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When you go so long without sex you get scared of it...

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

How do you deal with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I would be after no sex with my husband for a few years but when it came to it I was fine. It was with someone I knew from my teenage years and I had drank a few JDs. It was kissing him I wanted more than sex but once we started it was bloody amazing. I don't suffer nerves with men though

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are you scared of hun?

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By *ancblue28Man
over a year ago

manchester


"How do you deal with it?"

Wouldn't be scared...more worried I would last about 10 seconds lol

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"What are you scared of hun? "

Not me personally. It's something I've been discussing with a recently divorced friend.

I've been nervous after a long spell without but I've not been panic stricken at the thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there."

What about if you saw a really scarey cock?...

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.

What about if you saw a really scarey cock?..."
Cocks are easy to deal with.....faces however are a totally different ball game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.

What about if you saw a really scarey cock?...Cocks are easy to deal with.....faces however are a totally different ball game. "

Don't you ask for face pics before you meet?...is that you're really saying?....

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.

What about if you saw a really scarey cock?...Cocks are easy to deal with.....faces however are a totally different ball game.

Don't you ask for face pics before you meet?...is that you're really saying?.... "
Now stop being a cock.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gradually

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By *horshiperMan
over a year ago

London

There is no need to be scared if the person is right for you its all clicks into place naturally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.

What about if you saw a really scarey cock?...Cocks are easy to deal with.....faces however are a totally different ball game.

Don't you ask for face pics before you meet?...is that you're really saying?.... Now stop being a cock....... "

ahaha

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there."

I think it's more performance anxiety. If you've come out of a long marriage to someone who wasn't interested in you sexually, I can see how you'd worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no need to be scared if the person is right for you its all clicks into place naturally "

That wasn't my experience of it.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.

I think it's more performance anxiety. If you've come out of a long marriage to someone who wasn't interested in you sexually, I can see how you'd worry."
Hmmm maybe, it made me the opposite, but I can see how it might, lack of confidence sexually so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are you scared of hun?

Not me personally. It's something I've been discussing with a recently divorced friend.

I've been nervous after a long spell without but I've not been panic stricken at the thought."

Well sex with a new partner, whether it be a new boyfriend/girlfriend or new fb on Fab will always be daunting. But the end of the day it still comes down to the same thing. Suck it, lick it, fuck it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.

I think it's more performance anxiety. If you've come out of a long marriage to someone who wasn't interested in you sexually, I can see how you'd worry."

You're right. That's how I experienced it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After almost a year I was quite nervous but a few drinks sorted that out, my only problem was being way to excited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.

What about if you saw a really scarey cock?...Cocks are easy to deal with.....faces however are a totally different ball game.

Don't you ask for face pics before you meet?...is that you're really saying?.... Now stop being a cock.......

ahaha "
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After almost a year I was quite nervous but a few drinks sorted that out, my only problem was being way to excited "

A few drinks was the worst thing I could do.

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By *horshiperMan
over a year ago

London


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.

I think it's more performance anxiety. If you've come out of a long marriage to someone who wasn't interested in you sexually, I can see how you'd worry.

You're right. That's how I experienced it."

Surely the other person can take that anxiety away communication is the key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are you scared of hun?

Not me personally. It's something I've been discussing with a recently divorced friend.

I've been nervous after a long spell without but I've not been panic stricken at the thought."

I was very scared and nervous when I joined. When I was waiting for my first meet, to turn up, I was literally shaking. Luckily, he turned out to be a nice guy and subsequent meets have been good too. hope your friend will be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you find the wright person I am sure things will just click into place .. And it will come back , xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After almost a year I was quite nervous but a few drinks sorted that out, my only problem was being way to excited

A few drinks was the worst thing I could do."
oh I do wish I could turn back time, we did it once......did it twice....Zzzzz lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.

What about if you saw a really scarey cock?...Cocks are easy to deal with.....faces however are a totally different ball game.

Don't you ask for face pics before you meet?...is that you're really saying?.... Now stop being a cock....... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.

I think it's more performance anxiety. If you've come out of a long marriage to someone who wasn't interested in you sexually, I can see how you'd worry.Hmmm maybe, it made me the opposite, but I can see how it might, lack of confidence sexually so to speak."

Me too. I couldn't wait to get naked with someone who actually wanted me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're scared of sex wouldn't it add to your overall excitement?

I don't know, but I guess I'm a face your fears kind of a guy.

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By *ee Viante OP   Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"What are you scared of hun?

Not me personally. It's something I've been discussing with a recently divorced friend.

I've been nervous after a long spell without but I've not been panic stricken at the thought.

I was very scared and nervous when I joined. When I was waiting for my first meet, to turn up, I was literally shaking. Luckily, he turned out to be a nice guy and subsequent meets have been good too. hope your friend will be ok "

Over-thinking it is probably the worst thing to do. You can talk yourself into all sorts of problems if given the chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not that bothered about sex really and can go long time without it, it prob will just last less than 2 min anyway. I go in with the mentality of quick in quick out and I have a glass of wine before to relax my nerves abit lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think about sex if i have not had it, i like that, it works

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you deal with it?"

Sex What's that?..its been a very long time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you deal with it?"

I tend to lose my sexual mojo and the lack off.... no longer bothers me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah i know the feelings. been almost 3yrs now without even a cuddle.

Hate it.

32 and fear the next time if there is a next time, definitely feel i wouldnt last 10 seconds either which obviously put off any potential partners off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.

I think it's more performance anxiety. If you've come out of a long marriage to someone who wasn't interested in you sexually, I can see how you'd worry.Hmmm maybe, it made me the opposite, but I can see how it might, lack of confidence sexually so to speak."
made me the opposite as well with some insecurities at the start.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Surely it's like riding a bike.... or is that the wrong analogy to use

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every meet I get nervous. Will I live up to the other persons expectations, will I be considerate enough, will I be able to read and react to their every move. I overthink it too sometimes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you deal with it?"

For me, the longer it goes you sub conscientiously end up avoiding it for fear of been rubbish.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I hadn't had sex for 2 years before I joined fab and when I got a meet with a couple, I was probably more nervous than anything but in my head I pretended I had sex with strangers all the time and sort of fooled myself in to relaxing and it worked. The meet went fine and I've not looked back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the longer I go without sex the more confident and rampant I get and just want a lovely woman with a greedy pussy to give my cock and balls a good wringing out

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never been scared of it but years ago - before really good had been discovered and i was with the ex i used to go through phases of thinking sex was silly - pointless - to the point i used to mock it - ive learnt the error of my ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Every meet I get nervous. Will I live up to the other persons expectations, will I be considerate enough, will I be able to read and react to their every move. I overthink it too sometimes..."

Same here but then the nerves easy and I relax. Have found that talking to people helps greatly as a single bloke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought I would be after no sex with my husband for a few years but when it came to it I was fine. It was with someone I knew from my teenage years and I had drank a few JDs. It was kissing him I wanted more than sex but once we started it was bloody amazing. I don't suffer nerves with men though "

I was the same as this. I hadn't had sex for a few years before and after the end of my marriage. I met an old friend and once we started, I wondered what I had been worried about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a long break I wasn't scared of the sex. I was more worried about killing him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went for several years without for many reasons, but when it was time to jump back on the horse again I was terrified, mostly due to over thinking the whole thing. When I did do it in the end it was quite spontaneous so I had no time to panic and talk myself out of it again and I surprised myself at how naturally it came. Your friend needs to stop putting pressure on herself and just let it happen naturally, good luck to her xx

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By *rShinyKnickersMan
over a year ago

BARRY

I'm crapping myself!! Not literally, you understand, but nerves sometimes get the better of me. I tend to "give" even more than I usually do.

Not sure if that makes sense, but I'll put my hand up and say that I do get the nervousness ness ness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you deal with it?

For me, the longer it goes you sub conscientiously end up avoiding it for fear of been rubbish. "

That's what I thought until I had a great meet with a sexy lady no sex but my confidence grew ! My first on fab was a party ? Which I had great fun and a laugh at but no sex ? My choice lol

Then I meet a lady where the switch was a bit rusty and made a massive click lol !! And our first time was just so natural and of course I held off the sex for as long as I could just incase it all went too quick ? But even that was amazing ! So I think it doesn't matter how long you go without ? It's the tempo of which you have the fun ! Slower the better first time back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm scared of being let down yet again

Opens legs means open my heart to me

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Mmm, interesting belief, just look past it by asking yourself, 'what would happen if you did have sex?'

Should loosen it up a little.

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