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Politeness and respect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you think it's sometimes it possible to be to polite to others. We know this a sex site as such but feel although the women on here whether single or part of a couple are here for sex that the should still be shown respect when being spoken to via message or phone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

all of us should respect and be polite to each other, man or woman.

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

Women on here should absolutely be treated with respect. As should couples and single men.

Unfortunately, the nature of the Internet makes it all too easy to verbally abuse people. Add that to the neanderthal attitudes of some members and we end up using the block button rather a lot

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"Do you think it's sometimes it possible to be to polite to others. We know this a sex site as such but feel although the women on here whether single or part of a couple are here for sex that the should still be shown respect when being spoken to via message or phone. "

People should be polite and respectful at

times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sadly

the internet has a lot to answer for and in some ways more than good.

yes everyone should be treated with respect and how they would like to be treated but most see this as the internet and just text

and its not cases ae coming in now about online internet bullying and i think people should think of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone should be treated with respect.

Sadly some are very brazen behind a computer.

Her

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Daft question aint it?

Answer seems obvious

YES

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

Being polite costs nowt and good manners can get you far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone should be treated with respect.

Sadly some are very brazen behind a computer.

Her"

I agree, I sometimes think some people don't actually realise they're talking to a real person with real feelings, not a computer. Its sad how rude some can be online.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Everyone should be treated with respect.

Sadly some are very brazen behind a computer.

Her

I agree, I sometimes think some people don't actually realise they're talking to a real person with real feelings, not a computer. Its sad how rude some can be online."

I also think people take the internet far too serious at times aswell, this being one of them.

We do however need to take it very serious at times what with hate crime, bullying, terrorism etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. I don't see why I deserve less respect when interacting on here than I do when I'm at work or out with non-swinging friends?

Or when messaging on here as opposed to a well known paid dating site. I'm the same person yet the difference in manners shown is stark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was always taught, treat people how you would be wanted to be treated yourself, simple and very easy to adhere to, if people choose differently then they have a problem, not me!!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I believe basic politeness and respect should be a given but everyone should also remember we all have different perspectives and experiences.

What one person expects on the grounds of what they think is polite isn't always a reasonable expectation to someone else.

Not doing what someone else wants is not being impolite, although forum posts often suggest it can be seen that way.

There may very well be a good reason for someone being "rude", it's just you don't understand because you can't see things from their point of _iew.

I give you the "not replying is rude" and "sending a reply is a basic courtesy" statements as examples. It shows a fundamental lack of understanding of why people don't always reply and an unreasonable sense of entitlement to another person's time.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"all of us should respect and be polite to each other, man or woman. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always polite and rwespectful to others here .... until they are nasty or abusive to me and then i block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat it as another filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some great replies. Both should come as standard irrespective of who is being spoken. A common basic value which is being lost with social networking and unfortunately will get worse. We can but try.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I am politeness incarnate on here. Recently have been told 'Not interested in silver or gold site members !' by a lady I said hello to.

I said it was 'fair enough and have lots of fun'. After I wondered if I had been a bit short with her

Generally though, I find politeness is reciprocated, but I am starting to wonder if it's because some are suprised that a single male isnt plain rude ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all down to being polite with good manners. "MANNERS MAKETH MAN" a very old saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners, respect and kindness, like everything else on here, are applied / given subjectively.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its crazy really, in real life and face to face you would stand no chance of chatting someone up by being rude and disrespectful, but via the internet folk seem to think that manners are outdated ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its crazy really, in real life and face to face you would stand no chance of chatting someone up by being rude and disrespectful, but via the internet folk seem to think that manners are outdated ffs "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its crazy really, in real life and face to face you would stand no chance of chatting someone up by being rude and disrespectful, but via the internet folk seem to think that manners are outdated ffs "

And in real life face to face you probably wouldn't get called a fat bitch for politely turning down a social!! Oh the wonderful world of the internet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its crazy really, in real life and face to face you would stand no chance of chatting someone up by being rude and disrespectful, but via the internet folk seem to think that manners are outdated ffs

And in real life face to face you probably wouldn't get called a fat bitch for politely turning down a social!! Oh the wonderful world of the internet!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it's sometimes it possible to be to polite to others. We know this a sex site as such but feel although the women on here whether single or part of a couple are here for sex that the should still be shown respect when being spoken to via message or phone. "

I don't think that this should be specific to women. I appreciate that a female perspective on this site is very different from a male one however I feel that men being in the vast majority and somewhat surplus or surfeit to requirements are dismissed out of hand on the whole. Respect sometimes is needed to be given too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its crazy really, in real life and face to face you would stand no chance of chatting someone up by being rude and disrespectful, but via the internet folk seem to think that manners are outdated ffs

And in real life face to face you probably wouldn't get called a fat bitch for politely turning down a social!! Oh the wonderful world of the internet!"
I did i called a slag, oh well, i thought

Her

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"sadly

the internet has a lot to answer for and in some ways more than good.

yes everyone should be treated with respect and how they would like to be treated but most see this as the internet and just text

and its not cases ae coming in now about online internet bullying and i think people should think of this

"

i quite agree and i know of 2 ladies lost to Fabs because "they were treated like meat" and not given respect

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

There is not a day goes past without people being treated with disrespect in forum posts based on one side of a story, usually depending on gender.

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By *ike4362ukMan
over a year ago

Cheshunt

Why should this even be questioned? Everybody is worthy of respect, irrespective of colour, religion, or sexuality. Over time it's an individual's actions and opinions that mark them worthy of continued respect.

In terms of swinging the cardinal rule is 'no means no'. It's inviolable. Even the most extreme kinks use safe words to enshrine that principle.

It's not difficult to be polite and respectful. If a lady is in to domination games there must be boundaries. The first one of which is that they are still ladies (not whores), no matter what other label is applied during the game.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Mostly people are polite and respectful. But we often focus on the few who are not.

It's like looking at a white square with a tiny black spot in the middle. We focus on the black spot and forget about all the white surrounding it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only had 1 very nasty message off a guy on here since I joined, we'd never spoken before and he told me I was an ugly c**t but if I got him d*unk enough he'd have to fuck me. I was horrified, needless to say I blocked him but he's a minority as most on here are respectful and polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most my replys are abusive. Starting to get a complex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all of us should respect and be polite to each other, man or woman. "

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By *icefellatwoMan
over a year ago

hastings


"I've only had 1 very nasty message off a guy on here since I joined, we'd never spoken before and he told me I was an ugly c**t but if I got him d*unk enough he'd have to fuck me. I was horrified, needless to say I blocked him but he's a minority as most on here are respectful and polite. "

He was probably looking in a mirror.

You are very attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've only had 1 very nasty message off a guy on here since I joined, we'd never spoken before and he told me I was an ugly c**t but if I got him d*unk enough he'd have to fuck me. I was horrified, needless to say I blocked him but he's a minority as most on here are respectful and polite.

He was probably looking in a mirror.

You are very attractive "

Thank you very much

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By * for KinkMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Do you think it's sometimes it possible to be to polite to others. We know this a sex site as such but feel although the women on here whether single or part of a couple are here for sex that the should still be shown respect when being spoken to via message or phone. "

Absolutely.

If single men, or couples, fail to be polite and respectful in their messages or telephone calls, then is there any likelihood that they will be polite and respectful if you are going to meet (I'm adding 'foolish enough to meet').

The respect side of things goes to include messaging to both partners in a couple, rather than simply the female and not getting shirty if you get a 'no thanks'.

I'm going to stick my neck out a bit and suggest that people should hit the report button more often; it might get rid of some of the d*cks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet anyone that I have no respect for (and there aren't many) or that have no respect for me, it may be a sex site, but I've got to like someone to want to fuck them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't meet anyone that I have no respect for (and there aren't many) or that have no respect for me, it may be a sex site, but I've got to like someone to want to fuck them "

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I am always polite however it seems to backfire, yesterday after explaining how I`m not really looking to meet I was told its just as well as I was below his usual standard and he wished me lots of luck as I would need it

then later on I was called an arrogant bitch for pretty much explaining the same thing to another guy, sooooo being polite doesn't always pay off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners cost nothing, always try to answer good mail, had some who have abused when i say no too a meet to them......guess that shows the real them......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I treat people the way I want to be treated here. And Good Manners don't cost nothing . I am the same off here and find it hard to understand why some get so nasty at times .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I treat people the same way I like to be treated with respect and politeness

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"I won't meet anyone that I have no respect for (and there aren't many) or that have no respect for me, it may be a sex site, but I've got to like someone to want to fuck them "

right on babe!

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