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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hi it really gets my goat when people on here you have met on more thn one occasion and it was a great meet just decide to igonore u and only get in touch as and when it suits them grrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep! got a couple of 'friends' who do that! and they wonder why you aren't so friendly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hm, I guess it's called choice.

I do however suspect that men are still scared that if we have sex with them that we will, of course, fall madly and passionately in love with them in seconds and fear that we may ask for more....because, what else would we be doing on a site like this if not looking for our next husband?

I don't think they can get used to the fact that woman can, and do, just want the sex.

it's the equivalent of the morning after mantra of "i'll call you".

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"hi it really gets my goat when people on here you have met on more thn one occasion and it was a great meet just decide to igonore u and only get in touch as and when it suits them grrrrrrrrr "
I dont see the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hm, I guess it's called choice.

I do however suspect that men are still scared that if we have sex with them that we will, of course, fall madly and passionately in love with them in seconds and fear that we may ask for more....because, what else would we be doing on a site like this if not looking for our next husband?

I don't think they can get used to the fact that woman can, and do, just want the sex.

it's the equivalent of the morning after mantra of "i'll call you"."

sounds about right - one of them the sex is amazing and we have a right giggle, but he disappears off the face of the earth til he needs another crack (for lack of a better phrase lmao!)

i let him back as i would be cutting off my nose to spite my face he he

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

im not looking for a new bf nor a new husband, if i was then i would be on a differant site,but please manners and a bit of respect cost nothing,some people are just so friggin rude at times

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"hm, I guess it's called choice.

I do however suspect that men are still scared that if we have sex with them that we will, of course, fall madly and passionately in love with them in seconds and fear that we may ask for more....because, what else would we be doing on a site like this if not looking for our next husband?

I don't think they can get used to the fact that woman can, and do, just want the sex.

it's the equivalent of the morning after mantra of "i'll call you"."
Whilst i agree with your first sentence, the latter part of your post should say men/women etc shouldnt it?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"im not looking for a new bf nor a new husband, if i was then i would be on a differant site,but please manners and a bit of respect cost nothing,some people are just so friggin rude at times "
well did u make it clear you wanted to stay in touch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't you know you're just here for their relief when they need it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant see the problem?

We are on a swing site so people do get in touch if they want sex..

There are people who we have met and we havnt heard from them since last time we met,if they get in touch wanting to meet again we are not offened because we havnt heard from them since the last time we met.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Didn't you know you're just here for their relief when they need it "

and vice versa!!

i've often sent guys a message when i fancy a bit, a quick wham bam thank you mam is always good

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I cant see the problem?

We are on a swing site so people do get in touch if they want sex..

There are people who we have met and we havnt heard from them since last time we met,if they get in touch wanting to meet again we are not offened because we havnt heard from them since the last time we met."
Thank heavens im not on my own in the way i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Didn't you know you're just here for their relief when they need it

and vice versa!!

i've often sent guys a message when i fancy a bit, a quick wham bam thank you mam is always good "

nothing wrong with that if thats what u like - all the guys i meet with know they should stay in contact if they wanna meet - its social as well as sex for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im not looking for a new bf nor a new husband, if i was then i would be on a differant site,but please manners and a bit of respect cost nothing,some people are just so friggin rude at times "

I have an fb and I have that kind of relationship with him, the guys who i just play with, i don't expect to hear from unless we both need each other.

that said, i'd never just service their needs, i would expect to be able to meet when we both needed to, not just at their conveinience.

...but, the friendly chatty thing, well, i have friends for that...

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"hi it really gets my goat when people on here you have met on more thn one occasion and it was a great meet just decide to igonore u and only get in touch as and when it suits them grrrrrrrrr "

That suits us down to the ground as we do the same thing. But then thats the deal bewteen us all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such as life!

Plenty more where they come from though, so it would not bother me much!

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Sorry to jump on the band wagon, yes us too.

We are on others last minute let down list.. And we also have our let down list as well

We prefer to have new meets, but if we can't find one then we move to the last minutes.. And they do the same to us..

We don't mind.. Ensures a shag..

Sorry to be harsh.. But this isn't match.com. Sen we would be horrified to think that our meets thought otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this friend from other site meet him about 6 times ... we got on well ,.,, the last time i see him ,, in bed he looked at me said lots of men would like me ,, I never said alot apart from i dont meet alot of singles ... but we never meet after that or chated......... strange ... it was like we never meet ,, in chat room he is there we dont even say hello, xx jo xxx

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

It states on our profile:

"Thanks, but no thanks to any offer to stay overnight, we're looking for sexual fun / pleasure and not really up for the social interaction the morning after!"

Most people are able to understand what we mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It states on our profile:

"Thanks, but no thanks to any offer to stay overnight, we're looking for sexual fun / pleasure and not really up for the social interaction the morning after!"

Most people are able to understand what we mean "
so not even friends??????????

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"It states on our profile:

"Thanks, but no thanks to any offer to stay overnight, we're looking for sexual fun / pleasure and not really up for the social interaction the morning after!"

Most people are able to understand what we mean so not even friends??????????"

Not really, we're not on here looking for friendship.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I cant see the problem either, i can go weeks without them being in touch or me being in touch. I havent signed any agreement that because im having sex with someone i have to be in touch all the while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your expecting too much from your meets ? or maybe the other party concerned didn't think it was quite as good as you think he thought ?

If we meet someone, no matter how good it was, we treat it as a one off meet. We owe them nothing and they owe us nothing. If we meet again or communicate again that's fine but if they blank us for the rest of our days, that's also fine.

We don't come on here looking for lifelong friends, we look for fun ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its called lack of respect and imaturity, these are the people that have a blue fit when its done to them, you don t need people like this in your life. from what we can see they should be gratefull for a little time with you.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not good and not clever hunni, gets my goat when some one promises to get you something and lets you down last min.com we wanted to try some viagra for a laugh but let down lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It states on our profile:

"Thanks, but no thanks to any offer to stay overnight, we're looking for sexual fun / pleasure and not really up for the social interaction the morning after!"

Most people are able to understand what we mean so not even friends??????????

Not really, we're not on here looking for friendship."
Well i like to get to know the people i have sex with making sure not jack the ripper or some weird O ,, dont have to chat to them every week or for months just like to know a bit about them and click , lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"It states on our profile:

"Thanks, but no thanks to any offer to stay overnight, we're looking for sexual fun / pleasure and not really up for the social interaction the morning after!"

Most people are able to understand what we mean so not even friends??????????

Not really, we're not on here looking for friendship. Well i like to get to know the people i have sex with making sure not jack the ripper or some weird O ,, dont have to chat to them every week or for months just like to know a bit about them and click , lol"

You can do that plus have meets and not speak to them inbetween.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It states on our profile:

"Thanks, but no thanks to any offer to stay overnight, we're looking for sexual fun / pleasure and not really up for the social interaction the morning after!"

Most people are able to understand what we mean so not even friends??????????

Not really, we're not on here looking for friendship. Well i like to get to know the people i have sex with making sure not jack the ripper or some weird O ,, dont have to chat to them every week or for months just like to know a bit about them and click , lol

You can do that plus have meets and not speak to them inbetween. "

exactly, after all...it's supposed to be nsa isn't it? if i had something more with that person, like they were an fb i would happily have the extra interaction, but a casual as and when interaction, i can do without having to deal with the small talk in between

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It does say on the ops profile nsa, maybe she should explain put it in a different way

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"Well i like to get to know the people i have sex with making sure not jack the ripper or some weird O"

Fred & Rose West became very friendly with their guests over a period of time, yet still killed them!


"dont have to chat to them every week or for months just like to know a bit about them and click"

We like to get to know who we're meeting, but we're not looking for a friendship to develop from our meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my understanding, rightly or wrongly, is swinging is social and sex. there are sites for sex only, so if i wanted that i'd use them

i chose swinging as i want to do things that you'd do on dates without the expectation from the guy that it might turn into something some day

go for a drink, enjoy company as well as a damn good fuckin! lol

each to their own i suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It states on our profile:

"Thanks, but no thanks to any offer to stay overnight, we're looking for sexual fun / pleasure and not really up for the social interaction the morning after!"

Most people are able to understand what we mean so not even friends??????????

Not really, we're not on here looking for friendship. Well i like to get to know the people i have sex with making sure not jack the ripper or some weird O ,, dont have to chat to them every week or for months just like to know a bit about them and click , lol

You can do that plus have meets and not speak to them inbetween.

exactly, after all...it's supposed to be nsa isn't it? if i had something more with that person, like they were an fb i would happily have the extra interaction, but a casual as and when interaction, i can do without having to deal with the small talk in between yes but when you feel you know a person been shagging for over a year and blank you for nothing it do make you think ,,, yes maybe thay hate getting close maybe it times to move to new things new people and fed up with same old thing. ,,"

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"my understanding, rightly or wrongly, is swinging is social and sex. there are sites for sex only, so if i wanted that i'd use them

i chose swinging as i want to do things that you'd do on dates without the expectation from the guy that it might turn into something some day

go for a drink, enjoy company as well as a damn good fuckin! lol

each to their own i suppose. "

swinging is a number of things

if you want friendships with sex then make it clear to the people you meet thats what you want

some people do use this site as a sex only site, par for the course i'm afraid - you just need to become good at spotting them lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Send them our way, we like NSA sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my understanding, rightly or wrongly, is swinging is social and sex. there are sites for sex only, so if i wanted that i'd use them

i chose swinging as i want to do things that you'd do on dates without the expectation from the guy that it might turn into something some day

go for a drink, enjoy company as well as a damn good fuckin! lol

each to their own i suppose.

swinging is a number of things

if you want friendships with sex then make it clear to the people you meet thats what you want

some people do use this site as a sex only site, par for the course i'm afraid - you just need to become good at spotting them lol"

yeah i have become good at that lol - i only started doing this 4 months ago so learned quickly lol

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London


"Send them our way, we like NSA sex "

Ignore rugby, send them OUR way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh and i always make it clear that i want people to stay in touch!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Send them our way, we like NSA sex

Ignore rugby, send them OUR way"

Share?

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London


"Send them our way, we like NSA sex

Ignore rugby, send them OUR way

Share?"

Damn it so close and profiles tad incompatable..

Oh well. Still if they are too pervy send them our way..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi it really gets my goat when people on here you have met on more thn one occasion and it was a great meet just decide to igonore u and only get in touch as and when it suits them grrrrrrrrr "

As a bloke do you say hello every time someone poss on line? If so would you be seen as a pest? If you don't say hello your ignoring or only doing it to suit your self. It's difficult what to do with people as some like one and others don't.

I like many will not know how to play it. I do know if i don't fancy chatting then its a struggling conversation.

Is there an easy answer to this one? If there is i don't know it.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Send them our way, we like NSA sex

Ignore rugby, send them OUR way

Share?

Damn it so close and profiles tad incompatable..

Oh well. Still if they are too pervy send them our way.."

Ah ha, then any spare males who mail you we will have them !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It states on our profile:

"Thanks, but no thanks to any offer to stay overnight, we're looking for sexual fun / pleasure and not really up for the social interaction the morning after!"

Most people are able to understand what we mean so not even friends??????????

Not really, we're not on here looking for friendship. Well i like to get to know the people i have sex with making sure not jack the ripper or some weird O ,, dont have to chat to them every week or for months just like to know a bit about them and click , lol

You can do that plus have meets and not speak to them inbetween.

exactly, after all...it's supposed to be nsa isn't it? if i had something more with that person, like they were an fb i would happily have the extra interaction, but a casual as and when interaction, i can do without having to deal with the small talk in between yes but when you feel you know a person been shagging for over a year and blank you for nothing it do make you think ,,, yes maybe thay hate getting close maybe it times to move to new things new people and fed up with same old thing. ,,"

if we had been together that long i would kind of think we were more fb's or playmates not nsa and at least able to discuss and move on if it was stale...the op said "after a few meets" which i dont think is the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I thought swinging was all about casual, nsa fun? Isn't it? Or have I got it wrong??

Personally, I'm not particularly a 'love em and leave em' type or even a 'f*** em and leave em' either, but happy to adjust to whatever the situation requires!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"But I thought swinging was all about casual, nsa fun? Isn't it? Or have I got it wrong??

Personally, I'm not particularly a 'love em and leave em' type or even a 'f*** em and leave em' either, but happy to adjust to whatever the situation requires!

"

I think thats were the confusion arises. Maybe if people were to communicate more as to what they want or expect out of their meets then there wouldn't be any confusion.

For us, NSA sex means just that. We don't want the men we meet getting in touch every five minutes " just for a chat" we only get in touch when either of us fancy a meet. I know people think of swinging as a whole different ball game and make friends with people......but I ( mrs ) couldn't play with a friend so that wouldn't suit us.

Also , this is a seperate life to our vanilla life , we have friends there, and NSA sex buddies in here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely think the OP is talking about friends on her friends list ignoring her, and even worse, ones she has met and knows well.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I genuinely think the OP is talking about friends on her friends list ignoring her, and even worse, ones she has met and knows well."
yes i know but some here say swingings not about being mates just sex, god i have made loads of friends over the years ,, had the same bi girl friend over 9 years , lol

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"As a bloke do you say hello every time someone poss on line? If so would you be seen as a pest? If you don't say hello your ignoring or only doing it to suit your self. It's difficult what to do with people as some like one and others don't.

I like many will not know how to play it. "

I send a message if I've got something to say, and hope they will do the same (conversation being a two way process). To do anything else *is* forcing it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi it really gets my goat when people on here you have met on more thn one occasion and it was a great meet just decide to igonore u and only get in touch as and when it suits them grrrrrrrrr I dont see the problem "

Neither do I!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would imaging that most people would delete people from their friends list if they were ignored by them, or never spoke after being added, so some strange responses here.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

A lot of people don't seem to care wether they get in touch or not inbewteen meets.....including us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a guy who was quite the opposite - just thought he could pop in whnever he was passing and thought that he could just phone whnever the fancy come over him ...

I (Bob) eventually showed him the error of his ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people don't seem to care wether they get in touch or not inbewteen meets.....including us."

us to but that's a bit different to being ignored by them when you try.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"A lot of people don't seem to care wether they get in touch or not inbewteen meets.....including us.

us to but that's a bit different to being ignored by them when you try."

Ah well, we would just think they are too busy to answer and leave it at that.

If it happened a couple of times then we would probably get the message that they don't want to answer and give up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a guy who was quite the opposite - just thought he could pop in whnever he was passing and thought that he could just phone whnever the fancy come over him ...

I (Bob) eventually showed him the error of his ways "

Can he still walk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people don't seem to care wether they get in touch or not inbewteen meets.....including us.

us to but that's a bit different to being ignored by them when you try."

i'm gonna play devils advocate here and say that i imagine a few single males are reading this and thinking it represents pay back for all the times they have been ignored.

however, i do have folk on my friend list that i dont talk to all the time, even if we have met and sometimes the wink is great for just saying "hi, im here, i'm not ignoring you".

i for one won't assume that someone is being ignorant and will first of all think perhaps they are too busy to talk, but, having put the ball in their court, either wait for a response in good time or move on.

i dont think cause i've had sex with them that they owe me anything though, that seems to go against what we are here for.

you can write on your profile that you want more, but you cant force them to give more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi it really gets my goat when people on here you have met on more thn one occasion and it was a great meet just decide to igonore u and only get in touch as and when it suits them grrrrrrrrr I dont see the problem "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi it really gets my goat when people on here you have met on more thn one occasion and it was a great meet just decide to igonore u and only get in touch as and when it suits them grrrrrrrrr "

Happens all the time...

But i hate it too.feel like a public convienience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi it really gets my goat when people on here you have met on more thn one occasion and it was a great meet just decide to igonore u and only get in touch as and when it suits them grrrrrrrrr

Happens all the time...

But i hate it too.feel like a public convienience "

i dont know what it is people want from consensual nsa sex? if you want more than is what is on someones profile, or yours, then say so ahead of playing with someone.

if you are feeling like a conveneience, then you have a right to say no. just cause a regular meet asks, doesnt mean you have to say yes. you cant feel used if you say yes though as clearly that means you want it to...you cant blame a guy for that.

i dont think its unreasonable to only be in touch when you want to meet each other...if all you want is sex with each other, what would you want to be in touch for?

or am i missing something??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After we meet people we tend to send a wink now and again but don't expect them to meet us every chance they get, every now and again they contact us and often we will meet them and have some fun or just a good social night.

There are couples on here that we have known for 8 years and we have played with them maybe 3-4 times or put another way, every chance we have had, those chances being when it has suited the four of us.

A lot, like us, are here for variety and don't want to play with the same couple too often but now and again is very nice

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