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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was "

Sorry I told him not to tell you

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was

Sorry I told him not to tell you "

BOOM BOOM!

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was

Sorry I told him not to tell you "

LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why do they do that?!

it's actually a tad worse when they tell you how bad their last meet was actually, puts me up in arms and defensive about my fellow single fems on here...not to mention it's totally ungallant

makes me wonder what they'd say about me if they prove to be blabbers...which is a total turn off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was "

He could have said how bad she was. Surely your not going to judge him on one mistake?

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was

He could have said how bad she was. Surely your not going to judge him on one mistake? "

I dont do competition and to be told how utterly fantastic someone else is before im due to meet someone just doesnt do it for me. Yes i am judging him on one mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always thought one of the fun things was chatting about experiences etc etc.

Guess not to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was

He could have said how bad she was. Surely your not going to judge him on one mistake?

I dont do competition and to be told how utterly fantastic someone else is before im due to meet someone just doesnt do it for me. Yes i am judging him on one mistake. "

Isn't it all competition here or it seems like it from a guy's point of view. Verifications and things. I can understand though it not being the best thing for him to say. If he was good to chat to in the first place tell him he put you off a little and see if he apologises. You never know he might be a real nice guy.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Always thought one of the fun things was chatting about experiences etc etc.

Guess not to everyone."

May be fun to others but not to me. I never tell one meet what i have done with another. But where all different

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By *amoabMan
over a year ago

coventry

School boy error he'll be gutted because you look really Nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree i never kiss and tell

far as im concerned its my business not the other person im meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always thought one of the fun things was chatting about experiences etc etc.

Guess not to everyone.

May be fun to others but not to me. I never tell one meet what i have done with another. But where all different"

It wouldnt be for me either its like you have to live up to some thing

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"School boy error he'll be gutted because you look really Nice "

Doubt he will be gutted, usually i would of just deleted his message moved on and not said anything but for some reason it has really wound me up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds a little harsh bit it's your decision and you go with how you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always thought one of the fun things was chatting about experiences etc etc.

Guess not to everyone.

May be fun to others but not to me. I never tell one meet what i have done with another. But where all different"

I'm with you actually.

Who wants a tattle tale - off putting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always thought one of the fun things was chatting about experiences etc etc.

Guess not to everyone.

May be fun to others but not to me. I never tell one meet what i have done with another. But where all different"

Not names obviously... but talking about past experiences is what humans do to relax, frmo family to hobbies...

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Always thought one of the fun things was chatting about experiences etc etc.

Guess not to everyone.

May be fun to others but not to me. I never tell one meet what i have done with another. But where all different

Not names obviously... but talking about past experiences is what humans do to relax, frmo family to hobbies...

"

as i said where all different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was

He could have said how bad she was. Surely your not going to judge him on one mistake?

I dont do competition and to be told how utterly fantastic someone else is before im due to meet someone just doesnt do it for me. Yes i am judging him on one mistake. "

Or do you fear he might just judge you?

discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always thought one of the fun things was chatting about experiences etc etc.

Guess not to everyone.

May be fun to others but not to me. I never tell one meet what i have done with another. But where all different

Not names obviously... but talking about past experiences is what humans do to relax, frmo family to hobbies...

as i said where all different"

Doesn't surprise me that it appears all the women posting on this thread agree with you, but the men seem to think you're being harsh!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always thought one of the fun things was chatting about experiences etc etc.

Guess not to everyone.

May be fun to others but not to me. I never tell one meet what i have done with another. But where all different

Not names obviously... but talking about past experiences is what humans do to relax, frmo family to hobbies...

as i said where all different

Doesn't surprise me that it appears all the women posting on this thread agree with you, but the men seem to think you're being harsh!! "

I'm female.

But not English (leading statement... open the gates)

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was

He could have said how bad she was. Surely your not going to judge him on one mistake?

I dont do competition and to be told how utterly fantastic someone else is before im due to meet someone just doesnt do it for me. Yes i am judging him on one mistake.

Or do you fear he might just judge you?

discuss"

Im 45 years of age and for the last 30 i couldnt give a monkees whether someone judges me or not. I dont care if someone else has left someone a verification saying they where the best shag in the world, it was the way he had written it that he had aready made his mind up that he had already had the best and anything else was only going to come second

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always thought one of the fun things was chatting about experiences etc etc.

Guess not to everyone.

May be fun to others but not to me. I never tell one meet what i have done with another. But where all different

Not names obviously... but talking about past experiences is what humans do to relax, frmo family to hobbies...

as i said where all different

Doesn't surprise me that it appears all the women posting on this thread agree with you, but the men seem to think you're being harsh!! "

I don't think harsh at all just quick. We can all do as we wish but come on women talk about men to other women all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was

He could have said how bad she was. Surely your not going to judge him on one mistake?

I dont do competition and to be told how utterly fantastic someone else is before im due to meet someone just doesnt do it for me. Yes i am judging him on one mistake.

Or do you fear he might just judge you?

discuss

Im 45 years of age and for the last 30 i couldnt give a monkees whether someone judges me or not. I dont care if someone else has left someone a verification saying they where the best shag in the world, it was the way he had written it that he had aready made his mind up that he had already had the best and anything else was only going to come second"

so prove him wrong then,or not,as the case may be

your call obviously,just a thought on an open thread

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire


"

I don't think harsh at all just quick. We can all do as we wish but come on women talk about men to other women all the time."

Yeah we giggle about ugly willies and them not putting the loo seat down

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was

He could have said how bad she was. Surely your not going to judge him on one mistake?

I dont do competition and to be told how utterly fantastic someone else is before im due to meet someone just doesnt do it for me. Yes i am judging him on one mistake.

Or do you fear he might just judge you?

discuss

Im 45 years of age and for the last 30 i couldnt give a monkees whether someone judges me or not. I dont care if someone else has left someone a verification saying they where the best shag in the world, it was the way he had written it that he had aready made his mind up that he had already had the best and anything else was only going to come second

so prove him wrong then,or not,as the case may be

your call obviously,just a thought on an open thread"

and that is the problem, i dont have to prove myself to someone and that is what he was implying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was

He could have said how bad she was. Surely your not going to judge him on one mistake?

I dont do competition and to be told how utterly fantastic someone else is before im due to meet someone just doesnt do it for me. Yes i am judging him on one mistake.

Or do you fear he might just judge you?

discuss

Im 45 years of age and for the last 30 i couldnt give a monkees whether someone judges me or not. I dont care if someone else has left someone a verification saying they where the best shag in the world, it was the way he had written it that he had aready made his mind up that he had already had the best and anything else was only going to come second

so prove him wrong then,or not,as the case may be

your call obviously,just a thought on an open thread

and that is the problem, i dont have to prove myself to someone and that is what he was implying"

as i said,its your call

and no doubt, his loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I don't think harsh at all just quick. We can all do as we wish but come on women talk about men to other women all the time.

Yeah we giggle about ugly willies and them not putting the loo seat down "

See you do talk about men! I thought the forums were all about discussing different experiences meets friends, what the dog had for dinner and the price of fish.

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire


"

I don't think harsh at all just quick. We can all do as we wish but come on women talk about men to other women all the time.

Yeah we giggle about ugly willies and them not putting the loo seat down

See you do talk about men! I thought the forums were all about discussing different experiences meets friends, what the dog had for dinner and the price of fish. "

and why single guys cant get meets....dont forget that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if the truths known, many of us keep a track on "who was the best" but it's usually kept in our heads, and there's no doubt, that's where your friends thoughts should have stayed.

It wouldn't piss me off, but I would not meet them if it ever happened to me.

It's a lesson your friend will learn the hard way

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"if the truths known, many of us keep a track on "who was the best" but it's usually kept in our heads"

Go on, just whisper, I wont tell. Promise

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire


"if the truths known, many of us keep a track on "who was the best" but it's usually kept in our heads

Go on, just whisper, I wont tell. Promise "

you wee devil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if the truths known, many of us keep a track on "who was the best" but it's usually kept in our heads, and there's no doubt, that's where your friends thoughts should have stayed.

It wouldn't piss me off, but I would not meet them if it ever happened to me.

It's a lesson your friend will learn the hard way "

Keep track?!!

I can't remember them all!!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"if the truths known, many of us keep a track on "who was the best" but it's usually kept in our heads

Go on, just whisper, I wont tell. Promise

you wee devil "

psst but I was gonna tell you

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire


"if the truths known, many of us keep a track on "who was the best" but it's usually kept in our heads

Go on, just whisper, I wont tell. Promise

you wee devil

psst but I was gonna tell you "

phew....you had me worried for a mo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

and that is the problem, i dont have to prove myself to someone and that is what he was implying"

do you really believe that is what he was implying,or just being a typical male bragger?

still its his loss,and he obviously will not be able to brag about you now

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By *ell_aCouple
over a year ago

Perth

Actually...... well said Jack (or is it Kate?)

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That would put me off meeting a guy too, I'm sure past meets were amazing but when the man wants me, I want him to be saying i'm amazing and how much he wants me :P

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By *ylde FloozyWoman
over a year ago

preston


"I don't think harsh at all just quick. We can all do as we wish but come on women talk about men to other women all the time."

YES, we do talk about you behind your back to other women...

What we don't do however...

Is...

Turn round and say to you, "OMG the cock on a guy last week must have been at least 9 inches and he fucked like a rabbit"... When you are trying to do the business.

That would be very un PC.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are right NOT to meet him I wouldn't either on all sorts of grounds. The least not being that you could be tomorrows conversation to another site member.

I dropped like a hot potato someone I had met several times when they inadvertantly let it drop that they'd mentioned me to someone else (even though it wasnt by name )

Talking about experiences on here and to friends and having a laugh is totally different to someone banging on about a 'still warm' meet to the next person they are about to meet.

No sympathies n don't go changing your mind. It's not at all harsh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

P.S.

Anyone else lost it like I do when messages ask

'Had many meets on here?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"P.S.

Anyone else lost it like I do when messages ask

'Had many meets on here?' "

It's surprising how many Single Women and Couples ask that question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think harsh at all just quick. We can all do as we wish but come on women talk about men to other women all the time.

YES, we do talk about you behind your back to other women...

What we don't do however...

Is...

Turn round and say to you, "OMG the cock on a guy last week must have been at least 9 inches and he fucked like a rabbit"... When you are trying to do the business.

That would be very un PC.

"

bravo! well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"P.S.

Anyone else lost it like I do when messages ask

'Had many meets on here?' "

memememememmemememmemememmememememme!

"none of your effin business"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"P.S.

Anyone else lost it like I do when messages ask

'Had many meets on here?' "

Thing is though, if you've got a long list of veri's you can't say "no" can you?

That's another reason to hide them

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I don't think harsh at all just quick. We can all do as we wish but come on women talk about men to other women all the time.

YES, we do talk about you behind your back to other women...

What we don't do however...

Is...

Turn round and say to you, "OMG the cock on a guy last week must have been at least 9 inches and he fucked like a rabbit"... When you are trying to do the business.

That would be very un PC.

That is exactly what my point was

"

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By *ylde FloozyWoman
over a year ago

preston


"P.S.

Anyone else lost it like I do when messages ask

'Had many meets on here?'

Thing is though, if you've got a long list of veri's you can't say "no" can you?

That's another reason to hide them "

You don't have to hide them all, just be selective about the ones you show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think harsh at all just quick. We can all do as we wish but come on women talk about men to other women all the time.

YES, we do talk about you behind your back to other women...

What we don't do however...

Is...

Turn round and say to you, "OMG the cock on a guy last week must have been at least 9 inches and he fucked like a rabbit"... When you are trying to do the business.

That would be very un PC.

"

So your saying talking about someone you have met to one person is ok but not another? Why? are there different rules? Isn't both a lack of digression? Have you never commented on another person on the forums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think harsh at all just quick. We can all do as we wish but come on women talk about men to other women all the time.

YES, we do talk about you behind your back to other women...

What we don't do however...

Is...

Turn round and say to you, "OMG the cock on a guy last week must have been at least 9 inches and he fucked like a rabbit"... When you are trying to do the business.

That would be very un PC.

So your saying talking about someone you have met to one person is ok but not another? Why? are there different rules? Isn't both a lack of digression? Have you never commented on another person on the forums? "

not at all! you're comparing apples with oranges.

who would you talk about a good fuck with? a discreet friend or a potential girlfriend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think harsh at all just quick. We can all do as we wish but come on women talk about men to other women all the time.

YES, we do talk about you behind your back to other women...

What we don't do however...

Is...

Turn round and say to you, "OMG the cock on a guy last week must have been at least 9 inches and he fucked like a rabbit"... When you are trying to do the business.

That would be very un PC.

So your saying talking about someone you have met to one person is ok but not another? Why? are there different rules? Isn't both a lack of digression? Have you never commented on another person on the forums?

not at all! you're comparing apples with oranges.

who would you talk about a good fuck with? a discreet friend or a potential girlfriend?

"

Do you always answer questions addressed to someone else?

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By *ylde FloozyWoman
over a year ago

preston


"I don't think harsh at all just quick. We can all do as we wish but come on women talk about men to other women all the time.

YES, we do talk about you behind your back to other women...

What we don't do however...

Is...

Turn round and say to you, "OMG the cock on a guy last week must have been at least 9 inches and he fucked like a rabbit"... When you are trying to do the business.

That would be very un PC.

So your saying talking about someone you have met to one person is ok but not another? Why? are there different rules? Isn't both a lack of digression? Have you never commented on another person on the forums? "

Yes, because the way one group of people perceive the infomation is totally different to the way another group of people would view the the same information.

As for if I have ever commented on someone else in the forum well...

I won't even dignify that with an answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think harsh at all just quick. We can all do as we wish but come on women talk about men to other women all the time.

YES, we do talk about you behind your back to other women...

What we don't do however...

Is...

Turn round and say to you, "OMG the cock on a guy last week must have been at least 9 inches and he fucked like a rabbit"... When you are trying to do the business.

That would be very un PC.

So your saying talking about someone you have met to one person is ok but not another? Why? are there different rules? Isn't both a lack of digression? Have you never commented on another person on the forums?

not at all! you're comparing apples with oranges.

who would you talk about a good fuck with? a discreet friend or a potential girlfriend?

Do you always answer questions addressed to someone else? "

i do when its posted on an open forum.

you could opt to respond privately if you dont want others to read or comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you told him about what he's done wrong? If I were in his shoes I'd want to know.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

O o O oo


"Have you told him about what he's done wrong? If I were in his shoes I'd want to know."

It is one way for us to know if someone is discrete, if we told the person why we were put off by him, he could then pretend to be discrete but isn't.

We are with diamond on this one, we don't discuss meets with anyone and wouldn't meet with anyone who tried to discuss their meets with us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry i dont get whats wrong with that? surley its all about havn fun,,when we /i have a good meet il tell my swinging pals,,,obviously no names mentioned,,unless its on our/i verifications?

isnt swinging all about hanv fun with diffrent people?

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also dosnt it go the other way with timewasters and no shows?

do you not tell folk when that happens?

i know i would want my swinigng mates to tell me if they had a meet and they didnt show up?

name and shame is not allowed but word of mouth goes along way.i know this can be mis used but im talking your close friends on the site

auds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of People know all about previous meets by reading Verifications anyway

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

What if the guy in question was dyslexic, or had learning difficulties?

People are SO quick to judge on here these days.

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"Have you told him about what he's done wrong? If I were in his shoes I'd want to know."

I think it would be good to tell him the reason ur not taking things any further and how it made u feel. He may have got carried away and started rambling without thinking before sending his message. If that was not the case how else is he going to learn what he did wrong etc.

I agree that it was not pleasant and why u don't want to take things further. But I feel u should let him know why then move on as I think u will feel better and I know your a great person and always like to help others.

Hope the nice guy is a dream babes! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt bother me.....i like a challenge lmao xxx

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Have you told him about what he's done wrong? If I were in his shoes I'd want to know."

Off cause i did and i was actually very polite about it as he was a nice guy. Dont know if he responded back as i blocked him

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"Have you told him about what he's done wrong? If I were in his shoes I'd want to know.

Off cause i did and i was actually very polite about it as he was a nice guy. Dont know if he responded back as i blocked him"

I thought u would! Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tad harsh?

poor bloke prob no idea what hes done wrong?

auds x

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"tad harsh?

poor bloke prob no idea what hes done wrong?

auds x"

I just said that i had messaged him and told him why i know longer wished to meet and i was polite about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you were nice to him when you had to tell him, then ran to the forums to slag him off?

*nice*

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"tad harsh?

poor bloke prob no idea what hes done wrong?

auds x"

I thought she just said that she politely told him.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"So you were nice to him when you had to tell him, then ran to the forums to slag him off?

*nice*"

yep, suppose i could have sent him an abusive message instead but i choose not too. Everyone is entitled to a whinge or rant every now and again and today was my turn

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was "

Surly thats what were all here for is the fun and excitment of meets i for one dont have an issue if someone was to tell he had a fantastic meet or a crap meet ... have u never told anyone how your meets have gone ? its all about sharing your swinging experiance with other swingers that makes it such a fun thing to do

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Was getting on really well with a guy, was seriously considering meeting him then he decides to tell me how wonderful his last meet was

Surly thats what were all here for is the fun and excitment of meets i for one dont have an issue if someone was to tell he had a fantastic meet or a crap meet ... have u never told anyone how your meets have gone ? its all about sharing your swinging experiance with other swingers that makes it such a fun thing to do "

In your opinion, nothing wrong with saying you have had a really good meet just spare me the over the top details before your about to meet me

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

yeah well il give u that one no need for graphic details

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"sorry i dont get whats wrong with that? surley its all about havn fun,,when we /i have a good meet il tell my swinging pals,,,obviously no names mentioned,,unless its on our/i verifications?

isnt swinging all about hanv fun with diffrent people?

auds xx

"

It is yes, but some people don't discuss it with others and we don't want to be the discussions for anyone else.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"also dosnt it go the other way with timewasters and no shows?

do you not tell folk when that happens?

i know i would want my swinigng mates to tell me if they had a meet and they didnt show up?

name and shame is not allowed but word of mouth goes along way.i know this can be mis used but im talking your close friends on the site

auds xx"

We have never had a no show on here so have never felt the need to spread it and to be perfectly honest, we are not the type of people who would, we would just put it down to a man who didn't turn up, and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a lot of folk have grabbed onto the 'discussing meets' bandwagon, when that is not what the op, in my mind, was referring to.

it was the fact he boasted to her that he'd had the best shag ever...which, as a potential meet, would make you feel that you either had to better that or come in a poor second, at best.

as a previous boast said...how would it feel if the boot was on the other foot, a guy dropped his trousers and the woman said "I had the best cock ever the other day"

...seriously, would you be able to perform.....or would you feel pressured to do so?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"a lot of folk have grabbed onto the 'discussing meets' bandwagon, when that is not what the op, in my mind, was referring to.

it was the fact he boasted to her that he'd had the best shag ever...which, as a potential meet, would make you feel that you either had to better that or come in a poor second, at best.

as a previous boast said...how would it feel if the boot was on the other foot, a guy dropped his trousers and the woman said "I had the best cock ever the other day"

...seriously, would you be able to perform.....or would you feel pressured to do so?

"

It would just be the fact he was discussing it that would put me off, so he would never know if I was the bestest shag he had ever had after the last bestest shag

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"a lot of folk have grabbed onto the 'discussing meets' bandwagon, when that is not what the op, in my mind, was referring to.

it was the fact he boasted to her that he'd had the best shag ever...which, as a potential meet, would make you feel that you either had to better that or come in a poor second, at best.

as a previous boast said...how would it feel if the boot was on the other foot, a guy dropped his trousers and the woman said "I had the best cock ever the other day"

...seriously, would you be able to perform.....or would you feel pressured to do so?

That is exactly what i was refering too

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, in short, you don't want to hear about a good shag someone has, but you want everyone to know, via your verifications, stuff like "Expect the sex of your life. She will suck you dry".

Nothing to live up there, eh?

Good lord.

Seems to me all a bit petty and based in dubious double standards, really. You want to hear you are the best, not someone else, yet you want everyone to know how great you are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cant beat a bit of enthusiasum is'nt that what verifications are all about. Hes just loving what hes doing but then again its like going on about your ex in a new relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, in short, you don't want to hear about a good shag someone has, but you want everyone to know, via your verifications, stuff like "Expect the sex of your life. She will suck you dry".

Nothing to live up there, eh?

Good lord.

Seems to me all a bit petty and based in dubious double standards, really. You want to hear you are the best, not someone else, yet you want everyone to know how great you are?"

i dont post my verifications.

and there is a difference between sharing someones opinion of you and sharing someones opinion on someone else.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"So, in short, you don't want to hear about a good shag someone has, but you want everyone to know, via your verifications, stuff like "Expect the sex of your life. She will suck you dry".

Nothing to live up there, eh?

Good lord.

Seems to me all a bit petty and based in dubious double standards, really. You want to hear you are the best, not someone else, yet you want everyone to know how great you are?"

As i have already said if you had read my posts on this thread, i dont care whether they tell me they have had a good meet, i dont care what it says in their verifications what i dont want is someone telling me in grafic detail how fantastic their last shag was. I have never discussed my last meet with my next one and certainly not in detail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Di Hun some people thrive on conflict unfortunately it's a sad fact of life xx

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Di Hun some people thrive on conflict unfortunately it's a sad fact of life xx "

well as i said some people will agree and others wont didnt actually expect so many replies i was just having a rant. As you say some thrive on conflict its their choice im hardly going to worry about it am i craigy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Di Hun some people thrive on conflict unfortunately it's a sad fact of life xx

well as i said some people will agree and others wont didnt actually expect so many replies i was just having a rant. As you say some thrive on conflict its their choice im hardly going to worry about it am i craigy "

Nope taint worth the effort Hun lol xx

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By *ickens CiderMan
over a year ago

taunton

Your on about emotions really... You desired... You lusted... You wanted this guy... and he has open explained his emotions to a friend... That he saw was you... About the emotions encountered with another woman...

This lead to your negative emotions making you... upset... hate... Lack of desire or passion...

And you charged those in a very unwilling way upon the poor chap... No matter how polite you say you've done it in you message... An evil emotion kicked in by blocking him... So you've rightly or wrongly pissed on his fire...

I'm not going to sway either way on who's ultimately right or wrong for both the male or female point of view...

But... The biggest pet hate is those that have the last word... and they bagged that but blocking you?!

So like you said you now don't know how he feels... do you? you could of at least let him give you reply... If he saw sorry and didn't realise the hurt cause then that's fair...

If he turned round and told you to get a life... Then fair enough block the guy...

Second chance are a thing on here are they?

I've found that out the hard way... Trust me?! lol

Just let the guy reply at least one last time...

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Your on about emotions really... You desired... You lusted... You wanted this guy... and he has open explained his emotions to a friend... That he saw was you... About the emotions encountered with another woman...

This lead to your negative emotions making you... upset... hate... Lack of desire or passion...

And you charged those in a very unwilling way upon the poor chap... No matter how polite you say you've done it in you message... An evil emotion kicked in by blocking him... So you've rightly or wrongly pissed on his fire...

I'm not going to sway either way on who's ultimately right or wrong for both the male or female point of view...

But... The biggest pet hate is those that have the last word... and they bagged that but blocking you?!

So like you said you now don't know how he feels... do you? you could of at least let him give you reply... If he saw sorry and didn't realise the hurt cause then that's fair...

If he turned round and told you to get a life... Then fair enough block the guy...

Second chance are a thing on here are they?

I've found that out the hard way... Trust me?! lol

Just let the guy reply at least one last time...

"

pmsl, i think desire and lust are just slight exaggerations lmao. He said something, it put me of him i messaged him and told him and then blocked him. why would i want further communication with someone i no longer wished to meet? Upset and hate lmao, the long and short is he pissed me off, end off. I had a rant about it. Thats it simple

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

The only person i have any emotions for is my boyfriend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt like to think of myself with someone so indiscete as to kiss and tell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditto about having emotional feelings for your bf only but having respect for those you choose to associate with would be important for me.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Your on about emotions really... You desired... You lusted... You wanted this guy... and he has open explained his emotions to a friend... That he saw was you... About the emotions encountered with another woman...

This lead to your negative emotions making you... upset... hate... Lack of desire or passion...

"

Do you write for Mills and Boon by any chance?

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Your on about emotions really... You desired... You lusted... You wanted this guy... and he has open explained his emotions to a friend... That he saw was you... About the emotions encountered with another woman...

This lead to your negative emotions making you... upset... hate... Lack of desire or passion...

Do you write for Mills and Boon by any chance? "

pmfsl

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"Your on about emotions really... You desired... You lusted... You wanted this guy... and he has open explained his emotions to a friend... That he saw was you... About the emotions encountered with another woman...

This lead to your negative emotions making you... upset... hate... Lack of desire or passion...

And you charged those in a very unwilling way upon the poor chap... No matter how polite you say you've done it in you message... An evil

emotion kicked in by blocking him... So you've rightly or wrongly pissed on his fire...

I'm not going to sway either way on who's ultimately right or wrong for both the male or female point of view...

But... The biggest pet hate is those that have the last word... and they bagged that but blocking you?!

So like you said you now don't know how he feels... do you? you could of at least let him give you reply... If he saw sorry and didn't realise the hurt cause then that's fair...

If he turned round and told you to get a life...

Then fair enough block the guy...

Second chance are a thing on here are they?

I've found that out the hard way... Trust me?! lol

Just let the guy reply at least one last time...

"

Sounds like u r talking about yourself being the guy and perhaps over sensitive. Something the guy said put her off him and she politely told why she didn't want to continue with him and then blocked him to avoid further discussion. I don't see a problem with that. You need to remember that this wasn't a relationship they hadn't even met so I'm sure the guy wasn't too attached and would have just moved on and hopefully learnt a few things.

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By *ickens CiderMan
over a year ago

taunton


"The only person i have any emotions for is my boyfriend"

So what's the issue... Why the whole thread... It's clear he wasn't ever going to be the best shag you've ever had in your life... Or are you going to start making your bf feel belittled then?

Clearly the water should have flowed under the bridge... Because bring the topic up in the first place makes you no better than him bragging about his wonderful evening... you've seemingly twisted to be what a loser I've just blocked... So in my eyes your kind of as bad as he is... aren't you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your on about emotions really... You desired... You lusted... You wanted this guy... and he has open explained his emotions to a friend... That he saw was you... About the emotions encountered with another woman...

This lead to your negative emotions making you... upset... hate... Lack of desire or passion...

Do you write for Mills and Boon by any chance? "

ROFPMSL!!

I'm sorry it really was a flowery post!

Barbara Cartland would have been proud!

It did make me chuckle though...so I thank you!

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"The only person i have any emotions for is my boyfriend

So what's the issue... Why the whole thread... It's clear he wasn't ever going to be the best shag you've ever had in your life... Or are you going to start making your bf feel belittled then?

Clearly the water should have flowed under the bridge... Because bring the topic up in the first place makes you no better than him bragging about his wonderful evening... you've seemingly twisted to be what a loser I've just blocked... So in my eyes your kind of as bad as he is... aren't you?

"

where did i say he was a loser?? I said he was a nice guy. Think you may just be reading a tad little something into it that isnt there. Oh if you think im as bad as he is so be it, im hardly going to loose any sleep over what someone i dont know thinks about me now am i?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

fully understand where the girls are coming from....

if i am meeting someone I am there to get to know them and be with them, not to get a blow by blow of there other meets....

I think it can be off-putting.... the fun is in the exploring and finding out for yourself, not in finding out that someone else knows how to press all there buttons....

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By *iamondladyWoman
over a year ago

titsville


"fully understand where the girls are coming from....

if i am meeting someone I am there to get to know them and be with them, not to get a blow by blow of there other meets....

I think it can be off-putting.... the fun is in the exploring and finding out for yourself, not in finding out that someone else knows how to

press all there buttons.... "

Well said!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Interesting thread.

I've always taken the view that some discreet discussion of previous experience helps to build a bond between people, and I've certainly listened to a fair bit more detail than I've shared! Have also had a couple of messages turning me down BECAUSE I wasn't shouting from the rooftops....

So, as with everything else, it's each to their own.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"So, in short, you don't want to hear about a good shag someone has, but you want everyone to know, via your verifications, stuff like "Expect the sex of your life. She will suck you dry".

Nothing to live up there, eh?

Good lord.

Seems to me all a bit petty and based in dubious double standards, really. You want to hear you are the best, not someone else, yet you want everyone to know how great you are?"

Not us no, we hate to read any graphic verifications plus don't put a huge importance on verofications at all.

We make our own mind up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt like it either to be honest. Yeah ok we all know people have met others, but if they are arranging a meet, I dont think talking about their last meet and how great it was is exactly the best thing to do. If a discussion gets onto meets etc, just to say yeah im liking this site and a smiley and nothing else.

If you did meet up with him, you will always think about what he said so it may not go as brilliantly as you would want anyway.

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