is just taking the piss.

So, you're not the only one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes people get busy with real life stuff x

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

You have only been on here for a few months, but have already got a couple of verifications.

Good for you, that is good going, but you still have to do more. You just can't sit back and think all the hard work has been done; it is only just starting!

You gave to SELL YOURSELF! That means always rechecking your profile and tweaking it periodically.

Thus get rid of the cock pics; leave them to Private use. Get a face pic up so that people can see what you look like.

You say you can't accommodate but don't state why. That puts people off so you have to honest and say so, otherwise people could jump to wrong conclusions.

Get to socials or clubs in your area, get into the Forums. It is all about getting noticed.

Against the law of averages, you have been lucky do far, but you still have to put in a lot of effort to achieve more success.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is crap they start a covisation then when it comes too meeting they dont y am i doing something wrong ???

happening to me now.. She strings me along trhen when i think a meet is on... It isn't .. Bit frustrating as sehe poss veris. So she meets others and not me. . I'll wait for her to reply and if she doesn't .. I'll Move on. This is why some women behave like this. Because some men let them. If a woman is chatting and not meeting you, but is meeting other men, she doesn't want to meet you. Sorry to be blunt but that's the way it is. "
well... yes, i was pointing out to the op that this happens and he's not the only one it happens to, and gave him advice to move on... Didnt I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is crap they start a covisation then when it comes too meeting they dont y am i doing something wrong ???

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By *horshiperMan
over a year ago

London

There seems to be a bit of spelling issue - my head hurts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is crap they start a covisation then when it comes too meeting they dont y am i doing something wrong ???

This is why some women behave like this. Because some men let them.

If a woman is chatting and not meeting you, but is meeting other men, she doesn't want to meet you. Sorry to be blunt but that's the way it is. "

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

It's all good to agree a meet, just don't mention the "when" word, that's the real conversation killer......makes em go offline and everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There seems to be a bit of spelling issue - my head hurts

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grammar issues too..

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By *ancblue28Man
over a year ago

manchester

"This is crap they start a covisation then when it comes too meeting they dont y am i doing something wrong ???

Trying too hard possibly mate?

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

"There seems to be a bit of spelling issue - my head hurts

I meant to include this in my response above.

Your Profile text is one long long sentence with no breaks, no punctuation and poor spelling.

Whilst this may be considered picky by some, it also sends out a message of not bothering to make an effort in projecting yourself as suitable.

Expand your Profile, including interests and so on. Break it down into sections or different sentences and get it spell checked too. Don't use text speak either.

A well constructed Profile is like a CV. Put it together well to get results.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I tell ladies up front early on that I'm not likely to meet. That gives them the option to stop the convo.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

"I tell ladies up front early on that I'm not likely to meet. That gives them the option to stop the convo. "

perhaps the op should let them know up front that he can't spell, giving them the option to stop the convo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Justas bad as when you do meet someone they dont validate you.?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Justas bad as when you do meet someone they dont validate you.?

Maybe they didn't like you after they had sex with you

maybe they just don't do veris

maybe they're just ignorant fuckers

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I no but y join if ur just going to chat then say u want to meet then dont doesnt make sence "

Stop with the sense of entitlement for a start!

I've stopped talking to men who became pushy, crude, changed their sexual orientation, bored me to tears...and more.

Registering on this site doesn't mean I have to take on all comers, so get over yourself!

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

"I no but y join if ur just going to chat then say u want to meet then dont doesnt make sence

Stop with the sense of entitlement for a start!

I've stopped talking to men who became pushy, crude, changed their sexual orientation, bored me to tears...and more.

Registering on this site doesn't mean I have to take on all comers, so get over yourself!

yea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another fairly generic comment talking about myself

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By *tew2009Man
over a year ago

wakefield

Have a look at their verifications before you contact them.If they've been on the site a while and haven't got any then they're probably timewasters/dreamers so don't bother with them...you're only stroking their egos and probably won't get anywhere...a few of the girls I've met have shown me their profiles and believe me they get 100s of messages.They could have sex 24 hours a day with as many men as they like!No veris probably means no meets...with anybody!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is hard, even if you do get and gop to a meet, the people you meet cant be bothered to validate you, so less meets. a vicious circle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The point of chatting is to see if there is any kind of attraction or connection. Having a message responded to isn't an automatic yes to meeting. That's what I'm having problems with at the moment. Men automatically assume that by responding I am going to meet them. Then after a short conversation when you have barely spoken they ask when do you want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I no but y join if ur just going to chat then say u want to meet then dont doesnt make sence

Stop with the sense of entitlement for a start!

I've stopped talking to men who became pushy, crude, changed their sexual orientation, bored me to tears...and more.

Registering on this site doesn't mean I have to take on all comers, so get over yourself!

I've stopped chatting to several for the same reasons!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some person will say yes .... And you see all the crap will be worth it .. So don't give up . xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The point of chatting is to see if there is any kind of attraction or connection. Having a message responded to isn't an automatic yes to meeting. That's what I'm having problems with at the moment. Men automatically assume that by responding I am going to meet them. Then after a short conversation when you have barely spoken they ask when do you want to meet"

this!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Those with less appeal will do worse than others.

One must expect chat so that all can determine who's a match but that not all can be.

I don't recline at home waiting for chit chat to start then rush em round to find me with my knickers down. Go to clubs and explore the real wimorld and see your competition in action and volume.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men drag me into conversation, I am just trying to be polite and say no thanks, then they continue saying that's fine. Only takes a couple more messages before they are back on to meeting. I try hard to tell them without sounding up my self (as we women are often referred to in the forum) and dont want to be ignorant. Eventually, I ignore or block. Point being maybe they were just trying to be polite, either ask their intentions or open your eyes and make sure you read the messages properly, not just be happy somebody is chatting. Maybe read between the lines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this! "

This is spot on. They message, you respond with you look nice, next message is when are we meeting!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 meets in 4 months is pretty good going for a single man - if all you hear on here is to be taken seriously

1 meet per two months....I'd call that pretty poor! So maybe the OP is doing something is wrong?

Whinging on here is one wrong thing.... Not good form!"

and you have just come across as a bit up your own arse - obviously you must have something extra special and get lots of meets - so many lovely sounding guys are on here for a long time trying to get meets and that precious first verification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is obvious and only an idiot would blow his chance this way.

I'm pissed off about arranging meets then for people to stand me up! I know things happen in their real lives and I understand this but its not hard to send a message just to say they cant make it instead of sitting around waiting all night for someone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 meets in 4 months is pretty good going for a single man - if all you hear on here is to be taken seriously

1 meet per two months....I'd call that pretty poor! So maybe the OP is doing something is wrong?

Whinging on here is one wrong thing.... Not good form!

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on and off here for 5 years and only had 3 meets. It's totally shockin! Single guys get it so tough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on and off here for 5 years and only had 3 meets. It's totally shockin! Single guys get it so tough "

You don't have to be single.

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