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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We were approached by a seemingly nice guy who took time to read our profile and sent us a rather apt message in the same style as our profile!!

He sent us a face pic and we had arranged for him to come to our place Sat evening. I sent him all contact info then we heard nothing from him after the one mail saying see you saturday!

We got ready I got in some snacks etc (as you do) I spent a while shaving, choosing what to wear etc and we waited and waited lol nothing so we enjoyed eachother on cam (which was unusual for us but what a night)

At approx 11 o clock we had message saying sorry but mate arrived and i couldnt let you know!!!! I can come now though!! How rude.. this morning his profile has vanished. What do you reckon...wife found out? chucked him out so he deleted it lol.

Some people !!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were approached by a seemingly nice guy who took time to read our profile and sent us a rather apt message in the same style as our profile!!

He sent us a face pic and we had arranged for him to come to our place Sat evening. I sent him all contact info then we heard nothing from him after the one mail saying see you saturday!

We got ready I got in some snacks etc (as you do) I spent a while shaving, choosing what to wear etc and we waited and waited lol nothing so we enjoyed eachother on cam (which was unusual for us but what a night)

At approx 11 o clock we had message saying sorry but mate arrived and i couldnt let you know!!!! I can come now though!! How rude.. this morning his profile has vanished. What do you reckon...wife found out? chucked him out so he deleted it lol.

Some people !!!! lol"

At least your Evening wasn't wasted, his Wife may have sussed him out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there done that lol, got contacted by a couple, invited to a party, booked the day off, 3 days before, got a text to say how much they were looking forward to meeting me, then nothing, no message with address, details etc yet sunday they were online as if nothing happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How rude!! Did he have any verifications? If so who were they?? One reason why I'm rather aloof about meeting single men, always have a back up plan of a club. (suppose the same goes for women too)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes he was verified by one couple but I suppose really we should have been suspicious when he didnt phone us even to check we were "real"

If we go meet anyone we always call them to chat first. It was just a spontaneous type meet (ok with a few days notice lol)

I know some single guys cannot accomodate due to various reasons but that can be a tell tale sign that they are not actually single lol And we ignored all the signs lol kind of saps my confidence a little when that happens as i do tend to take things a bit personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny...I never have this problem, on this site or the other sites I'm on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes he was verified by one couple but I suppose really we should have been suspicious when he didnt phone us even to check we were "real"

If we go meet anyone we always call them to chat first. It was just a spontaneous type meet (ok with a few days notice lol)

I know some single guys cannot accomodate due to various reasons but that can be a tell tale sign that they are not actually single lol And we ignored all the signs lol kind of saps my confidence a little when that happens as i do tend to take things a bit personally "

Your right to be cautious but Single Guys as well as Couples and Single Women who can't accom have genuine reasons for not accomodating, dont rush into suspecting the Guy just because he doesn't accom but look for the other tell tale signs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would just laugh it off it this happened to us, luckilly it hasn't, but like you, we'd just enoy having fun in other ways and make good use of the free time we had, although would probably feel different if we didn't have each other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh Kev am sorry I didnt mean that how it sounded which is why i put on there for various reasons. I know all to well that some may live with flatmates, at home or have children and I do know it is not just men who do this. Tony is usually very good at sifting out timewasters anyway but we both missed this one lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Funny...I never have this problem, on this site or the other sites I'm on!"

I wouldnt think for one min anyone would stand you up lol. Wish I had your confidence in myself xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh Kev am sorry I didnt mean that how it sounded which is why i put on there for various reasons. I know all to well that some may live with flatmates, at home or have children and I do know it is not just men who do this. Tony is usually very good at sifting out timewasters anyway but we both missed this one lol.

"

Hey no need to apologise, sometimes we all read into thing differently and word things that can be miscontrued, it could of just been me reading it with a different perspective.

kin hell I sounded almost educated then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh Kev am sorry I didnt mean that how it sounded which is why i put on there for various reasons. I know all to well that some may live with flatmates, at home or have children and I do know it is not just men who do this. Tony is usually very good at sifting out timewasters anyway but we both missed this one lol.

Hey no need to apologise, sometimes we all read into thing differently and word things that can be miscontrued, it could of just been me reading it with a different perspective.

kin hell I sounded almost educated then "

yes you be careful then as you will be professional and far tooooo high brow for us lowly admin peeps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh Kev am sorry I didnt mean that how it sounded which is why i put on there for various reasons. I know all to well that some may live with flatmates, at home or have children and I do know it is not just men who do this. Tony is usually very good at sifting out timewasters anyway but we both missed this one lol.

Hey no need to apologise, sometimes we all read into thing differently and word things that can be miscontrued, it could of just been me reading it with a different perspective.

kin hell I sounded almost educated then

yes you be careful then as you will be professional and far tooooo high brow for us lowly admin peeps "

Cheeky I do get Headaches when I try to be clever though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh Kev am sorry I didnt mean that how it sounded which is why i put on there for various reasons. I know all to well that some may live with flatmates, at home or have children and I do know it is not just men who do this. Tony is usually very good at sifting out timewasters anyway but we both missed this one lol.

Hey no need to apologise, sometimes we all read into thing differently and word things that can be miscontrued, it could of just been me reading it with a different perspective.

kin hell I sounded almost educated then

yes you be careful then as you will be professional and far tooooo high brow for us lowly admin peeps

Cheeky I do get Headaches when I try to be clever though "

ive got a cure for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh Kev am sorry I didnt mean that how it sounded which is why i put on there for various reasons. I know all to well that some may live with flatmates, at home or have children and I do know it is not just men who do this. Tony is usually very good at sifting out timewasters anyway but we both missed this one lol.

Hey no need to apologise, sometimes we all read into thing differently and word things that can be miscontrued, it could of just been me reading it with a different perspective.

kin hell I sounded almost educated then

yes you be careful then as you will be professional and far tooooo high brow for us lowly admin peeps

Cheeky I do get Headaches when I try to be clever though

ive got a cure for that"

I bet !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh Kev am sorry I didnt mean that how it sounded which is why i put on there for various reasons. I know all to well that some may live with flatmates, at home or have children and I do know it is not just men who do this. Tony is usually very good at sifting out timewasters anyway but we both missed this one lol.

Hey no need to apologise, sometimes we all read into thing differently and word things that can be miscontrued, it could of just been me reading it with a different perspective.

kin hell I sounded almost educated then

yes you be careful then as you will be professional and far tooooo high brow for us lowly admin peeps

Cheeky I do get Headaches when I try to be clever though

ive got a cure for that

I bet ! "

yea Asda's Ibruprofen are the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were approached by a seemingly nice guy who took time to read our profile and sent us a rather apt message in the same style as our profile!!

He sent us a face pic and we had arranged for him to come to our place Sat evening. I sent him all contact info then we heard nothing from him after the one mail saying see you saturday!

We got ready I got in some snacks etc (as you do) I spent a while shaving, choosing what to wear etc and we waited and waited lol nothing so we enjoyed eachother on cam (which was unusual for us but what a night)

At approx 11 o clock we had message saying sorry but mate arrived and i couldnt let you know!!!! I can come now though!! How rude.. this morning his profile has vanished. What do you reckon...wife found out? chucked him out so he deleted it lol.

Some people !!!! lol"

This sort of thing is the most annoying of all did you give him your actual house details as i made this mistake only the once and ended up having a guy knock on the door mid morning while sat there with a friend having coffee he said that he couldnt remember my phone number and thought he would pop in on the off chance that i was at home i just said that i had never been on a swinger site in my life and made out i was not the person he was looking for and that i was a married woman thank god i hadnt sent a face pic or he may have recognised me lol xxx Lois xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This the difference between chatting to someone over quite a length of time and really getting to know them (which leads them to think, "yeah, I have really GOT to meet this person/couple"), and arranging a fly-by-wire shag at a moment's notice (ok, a couple of days notice even) ... with the latter you are always going to get timewasters and chancers, it goes with the territory and as long as you understand that you'll get more 'reliable' meets than letdowns.

We prefer the former as we find that getting to know someone via MSN, chat or forums beforehand leads to much better sex for all concerned. But that's just us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes he was verified by one couple but I suppose really we should have been suspicious when he didnt phone us even to check we were "real"

If we go meet anyone we always call them to chat first. It was just a spontaneous type meet (ok with a few days notice lol)

I know some single guys cannot accomodate due to various reasons but that can be a tell tale sign that they are not actually single lol And we ignored all the signs lol kind of saps my confidence a little when that happens as i do tend to take things a bit personally "

naaa don't take it personally. these people have problems it them. but know what you mean, best thing is to look for an alt meet online and go ferit. Otherwise, make sure you wear the same getup and have fun in it another night. We say we need to clean out the bad stuff with some good stuff and then ... water under the bridge xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This the difference between chatting to someone over quite a length of time and really getting to know them (which leads them to think, "yeah, I have really GOT to meet this person/couple"), and arranging a fly-by-wire shag at a moment's notice (ok, a couple of days notice even) ... with the latter you are always going to get timewasters and chancers, it goes with the territory and as long as you understand that you'll get more 'reliable' meets than letdowns.

We prefer the former as we find that getting to know someone via MSN, chat or forums beforehand leads to much better sex for all concerned. But that's just us."

Agree 100% and although I don't want to sound like some smart 'know it all', I do have to say that it still amazes me that there are so many seemingly innocent and naive folk, particularly ladies, out there. The risks and chances they take and expose themselves to is quite incredible, imho!

If someone states that they're not into chatting, then fine, forget them! Spend time chatting, get to know folk a bit, and have a 1st meet as a social one, in a public place, and with no expectations!!

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

ive had a girl cancel on me today, shes not on this site. she had canceled a previous meeting too :\

was due to meet her tomorrow.

Ive had so many girls mess me about (90%+) im certain there gonna mess me about. so im in mental termoil until the meet happens (which is rare) or till i get disapointed.

plus so few women are interested in me, its really disapointing. met a grand total or two women this year, and not had sex since last year.

Im still kinda mad, as you can imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive had a girl cancel on me today, shes not on this site. she had canceled a previous meeting too :\

was due to meet her tomorrow.

Ive had so many girls mess me about (90%+) im certain there gonna mess me about. so im in mental termoil until the meet happens (which is rare) or till i get disapointed.

plus so few women are interested in me, its really disapointing. met a grand total or two women this year, and not had sex since last year.

Im still kinda mad, as you can imagine.

"

Are you sure most of them were actually women? Did you cam-verify them before arranging to meet? I suspect that some of them may have been men if you haven't actually ascertained they were women.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Personally id never dream of meeting someone who i hadnt had a telephone conversation with and webcam to prove that they where as their picture stated.

Also when my son lived at home and my free time was limited i ALWAYS had a back up plan incase i was stood up as didnt want to waste precious time. Thankfully i was never let down

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

some yes, some no

some where on sites with paid membership, so dunno why someone would want to pay to message guys while pretending to be a woman just to disapoint them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Take on board everything you have all said. Tony and myself have been swinging for 10 years and we are not innocents lol

We have had a break for a few months whilst we have had alot of family things going on and this was literally a first,arranging a meet without knowing the person a little better i mean!

Wont be doing it again in a hurry believe me. As i said the evening wasn't wasted and we had a fantastic night together.

Thanks again folks

Gill x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is really bad and its very rude. he did probably get sussed out, either that or the wife or girlfriend wouldnt let him out at the time he wanted to go out. But then if you say hes deleted his profile that does sound suspicious. if people delete their profiles, does everything disappear off here, any posts theyve made in forums etc or any winks theyve sent etc

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By *INKKKYMan
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL/ WIRRAL

Maybe his mate did turn up? Maybe he deleted his profile because he thought you would assume he was lying and tell everyone one the site he is a timewaster so he might set up a diferent profile? Things happen, lifes unpredictable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't make the effort unless they had confirmed on the day and i make sure to tell them that...if they turn up without it they may find me otherwise engaged (most likely scrubbing out the bathroom or kitchen!)

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


" Maybe he deleted his profile because he thought you would assume he was lying and tell everyone one the site he is a timewaster so he might set up a diferent profile? Things happen, lifes unpredictable "

* nods *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny...I never have this problem, on this site or the other sites I'm on!

I wouldnt think for one min anyone would stand you up lol. Wish I had your confidence in myself xx"

I nearly allowed my husband to crush me, left just in time!

I'd lost 80% of my site, no guarantee it'd return, unsure whether I'd hold on to my job.

Sight returned, job going great, confidence through the roof: it took seven years!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe his mate did turn up? Maybe he deleted his profile because he thought you would assume he was lying and tell everyone one the site he is a timewaster so he might set up a diferent profile? Things happen, lifes unpredictable "

I agree and why do people assume he's married just because he deleted his profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This the difference between chatting to someone over quite a length of time and really getting to know them (which leads them to think, "yeah, I have really GOT to meet this person/couple"), and arranging a fly-by-wire shag at a moment's notice (ok, a couple of days notice even) ... with the latter you are always going to get timewasters and chancers, it goes with the territory and as long as you understand that you'll get more 'reliable' meets than letdowns.

We prefer the former as we find that getting to know someone via MSN, chat or forums beforehand leads to much better sex for all concerned. But that's just us."

Agree with you 100%: that's how I do it. I also meet socially first and arrange to meet (or not).

That's why I've never had a no show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or could be worse meet them and have a good time only for them to leave site. so you end up thinking you did something wrong or scared them senseless with knowing what you like and asking for it. has happen to us and manily younger guys but some have returned and contacted to let us know still would love to meet up again

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By *aintmikeMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"We were approached by a seemingly nice guy who took time to read our profile and sent us a rather apt message in the same style as our profile!!

He sent us a face pic and we had arranged for him to come to our place Sat evening. I sent him all contact info then we heard nothing from him after the one mail saying see you saturday!

We got ready I got in some snacks etc (as you do) I spent a while shaving, choosing what to wear etc and we waited and waited lol nothing so we enjoyed eachother on cam (which was unusual for us but what a night)

At approx 11 o clock we had message saying sorry but mate arrived and i couldnt let you know!!!! I can come now though!! How rude.. this morning his profile has vanished. What do you reckon...wife found out? chucked him out so he deleted it lol.

Some people !!!! lol"

sorry to hear about this unfortunate thing happening ,,here,s a prime example why decent straightforward fun loving single guys get a bad name,, this kind of thing puts ppl of single guys ,, for the record and anyone that reads this ,,I'm single and free and if i say i,ll meet i do,,

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish


"This the difference between chatting to someone over quite a length of time and really getting to know them (which leads them to think, "yeah, I have really GOT to meet this person/couple"), and arranging a fly-by-wire shag at a moment's notice (ok, a couple of days notice even) ... with the latter you are always going to get timewasters and chancers, it goes with the territory and as long as you understand that you'll get more 'reliable' meets than letdowns.

We prefer the former as we find that getting to know someone via MSN, chat or forums beforehand leads to much better sex for all concerned. But that's just us."

that doesn't always help as I found out this weekend...I finally met someone I had been chatting with for ages on msn, got on great and met him, turned out to be the biggest asshole on the planet...lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some yes, some no

some where on sites with paid membership, so dunno why someone would want to pay to message guys while pretending to be a woman just to disapoint them."

You have a LOT to learn my friend!

I met one bloke who'd been "talking" to a woman on a paid site for two weeks. Arranged to meet and a bloke turned up!!

A friend of mine was clearing his brothers home after he died. His pc showed he was a member of several sites, registered as a woman!

Some people have a strange way of getting their kicks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This the difference between chatting to someone over quite a length of time and really getting to know them (which leads them to think, "yeah, I have really GOT to meet this person/couple"), and arranging a fly-by-wire shag at a moment's notice (ok, a couple of days notice even) ... with the latter you are always going to get timewasters and chancers, it goes with the territory and as long as you understand that you'll get more 'reliable' meets than letdowns.

We prefer the former as we find that getting to know someone via MSN, chat or forums beforehand leads to much better sex for all concerned. But that's just us.

that doesn't always help as I found out this weekend...I finally met someone I had been chatting with for ages on msn, got on great and met him, turned out to be the biggest asshole on the planet...lol..."

Yeah...but he turned up!

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish


"This the difference between chatting to someone over quite a length of time and really getting to know them (which leads them to think, "yeah, I have really GOT to meet this person/couple"), and arranging a fly-by-wire shag at a moment's notice (ok, a couple of days notice even) ... with the latter you are always going to get timewasters and chancers, it goes with the territory and as long as you understand that you'll get more 'reliable' meets than letdowns.

We prefer the former as we find that getting to know someone via MSN, chat or forums beforehand leads to much better sex for all concerned. But that's just us.

that doesn't always help as I found out this weekend...I finally met someone I had been chatting with for ages on msn, got on great and met him, turned out to be the biggest asshole on the planet...lol...

Yeah...but he turned up! "

yes he did...just not the person I thought he was...was just saying that getting to know someone first doesn't always work out...

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