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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

how do you define a swinger?

we personally think thats cpls are swingers.

singles arent?

im not having a go at singles we have met both single fems and single guys but im just saying a single isnt a swinger?

ok let the sparks fly .,... lol

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to, it's such a horrible, 60s / 70s name.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"how do you define a swinger?

we personally think thats cpls are swingers.

singles arent?

im not having a go at singles we have met both single fems and single guys but im just saying a single isnt a swinger?

ok let the sparks fly .,... lol

auds xx "

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/19896

il come back to this later lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that said, check point 3:

swing·er (swngr)

n.

1. One that swings: a good swinger of baseball bats.

2. Slang

a. A person who actively seeks excitement and moves with the latest trends.

b. A person who engages freely in promiscuous sex.

c. A member of a couple, especially a married couple, who exchanges sexual partners.

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By *rPandSlutCouple
over a year ago

wakefield

i know what you mean but i think both sngles and couples are swingers... all though singles i suppose you could call players or something similar.... not meanig to offend.

but ye we are all swingers... you're not getting out of the tarring that easy you singles you x lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

players,,,i like lol

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

say swinger, I think Austin Powers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back in the days of yore, when "swinging" was another name for "wife swapping", you could be right in saying that singles aren't swingers

However, all things evolve over the passing of time and now I am more ready to accept single status people as swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I hate the term swinger and don't class myself as one

70s parties where you all chuck your keys in the fruit bowl comes to mind

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I hate the term swinger and don't class myself as one

70s parties where you all chuck your keys in the fruit bowl comes to mind

"

I know what you mean.

I mean really, who has a fruit bowl these days!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"I hate the term swinger and don't class myself as one

70s parties where you all chuck your keys in the fruit bowl comes to mind

I know what you mean.

I mean really, who has a fruit bowl these days!"

Or nylon flares?.....ok don't answer that one

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish


"i know what you mean but i think both sngles and couples are swingers... all though singles i suppose you could call players or something similar.... not meanig to offend.

but ye we are all swingers... you're not getting out of the tarring that easy you singles you x lol "

to me "player" has a negative conotation...someone who will say anything to get you to sleep with them...I would rather not be thought of as a player...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how do you define a swinger?

we personally think thats cpls are swingers.

singles arent?

im not having a go at singles we have met both single fems and single guys but im just saying a single isnt a swinger?

ok let the sparks fly .,... lol

auds xx "

Its a matter of choice. What is in a word anyway and why should anyone really care?

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By *rPandSlutCouple
over a year ago

wakefield

Thats why i said i suppose.... i wouldnt call singles players.... or swingers... i just think we are all fun timers to be honest.... very open minded ones

xxx bonny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single and don't consider myself a swinger...perhaps the whole thing needs re-thingking, who mwants to draft the memo to the world?

i think a single joining in or on a 1-1 is more of a play-mate

i dont feel upset by the op suggesting it's a couple thing...being single or a couple both has it merits and de-merits and the site certainly doesnt preclude either....but it would be a little more testing to google fabswingersandplaymatesandeveryoneelsewhodontwantalabel.com

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

A lady on here calls herself a swingle instead, which I thought sounded good

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area

seems that without us single none affiliated cocks for loan having accomodation we share for the benefit of the swinging couples community there wouldnt be a great deal of it going on to be excluded from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seems that without us single none affiliated cocks for loan having accomodation we share for the benefit of the swinging couples community there wouldnt be a great deal of it going on to be excluded from

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There are plenty of hotels about to play in. I have has some great times in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the term couples, it has long been used to describe married men and women, men and women walking out together, men and women who are engaged to be married in the 21st couples come in many forms, 2 gay men co-habitating and enjoying a relationship, men and women who get together for social events etc

I hate pro-argin formula, what does that do for my skin and hair, what is the formula what is it made from.

I hate the term White van man.

Life without labels is a bit difficult,

I need to cook breakfast oh hang on that's a label, I am going to buy some tins of, well who knows they haven't got labels on them.

Swingers ........ it was once used to describe couples who join a another couple or more to have consensual sex, whoopee, just a label to help us see what people are talking about.

We prefer to say we are swingers, than describe ourselves as "hi we are a couple who sometimes have sex with other like minded couples and occasionally with like minded singles".

The label came about in the 60s but swinging itself has been going on for thousands of years, it has evolved as all good things do, now it covers many things that people enjoy, BDSM, Cuckolding, FFM 3somes, MMF 3somes, Voyeurism, Exhibitionism, Bukake, Gangbangs, Dogging and much more.

So yes, for us swinging is a good term loosely describing people liberated in sexual thought and freedom be they couples or singles.

I would rather consider myself labelled a swinger who has fun with his partners consent than, a peeping tom (voyeurism) wierdo/pervert (BDSM), Nymphomaniac (not satisified with one partner)

Those who don't consider singles swingers, can I ask, how puritan are you, (that is not a derogatory question) how pure are your ideals about swinging ?

If a couple meet another couple and the guys watch the girls together then have sex with thier own partner, are they swingers ? if not what are they ?

If a couple meet another couple and one guy just likes to watch the other 3 have sex, are they swingers, what are they ?

If a couple only ever invite a single woman to join them, are they swingers, and what is the woman they have invited, a sex toy perhaps ?

If a couple only ever invite single males to join them, are they swingers, if not what are they ?

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

Great post above me highlighting some of the difficulties of labels

Personally I'd call myself a swingle as I use this medium to meet couples and more, and singles who may wish to join me with other people.

If I was only meeting singles to play one on one then I might not , though as has already been said the term swinger has evolved from simply "wife swapping" . I certainly wouldn't relish picking up singles in a bar for example ,at least here I hope people will have a similar view of what this is all about

if the cap fits wear it ... If not, then try a condom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single swinger = Swingle

Best description I've seen of them.

Some couples, who are committed swingers, split up but they still want to indulge, they're still swingers, just single swingers. Swingles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmm...I wonder what the couples that seem to need others to enhance their sex lives would do if there weren't single people to play with.

Perish the thought...only play with each other?!!

Not having a go mind, each to their own, personal preferences and all that...just wondering!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the term Swinger is a little out dated now, I'm more of an indulger

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Hmmmm...I wonder what the couples that seem to need others to enhance their sex lives would do if there weren't single people to play with.

Perish the thought...only play with each other?!!

Not having a go mind, each to their own, personal preferences and all that...just wondering!! "

I don't know about other couples but we don't NEED other people to play with to enhance our sex life, but we choose someone now and then to have extra fun.

If there was no one out there to play our games, our sex life wouldn't suffer as we have each other.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Swinger.... the person.

Swinging.... the activity.

I believe a true swinger is someone who believes in recreational sex AND that relationships should not restrict sexual activity to being between the 2 people in the relationship.... for ever and ever amen.

Thus a person can be a swinger, if they continue to hold the same belief, even when not in a relationship.

Swinging (the activity) is just an indication that two or more of the people involved (directly or indirectly) in the sexual activity are in a pre-existing relationship (which allows for additional sexual partners to be introduced to sexual activity).

There is a big difference between two (or even four) singles having recreational sex and two couples having recreational sex with each other. The difference is not what happens in the bedroom.... it is what happens in the mind. The couples must believe in swinging (see above for a lose definition) for the four of them to have sex.... the singles do not need to share the same belief to get it on.

How many times have we seen the "I'll shag your Mrs but no way would I let any girlie of mine suck another guy's cock"..... this 'type' to me are not swingers.

Conclusion - singles can be swingers even if they cannot swing.

Singles having sex is just that…. sex. It requires no more values and beliefs than any Tom Dick or Janet out on the pull in town on a Saturday night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmm...I wonder what the couples that seem to need others to enhance their sex lives would do if there weren't single people to play with.

Perish the thought...only play with each other?!!

Not having a go mind, each to their own, personal preferences and all that...just wondering!!

I don't know about other couples but we don't NEED other people to play with to enhance our sex life, but we choose someone now and then to have extra fun.

If there was no one out there to play our games, our sex life wouldn't suffer as we have each other."

Totally agree with Rugby... took the words right out of our mouths

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmm...I wonder what the couples that seem to need others to enhance their sex lives would do if there weren't single people to play with.

Perish the thought...only play with each other?!!

Not having a go mind, each to their own, personal preferences and all that...just wondering!!

I don't know about other couples but we don't NEED other people to play with to enhance our sex life, but we choose someone now and then to have extra fun.

If there was no one out there to play our games, our sex life wouldn't suffer as we have each other."

Note I didn't say ALL couples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you are conflating the term "swinger" with "swapper".

In other words if you haven't anyone to swap you aren't a proper swinger.

I see myself as a swinger I guess. But then I'm biased because I'm single. or swingle lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swingers" in our opinion relates to established couples, married or otherwise, fb`s not included.

Singles, again in our opinion, tag along for a "free ride", there, said it (off to the Anderson shelter for a wee while).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Swingers" in our opinion relates to established couples, married or otherwise, fb`s not included.

Singles, again in our opinion, tag along for a "free ride", there, said it (off to the Anderson shelter for a wee while).

"

Free ride?!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

O o O oo


"Hmmmm...I wonder what the couples that seem to need others to enhance their sex lives would do if there weren't single people to play with.

Perish the thought...only play with each other?!!

Not having a go mind, each to their own, personal preferences and all that...just wondering!!

I don't know about other couples but we don't NEED other people to play with to enhance our sex life, but we choose someone now and then to have extra fun.

If there was no one out there to play our games, our sex life wouldn't suffer as we have each other.

Note I didn't say ALL couples! "

Personally I think any couples who swing because they are missing something with your partner shouldn't be swinging.

The sad part is a lot of people think that couples do this because of that reason, and I am guessing for the majority that isn't the case.

We get the old " your man can't satisfy you so you are looking for others" a lot and that we also get from the couples we turn down who are looking for another female to join them.

I think it is an insult to be honest, but thats just me.

I don't see anyone saying singles are not allowed into swinging though so I don't know why there are some defensive posts about.

Whatever we are all on here for, it is allowed as long as it is legal.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Oh, I posted too late, someone just did say singles shouldn't be allowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am single and dont class myself as a swinger just a very greedy girl.

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire


"Oh, I posted too late, someone just did say singles shouldn't be allowed "

Keep up woman hehehehehehehehehe

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

O o O oo


"Oh, I posted too late, someone just did say singles shouldn't be allowed

Keep up woman hehehehehehehehehe"

I need faster fingers !!

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

LOL.....nope not going to say it

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

O o O oo


"LOL.....nope not going to say it"

Chicken !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Swingers" in our opinion relates to established couples, married or otherwise, fb`s not included.

Singles, again in our opinion, tag along for a "free ride", there, said it (off to the Anderson shelter for a wee while).

"

Ouch! lol

So singles really have no part in this scene?

Nice to know we are are makeweights and playthings for the anointed few lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I'm happy to tag along for a free ride.... it's better than paying for it.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

As a side note to this debate on who is considered a swinger!

"Swingle" already has its own definitions -

1 a wooden tool for beating flax and removing the woody parts from it

2 the swinging part of a flail

Definition 1 might be the one that the person who said singles shouldn't be in the scene would like i.e. they can use a Swingle to beat us all off the site with!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like a wooden tool at times lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Singles having sex is just that…. sex. It requires no more values and beliefs than any Tom Dick or Janet out on the pull in town on a Saturday night.

"

no more values? I am single and I have single sex. the reason i use this site is because i do have a different set of values to those that go out on a saturday night, get d*unk and have a quick fumble with a complete stranger whose name they will never remember and repeating this event so regularly that they dont recall how many they've had. No call to them, if that satisfies them, then crack on and no harm done to me.

i value myself and sex to the point that I would rather meet a few playmates who i can establish something mutually satisfactory with based on total respect and understanding.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

[Removed by poster at 12/08/10 15:40:04]

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


""Swingers" in our opinion relates to established couples, married or otherwise, fb`s not included.

Singles, again in our opinion, tag along for a "free ride", there, said it (off to the Anderson shelter for a wee while).

The insinuation is that the single is getting a 'free ride' with the partner.

If that's true however, then so is the converse - the partner is getting a 'free ride' with the single.

Thus making the statement redundant.

Free ride?!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

libertine, hedonist, swinger call it what you want but early examples are nearly all single or married men playing away.

Casanova, Marquis de Sade, Lord Byron etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmm...I wonder what the couples that seem to need others to enhance their sex lives would do if there weren't single people to play with.

Perish the thought...only play with each other?!!

Not having a go mind, each to their own, personal preferences and all that...just wondering!! "

I don't need to enhance my sex life, I like to enhance my sex life.

As for not wanting to play with my partner, I turn down at least 8 couples a day because the "magic" isn't there and I prefer playing with my partner where the magic is ALWAYS there.

We don't meet single women or single men off the internet but occasionally play with them when we meet them at a club, because sometimes that's how our mood is.

We play with others perhaps once every 3 months, or 3 times a week if we meet the right people at the right time, we have sex with each other every day.

That's us can't speak for anyone else.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Singles having sex is just that…. sex. It requires no more values and beliefs than any Tom Dick or Janet out on the pull in town on a Saturday night.

no more values? I am single and I have single sex. the reason i use this site is because i do have a different set of values to those that go out on a saturday night, get d*unk and have a quick fumble with a complete stranger whose name they will never remember and repeating this event so regularly that they dont recall how many they've had. No call to them, if that satisfies them, then crack on and no harm done to me.

i value myself and sex to the point that I would rather meet a few playmates who i can establish something mutually satisfactory with based on total respect and understanding.

"

And who is to say Tom, Dick and Janet don't want that?

Recreational sex is recreational sex... no matter where you get it, how often you get it or how many you get it from.

In the context of the comment.... singles having recreational sex do not need to believe in 'swinging' to have a bit of rumpy pumpy.... couples having rumpy pumpy with additional people to their pertner do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmm...I wonder what the couples that seem to need others to enhance their sex lives would do if there weren't single people to play with.

Perish the thought...only play with each other?!!

Not having a go mind, each to their own, personal preferences and all that...just wondering!!

I don't know about other couples but we don't NEED other people to play with to enhance our sex life, but we choose someone now and then to have extra fun.

If there was no one out there to play our games, our sex life wouldn't suffer as we have each other.

Note I didn't say ALL couples!

Personally I think any couples who swing because they are missing something with your partner shouldn't be swinging.

The sad part is a lot of people think that couples do this because of that reason, and I am guessing for the majority that isn't the case.

We get the old " your man can't satisfy you so you are looking for others" a lot and that we also get from the couples we turn down who are looking for another female to join them.

I think it is an insult to be honest, but thats just me.

I don't see anyone saying singles are not allowed into swinging though so I don't know why there are some defensive posts about.

Whatever we are all on here for, it is allowed as long as it is legal."

We've had variations of this conversation before, when you asked me personally if I thought you did MFM because I thought your OH was some how lacking.

I said - honestly - it never crossed my mind.

You only have to read some posts on here, usually on a Sunday, after a couple have had a no show to get the impression that they were really gutted the other party(ies) didn't turn up, and almost as an aside it's, oh well, at least my partner was there, so at least I got a shag. Whilst other couples bounce on having a no show and they couldn't give a monkies as they had a brilliant night just the two of them.

It's a matter of perception!

I don't play with couples so I could care less, people have told me I should be on a fetish site could care even less.

I'm here for my enjoyment, and people get defensive when others try to take a lofty attitude about who should and shouldn't swing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmmm...I wonder what the couples that seem to need others to enhance their sex lives would do if there weren't single people to play with.

Perish the thought...only play with each other?!!

Not having a go mind, each to their own, personal preferences and all that...just wondering!!

I don't know about other couples but we don't NEED other people to play with to enhance our sex life, but we choose someone now and then to have extra fun.

If there was no one out there to play our games, our sex life wouldn't suffer as we have each other.

Note I didn't say ALL couples!

Personally I think any couples who swing because they are missing something with your partner shouldn't be swinging.

The sad part is a lot of people think that couples do this because of that reason, and I am guessing for the majority that isn't the case.

We get the old " your man can't satisfy you so you are looking for others" a lot and that we also get from the couples we turn down who are looking for another female to join them.

I think it is an insult to be honest, but thats just me.

I don't see anyone saying singles are not allowed into swinging though so I don't know why there are some defensive posts about.

Whatever we are all on here for, it is allowed as long as it is legal."

Singles get defensive because some people say they are not swingers in a site called fabswingers so do the math.

There is an underlining element of resentment by some coupled towards single males. People can deny it all they like but it is a fact.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

O o O oo


"Hmmmm...I wonder what the couples that seem to need others to enhance their sex lives would do if there weren't single people to play with.

Perish the thought...only play with each other?!!

Not having a go mind, each to their own, personal preferences and all that...just wondering!!

I don't know about other couples but we don't NEED other people to play with to enhance our sex life, but we choose someone now and then to have extra fun.

If there was no one out there to play our games, our sex life wouldn't suffer as we have each other.

Note I didn't say ALL couples!

Personally I think any couples who swing because they are missing something with your partner shouldn't be swinging.

The sad part is a lot of people think that couples do this because of that reason, and I am guessing for the majority that isn't the case.

We get the old " your man can't satisfy you so you are looking for others" a lot and that we also get from the couples we turn down who are looking for another female to join them.

I think it is an insult to be honest, but thats just me.

I don't see anyone saying singles are not allowed into swinging though so I don't know why there are some defensive posts about.

Whatever we are all on here for, it is allowed as long as it is legal.

We've had variations of this conversation before, when you asked me personally if I thought you did MFM because I thought your OH was some how lacking.

I said - honestly - it never crossed my mind.

You only have to read some posts on here, usually on a Sunday, after a couple have had a no show to get the impression that they were really gutted the other party(ies) didn't turn up, and almost as an aside it's, oh well, at least my partner was there, so at least I got a shag. Whilst other couples bounce on having a no show and they couldn't give a monkies as they had a brilliant night just the two of them.

It's a matter of perception!

I don't play with couples so I could care less, people have told me I should be on a fetish site could care even less.

I'm here for my enjoyment, and people get defensive when others try to take a lofty attitude about who should and shouldn't swing! "

To be honest, not remembering the conversation, but maybe then as now it might have been your comments that made me ask you.

I am guessing though on the other point, that a no show is a pain in the arse and could be described as dissapointing or even that the person was gutted.

For us, me especially I get a whole bunch of nerves and exceitment mixed when going on a meet, it is a build up thing, so by the time the person is meant to be at the meeting place I would be well ready for a horny meet.....so I think it would be disappointing if they bailed, even if I did have the OH here too.

I now agree, that there are a couple of lofty attitudes of swinging on this thread, so you were right on that one, I had typed my answer before I saw the first one.

As you say, and I have said, as long as it is legal everyone is allowed on the site,there was one time we got told we shouldn't be here either as we don't play with couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is gettin "heavy man"

Free love n peace to all

Who said the "fun" had gone out of the forums????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you say, and I have said, as long as it is legal everyone is allowed on the site,there was one time we got told we shouldn't be here either as we don't play with couples."

my mum would disagree with that....she'd say none of us should be on here

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"how do you define a swinger?

we personally think thats cpls are swingers.

singles arent?

im not having a go at singles we have met both single fems and single guys but im just saying a single isnt a swinger?

ok let the sparks fly .,... lol

auds xx "

There is a pub called "The Swinger" on the outskirts of Nottingham on the road to Hucknall. It used to be the tram terminus and the term "Swinger" referred to the swinging of the pole that carried the power so that it faced backwards instead of forwards so that the tram could go back instead of turning around. That's how the pub got the name Swinger anyway.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I drive my car pretty fast... it don't make me a racing driver and I don't give a shit that it doesn't.

If singles become overly defensive about being told they are not swinging or a swinger even.... then they really should first look to themselves as to why the label is so important to them.

To 'some' I am sure it is just to try to sanitise the simple fact they are having casual/recreational sex, thinking the label somehow moves them a place or two up some sort of shaggers hierarchy.

If course there will be couples who think singles are not swingers… I know a few couples who barely fit the label of human. But being a couple does not a swinger make… is the partner (male or female) who goes along with it for fear of their partner fecking off and leaving them really a swinger? I think not.

Not all singles on swinging sites are swingers (imho), equally not all couples on swinging sites are swingers…. even though they take part in the activity of swinging.

However, couples who think singles have no place on the swinging scene…….. well you really should give yourself a slap (and make it a right proper hard one) for being so closed minded about the boundaries of recreational sex.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"As you say, and I have said, as long as it is legal everyone is allowed on the site,there was one time we got told we shouldn't be here either as we don't play with couples.

my mum would disagree with that....she'd say none of us should be on here

"

I would imagine a lot of mums would say the same thing

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"As you say, and I have said, as long as it is legal everyone is allowed on the site,there was one time we got told we shouldn't be here either as we don't play with couples.

my mum would disagree with that....she'd say none of us should be on here

"

Your mum used to be great fun on here, one of the best forumites we had.

Then she had to delete her profile 'cos you showed up...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you say, and I have said, as long as it is legal everyone is allowed on the site,there was one time we got told we shouldn't be here either as we don't play with couples.

my mum would disagree with that....she'd say none of us should be on here

Your mum used to be great fun on here, one of the best forumites we had.

Then she had to delete her profile 'cos you showed up...

"

aww, will pass it on, though must say.....she wasnt as complimentary of you....

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"As you say, and I have said, as long as it is legal everyone is allowed on the site,there was one time we got told we shouldn't be here either as we don't play with couples.

my mum would disagree with that....she'd say none of us should be on here

Your mum used to be great fun on here, one of the best forumites we had.

Then she had to delete her profile 'cos you showed up...

aww, will pass it on, though must say.....she wasnt as complimentary of you...."

We had our differences of opinion, i'll grant you that.

And if i'm being honest about it i was a bit of a tosser back in those days so she's probably right.

*waits for the OBVIOUS response*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

We had our differences of opinion, i'll grant you that.

And if i'm being honest about it i was a bit of a tosser back in those days so she's probably right.

*waits for the OBVIOUS response*"

it wasnt your opinion that she spoke lowly of...like most women, she doesn't really listen, just waits for the pause in the sentence so she can cut in.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"

We had our differences of opinion, i'll grant you that.

And if i'm being honest about it i was a bit of a tosser back in those days so she's probably right.

*waits for the OBVIOUS response*

it wasnt your opinion that she spoke lowly of...like most women, she doesn't really listen, just waits for the pause in the sentence so she can cut in.

"

'so she can cut in' and TELL me what i think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from the site being called fabswingers, that's the closest some people here get to being a 'swinger'(however you define it)

I know of couples who are here just to socialise, and singles are the same, no difference. How would you label them, not true 'swingers'?

I'm here for no strings fun, no relationships. But I want fun in a safe mutually satisfying community where no questions are asked and a person's not judged.

I don't class myself as a swinger or a swingle or hedonist now. I'm an opportunist, I take the opportunity to meet others wanting casual sex in a social open-minded environment.

Everyone knows what they want from the site and why they are here, this site is ours, how we use it is up to the individual.

Attempting to label any group as the only true swingers is like trying to knit fog. Impossible.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"say swinger, I think Austin Powers "

Do I make you horny baby, do I?

Oh behave!!!

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