FabSwingers.com forum: should I hold my breath

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Got a question

I've a meet arranged for this morning, met him before and he is a lovely man. However he's now not been online for about 18hrs. Am I being too cynical thinking today now probably won't happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People get cold feet, but until the time comes and he hasn't arrived you can't discount him.

I'm sure it feels hard, but you never really knew him so you haven't truly lost anything. Don't dwell, get out and do something to get sidetracked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you no other way of contacting him, like kik or whatsapp?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you no other way of contacting him, like kik or whatsapp?

no as we always were on here at same times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've met before, I'd certainly give him the chance to turn up......just because he's not been online, doesn't mean he's bailed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd most probably have his number wouldn't you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People get cold feet, but until the time comes and he hasn't arrived you can't discount him.

I'm sure it feels hard, but you never really knew him so you haven't truly lost anything. Don't dwell, get out and do something to get sidetracked."

not dwelling just asking opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you've met before, I'd certainly give him the chance to turn up......just because he's not been online, doesn't mean he's bailed."

hope so

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You'd most probably have his number wouldn't you?

don't do numbers can't afford to run 2 phones and so won't give it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you baked cakes ?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

In the absence of alternative contact means - guess you'll have to wait and see!

Is he meant to be coming to yours or are you going to his?

If he has your address or you his - I can't see any reason to worry about sharing numbers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You'd most probably have his number wouldn't you?

don't do numbers can't afford to run 2 phones and so won't give it out"

Download Kik app, it's like messenger and it's works via wifi/4G on a user name basis, no numbers exchanged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You'd most probably have his number wouldn't you?

don't do numbers can't afford to run 2 phones and so won't give it out"

I don't meet anyone without swapping numbers. If I trust somebody enough to meet and have fun with them then I trust them with my phone number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he doesn't show, get a meet today up, grab yourself a hottie........loadsa pics and show him what he's missed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you baked cakes ?"

No that's your treat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the absence of alternative contact means - guess you'll have to wait and see!

Is he meant to be coming to yours or are you going to his?

If he has your address or you his - I can't see any reason to worry about sharing numbers.

I can.....what if a meet is arranged and a child is ill and off school....or one or other of the people is attacked by a leopard on the way to the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can buy a pay as you go sim for a pound then put ten quid on it, that's a lot of text messages. I'd never consider a meet with someone if I didn't have their number.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"In the absence of alternative contact means - guess you'll have to wait and see!

Is he meant to be coming to yours or are you going to his?

If he has your address or you his - I can't see any reason to worry about sharing numbers.

I can.....what if a meet is arranged and a child is ill and off school....or one or other of the people is attacked by a leopard on the way to the meet."

When I said I can't see any reason - I meant no reason not to exchange numbers!

Especially if it's a repeat meet!

(And you live in an area populated by leopards!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the absence of alternative contact means - guess you'll have to wait and see!

Is he meant to be coming to yours or are you going to his?

If he has your address or you his - I can't see any reason to worry about sharing numbers.

I can.....what if a meet is arranged and a child is ill and off school....or one or other of the people is attacked by a leopard on the way to the meet.

When I said I can't see any reason - I meant no reason not to exchange numbers!

Especially if it's a repeat meet!

(And you live in an area populated by leopards!

)

Didn't mean leopards.....stupid auto correct......meant to say 'if you are attacked by a leper."

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"In the absence of alternative contact means - guess you'll have to wait and see!

Is he meant to be coming to yours or are you going to his?

If he has your address or you his - I can't see any reason to worry about sharing numbers.

I can.....what if a meet is arranged and a child is ill and off school....or one or other of the people is attacked by a leopard on the way to the meet.

When I said I can't see any reason - I meant no reason not to exchange numbers!

Especially if it's a repeat meet!

(And you live in an area populated by leopards!

)

Didn't mean leopards.....stupid auto correct......meant to say 'if you are attacked by a leper."

I suspect a leopard attack is statistically more likely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the absence of alternative contact means - guess you'll have to wait and see!

Is he meant to be coming to yours or are you going to his?

If he has your address or you his - I can't see any reason to worry about sharing numbers.

I can.....what if a meet is arranged and a child is ill and off school....or one or other of the people is attacked by a leopard on the way to the meet.

When I said I can't see any reason - I meant no reason not to exchange numbers!

Especially if it's a repeat meet!

(And you live in an area populated by leopards!

)

Didn't mean leopards.....stupid auto correct......meant to say 'if you are attacked by a leper."

I suspect a leopard attack is statistically more likely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Didn't mean leopards.....stupid auto correct......meant to say 'if you are attacked by a leper."

That makes more sense now, was thinking last time leopards attacked me there was not much opportunity to text, but a leper may hold back while you cancel a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What time are you supposed to meet? Hope he gets in touch soon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What time are you supposed to meet? Hope he gets in touch soon. "

in about half hour. Will give him till 10 then I'm off out.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

If he hasn't been online for a while and that is the only way you can get in touch then I would be thinking maybe something has come up in real life.

If you had swopped numbers and he had to cancel for some reason then he could have got in touch that way if he cant get the internet.

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By *onestjohn1962Man
over a year ago

Duxford

"What time are you supposed to meet? Hope he gets in touch soon.

in about half hour. Will give him till 10 then I'm off out."

I can be there at about 10,20 if you don't want to waste your day off ??

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

PS you can get free Sims or a Sim for coppers from most phone providers to use as a play phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been guilty of saying to someone I'll let you know Wednesday morning and then it all kick off in my personal life and forgot to let him know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did he turn up?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did he turn up?"

no but did contact me eventually to explain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did he turn up?

no but did contact me eventually to explain"

Hope he had a good excuse......was it s leopard attack....bet it was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a cheap throw away phone for things like this.

Her

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