FabSwingers.com forum: swinging is not what we thought it was

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When we decided we was going to try swinging in my mind it was couples swapping but now we have been on the site for a while we have found that to be in the minority would love a site for couples only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block singles then you won't have probs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging means different things to different people .... And it's not sevrnties wife swapping and pampas grass anymore

Besides there are far more single, separated and divorced people out there than there ever used to be

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would love it if it was that easy almost most couples profiles turn out to be a single guy they have fab guys would love a fab couples where u had to be photo verified b4 you could join

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we decided we was going to try swinging in my mind it was couples swapping but now we have been on the site for a while we have found that to be in the minority would love a site for couples only "
Yep. Or maybe a site just for singles - 'Swingles' perhaps?

Sarah x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That sounds good I have no problem with singles swinging but would like to know if u are taking place to a couple that it really is a couple

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By *CoastFunMan
over a year ago

Southampron

"Would love it if it was that easy almost most couples profiles turn out to be a single guy they have fab guys would love a fab couples where u had to be photo verified b4 you could join "

I'd assume admin could enforce that on couples profiles both must be in the verification photograph, that'd do the same. The apply your filters and only talk to verified people. Maybe an idea worth suggesting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would love it if it was that easy almost most couples profiles turn out to be a single guy they have fab guys would love a fab couples where u had to be photo verified b4 you could join "

"almost all"?

Where did you obtain your statistics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That sounds good I have no problem with singles swinging but would like to know if u are taking place to a couple that it really is a couple "
I doubt you can ever be 100% sure of who you're talking to. There'll always be chancers. The 'couples' profiles that mostly always have the male half playing, are slightly irritating but mostly have us cringing for them as it's so obviously a single guy

Sarah x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just my personal account of things no big survey done if you know different send them r way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are simple steps to take to ensure that couples are really couples

When we met couples we didn't have a problem with them being just men

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you have never had a couple profile u will not know how frustrating it is to be chatting to what you thought was a nice couple to only find out its a single male but then again I bet most single guy's do as they are the ones with couples profiles lol I often chat with singles and have met with them I'm not against it just don't like the deception there is nothing wrong with having a couples only site with photo verified we would join both at least you know what your getting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds more like you've had a bad stint.

Try blocking unverified members and only engage with profiles that have visible verifications.

If your approach hasn't worked, then it's time to change your approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The world of wife swapping and stranger sex collided a long time ago creating the scene as it is today.

Stranger sex is all about fuck and forget, wife swapping is more of a social event.

A site with couples only might work but many couples these days tend to look for singles be it the illusive single bi lady or the hunky old spice man.

If there is the demand for couples only sites there is bound to be one out there, happy hunting.

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Must admit when we started swinging (more years ago than we would like to remember) we thought that it was a couples thing. Still not sure if there is some kind of difference between swinging and wife swapping, we only meet couples but we do it in clubs so there is never a problem with couples being single men as you can see them in front of you. We love Fab but agree a couples only site may be a good idea, there may be one out there somewhere. Would be interested to know peoples ideas of the difference between wife swapping and swinging. PnJ xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The world of wife swapping and stranger sex collided a long time ago creating the scene as it is today.

Stranger sex is all about fuck and forget, wife swapping is more of a social event.

A site with couples only might work but many couples these days tend to look for singles be it the illusive single bi lady or the hunky old spice man.

If there is the demand for couples only sites there is bound to be one out there, happy hunting.

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thanks hun completely agree with you like we have said we have met some fab singles and if the couples only site does exist can someone please point us in the right direction nothing wrong with being on both xx

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

only chat to photo verified couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems your problem is more with fake couples profiles than the fact that its not just a couples swap thing that you thought it to be - we have had one phone call to a couple that turned out to be a bloke - reported it and it got removed - the rest have been ok - we chat to the fem on the phone almost always before meeting unless meeting up at a club night - take on board all the advise thats been said and hopefully you will have less of a problem xxxxxx

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

My apologies for inconveniencing you. I'll delete my account at once.

Though your profile, despite saying you're not meeting, does say you're looking for couples, men and women. Perhaps you were sending mixed signals?

Anyway, I'll just be off to delete myself.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Must admit when we started swinging (more years ago than we would like to remember) we thought that it was a couples thing. Still not sure if there is some kind of difference between swinging and wife swapping, we only meet couples but we do it in clubs so there is never a problem with couples being single men as you can see them in front of you. We love Fab but agree a couples only site may be a good idea, there may be one out there somewhere. Would be interested to know peoples ideas of the difference between wife swapping and swinging. PnJ xxx"

And yet your profile also says you're looking for couples and women.

I have to admit to being confused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My apologies for inconveniencing you. I'll delete my account at once.

Though your profile, despite saying you're not meeting, does say you're looking for couples, men and women. Perhaps you were sending mixed signals?

Anyway, I'll just be off to delete myself."

Vv they are not saying that singles shouldn't be here, just that there are not enough genuine couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not give online searching a miss and go to a club on a couples only night? They're great fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My apologies for inconveniencing you. I'll delete my account at once.

Though your profile, despite saying you're not meeting, does say you're looking for couples, men and women. Perhaps you were sending mixed signals?

Anyway, I'll just be off to delete myself."

I think you took this the wrong way

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"My apologies for inconveniencing you. I'll delete my account at once.

Though your profile, despite saying you're not meeting, does say you're looking for couples, men and women. Perhaps you were sending mixed signals?

Anyway, I'll just be off to delete myself."

damn us to hell for being singles on the swinging scene

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"My apologies for inconveniencing you. I'll delete my account at once.

Though your profile, despite saying you're not meeting, does say you're looking for couples, men and women. Perhaps you were sending mixed signals?

Anyway, I'll just be off to delete myself.

Vv they are not saying that singles shouldn't be here, just that there are not enough genuine couples

They want a site for couples only is what they said.

It's funny how many couples moan about that, until they want a MFF.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's what you want it to be, as it's now more flexible and popular than ever. be clear about what you want and be rigid in your selection process. Sometimes our interests change so switch ages, venues and types of people. Some do soft swap only and then switch to fuller.

It's a good time to be swinging if you master the art and fan is a great tool, when used to your advantage.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"My apologies for inconveniencing you. I'll delete my account at once.

Though your profile, despite saying you're not meeting, does say you're looking for couples, men and women. Perhaps you were sending mixed signals?

Anyway, I'll just be off to delete myself.

I think you took this the wrong way"

Perhaps I'm just a bit grouchy today.

The wanting a site for couples bit got my back up a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I said before swinging is now a mixture of wife/partner swapping and stranger sex the former being the more social part of the scene and the latter being about the pure sexual side.

Partner swapping is a small part of the scene these days, where do I get my facts? Go to any club, I know of none that Have a couples only night, couples and single females yes, couples and single men and women yes but no couples only. Clubs cater for what's required on the scene so singles are here to stay.

Of course I'm sure if there are enough people someone might organise a couples only event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"seems your problem is more with fake couples profiles than the fact that its not just a couples swap thing that you thought it to be - we have had one phone call to a couple that turned out to be a bloke - reported it and it got removed - the rest have been ok - we chat to the fem on the phone almost always before meeting unless meeting up at a club night - take on board all the advise thats been said and hopefully you will have less of a problem xxxxxx"

This.

Use your filters and use your nous.

Don't blame the site if you can't be bothered to utilise all its features to most suit your requirements.

Don't forget that no site will ever be able to guarantee 100%.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Would love it if it was that easy almost most couples profiles turn out to be a single guy they have fab guys would love a fab couples where u had to be photo verified b4 you could join "

Look for the profiles where they have been verified as couples by others. Not had a problem ourselves, but we only look for couples where verifications confirm they are a couple. Good luck with your search!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha!! Couples only site would still be full of single guys!

We're like para-sites (pun intended).

We'll always find a way to get you.......

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By *a KatWoman
over a year ago

Northwest

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I rarely play with couples, but I'd disagree with the comments that the stranger sex is more a fuck and forget and the couples thing is more social, certainly in my case. I love the social side and have made many friends as well as having been rogered senseless by a good number of rather sexy single blokes - a good few of whom I've met on more than one occasion. Swinging can be all things to all (wo)men i reckon although from some of the threads I've read regarding some folks experiences, there's a few people who purely expect a fuck as soon as they join.

In answer to the OP regarding fake couples, I can pretty quickly suss out if a couple is only a bloke looking to meet and I don't continue the convo once I realise

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By *a KatWoman
over a year ago

Northwest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My apologies for inconveniencing you. I'll delete my account at once.

Though your profile, despite saying you're not meeting, does say you're looking for couples, men and women. Perhaps you were sending mixed signals?

Anyway, I'll just be off to delete myself."

You're still here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rarely play with couples, but I'd disagree with the comments that the stranger sex is more a fuck and forget and the couples thing is more social, certainly in my case. I love the social side and have made many friends as well as having been rogered senseless by a good number of rather sexy single blokes - a good few of whom I've met on more than one occasion. Swinging can be all things to all (wo)men i reckon although from some of the threads I've read regarding some folks experiences, there's a few people who purely expect a fuck as soon as they join.

In answer to the OP regarding fake couples, I can pretty quickly suss out if a couple is only a bloke looking to meet and I don't continue the convo once I realise

That's how things used to be years ago before the 2 merged into what is now swinging, so the social side has come into things more for singles just as there are couples that want to just have sex with no socialising the lines have blurred so much that it all comes under the umbrella of swinging. Couples, singles, social and pure sex all mixed in.

Not forgetting t.v., t.s. fetish and any other groups I have missed out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think swinging includes all couples single men single girls TVs and ts but can't accept cheating behind a partners back that is not fair on any level ! Just our opinion probably get criticised but it won't change us cos we hate dishonesty

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"My apologies for inconveniencing you. I'll delete my account at once.

Though your profile, despite saying you're not meeting, does say you're looking for couples, men and women. Perhaps you were sending mixed signals?

Anyway, I'll just be off to delete myself.

You're still here

That's the rule of the flounce, isn't it?

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By *ammerandthongsCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

It's probably not what we thought it would be either but so far has been learning experience and we getting more used to it.

Amy and Gareth

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

swinging isnt exclusively for couples .

other people enjoy a free and easy sex life to

just set you mail filters correctly and make sure you speak to both partners on the fone early on in the proceedings ..that should solve your problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh the vast majority of couples I know of want a single male or female to join them at some point in their swinging career, as it were.

And for singles - swinging is great for us as we have a social life as well as great sex and make great friends. We're also hurting no-one in the 'real world' by admitting that we want sex and friendship but not long-term commitment.

Personally I think the demand for a couples only site would be limited - but i'm prepared to be proved wrong! Xx

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By *S_PennyTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"That sounds good I have no problem with singles swinging but would like to know if u are taking place to a couple that it really is a couple "

But what about couples that like 3somes?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A phone call to speak to the female half of the couple might work, plus meeting socially before any sex. Verifications could mention both and you could only meet in clubs on couples nights only. I imagine single men pretending to e a couple would be quite easy to spot but I won't say why in a public forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh the vast majority of couples I know of want a single male or female to join them at some point in their swinging career, as it were.

Personally I think the demand for a couples only site would be limited - but i'm prepared to be proved wrong! Xx"

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And yet your profile also says you're looking for couples and women.

I have to admit to being confused."
if you look at what I have said it says we have met singles but as they have a fab guy's wouldn't it be nice to just have a fab couples sorry if this has stressed you out and confused you that was not my intention xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would love it if it was that easy almost most couples profiles turn out to be a single guy they have fab guys would love a fab couples where u had to be photo verified b4 you could join "

Couples only would still have the same problems... And there are plenty of verified fake profiles x

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By *couser83Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

And yet your profile also says you're looking for couples and women.

I have to admit to being confused.if you look at what I have said it says we have met singles but as they have a fab guy's wouldn't it be nice to just have a fab couples sorry if this has stressed you out and confused you that was not my intention xxx"
fabguys is a site for men looking for men, not women or couples

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

i really dont understand the need for a special website ...cant you just click on the profiles that interest you and avoid the ones that dont ?

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

I'm always surprised at the amount of couples here for pure couples but spend much time moaning about singles one way or another.

There's many many genuine cpls for genuine cpls. A cpl with a few verification's off other verifieds are usually a genuine cpl.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

we are a couple.. but you will have to travel to meet..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That sounds good I have no problem with singles swinging but would like to know if u are taking place to a couple that it really is a couple

But what about couples that like 3somes? "

They find their third here

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

And yet your profile also says you're looking for couples and women.

I have to admit to being confused."

Your profile says that you don’t meet smokers yet you have verifications from smokers, things are not always black and white.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That sounds good I have no problem with singles swinging but would like to know if u are taking place to a couple that it really is a couple "

And you think a couples only site would offer you this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a party in Port Talbot around three weeks ago, there were around ten couples, six single females, and three single guys there, there's another posted by the same people in the Wales forum for next month also, and another just a few miles away.

We have no shortage off meet offers from couples on our joint profile, just can't understand why you're having problems

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

And yet your profile also says you're looking for couples and women.

I have to admit to being confused.

Your profile says that you don’t meet smokers yet you have verifications from smokers, things are not always black and white."

Er, veris from group socials. I don't meet smokers for play but I'll talk to smokers in a club sometimes

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We find this one of the only genuine swinging sites, try Swinging Heaven for a while and you'll be begging Fab for a new membership lol.

We have met dozens of people on here all genuine and are what they say on the tin.

It says we meet only couples and bi females but as loads of guys on here know we do meet guys too.

People say you cant meet genuine couples and single bi females which is rubbish, we are pushing 50 and still cant meet all the people we would like to as we dont have the time.

You get all this single females are like Unicorn shit...our friends reckon we collect single females lol.

Get your profile right and be honest with people and yourselves and have fun...

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