FabSwingers.com forum: wink wink

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok this is a question mainly for the ladies,Does sending a wink actually mean anything??.I mean im a bit confused is it a good way to iontro yourself or would it just be ignored straight away.?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally i think its from people who have nothing to say,or ar just too bloody lazy to say something,i ignore winks,andif the person persists in sending i block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its a good way I get a wink I check profile if I like I wink back and then starts emails.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different day, same thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just think its a way of showing someone ur interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find that sending a wink first breaks the ice ,,if they wink back then open a coversation ,,,saves a lot of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Different day, same thread."

Funny...I was thinking the same thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"personally i think its from people who have nothing to say,or ar just too bloody lazy to say something,i ignore winks,andif the person persists in sending i block"

I like winks, in fact I wink alot, almost a compulsive winker, i suppose you could call me a total winker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Different day, same thread.

Funny...I was thinking the same thing!

Will add my default answer then, for deja vu sake:

"a wink means you are saying that you are too lazy to make an effort, but you'd like it if I made an effort with you. So, let's be clear, you can't be arsed, but you want me to be arsed."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Different day, same thread.

Funny...I was thinking the same thing!

Will add my default answer then, for deja vu sake:

"a wink means you are saying that you are too lazy to make an effort, but you'd like it if I made an effort with you. So, let's be clear, you can't be arsed, but you want me to be arsed.""

couldnt have put it better myself,well i tried but i didnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Different day, same thread.

Funny...I was thinking the same thing!

Will add my default answer then, for deja vu sake:

"a wink means you are saying that you are too lazy to make an effort, but you'd like it if I made an effort with you. So, let's be clear, you can't be arsed, but you want me to be arsed.""

I use winks (not sure why tho, after reading the different threads on it!) & it's certainly, not a case of...I can't be arsed to be send a message, I always thought, it's a good way, to just let someone know, you like their profile & your interested! Maybe, that's just me...

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Much prefer a man that can take the time to send a nice mail.

I dont generally respond to winks as i think its an easy option and lacks effort.

For a single guy its the chance to introduce yourself and make an impression.

Mercedesx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually I do one thing with winks:

I wait 'till I have 20, then delete them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually I do one thing with winks:

I wait 'till I have 20, then delete them."

Christ!!! you`ve only been on here for 3 months...... D` you really get that many?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think its lazyness it just lets the other person know ur looking and interested in them if they wink back then start the emails x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously, the use of 'winks' on here, is clearly pointless, as the majority of people on here, just seem to completely ignore them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Different day, same thread.

Funny...I was thinking the same thing!

Will add my default answer then, for deja vu sake:

"a wink means you are saying that you are too lazy to make an effort, but you'd like it if I made an effort with you. So, let's be clear, you can't be arsed, but you want me to be arsed.""

Yep...my sentiments too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually I do one thing with winks:

I wait 'till I have 20, then delete them.

Christ!!! you`ve only been on here for 3 months...... D` you really get that many?

per day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a bad return... 10 sent... 2 messages back.

problem is, can`t read them as I think I`m going blind with a this winkin.

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

0h and thanks for the winks

Very amusing!

Mercedes.

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By *onny BonesMan
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

"Different day, same thread.

Funny...I was thinking the same thing!

Will add my default answer then, for deja vu sake:

"a wink means you are saying that you are too lazy to make an effort, but you'd like it if I made an effort with you. So, let's be clear, you can't be arsed, but you want me to be arsed."

Yep...my sentiments too! "

As you see mate there are those that do appreciate them and those that don't. Personally I think it is a cool ice breaker if welcomed by the other party. Check profiles to see if the person you are interested in acknowledges them or doesn't. If the person that you like does not like them, think of an alternative way of showing your interest. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink is perfect. I don't have to read a bloody mail then check out the profile.

A wink is perfect. It registers someone's interest and I only have to check out their profile.

A wink is perfect. I don't have to send a reply as they didn't send a mail.

A wink is JUST ... perfect.

Men have to write so many letters. We all acknowledge that. They have to try hard and get a very low percentage of replies in proportion to the mails they send. Given that and the fact that so many people here say 'I want a letter tailored to my profile', men would have to give up work AND employ a full time secretary to write all the mails.

A wink is just fine.

I want to meet for sex not interview

them for a lifetimes relationship.

Admin! N.B. Please can all the anti winkers have application forms and questionaires for winkers to fill in instead. Ta xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exaggeration called, they'd like their definition back.

Funny how men start threads that ask why they get ignored, it seems they expect *us* to give up work and employ a secretary to to reply to all the emails?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP and the original question.

I think it's simply that there is no answer as it's a personal thing. Much like some people will like a "get your coat you've pulled" in a bar and others might like a little chat first.

Clearly this small cross section of the huge FS members is somewhat indicative of this fact.

It's better, perhaps, to treat each profile as a person, read it and decide what they want, before you wink / mail / fill out an application / run a mile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually I do one thing with winks:

I wait 'till I have 20, then delete them.

Christ!!! you`ve only been on here for 3 months...... D` you really get that many?

per day.

FECK!!!! I`m gettin worried noo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually I do one thing with winks:

I wait 'till I have 20, then delete them.

Christ!!! you`ve only been on here for 3 months...... D` you really get that many?

per day.

FECK!!!! I`m gettin worried noo.

I sent you a wink! You took my winking virginity!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the OP and the original question.

I think it's simply that there is no answer as it's a personal thing. Much like some people will like a "get your coat you've pulled" in a bar and others might like a little chat first.

Clearly this small cross section of the huge FS members is somewhat indicative of this fact.

It's better, perhaps, to treat each profile as a person, read it and decide what they want, before you wink / mail / fill out an application / run a mile."

*Nods in total agreement*

I'm agreeing with you a lot today!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually I do one thing with winks:

I wait 'till I have 20, then delete them.

Christ!!! you`ve only been on here for 3 months...... D` you really get that many?

per day.

FECK!!!! I`m gettin worried noo.

I sent you a wink! You took my winking virginity!"

Sorry we don`t respond to winks.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

I state in my profile that if you wink and I wink back. then impress me by message.

Saves the guys time and mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I state in my profile that if you wink and I wink back. then impress me by message.

Saves the guys time and mine"

How?

You could just say "impress me by message" then it'd be faster than wink - wink - message, surely?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

so we have finally got conclusive evidence, that....*drum rolls*

some people respond to winks and

some dont..woooooohooooooooo!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at the winks better go have a look back in a min

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

Well it works for me and is speed really that important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that keen on winks.

If we were keen to meet, we would mail.

In the past we have had winks and responded by say something like "thank you, should you be interested get in touch" then nothing!

We will be honest and say we tend to delete them now.

Each to there own, but just not for us.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

i just laugh as i make it clear on my profile what i think of winks . so either they aint read my profile (not good starter ) or clearly arent interested in me actually getting back in touch with them lol !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Different day, same thread."
.. Yip but as before says to us the winker yes I said winker likes what he or she see's.

*sits on coffin*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i just laugh as i make it clear on my profile what i think of winks . so either they aint read my profile (not good starter ) or clearly arent interested in me actually getting back in touch with them lol !!! "

Well I think if there's one exceptionally clear fact about this site it's that most people don't read the profiles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks really do mean different things to different people.

For us a wink is "we like what we see in your profile do you like what you see in ours"

For others it means "can't be bothered typing a proper mail until you have at least shown an interest back"

So we love winks, where it falls down for us when you get a wink, check out the profile and like the one we got just minutes ago - 2 lines of text, no pictures whatsoever, live about 200 miles away, do they really expect us to wink back indicating we are interested.

We won't

and that means we may actually be dissing someone we would actually like had we seen a bit more about them in a profile and a picture of them both, as our profile says, clothed pictures with faces blocked out or backs turned are fine for us on the initial contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I think if there's one exceptionally clear fact about this site it's that most people don't read the profiles!"
... Don't get us started on that one

* gets bk in coffin * & shuts the fuck up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so we have finally got conclusive evidence, that....*drum rolls*

some people respond to winks and

some dont..woooooohooooooooo!!!

I demand a recount! How many sat on the fence ?

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Last time I sat on the fence I hurt me dangly bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last time I sat on the fence I hurt me dangly bits

Must have been a low fence!

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"Last time I sat on the fence I hurt me dangly bits

Must have been a low fence!"

oi I'm not that much of a shortarse yer know!!

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