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By *ogerknightly OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Sub drop, does it exist. Have you suffered it and if you have, how did you cope with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't play Dom/Sub so don't know about sub drop. However, sometimes after great sex/play you go on a real high during and straight after. Then it can dip as you go back to reality. I think that is all perfectly normal and to do with endorphins.

I tend to cuddle up on the sofa with a movie, milky coffee, naughty maltesers. Remember what a great time I had and look forward to the next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, Sub Drop does exist. Its a return to reality, as noted already - like after some great Sex. Chocolate works well....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't play Dom/Sub so don't know about sub drop. However, sometimes after great sex/play you go on a real high during and straight after. Then it can dip as you go back to reality. I think that is all perfectly normal and to do with endorphins.

I tend to cuddle up on the sofa with a movie, milky coffee, naughty maltesers. Remember what a great time I had and look forward to the next time. "

There was a similar thread recently. It was good to find out a few people have experienced it. We're not alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

There was a similar thread recently. It was good to find out a few people have experienced it. We're not alone. "

Here you go - this one:

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/332187

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I learnt about it when an event run by Kink at the Atic crossed over with a party there. It looked pretty interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it does exist although it would be more accurately named endorphin drop or adrenalin drop.

I get the same drop after dealing with challenging situations at work but without the pleasent memories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get it the next day ...like a really bad hangover or a massive blood sugar dip...

I'm still in my sub infancy so any advice to reduce the effects would be appreciated x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it does exist although it would be more accurately named endorphin drop or adrenalin drop.

I get the same drop after dealing with challenging situations at work but without the pleasent memories."

That's a great point! Never thought of it in relation to work but that really makes sense. Thank you.

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Yes it does exist,after long spels of submission I sometimes got depressed fpr a couple of days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there was a thread about this the other day, can be very emotional after hard play, people need different things after, for me a cuddle, kisses etc help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it exists. It due to a sudden drop in the production of adrenaline and endorphins.

Everyone is different when it comes to dropping (dom drop is a thing too!) so everyone needs something different. Plan aftercare into your meets and playtime. Some people need holding with a hot water bottle, blanket and hot sweet drink. Some people need sweet food and a long chat. Some people need to revisit the scene days or weeks later if they take a while to process what happened. I sometimes find myself bouncing around wanting to try the next thing!

During the worst sub drop I suffered, I couldn't walk, talk and I was shaking uncontrollably. I was placed into a warm bath and held and stroked until I came to.

Make sure you communicate your aftercare needs before you start play to ensure your dom is prepared.

crystal

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Its not something I have experienced....but I do hope to pursue the bdsm side of my relationship in more depth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not into dom/sub but often suffer a sex hangover after a real high

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By *ogerknightly OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"Yes it exists. It due to a sudden drop in the production of adrenaline and endorphins.

Everyone is different when it comes to dropping (dom drop is a thing too!) so everyone needs something different. Plan aftercare into your meets and playtime. Some people need holding with a hot water bottle, blanket and hot sweet drink. Some people need sweet food and a long chat. Some people need to revisit the scene days or weeks later if they take a while to process what happened. I sometimes find myself bouncing around wanting to try the next thing!

During the worst sub drop I suffered, I couldn't walk, talk and I was shaking uncontrollably. I was placed into a warm bath and held and stroked until I came to.

Make sure you communicate your aftercare needs before you start play to ensure your dom is prepared.

crystal"

Beautifully explained

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it exists. It due to a sudden drop in the production of adrenaline and endorphins.

Everyone is different when it comes to dropping (dom drop is a thing too!) so everyone needs something different. Plan aftercare into your meets and playtime. Some people need holding with a hot water bottle, blanket and hot sweet drink. Some people need sweet food and a long chat. Some people need to revisit the scene days or weeks later if they take a while to process what happened. I sometimes find myself bouncing around wanting to try the next thing!

During the worst sub drop I suffered, I couldn't walk, talk and I was shaking uncontrollably. I was placed into a warm bath and held and stroked until I came to.

Make sure you communicate your aftercare needs before you start play to ensure your dom is prepared.

crystal

Beautifully explained"

Yup.... Thats it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its called ' la petit mort '

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its called ' la petit mort '

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is also such a thing as Dom drop too.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"I think its called ' la petit mort ' "

Little death is more about orgasm, particularly when it has been very intense. I have actually fainted with a lover.

Sub drop is more about the feelings when play ends - definitely exists, can be really miserable few days after a good meet where the endorphin drop is a very low spell. I find I am quite quiet and withdrawn, and a wee bit grumpy after it - but then I am like that after a good meet without the BDSM element.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adore bdsm and trying to find a new Dom but its proving very difficult. ... so many men pretend ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I adore bdsm and trying to find a new Dom but its proving very difficult. ... so many men pretend .... "

Fetlife it's just the place for you

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By *ominantDogMan
over a year ago

Docklands, Exmoor, Manchester


"I adore bdsm and trying to find a new Dom but its proving very difficult. ... so many men pretend ....

Fetlife it's just the place for you"

Firstly, OP, Sub Drop definitely exists and shows up in all manner of ways too numerous to list here.

Ownership of it for the Sub by the Dom is a crjucial aspect of any dynamic.

Like any interaction, no two are the same so effective communication, anticipation where possible, and understanding are required.

Ignore or dismiss it, and you should not be dominating anyone, ever.

The detail of sub drop, impact, significance and diversity of treatment been better encapsulated on this site by others, both on this thread and elsewhere, than I could.

Re. Fet life.

It works for some but is a little bit too global and therefore insufficiently targeted to be useful to those who actually want to meet.

Moreover it suffers from many of the same type of ills found on here I.e. plenty of fantasists and wannabes......

There are a lot of refugees from a site called Informed Consent, which was uk focused and rather wonderful, on there, (and perhaps on here), after that closed a few years ago. Search out those people as a first point of contact, if you want to meet real people.

happy to elaborate as required.

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