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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all... After been on here for a while I have met only two women and one couple...

I'm wondering if I'm doing anything wrong when messaging people..

What do you thinks the best way to message women and a couples...

I'm a genuine guy, not bad looking, good job and look after myself.

Any hints or tips would be great

Cheers

Ryan xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

....."I'm wondering if I'm doing anything wrong when messaging people......"

Don't say 'give us a shag, ya slutty whore!'

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Use respect, be polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find a quick brief message along the lives of " do you take it up the tradesmans entrance? " works wonders

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Read the profile and tailor your message to it. There is and should never be some kind of standard template that you can use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you read profile and you match what they are looking for is a good start. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to use the law of attraction. So far I've worked out that the law of attraction is complete bullshit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Don't say 'give us a shag, ya slutty whore!' "

You forgot to say please!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

A lot of people check profiles before even opening the message and no profile pics would not help you.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Don't start with a message that consists of 'can I ask you a question?', a long-winded copy and paste scenario or 'I know you're not looking for xyz but...'

The message should be personal so read the profile, check the interests if listed (for example, anyone messaging me to ask if I want to Skype gets an instant delete - if I wanted camsex I would have listed it) and only message if you think there's a mutual compatibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't start with a message that consists of 'can I ask you a question?', a long-winded copy and paste scenario or 'I know you're not looking for xyz but...'

The message should be personal so read the profile, check the interests if listed (for example, anyone messaging me to ask if I want to Skype gets an instant delete - if I wanted camsex I would have listed it) and only message if you think there's a mutual compatibility."

You mean if they could make music together ?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Use baby oil ..oh thought you said massage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the profile first, and steer clear of 'wanna fuck now' messages or very long ones, or attaching cock pics. . . . Good luck

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Don't start with a message that consists of 'can I ask you a question?', a long-winded copy and paste scenario or 'I know you're not looking for xyz but...'

The message should be personal so read the profile, check the interests if listed (for example, anyone messaging me to ask if I want to Skype gets an instant delete - if I wanted camsex I would have listed it) and only message if you think there's a mutual compatibility.

You mean if they could make music together ? "

Well my instruments are a little bulky to carry with me on a meet but I could make do with the melodica if push came to shove...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't start with a message that consists of 'can I ask you a question?', a long-winded copy and paste scenario or 'I know you're not looking for xyz but...'

The message should be personal so read the profile, check the interests if listed (for example, anyone messaging me to ask if I want to Skype gets an instant delete - if I wanted camsex I would have listed it) and only message if you think there's a mutual compatibility.

You mean if they could make music together ?

Well my instruments are a little bulky to carry with me on a meet but I could make do with the melodica if push came to shove..."

Ah but a simple sort like me would bring a mouth organ ...kind of hard to fret the guitar properly when playing that I find.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Change your name. You'll be doomed they will think you are me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers all ..... some interesting ideas.. Hahaha some so not........

I think il make sure I tailor the message to the profile....

Il let you know how I get on.... Wish me luck lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and be amusing whilst referring to the profile.

Keep it short, keep it clean but make the recipient aware that you have read their profile.

When I had a singles profile it mentioned that I hated it when guys left their socks on during meets.

I got a message that said 'you make me wanna take my socks off'

Nothing more, nothing less

But the message really amused me and that got the conversation started.

Good Luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may sound rather obvious and glib but also, be genuinely interested in who you are messaging. Copy and paste messages are a very amusing concept as it's inferred that all interests are the same

And even though this hasn't been asked for, I'd suggest making one or two of your photos accessible. The profile text is fine, clear and assured, but the photos could be possibly another reason responses may not be forthcoming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Make sure you read profile and you match what they are looking for is a good start. Good luck "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make sure you read profile and you match what they are looking for is a good start. Good luck "

Good idea it's something I will look at.. I always attach pics to my messages and I got winks coming back but no reply to message..

Cheers mate

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most people will view your profile before the message, so get that working for you.

Assume that a varied selection of pics is essential.

Your message changes depending on the recipients and their needs etc.

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