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By *y2fun OP   Man
over a year ago

DUDLEY

anyone going to own up to being on here and not having any luck?

we don't get much cause we are funny buggers to please...

but have you just drawn a blank? be honest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's out there if you want it. We're fussy little shits but we do ok. Admittedly not all our swinging is fab based though.

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By *ickstartmyheart103Man
over a year ago

near the east coast

Your not on your own,we have had little joy.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

when I was meeting, I had a blast....

loved every minute and had plenty of fun times.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I feel that, because I don't accommodate, I don't get as much interest as most single women on here. I don't think I've failed, but I do have times that are more productive (meetwise) than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much, I've had a decent bit of success at it but years later, I have to admit I haven't really found what I started looking for from swinging, and continue to pursue it more as a habit than a genuine enjoyment these days. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE it when I finally get to meet someone I find genuinely intriguing and exciting through swinging, but those meets have gotten rarer and rarer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums are full of guys saying just that....but as often as not they blame the site, rather than their own lack of effort.

I dunno if I would say I have failed....no I haven't lol.... Too many veris to be able to say that.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I will be honest and say I struggle up here, sometimes I'm lucky if I meet someone every 3 months sometimes more, but I do still try

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

OP, the way that the question is put would make me ask whether this aspect is for you at this time or you need to look again at what it is you expect from it perhaps..?

or maybe we just don't see it in the same way..

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

This may well depend on what peoples expectations are and whether they are successfully on the social side of being on here swell as the play .one may be more important to them than the other

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I meet as often as I can but not as often as I'd like. I do get offers but have to turn them down mainly through lack of available free time.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

we do ok with fab members who are on holiday, or the occasional couples we meet on the beach..Connie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had no joy at all, I had a previous profile that I had a couple of meets on.

Fact is I get more joy down the pub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

anyone going to own up to being on here and not having any luck?

we don't get much cause we are funny buggers to please...

but have you just drawn a blank? be honest?"

Ive had no luck recently x feels like I've lost my mojo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get out of it what you put in to it. Some people expect it served up on a plate.

When I was single, I was having 2-3 meets per week with couples and single fems. I built up a rapport with some of them and had regular meets with them and had a great time. Occasionally, these meets would introduce me to others, because they knew I would not mess them about and we would have some fun.

Now I am with someone (who I met through FAB) I probably only have a meet every couple of months. And when I want one, I can generally get something arranged. This is usually because I chat to people reguarly and keep in touch, so I am in their minds when they are looking for a cock to bounce on.

I consider it a success, and I have enjoyed it.

I do get bored with hearing single guys moaning about the lack of meets and then you look and their profile is shite or they dont have pics or they cant accom etc etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an awkward bugger to meet but I am lucky in that there are those with the patience of a saint.... Sadly not everyone that I would have liked to have met has but that's life. On the whole I'm more than happy so far.

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By *y2fun OP   Man
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"OP, you need to look again at what it is you expect from it perhaps..?

"

mayeb your right, I was just wondering if your not on the club scene how much "meeting" goes on?

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By *y2fun OP   Man
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"I was having 2-3 meets per week with couples and single fems.

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that seems a lot, we'd think 2/3 a year alot.

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By *appyguy17Man
over a year ago

walthamstow

I have met nice people.....

But it is hard.....

I like to get to know people first on here...then have a social meet..

I'm very fussy.......

Some girls want to meet straight away...

So i'm sure i miss out.........

Nice people will to do the same as me...

So i'm happy with that xx

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I suppose it comes down to being as proactive as one wants to be.... Last time I gave that advice to the person who received it didn't take too kindly...........but hey ho

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By *arky90Couple
over a year ago

Killarney

Thankfully have had plenty of so called luck,think you get out of it what you put in and once you build up a good circle of friends it gets easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see how you can quantify failing at swinging. ...you may not get what you want exactly but surely by definition it's a lifestyle for couples ? Everyone else here is kind of just hanging out and making it what they choose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We spend a lot of time discussing what we fancy and then look for it tbh but we ve generally enjoyed what we ve done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually meet at clubs. had quite a few meets on here when we first joined, but there is more chance of us doing things of the cuff now.

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By *y2fun OP   Man
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"Your not on your own,we have had little joy."

its really been down to us as we have said NO many times, maybe we are punching above our weight ?

nowt wrong with being fussy is there? we have started to think it must be easier as singles, less people to please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't meet off fab. It's just too scary. We have met some really strange people who are not what they seem. If you meet at a club and you don't click you can just wonder off until you get chatted up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think on the whole I have had a lot of success in my 6yrs. Never been let down and only had one "bad" meet but I am very fussy and would rather go without than just meet anyone.

If I don't meet then I go to my fav club and socialise so it's all good

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By *y2fun OP   Man
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"We usually meet at clubs. "

how many people (couples and singles) do you get in clubs? 100? 1000?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"We usually meet at clubs.

how many people (couples and singles) do you get in clubs? 100? 1000? "

Depends on the club/night/time of year.

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By *y2fun OP   Man
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"Depends on the club/night/time of year."

Saturday night ? Paradise? Attic? Chams?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Don't see how you can quantify failing at swinging. ...you may not get what you want exactly but surely by definition it's a lifestyle for couples ? Everyone else here is kind of just hanging out and making it what they choose? "

I suppose in that respect, I'm not a swinger and therefore a failure by default. I've never been to an adult club either but always think that's a potential success rather than a past failure.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Depends on the club/night/time of year.

Saturday night ? Paradise? Attic? Chams?"

I don't usually do Saturdays as they are usually couples only, but Isis on a Friday night can have between 10 people to 70 depending. Chameleons is a bigger club so I would say an average night would be 150, with party nights having a lot more.

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By *rank_SimoneCouple
over a year ago

Bideford

We have had mixed results, normally our meets have come from attending socials and arranging a meet afterwards.

We seem to spend more time chatting and getting to know couples on here than actually meeting.

Normally when a meet is suggested they head for the hills.

Funnily enough it con-sides with us releasing our face pictures lol

Unfortunately we fall into the minority section, both straight, both ancient, both showing signs of wear and more importantly we cannot accommodate.

But we will keep on trying, and whats important we have made several new friends from the socials we have attended on this site and the others we are members on.

We are also like the OP only 1 or 2 meets a year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we do ok on here when we are looking for a meet

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'm having a fantastic time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have nevef really looked at it as succeeding or failing. We enjoy swinging and have found a balance and lifestyle that works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely diddlysquat local these last few months over to London oh yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly have....i blame it on having a face that only a mother could love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we do ok with fab members who are on holiday, or the occasional couples we meet on the beach..Connie xx"

Meeting on the beach sounds good, no expectations, so you can relax.

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over a year ago

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

we tend to stick to regular people when possible and find that works well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having a fab time

Few one on one meets mixed with club events

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

anyone going to own up to being on here and not having any luck?

we don't get much cause we are funny buggers to please...

but have you just drawn a blank? be honest?"

Yes because there's to many time wasters and people with delusions of grandier. get rid of then and it might be a decent site.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

As a single bi fem... even in an area that is less than a bustling metropolis... I do ok. When possible, I attend socials, and am happy to meet socially first.

I could meet every week if I wished... but I don't want that.

The meets I have had have been (on the whole) very good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

anyone going to own up to being on here and not having any luck?

we don't get much cause we are funny buggers to please...

but have you just drawn a blank? be honest?

Yes because there's to many time wasters and people with delusions of grandier. get rid of then and it might be a decent site. "

Agreed, we left because we got fed up with timewasters, now back we have found it worse.

It's a shame because it was good fun but it isn't anymore, only last week we were sat in a pub in Farnborough thinking that we had been made to look like mugs again, and sure enough we had.

The forum can be fun,but, for us maybe because of our age or looks, the swinging side seems to have ended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Steadily getting worse, partly due to not accommodating and partly our ills and kids and work, meaning we want days only plus we want couples only now. Basically we are dirty bastards but luckily we love fucking each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only meet and play maybe twice a year, some of it is because people aren't for us, and sometimes we aren't for other people, but we do love going to socials and having a laugh and chatting to people, then if something clicks then ok if not it doesn't matter we've had a good night,

So I'd say we've succeeded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do.ok.. There when I want it..I cannot acvom, won't go to clubs and have a few filters on..

I had plenty sexy friends from out and about, nothing to to with websites!

I want a relationship.. Can't see me in reading my meets or finding a keeper here.

Its part of my.life, not all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Certainly have....i blame it on having a face that only a mother could love "

Ahh, but which mother?

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By *exine xCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

This swinging lark is not as easy as first seems.

The biggest downer for us is time. We both have to work and do normal life things.

But swinging is there for when we fancy it.

Oh. And we are a bit fussy and intolerant of the injuts on here.

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

Must admit found the site fun and interesting last year but got a bit p##t off with time wasters and women just wanting to chat and nothing else. Thought the site was all about fun. Just take a look occasionally now.rather go on the pull nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hardly ever use Fab for meeting people any more. Clubs and parties are more fun. It's much easier chatting in person. We have an absolute blast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not ashamed to say. That i'm failing badly on (FAB). I've now just resorted to using the (chat & forums). In essence to "chat" no women are taking an interest in me. It's always the case, they move on to supposingly, bigger & better (fabbers) so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit disillusioned at the moment and not bothering with meeting but I have met some lovely men in the past and had a good time.

Distance is a major drawback for me though. I'm miles from everyone. The nearest city is Swansea and an hour and 40 minutes away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just met one from here and had a great time with her last year so not to bad but then my desire for sex is very low as my heavy training taxes my system, but I enjoy using the forum and chat rooms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just met one from here and had a great time with her last year so not to bad but then my desire for sex is very low as my heavy training taxes my system, but I enjoy using the forum and chat rooms "

Really??

I find excersise drives my sex drive through the roof. I thought that was commom due to the testosterone it produced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just met one from here and had a great time with her last year so not to bad but then my desire for sex is very low as my heavy training taxes my system, but I enjoy using the forum and chat rooms

Really??

I find excersise drives my sex drive through the roof. I thought that was commom due to the testosterone it produced."

Yes it does and I gues as well depends, how much time you spend in the gym and other factors like diet, you can get to tired of eating all the carbs to.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I've possibly failed "at swinging". I wouldn't say I've failed "at fabs" though. I don't think that they are one and the same.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

What's the saying? You haven't failed until you stop trying.

Of course, there's also that quote about doing the same thing and expecting different results.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not done badly on here... And London has a barmy, compartmentalised scene.

And it's all down to 2 things-

1) Timing and 2) Sheer luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like I'm definitely winning at swinging as opposed to failing. This year has been amazing so far!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do ok , we know what we like , and seem to succeed getting it .

This thread does make a case for those who feel the forumites are not necessarily the swingers who meet though doesn't it ?

With a few exceptions , it seems odd that so many people post on the forums saying they can't get a meet , and listen to the advice from those who aren't meeting

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"With a few exceptions , it seems odd that so many people post on the forums saying they can't get a meet , and listen to the advice from those who aren't meeting

"

Its a case of 'do as I say, not as I do'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We do ok , we know what we like , and seem to succeed getting it .

This thread does make a case for those who feel the forumites are not necessarily the swingers who meet though doesn't it ?

With a few exceptions , it seems odd that so many people post on the forums saying they can't get a meet , and listen to the advice from those who aren't meeting

"

And don't listen to those who do. Go figure. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had such a brilliant time since joining Fab. New experiences and a few adventures and I've met some great people. I'm happy with the level of my naughty life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have done OK on this account and old accounts.

Must admit, it's been over a year since we met a single female of Fabs but do play with a couple now and then that we know in RL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really class myself as a swinger anyway. I don't meet particularly often, but that's because real life takes priority and I'm quite fussy, so it definitely doesn't make me feel like I'm failing. If I signed up and then met one person I had fun with, it would mean it hadn't been a waste of effort. But that's because this is a really small part of my life.

If you're happy with the reasons that are limiting your meets then I don't think that should be seen as a failure!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"...

but have you just drawn a blank? be honest?"

Haven't drawn a blank, but there have been many occasions when 'blanks have been fired'

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

My definition of failing might be different to others...

In my eyes I do alright for a 50 year old single guy,..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just met one from here and had a great time with her last year so not to bad but then my desire for sex is very low as my heavy training taxes my system, but I enjoy using the forum and chat rooms "

What's all the training for?

Doesn't it get in the way of work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just met one from here and had a great time with her last year so not to bad but then my desire for sex is very low as my heavy training taxes my system, but I enjoy using the forum and chat rooms

What's all the training for?

Doesn't it get in the way of work?"

its just to look good on the beach you know when your stripping of and no doesn't get in the way of work as I just work 12hrs a week, so got plenty of free time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like I'm definitely winning at swinging as opposed to failing. This year has been amazing so far! "

I'm not surprised, you are F#@king stunning!

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"I feel that, because I don't accommodate, I don't get as much interest as most single women on here. I don't think I've failed, but I do have times that are more productive (meetwise) than others."

I'm with you on this coz I don't accom either.

I have put it to the test previously and it's proved that I get lots of interest if put 'meet at mine' and hardly any for 'meet at yours'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do ok, there has been a few times where I have been looking and found no one as no one who has been avaliable at that time has took my fancy and I'm not one for meeting for tthe sake of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To answer the question anyway, I definitely think I'm winning

I' loving this latest experience on Fab x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like I'm definitely winning at swinging as opposed to failing. This year has been amazing so far!

I'm not surprised, you are F#@king stunning! "

Aww thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To answer the question anyway, I definitely think I'm winning

I' loving this latest experience on Fab x"

We need a winning scenario on the go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel that, because I don't accommodate, I don't get as much interest as most single women on here. I don't think I've failed, but I do have times that are more productive (meetwise) than others.

I'm with you on this coz I don't accom either.

I have put it to the test previously and it's proved that I get lots of interest if put 'meet at mine' and hardly any for 'meet at yours'."

I.dont accom either.. never been an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had lots meets until the last 6 months but many our veries are non playing meets ,lots interest from guys but this guy like to play with other ladies to very difficult to find a couple which we would both play but onwards and upwards lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To answer the question anyway, I definitely think I'm winning

I' loving this latest experience on Fab x

We need a winning scenario on the go "

Your new pics came up in my friends feed, I'm loving what I see, in the new year we should make something happen because you... are someone I would love to meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel that, because I don't accommodate, I don't get as much interest as most single women on here. I don't think I've failed, but I do have times that are more productive (meetwise) than others.

I'm with you on this coz I don't accom either.

I have put it to the test previously and it's proved that I get lots of interest if put 'meet at mine' and hardly any for 'meet at yours'.

I.dont accom either.. never been an issue"

nor me, to be honest i get loads of guys offering to pay for hotels, of course I get some guys who just want to come to mine and loose interest if i say no but not enough to make it an issue or make finding meets hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't realise there was a pass mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't realise there was a pass mark "

69

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am definitely failing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't realise there was a pass mark

69"

We've been together way too long now for such things

Our usual position in bed is more 11 (with accompanying snores)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im fussy and im not everyones cup of tea. But i do ok. Iv met some great people on this site

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

We have done ok some meets have not been great but move on to the next one and hope it`s better, the biggest problem we come across is guys who say they can accommodate but have a social with them and then they say that they can`t excuses start from well there is a mistake on my profile or I only use hotels ?

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"

anyone going to own up to being on here and not having any luck?

we don't get much cause we are funny buggers to please...

but have you just drawn a blank? be honest?"

Can't say i failed at what i was after tbh. Happy with who i've met and when i meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say the women do better on here than men.

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We usually meet in clubs, but that's because we were let down by so many timewasters on here. We like being on Fab, but at least in a club if someone doesn't turn up, it doesn't really matter.

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I've had a brilliant fab life since being on here love meeting new people and still have lots of play friends from when I first joined.

Recently passed the 55 limit but it hasn't seemed to make a difference .. yet!

I like friends with benefits and I've been so lucky in having made so many.... thanks fab!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Thomas Edison:

Many of life's failures are people who did not realise how close they were to success when they gave up.

Or, Gandhi:

Satisfaction lies in the effort, not the attainment. Full effort is full victory.

When I have made the effort I have done well. Sitting back and waiting was a good route to frustration.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

No, both my OH and myself have a great time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say the women do better on here than men."

Don't know where you get that idea from

50/50 surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Must admit found the site fun and interesting last year but got a bit p##t off with time wasters and women just wanting to chat and nothing else. Thought the site was all about fun. Just take a look occasionally now.rather go on the pull nowadays. "

I can understand that, if I was a single man I wouldn't be on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im fussy and im not everyones cup of tea. But i do ok. Iv met some great people on this site"

hardly anyone on here is my type but I do meet some nice men sometimes.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't get much free time to play but when I do I have never been let down. Any meet arranged has gone ahead and have all lead to having some fun on future meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv been let down off other sites . But that's life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not doing well on here at all but I just find the forums fun so if I meet someone off here then it's just a bonus

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By *ourgeMan
over a year ago

stourport nr kidderminster

not had much look on hear , i like to meet up for a drink first , but people dont seem to want that , i want to get to no some one first,

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"not had much look on hear , i like to meet up for a drink first , but people dont seem to want that , i want to get to no some one first, "

I always have a social meet and it is on my profile that the first meet will not involve any play.....if the meet goes well and there is some chemistry on both sides then another meet is arranged. People who don't respect my opinion on that can jog on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

but i really dont give a foook

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We've both had better results as singles on other sites, the couple dynamic is a little odd. However, it's not stopping us having fun and if you come with no expectation......

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

There I was, under the impression that all I needed to do was send out messages asking "Hous you hun" and will immediately get women begging to fuck me. I haven't failed, the site has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a very lucky lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a bit disillusioned at the moment and not bothering with meeting but I have met some lovely men in the past and had a good time.

Distance is a major drawback for me though. I'm miles from everyone. The nearest city is Swansea and an hour and 40 minutes away. "

How things change in four weeks. Not so disillusioned now and I've have had a couple of meets in the meantime

I'm also saving up for a helicopter to help with the distance problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being honest I havent had the experiences I thought I would. The only person I have to blame is myself. The offers and opportunities have been there I was just too foolish to take them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There I was, under the impression that all I needed to do was send out messages asking "Hous you hun" and will immediately get women begging to fuck me. I haven't failed, the site has."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing so far other than just chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had a play meet in over two years, but I haven't failed.

I just haven't found what I'm looking for....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met some nice people. Not met as regularly as I'd like but that's my own fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. Been on here 2/3 months now. No luck at all. Maybe just me....chat to a few but many want verifications...get that but cant get verification without meeting so a hard circle to break. A few a started to get to know all up for meeting until very close and then say they are not meeting for a bit or taking a break.....grrr..frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In as much as I had expected to learn to play the violin or at least the ukulele from swinging, then yes I have failed. Have found some great people and had sexual adventures with some of them that are not possible with just the 2 of us though. So not a complete failure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm a ghost no one can see me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had loads of fun at different times over the years .. But our life is full of other things too ... so its fitting everything in its not easy at times . x

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Never failed xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us we only get about 10% of meets through fab. We find it easy to meet men through fab but it's much harder to meet couples or girls through here.

We much prefer clubs, however we often meet fabbers at the clubs

We like fab to find out club events or socials and for the forums.

So have we failed at swinging... Nope achieved lots of fun and im addition to that lots of friends but if we used used fab for home meets then we would be pretty disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As successful as I need/want. The two things slowing me down tend to be time/work etc....and that I like to spend time with a rather special friend. But as we met on here I guess that's a success too!

This place is great if you know how to use it and mix it with socials and occasional clubs etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm a ghost no one can see me "

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By *r jblMan
over a year ago

from parts unknown

I can see that everyone on here has some kind of standards. Well some do. Me for one will not just bang anything. If that makes me a failure, I'm still happy to be here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd put my hands up.

Then again - i'm rather picky with who i meet and get to know. However, i'm quite of a peculiar taste to others too. I don't float a lot of boats. My age and my 'look' doesn't do me many favours. But, i won't change my look just to have meets; although many have tried.

I do alright outside of fab, so it doesn't bother me much. It's just those i meet outside of fab is rather 'vanilla'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on here over a year ,

and not a meet has happened ere.

not a shag or even a kiss,

a little chat wouldn't go a miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the worlds worst swinger. Free time and head/heart stuff gets in the way!!

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BAE

I have actually failed as a swinger. I came on here in the hope that group sex and swapping would be a new way of life for me.

I have been to clubs and had a couple of 3somes...and its not been my thing. So I have actually failed as a swinger.

I have lots of friends and it is great for NSA meets for me. I love the forums and the social aspects too, but not the actual swinging.

So far anyway

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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago

Limavady

I find it depressing to read so many people that have standards even after months of nothing.

Me? I'll shag anything!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't think I've failed, in fact far from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really a swinger so can't really fail at that. Have I found what I'm looking for on here or in other places? No!

So maybe it's a fail or maybe it's to come. Who knows?

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By *y2fun OP   Man
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"

Me? I'll shag anything!"

thats where we go wrong we are too fussy.............. aim high I say.. must be someone out there who fancies bald aging hippy with a pot belly......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard on here for everyone you have to work at it to find s meet really if you don't have time for endless msging and preserance than its like finding a needle in a haystack lol still cant find a fuck bud lol

I just go to clubs private parties and organised social events only beats all the timewasters on fab lol....

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Need to visit some more clubs as I like clubs rather than meets for now. Everyone in clubs have been friendly and looking forward to more fun times soon. So a D- for lack of effort but will try harder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm a ghost no one can see me "

ghosts aren't invisible. ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have actually failed as a swinger. I came on here in the hope that group sex and swapping would be a new way of life for me.

I have been to clubs and had a couple of 3somes...and its not been my thing. So I have actually failed as a swinger.

I have lots of friends and it is great for NSA meets for me. I love the forums and the social aspects too, but not the actual swinging.

So far anyway "

Why is that a failure? Sounds like a success to me. You found out what you do and don't like. You pointed out positive points.

Swinging isn't just about one thing. It's not just group meets. You are a swinger if you want to be.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BAE

Well...'true' swingers are always saying its couples, clubs, parties. The rest is just NSA sex.

I kind of agree with this and dont mind being classed as a non-swinger. I havent failed as a Fabber...just the other part of the name.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I haven't failed in my eyes as it's allowed me to try all the scenarios that have interested me over the years, I have ticked a few boxes and made some good friends with some lovely people so for me it's a winner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have actually failed as a swinger. I came on here in the hope that group sex and swapping would be a new way of life for me.

I have been to clubs and had a couple of 3somes...and its not been my thing. So I have actually failed as a swinger.

This is right unless you go to clubs are consider your options on here you don't know if you are a true swinger. Lots of people use site to fuck and go not really swingers just looking for a one night stand

I have lots of friends and it is great for NSA meets for me. I love the forums and the social aspects too, but not the actual swinging.

So far anyway

Why is that a failure? Sounds like a success to me. You found out what you do and don't like. You pointed out positive points.

Swinging isn't just about one thing. It's not just group meets. You are a swinger if you want to be. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well...'true' swingers are always saying its couples, clubs, parties. The rest is just NSA sex.

I kind of agree with this and dont mind being classed as a non-swinger. I havent failed as a Fabber...just the other part of the name."

'True' swingers have their heads up their arses. It's not 1970.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Technically singles cant be swingers as its a couples game, we just shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well...'true' swingers are always saying its couples, clubs, parties. The rest is just NSA sex.

I kind of agree with this and dont mind being classed as a non-swinger. I havent failed as a Fabber...just the other part of the name.

'True' swingers have their heads up their arses. It's not 1970. "

I agree with you but a lot of people in here just come on here for NSA sex not swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try clubs and private parties and organised social events then talk about swinging lots of people get sick of no shows on here and leave and they are not swingers anyway

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Not at all! We've met loads of like minded others, who show respect, get what it's all about , enjoy all they do and don't need drama and crap in the mix. Just like us!

Work n family commitments always come first, but fun out there when we are able to join in!

Keeping it real and acting accordingly deff helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well...'true' swingers are always saying its couples, clubs, parties. The rest is just NSA sex.

I kind of agree with this and dont mind being classed as a non-swinger. I havent failed as a Fabber...just the other part of the name.

'True' swingers have their heads up their arses. It's not 1970.

I agree with you but a lot of people in here just come on here for NSA sex not swinging "

And in their case they aren't swingers. Because that's what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well...'true' swingers are always saying its couples, clubs, parties. The rest is just NSA sex.

I kind of agree with this and dont mind being classed as a non-swinger. I havent failed as a Fabber...just the other part of the name.

'True' swingers have their heads up their arses. It's not 1970.

I agree with you but a lot of people in here just come on here for NSA sex not swinging

And in their case they aren't swingers. Because that's what they want. "

Technically NSA sex as a female this site put me off couples so I steer clear now. But I have fun with single men and women. This site accommodates many peoples wants... But without a single man/woman looking for NSA sex with couples for example you'd be limited to swinging couples. End of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feast but more famine in my case sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm a ghost no one can see me

ghosts aren't invisible. ... "

ok the invisible man then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

London women not the easiest and not the widest of choice to work with....

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By *inglecuckoldMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I found my gf on here, it happens xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"London women not the easiest and not the widest of choice to work with...."

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By *ngel_38Woman
over a year ago

Staffs


"

anyone going to own up to being on here and not having any luck?

we don't get much cause we are funny buggers to please...

but have you just drawn a blank? be honest?"

I have the worse sex ever been on this site. But I'm sure there is someone out there who matches what I'm after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get out of fab exactly what I try I think...it's a very occasional thing that adds to my life, but I could walk away from at any time too.

Love the socials and forums, very fussy but prefer that - I maintain the same standards on fab as off it.

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By *unky monkey 351Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Total wipe out not so much as had a wink lol

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By *isandreTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

Huge success here. Had lots of fun. I've been introduced to new people, new ideas, new clubs.

I enjoy the forums. I've had lots of good conversations.

There have been one or two let downs but even my worst night which had nine people who'd promised to meet fail to materialise (two different scenario's) was salvaged by this site providing me with a last minute meet with a trucker.

Best of all is the way next year is shaping up with some potential new friends and experiences to look forward to.

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By *uxtapositionMan
over a year ago

CARDIFF

A very interesting and enlightening thread with a serious vein, really worth reading from start to finish to see things from the perspective of so many varieties of FAB member.

You get I, what you put out, and time seems an issue, but of late time wasters seem to have increased beyond belief in my experience

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT


"when I was meeting, I had a blast....

loved every minute and had plenty of fun times. "

Same here

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

**forces way up through shedloads of cock**

Yeah, I reckon I'm a complete failure on here

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By *callycatMan
over a year ago

Mid Wales

Have loved every minute on here since joining.

Made a few really close friends who will hopefully be part of my life for ever.

The possibility of meeting someone new is also very exciting....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I manage to meet most times that I want to... So I guess that's a success?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the site and having meets when we want one while still being picky about whom we meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Total wipe out not so much as had a wink lol "

not now

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By *unky monkey 351Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Awwwww thanks sweet of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is a tool to use as you please depends how much time you have and what you put into I think I'm quiet happy as I have a lit to club f Xmas party tomorrow so it's all good fun you have to stick at it and avoid timewasters

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By *y2fun OP   Man
over a year ago

DUDLEY


"so it's all good fun you have to stick at it and avoid timewasters "

yeah think we would agree, have to put a lot of effort in to find the right people... something we have been guilty off is not trying hard enough, new year and new rules... anything, anywhere, anyone, anytime.....

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By *rysandMadsCouple
over a year ago

Barnstaple

I wouldn't personally say we've failed, though I think many would count it as that because we haven't had any meets. We're very much waiting for the right time/chemistry and also have a lot of crap to deal with in real life that's not been conducive.

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