FabSwingers.com forum: too many verifications

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A few of us were having a conversation tonight about how some members of fab are put off by someone having too many veris! But have those complainants actually read them or known how long a couple/single have been on fab. I think we have over 60 odd which we have displayed. However, the majority are stating they have met us, but not played. And also we have been on the site for over 6 years. No one should judge or be put off by verification numbers, it just shows really that people glance over your profile and nothing else.

My point is, don't judge a book by its cover and not bother to read the bumph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?"

unfortunately, even on here, having read posts with the subject headings 'what puts you off profiles' a high percentage say too many veris! which led to the debate tonight x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its there choice...fair enough..for some though it is just jealousy.males...females...couples...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?

unfortunately, even on here, having read posts with the subject headings 'what puts you off profiles' a high percentage say too many veris! which led to the debate tonight x "

Up to them i suppose, i just don't understand it that's all. Some people are attractive to a lot of people and have a high enough sex drive and the time to meet them all.

Some people haven't been verified by all the people they have met though so even veris (and the amount of them) can be misleading.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Many ( us included) don't show all their veries.. So is all good and well people choosing profiles with the amount of veries they see as ok ... But they may have many more that are not on show so its not always what it seems ... Maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank goodness all our meets aren't with just fab members who verify us . We like dogging , clubs , parties , well all sorts really .

We closed our last account which reached 209 veri's after 2 years , and each and every one was a play veri as we don't do socials lol !

This time round in 18 months we have 163 play veri's , and we are fully aware that the quality over quantity brigade slate us for it .

Hey ho , we get out 3 times a week and often have up to 6 meets on a good night , which makes us very happy . This phase which has been a couple of months now , will change and we will have a break , or go back to a meet or two a week , because that's what will make us happy .

And that's all that matters to us , doing what makes us happy . In turn , those we meet are also happy - we hide nothing and are here for mutual fun .

The judgemental will judge us , the haters will hate us , but who cares ?

Certainly not us !

Happy swinging everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and as ever - each to their own - if you dont like a profile ignore it - if it appeals - get in there

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A quick glance at mine and some people might think I've got quite a few veris but on closer inspection, most are social and spread over 2 years.

I've a way to go before I can join my own '100 Club'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has preferences. Slating people that don't want to meet people with many veri's is just as judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?"

Risks, even if playing safe ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and as ever - each to their own - if you dont like a profile ignore it - if it appeals - get in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?

Risks, even if playing safe ? "

Maybe. Everyone is a risk though, even if they get tested regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank goodness all our meets aren't with just fab members who verify us . We like dogging , clubs , parties , well all sorts really .

We closed our last account which reached 209 veri's after 2 years , and each and every one was a play veri as we don't do socials lol !

This time round in 18 months we have 163 play veri's , and we are fully aware that the quality over quantity brigade slate us for it .

And that's all that matters to us , doing what makes us happy . In turn , those we meet are also happy - we hide nothing and are here for mutual fun .

The judgemental will judge us , the haters will hate us , but who cares ?

Certainly not us !

Happy swinging everyone

We are like you..our veries certainly Dont equal meets we have had... We get turned down occasionally for having to many meets but on the whole we Dont care x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like reading peoples veries so wouldnt bother me if there was a few.

There is worse things in my eyes that can put people off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank goodness all our meets aren't with just fab members who verify us . We like dogging , clubs , parties , well all sorts really .

We closed our last account which reached 209 veri's after 2 years , and each and every one was a play veri as we don't do socials lol !

This time round in 18 months we have 163 play veri's , and we are fully aware that the quality over quantity brigade slate us for it .

And that's all that matters to us , doing what makes us happy . In turn , those we meet are also happy - we hide nothing and are here for mutual fun .

The judgemental will judge us , the haters will hate us , but who cares ?

Certainly not us !

Happy swinging everyone

Cool

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?

Risks, even if playing safe ? "

It's all risky. Yes, the probability increases the more you do but the chances of an STI from many social verifications is relatively low.

I have loads of verifications as I have been going to large socials. I'm just not displaying them all now. Does that make me a better, safer bet?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Who would have thought it, people joining a swinging site to find others who want sex with them and then do just that.......and then some members turn their nose up at the people joining a swinging site to find others who want sex with them and then do just that.

Carry on doing what is fun for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was chatting to a nice couple,swapped pics etc,bit of sexy banter and they said they wouldn't meet me as someone who had verified me had too many veri's herself!

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?

Risks, even if playing safe ? "

I have an idea....to stay safe we could just stick to one partner each.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?

Risks, even if playing safe ? "

Logistically one would think so , but right from the start , we decided a visit to our local gum clinic would be wise . We explained what we intended to do etc.... So after a long chat with them we had the hep jabs and boosters and go every 6 weeks , full checks etc. So far , maybe we are just lucky , but we haven't had a single problem . Our awareness of the risks means we are as careful as anyone can be .

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

A lot of our veris are from people we have just chatted to at parties and clubs, and some are from playing, but surely the whole point is to show to others that you are genuine, and will turn up for meets.

We have been let down by quite a few time wasters, and now if they have no veris we won't bother. And let's face it, they are easy to get, even just from socials etc.

As for risks, of course there are certain risks attached to this lifestyle. But you can manage those risks, and if anyone is so worried about that, don't do it!

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By *omewhat_kinkyCouple
over a year ago

reigate

a thought to add to the mix.. maybe people who are new or not experienced in this scene regard those with many veris as scary and very experienced/hardened.

maybe they are put off by their own feelings of inadequacy or not being up to the task.

remember a lot are still hung up and sex is scary.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I think verifications are nice, they are like having a birthday book full of nice comments from friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been interrogated by men wanting to know how many men I've met from here and when was the last time I had sex. I've had some change their tune when I've been totally honest with them. Mostly it's because of the worry of catching an sti but sometimes they want an exclusive fuck buddy and not one that's been around the block a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer people without dozens and dozens personally. But that's because I'm not really interested in someone who's just looking to get their leg over (there's nothing wrong with that, it's just not what I'm looking for).

I do glance down them and see what they're for. Someone with 50 references about what a nice penis he has is less attractive to me than someone who has 40 references from social events and 10 about his penis.

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By *ohnandLucyCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Can work the other way too though. Think sometimes newbies seek out people with veris to show them the ropes...

Not saying that's right or wrong but think it happens...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If 60 is too many I best not put my summary up, I eat men for breakfast, lunch and dinner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think verifications are nice, they are like having a birthday book full of nice comments from friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have loads of veri's, sometimes though they can be from parties where we get maybe 8 in one go or from repeat meets. Either way we feel it shows we meet and play, You either like our profile or you don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a thought to add to the mix.. maybe people who are new or not experienced in this scene regard those with many veris as scary and very experienced/hardened.

maybe they are put off by their own feelings of inadequacy or not being up to the task.

remember a lot are still hung up and sex is scary. "

Good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to see loads of veris cos it means she is one horney slut and wants it hard and dont matter who she sees and fucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with most things it's each to their own, but it does make me laugh that on the one hand some won't meet newbies with no veris, and some won't meet people if they have too many.

As a 'newbie' if anyone has any spare I could borrow.....

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Veris from various people do give some indicator to what an encounter maybe like. If we like we try to get involved. Not too concerned with veri numbers tbh.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I would like to see loads of veris cos it means she is one horney slut and wants it hard and dont matter who she sees and fucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?"

Some people think that the more people they have had sex with the more likely they are to have caught something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?

Some people think that the more people they have had sex with the more likely they are to have caught something."

Well simple maths answers that surely ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't worry me to be honest how many someone had ... I've not got any yet !!!

But I've not met anybody yet lol xx

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?

Some people think that the more people they have had sex with the more likely they are to have caught something.

Well simple maths answers that surely ? "

No! Care plays a big part, so it's not just numbers.

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By *S_PennyTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I always find this a bit annoying. Probably 80% of mine come from social events which I enjoy going to band you meet lots of people that way and get lots of veris normally. Saying that I don't think it's really effected me or at least I don't know that it has and so it doesn't worry in that sense. If someone said it then I'd be a bit more annoyed I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?

Some people think that the more people they have had sex with the more likely they are to have caught something.

Well simple maths answers that surely ?

No! Care plays a big part, so it's not just numbers."
obviously. But the more you do it the more you're exposed. Care isn't bullet proof.

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Wouldn't worry me to be honest how many someone had ... I've not got any yet !!!

But I've not met anybody yet lol xx"

If only Bournemouth was closer to here, I'd volunteer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I had the same this one meet that I had met took the huff because I had met a few guys in one week and then was asking me was it safe sex ?? Actually no ones bloody business then proceeded to tell me I'm oh so too good for that and need to think higher of myself I love mine and hubby's sex life and that's what counts but to be honest I was offended never less I did have a naughty week was worth it hubby loved it so stuff it but I'm now wary of putting up verifications left me rattled a bit

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"If 60 is too many I best not put my summary up, I eat men for breakfast, lunch and dinner

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nothing wrong with a Hearty Appetite!

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think for me its about standards and sometimes veris arent based on them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As with most things it's each to their own, but it does make me laugh that on the one hand some won't meet newbies with no veris, and some won't meet people if they have too many.

As a 'newbie' if anyone has any spare I could borrow.....

You can borrow 3,000 of mine. But make sure you give them back when you've done with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?

Some people think that the more people they have had sex with the more likely they are to have caught something.

Well simple maths answers that surely ?

No! Care plays a big part, so it's not just numbers.obviously. But the more you do it the more you're exposed. Care isn't bullet proof. "

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Doesn't bother me either way but I'm a bit more cautious regarding meeting unverified folk as they're more an unknown quantity...I've loads of veris - if that puts someone off, fair enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even if they were all sex it wouldn't bother me either, some people just have high sex drives and are able to meet a lot of people.

Don't understand why there's still a stigma about sleeping with lots of different people?

Some people think that the more people they have had sex with the more likely they are to have caught something.

Well simple maths answers that surely ? "

If you mean that 1 person with an STD can give you an STD then yeah that's simple enough to work out.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

more than 8, I am thinking tart....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolute bollox......theres never too many...

GRRRRRR!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't bother me either way but I'm a bit more cautious regarding meeting unverified folk as they're more an unknown quantity...I've loads of veris - if that puts someone off, fair enough

we are who we blond

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"more than 8, I am thinking tart...."

Inches or veri's?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"more than 8, I am thinking tart...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As with most things it's each to their own, but it does make me laugh that on the one hand some won't meet newbies with no veris, and some won't meet people if they have too many.

As a 'newbie' if anyone has any spare I could borrow.....

You can borrow 3,000 of mine. But make sure you give them back when you've done with them.

I didn't realise that you were allowed to make up your own veris, but as no-one else has offered.....

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I think verifications are nice, they are like having a birthday book full of nice comments from friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had to hide 150( ish) of mine

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By *im le2Man
over a year ago

AYLESTONE

Being a single man iv found most ppl I meet don't want to be verifide as they don't want there partner to know thee meeting ppl alone .

Mind you I'm glad about that or I'd have hundreds . Plus I'm on other sites and meet ppl off them.iv a big sex drive and meet ppl most days .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"more than 8, I am thinking tart...."

12 in 3 weeks I'm thinking pure slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"more than 8, I am thinking tart....

12 in 3 weeks I'm thinking pure slut

12 in a night....legend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"more than 8, I am thinking tart....

12 in 3 weeks I'm thinking pure slut

12 in a night....legend

Go girl

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston

"I would like to see loads of veris cos it means she is one horney slut and wants it hard and dont matter who she sees and fucks

So much logic in this comment, it's unreal! So based on that thinking, you're frigid, don't like it hard and it really matters to you who you fuck because you don't have any verifications?

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston

"and as ever - each to their own - if you dont like a profile ignore it - if it appeals - get in there

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I recently contacted a lady in here, and she replied that I had a great sounding profile, but I was 'too active for her'.

As has been said before, each to their own.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

If I chose to meet every day and display a veri from each over the next two years, that's my business. If it makes people happy to judge me for it then I'm glad I'm pleasing someone who is smug and condescending. They aren't on my Christmas list and I'm never going to meet them so their opinion about whatever veris I have is of so little importance to me that it is miniscule in the great scheme of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I chose to meet every day and display a veri from each over the next two years, that's my business. If it makes people happy to judge me for it then I'm glad I'm pleasing someone who is smug and condescending. They aren't on my Christmas list and I'm never going to meet them so their opinion about whatever veris I have is of so little importance to me that it is miniscule in the great scheme of things. "

in short:

I have plenty cock or fanny to play with.Fuck off if u think I'm a slut..I'm not yours.Go away.

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