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"hi, must say normally very honest!! why i dont want to meet!!" Do you get backlash for being honest though? | |||
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"hi, must say normally very honest!! why i dont want to meet!! Do you get backlash for being honest though?" usually I just send " thanks for the message but not interested..happy swinging xx" sometimes I get a thanks for replying...sometimes nothing back and sometime "well...why aren't you interested then?" so then I will try to diplomatically say why..if they persist, then they get blocked | |||
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"this amazes me, normally all we get in previous threads on this subject is i get so many messages i just delete them without reading or ignore them. now suddenly we all responding to messages why we will not meet people " I think you missed the 2 posts that did say they ignored and deleted. | |||
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"this amazes me, normally all we get in previous threads on this subject is i get so many messages i just delete them without reading or ignore them. now suddenly we all responding to messages why we will not meet people " Maybe the people who usually do that haven't come online yet... ahem... In fact many of the forums big hitters aren't commenting today | |||
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"this amazes me, normally all we get in previous threads on this subject is i get so many messages i just delete them without reading or ignore them. now suddenly we all responding to messages why we will not meet people " It isn't what you always get, there are lots of people who answer every mail, including us. | |||
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"Sometimes you see the pictures, or the way someone sends messages, or what they send you and you think…&%£$!.... I don’t want to get involved with them! So what’s your next step? 1/ Are you honest and say why? 2/ Ignore and not reply? 3/.Give a made up excuse? 4/ Or something else? " ill be honest an say | |||
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"If I'm unsure if were getting along before photos etc are exchanged I find it best to offer the get out - if I'm not your type sort of thing. It saves embarassment & everyone is entitled to his/her opinion - stops the bull & no one gets offended Still havn't found the correct font yet!!!! Haha" I do the same thing as I know that often I may be...too much woman for men to handle...lol so I let them know that if I am not to their taste to just say so and I will not be offened as I know that not everyone likes a larger lady like myself | |||
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"if i reply to decline i am always diplomatically honest. This has led to some messages asking why and even one asking me if I was really so shallow as to decline on the basis of his face pic. I replied that yes it was as no matter how nice a person he may be, he did nothing for me sexually. We cannot fancy everyone (or Vin Diesel would be mine!!!!) and being a swinger does not mean we are blind, stupid, desperate or accomodating just to make everyone happy! vol xx" wouldnt worry about it vol hun im shallow an no feart 2 admit it | |||
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"We are both wimps and dont really tell people that we are not interested in them as we really dont like to offend. We will just reply back and say thanks for the message but we dont give any indication that we are interested. If they again message us we will say that we are busy with work (which sometimes is the case) if they keep messaging we tend to not reply " but be nice whimps. I think this communicates without upsetting. | |||
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"hi, must say normally very honest!! why i dont want to meet!! Do you get backlash for being honest though? usually I just send " thanks for the message but not interested..happy swinging xx" sometimes I get a thanks for replying...sometimes nothing back and sometime "well...why aren't you interested then?" so then I will try to diplomatically say why..if they persist, then they get blocked" Its just that a lot have said to me its better not to respond as peeps take it as a green light and keep mailing. I don't hold with this reply = polite stuff though if its unsolicited mail. It is a difficult one i have to admit all round though. | |||
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"How do you tell someone he comes across as a wet blanket without hurting his feelings? " | |||
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"How do you tell someone he comes across as a wet blanket without hurting his feelings? " As difficult as commenting on a rather sharp shirt | |||
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"Fabio how can you not be arsed to block someone? It takes a second! K is thinking you like the attention lol " its a long long story..... so I just let them be, if I block em them they know they get to me... lol sod it the logic is sound in my head!!! | |||
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"Sometimes you see the pictures, or the way someone sends messages, or what they send you and you think…&%£$!.... I don’t want to get involved with them! So what’s your next step? 1/ Are you honest and say why? 2/ Ignore and not reply? 3/.Give a made up excuse? 4/ Or something else? " Option 2. I see no point in soliciting further messages from someone we'd never want to meet in a million years, but if they messaged again, then I'd simply tell them we're not interested. A 3rd message would get a very polite, "Fuck off" type response. | |||
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"Sometimes you see the pictures, or the way someone sends messages, or what they send you and you think…&%£$!.... I don’t want to get involved with them! So what’s your next step? 1/ Are you honest and say why? 2/ Ignore and not reply? 3/.Give a made up excuse? 4/ Or something else? " I am honest with some especially if they have mad an obvious effort. Others who send the same message every week I just ignore. I do find though saying sorry I am not interested can create its own problems with "Why?" and "go on give me a chance" messages returned. With some people any reply is taken as a green light so you learn to just delete some messages as its less problematic. | |||
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"Big difference between being straight with people, and being tactless. Funnily enough, the people who "Tell people how it is" are always the first ones to get offended when anyone tells them how unpleasant they are." I would agree with you on that. A lack of tact and being brutal is often covered up with saying you tell it like it is. Being honest is good as long as you don't offend people. | |||
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"You can't paste or post other peoples mails on the forums x" Do you sometime feel you are banging your head against a brick wall hun? | |||
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