FabSwingers.com forum: Bullying

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just off to put dome butterkist in the microwave. Back in two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pulls up a chair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot for the life of me figure out how an Adult get bullied on a Website, Does someones opinion typed into a little box frighten people so much ?.

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think its bullying...its called having a laugh...who wants to be serious all the time??

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I dint think it's pack mentality but I do agree they add nothing to the topic and are childish.

They usually appear on inflammatory threads that regular forumites have seen time and time again and whilst we all know the 'if you don't like a thread, don't comment' party line sometimes people can't help themselves.

I don't think it's bullying as they are not being offensive to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just off to put dome butterkist in the microwave. Back in two

Salted and sweet please

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Nothing riles me more than being instructed to 'discuss'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course there is

No matter where you are, you'll always get a forceful personality who expresses their opinion to the detriment of someone else.

This often takes the form of trolling where people feel they're immune to any repercussions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just off to put dome butterkist in the microwave. Back in two

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Do me some too? Lots of toffee on mine hun, reckon this is gonna be a good 'un

Sarah x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just off to put dome butterkist in the microwave. Back in two

Do me some too? Lots of toffee on mine hun, reckon this is gonna be a good 'un

Sarah x"

How do you mean, Sarah?

Do you care to express an opinion, rather than eat popcorn, sitting on the sidelines?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!"

Nope. Just means 100 people have the same opinion and want you to know it.

Discussed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!"

It means the majority disagree with you

How can this be confused with bullying?!!

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

Just the fact people are saying things about grabbing the popcorn to watch should indicate there is a culture of people sitting around waiting to tear other people apart. That's not in the spirit of the forum. It should be solace for open free discussion where anything change said without fear of being ridiculed are demeaned which is something I've seen here a lot. I've got no bitterness as I ignore people's comments and find the humour in what others may perceive as harsh and I've made some great friends on this site but the forums are w constant frustration here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's just a form of feedback that suggests a lot of forum posters think this is an inflammatory thread.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just off to put dome butterkist in the microwave. Back in two

Do me some too? Lots of toffee on mine hun, reckon this is gonna be a good 'un

Sarah x

How do you mean, Sarah?

Do you care to express an opinion, rather than eat popcorn, sitting on the sidelines?"

Erm bullying ! She's happily eating popcorn in my snack box corner. What's wrong with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!"

Its a good filter for us though, Someone who starts crying in their Porridge over something typed here isn't the kind of person we would wish to meet.

DISCUSS

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just off to put dome butterkist in the microwave. Back in two

Do me some too? Lots of toffee on mine hun, reckon this is gonna be a good 'un

Sarah x

How do you mean, Sarah?

Do you care to express an opinion, rather than eat popcorn, sitting on the sidelines?"
haha, that's a good one, me sit on the sidelines?! Never. Just fancy a break from being...vocal

*back in a mo, popcorn here*

Sarah x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Do I think it is bullying, no.

The word bullying is thrown around too freely and is an insult to people whose life is blighted by bullying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

This is true though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Essentially it's trolling and I've seen a lot of it on these forums and also been the victim of it too.

This in my eyes equates to the term cyber bullying. I've seen some nasty, insulting and damn right disgusting comments on here and I think it's sad that people really don't have anything better to do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lifw would be v boring if everybody agreed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just the fact people are saying things about grabbing the popcorn to watch should indicate there is a culture of people sitting around waiting to tear other people apart. That's not in the spirit of the forum. It should be solace for open free discussion where anything change said without fear of being ridiculed are demeaned which is something I've seen here a lot. I've got no bitterness as I ignore people's comments and find the humour in what others may perceive as harsh and I've made some great friends on this site but the forums are w constant frustration here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lifw would be v boring if everybody agreed.

You won't see a better comment than this all year!! People need to accept not everyone will agree, and not take offence if someone else vehemently argues their case!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe these lovely Forumites just wish to be comfortable when they 'discuss'. Popcorn for some, pringles for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it is bullying, I think it is an expression related to getting some vicarious pleasure from watching someone get their _iews ripped apart.

It is a common dysfunction in groups.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"lifw would be v boring if everybody agreed.

The popcorn brigade aren't agreeing with anyone. They are fence sitting, just waiting for the fur to fly. They contribute nothing to the discussion. Indeed, they are waiting for the strongest individuals to air their _iews, so that they can sit on the sidelines, taking delight in the argument, or fight, to come.

Would people agree?

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

OP. Just ignore those posts. I agree it adds nothing and to me it means they have nothing to add at this stage. Most people just sit on the fence and then join in once a popular opinion has been formed. Note I said most not ALL.

Or it may be just that the poster likes to watch a debate.

Either way they are ignorable posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

I agree. Anyway, when has anyone in the world ever actually had to run out and buy popcorn when watching a heated discussion - watching a movie yes, but a heated discussion, no. Do they buy popcorn when watching newsnight or question time???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont think its bullying...its called having a laugh...who wants to be serious all the time??"
People were having a laugh, cracking jokes on the thread about Cannibalism in Wales. That ok too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lifw would be v boring if everybody agreed.

Would people agree?"

Yes I think this is the case

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

Pretty sure the type of people commenting about getting popcorn to watch people take pot shots at each other on here aren't the type to watch newsnight or question time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personal opinion is that bullying is a misused term nowdays. Yes there are forum trolls all over the net. But I can't say i've seen any one person picked on repeatedly. You'll see a thread started which is contentious and likely to cause offence. And yes people often have similar thoughts on that post . So you'll see a wave of posts that all disagree with the OP. . That's not bullying . If I stood on a street corner holding a sign saying 'blond people in my opinion tend to be dumb' I'd imagine get a load of unfavourable responses from passers by. Are they bullys ?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"lifw would be v boring if everybody agreed.

Would people agree?"

I completely agree. Now can someone please start the "discussion" about this important topic

Popcorn???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think its bullying...its called having a laugh...who wants to be serious all the time?? People were having a laugh, cracking jokes on the thread about Cannibalism in Wales. That ok too?"

Some may people find the horror of a topic like that too much to discuss seriously and resort to 'gallows type' humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think its bullying...its called having a laugh...who wants to be serious all the time?? People were having a laugh, cracking jokes on the thread about Cannibalism in Wales. That ok too?"

Yes.

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

Pretty sure the type of people commenting about getting popcorn to watch people take pot shots at each other on here aren't the type to watch newsnight or question time lol "
How wrong you are... I love both those programmes and if you actually watched them - you'd know that's exactly what they do on them most of the time - take potshots at each other aka debate

Sarah x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nothing riles me more than being instructed to 'discuss'

.Well you are being invited to discuss. No one is instructing you to! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

I disagree. I think plenty would watch Newsnight etc Some of said posters can be very articulate in a political debate on here

Pretty sure the type of people commenting about getting popcorn to watch people take pot shots at each other on here aren't the type to watch newsnight or question time lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody phone, sorry about quote mess up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think it is bullying, I think it is an expression related to getting some vicarious pleasure from watching someone get their _iews ripped apart.

It is a common dysfunction in groups."

In groups or cliques?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can "grabbing the popcorn", or "pulling up a chair" be taken as offensive or bullying?

Surely it means that the person is expecting a good/interesting discussion.

I normally only eat popcorn in cinemas.....where I will only go to watch a film I am interested in or that I think will be worthwhile. Don't agree at all with the OP. Hope that isn't taken as bullying!

DISfeckinCUSS?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have seen people leave the site after posting a thread for advice. Before they leave the usual comments of if you don't like the replies don't post etc when the replies have been an attack on the poster and not constructive. I think some people want to impress friends by trying to be funny,I rarely find them funny. As we saw the other day,some people can post what they want,some can't. I've seen forums close because people can't be adult about using them

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I fell asleep reading this thread!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I suggested the use of 'popcorn' in the thread about over used words and stuff. I don't see it as bullying. It's just the words 'sits back and eat popcorn'.....I agree it doesn't add to a discussion but there's nothing to say any post should be a valuable contribution. I can be quite acerbic at times but also very supportive in threads but mostly add little to a discussion except my own brand of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there is nothing worth saying then say nothing.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I don't think it is bullying, I think it is an expression related to getting some vicarious pleasure from watching someone get their _iews ripped apart.

It is a common dysfunction in groups.

In groups or cliques?"

Isn't a clique just a group of individuals with the same opinions? Often only called a clique when a disgruntled op doesn't like the fact that the opinions go against the point they want to make?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I cannot for the life of me figure out how an Adult get bullied on a Website, Does someones opinion typed into a little box frighten people so much ?.

Gimp"

Go into Forum search and enter "Cliques." Read through them. All of them. See how many say there is a clique. See how many refuse to post to Form threads. See how many only post very rarely. See how many have left fab on the back of all I've posted above. Then you might see how it effects people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bullying in the forum's?

Grabbing popcorn is hardly bullying. Look in the forums for in the same boat thread and watch the pack mentality in action.

A newbie made the mistake of being honest and saying he was married and asking for a lady in the same situation.

A double decker outrage bus full of angry "genuine" swingers descended.

I have rattled around the forums and seen a lot of comments that beggar belief, knowing they will generate controversy instead of debate.

Freedom of speech within site rules is a good thing. This includes my right to state that I see comments on a thread that I believe were ill advised, or the poster is liable to be lambasted.

I use the medium of offering savoury snacks to the masses to express this.

If i was to post that big girls give better blow jobs because they are always hungry, I would expect a kicking and those watching to snack as it happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just off to put dome butterkist in the microwave. Back in two

Do me some too? Lots of toffee on mine hun, reckon this is gonna be a good 'un

Sarah x

How do you mean, Sarah?

Do you care to express an opinion, rather than eat popcorn, sitting on the sidelines?

Erm bullying ! She's happily eating popcorn in my snack box corner. What's wrong with that

Not bullying. Trying to elicit an opinion, is all

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes I believe bullying goes on especially

of younger single men who ask for help, sometimes the patronising and often unkind responses are awful.

I see other occasions of attempted bullying where the person sensibly either ignores, bites back or reports.

Bullying will always be denied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

Pretty sure the type of people commenting about getting popcorn to watch people take pot shots at each other on here aren't the type to watch newsnight or question time lol "

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I do like how all the posts that are actually discussing the topic are being ignored but sarcastic/flippant ones are being replied too. almost as if you didn't actually want to discuss the topic, just wanted a fight lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suggested the use of 'popcorn' in the thread about over used words and stuff. I don't see it as bullying. It's just the words 'sits back and eat popcorn'.....I agree it doesn't add to a discussion but there's nothing to say any post should be a valuable contribution. I can be quite acerbic at times but also very supportive in threads but mostly add little to a discussion except my own brand of humour "

On seeing yet another popcorn comment I think oh god not another popcorn eater with nothing constructive to add. I want to write hope you choke on it,but that wouldn't be very nice of me

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

Pretty sure the type of people commenting about getting popcorn to watch people take pot shots at each other on here aren't the type to watch newsnight or question time lol How wrong you are... I love both those programmes and if you actually watched them - you'd know that's exactly what they do on them most of the time - take potshots at each other aka debate

Sarah x"

Not only do I watch said progress I have appeared on both of these programmes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

This is true though

But being ripped to shreds is not bullying in any way,shape or form?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

I wouldn't say it was bullying but it is pretty pathetic. People should have tge balls to post their thoughts rather tgan cowardly poking the hornets nest in the hope the thread goes the way they desire.

What is most childish are the people who post 'popcorn'-esque comments to stir up a thread but elsewhere criticise other posters for the nature of their 'confrontational/agressive' posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

Sarah x

Not only do I watch said progress I have appeared on both of these programmes. "
Oh right. That makes your comment even more baffling

Sarah x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cannot for the life of me figure out how an Adult get bullied on a Website, Does someones opinion typed into a little box frighten people so much ?.

Gimp"

I can't see how an opinion can frighten anyone, strange word to use, but if someone is being rude and insulting about an individual than that's not pleasant to see and there's no need for it.

You can express a difference of opinion politely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just off to put dome butterkist in the microwave. Back in two

Do me some too? Lots of toffee on mine hun, reckon this is gonna be a good 'un

Sarah x

How do you mean, Sarah?

Do you care to express an opinion, rather than eat popcorn, sitting on the sidelines?

Erm bullying ! She's happily eating popcorn in my snack box corner. What's wrong with that

Not bullying. Trying to elicit an opinion, is all"

But unless people agree with you, it seems you're not interested in others opinions. To call that bullying sounds rather immature to me. And just because some people try to inject light hearted humour into threads does not mean they don't and aren't capable of having an opinion. For me personally, it just means I can't be arsed wasting my time constructing a reply, when some threads just go on and on and on with utter bollocks quite frankly from narrow minded, uneducated loons, who think by ramming their opinions down others throats makes them right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is "reporting" classed as bullying?

You can only report someone for a misdemeanour or for breaking site rules. The problem lies with the reported and not with the reporter, who is doing us all a favour by keeping the site running smoothly and free from those who would do otherwise by not following the rules.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!

It means the majority disagree with you

How can this be confused with bullying?!!"

One, two, even a dozen saying the same thing, i.e., anti the poster, should be enough, surely? When it's a hundred, is that not overkill???

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

This is true though

But being ripped to shreds is not bullying in any way,shape or form?"

But the people eating the popcorn aren't doing the shredding. They have just posted on the thread so they can keep track of it on theor green arrow lol

Your thread was asking if the popcorn eaters were bullies and the answer is no. The shredders are bullies.

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

Sarah x

Not only do I watch said progress I have appeared on both of these programmes. Oh right. That makes your comment even more baffling

Sarah x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And let's be honest 'popcorn' was an original and amusing post maybe once 1000 years ago but now it's as dull and uninspiring as the posters that repeatedly use it

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!

It means the majority disagree with you

How can this be confused with bullying?!!

One, two, even a dozen saying the same thing, i.e., anti the poster, should be enough, surely? When it's a hundred, is that not overkill???"

So now you want to censor people from stating their opinion on a subject just because other people have the same opinion?

To be honest, if a lot if people have said the same as I was going to i personally won't post but I don't think I have the right to tell people they can't post if they have the same opinion as others. You don't have to read all of the posts. In fact if it's a long post I won't bother and just post after the first dozen or so lol

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

"And let's be honest 'popcorn' was an original and amusing post maybe once 1000 years ago but now it's as dull and uninspiring as the posters that repeatedly use it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grabs popcorn = i have a valid and reasoned counter argument to a post but:

A. A forum search would have told you that.

B. The poster is liable to completely ignore my post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cannot for the life of me figure out how an Adult get bullied on a Website, Does someones opinion typed into a little box frighten people so much ?.

Gimp

I dont think i mentioned the word Clique, If you are trying to Bully me then at least have the good manners to tear apart a statement that i actually made.

Frankly i do not give a toss about how many have left the site or stop posting in the forums because their delicate pride has been hurt, I havnt met those people and will be highly unlikely to in the future so why should i worry about them.

Gimp

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Maybe it's just a form of feedback that suggests a lot of forum posters think this is an inflammatory thread.

Precisely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

This is true though

But being ripped to shreds is not bullying in any way,shape or form?"

I have had a post ripped to shreds but never saw it as bullying. On reflection I thought it was a fair assessment and considered my post to be an error in judgement and very poorly worded in expressing what was intended as well. Admittedly the popcorn brigade didn't turn up, but if they had, I still would not have considered it cyber-bullying. I apologised for the posts but it still gets referred to with a dig every so often. But it is still not bullying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

Sarah x

Not only do I watch said progress I have appeared on both of these programmes. Oh right. That makes your comment even more baffling

Sarah x

I would assume the point of these programmes is to educate and gain a better understanding of topical issues from various _iewpoints. Not just to sit and watch people argue. Otherwise surely you'd just watch xfactor. Anyway that's more off topic lol. Sorry to the OP for my mini hijack "
Can people not be educated in many different ways? By watching or listening for example? How many people watching Newsnight or Question time have their opinions heard by the people on the programmes while watching said programmes? Like I said - your comment was baffling and still is

Sarah x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then again, me being an avid Daily Mail reader, makes all of my posts invalid anyway. So say the elitist brigade anyway

- like I give a flying fuck

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I do like how all the posts that are actually discussing the topic are being ignored but sarcastic/flippant ones are being replied too. almost as if you didn't actually want to discuss the topic, just wanted a fight lol."

People rarely want to discuss bullying, it's too uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Essentially it's trolling and I've seen a lot of it on these forums and also been the victim of it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cannot for the life of me figure out how an Adult get bullied on a Website, Does someones opinion typed into a little box frighten people so much ?.

Gimp

I can't see how an opinion can frighten anyone, strange word to use, but if someone is being rude and insulting about an individual than that's not pleasant to see and there's no need for it.

You can express a difference of opinion politely. "

I thought my statement was put quite Politely,My understanding of Bullying is when a person or group of people set out to upset and frighten another therefore i feel that my use of the word isnt strange at all.

Then again i dont watch Question time so what do i know.

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is a silly expression and usually posted on a thread someone is about to be ripped to shreds.

This is true though

But being ripped to shreds is not bullying in any way,shape or form?

Hear here! Well said. I had the same thing happen to me because I had not thought about my wording.

When we take offense many times it reflects what's going on in our own lives x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social media bullying is turning into one of the worst forms of bullying, there are more cases of suicide cases being reported all the time. While you might think that a comment is funny someone else might take offence.

I urge people to think first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then again, me being an avid Daily Mail reader, makes all of my posts invalid anyway. So say the elitist brigade anyway

- like I give a flying fuck

then why mention it

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over a year ago

I urge people to think first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!

Who's crying Gimp?

I was just posting a thread, asking for opinions, is all. So, who's crying?

Its a good filter for us though, Someone who starts crying in their Porridge over something typed here isn't the kind of person we would wish to meet.

DISCUSS

Gimp"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!

Who's crying Gimp?

I was just posting a thread, asking for opinions, is all. So, who's crying?

Its a good filter for us though, Someone who starts crying in their Porridge over something typed here isn't the kind of person we would wish to meet.

DISCUSS

Gimp"

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

Popcorn sticks in my craw.

A cucumber sandwich and my pinkie darting at 180 degrees whilst I sip ma tay....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then again, me being an avid Daily Mail reader, makes all of my posts invalid anyway. So say the elitist brigade anyway

- like I give a flying fuck

then why mention it

Because I'm comfortable in my own newspaper ! Hey it's Thursday today, I might splash out and get the Newark Advertiser to roll in for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Social media bullying is turning into one of the worst forms of bullying, there are more cases of suicide cases being reported all the time. While you might think that a comment is funny someone else might take offence.

I urge people to think first"

hmmmm, perhaps ,I know who can take a joke and I kinda know who cant.

What bugs me is sneaky comments about a persons weight or a persons sexuality,that I can see is walking on thin ice for many n I for one would not like to upset anyone.

One thing that people whinge about are cliques in the forum,,utter crap there are none its all in their heads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

Popcorn sticks in my craw.

A cucumber sandwich and my pinkie darting at 180 degrees whilst I sip ma tay....

The last time i stuck my finger up at 180 degrees i got a slap

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then again, me being an avid Daily Mail reader, makes all of my posts invalid anyway. So say the elitist brigade anyway

- like I give a flying fuck

then why mention it

Because I'm comfortable in my own newspaper ! Hey it's Thursday today, I might splash out and get the Newark Advertiser to roll in for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not going to hoodwink you, I honestly couldn't care less what others think of what I write.

Albeit yes I find the whole "grabs a chair, throws popcorn in, gives a wry smile whilst balancing a fucking glass on one's arse, then totters off in laughter" tedious and childish you're simply never, ever going to stop it.

Basically if you stay within the forum rules anything is fair game.

Now, what I write here is dry, usually sarcastic, possibly contentious and sometimes rude (if I'm slightly perturbed over something). But it makes me laugh, it makes quite a few others laugh also which in my mind is a good thing. And if I don't make you laugh that's cool also because it's what we call in the trade "a difference of opinion". I'll think your sense of humour's on it's arse but I don't hate you as a person.

Take yesterday as an example. There was a thread on "taking a dump". I loved it. It was refreshing to talk about something that means a lot to me. I'm not saying I'm some kind of scatological connoisseur, but I am someone who suffers almost daily from big shits. It felt good to take the weight of my abdomen and put the world to rights with some good eggs on here.

However I digress. What I'm trying to say is there's all sorts of people here from all walks of life. Some are lost from their villages, some are highly intellectual, all bring something to the forums that make them tick over day and night.

I wouldn't say there's a pack mentality. I'd say, like me, it's someone merely imparting their humour on a thread.

Also I'm all for debate. It's a good thing. But one little ditty that grinds my sphincter are the lads, and lassies who put a question, or statement over with no argument or evidence to portray their point of _iew. "Discuss". Well certainly. However please impart your knowledge on the subject first, as you invented the bloody question!! Hence why you might see me put a "you first" below them. But that's it.

Anyhoo, there's no pack mentality.

Suppose I could've just wrote that??

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Now now children, let's just remember to err is human; to arghh is pirate!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!"

So if someone is just plain wrong are you saying they are being bullied?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now now children, let's just remember to err is human; to arghh is pirate!

Thaaaat be true

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

"Now now children, let's just remember to err is human; to arghh is pirate!

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

"Now now children, let's just remember to err is human; to arghh is pirate!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I hate salty popcorn.

It's a fucking abomination in the world of popped corn.

Discuss.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Now now children, let's just remember to err is human; to arghh is pirate!

And to really fuck it up requires a computer. Or a single man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now now children, let's just remember to err is human; to arghh is pirate!

And to really fuck it up requires a computer. Or a single man.

now now don't be sexist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate salty popcorn.

It's a fucking abomination in the world of popped corn.

Discuss."

oh god yea I agree ,im a sweety

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interestingly, I've had several PMs saying about cliques and bullying and how they don't want to post on the threads anymore.

Sure many on here will see that as the problem of those who won't post anymore as opposed to the way the Forums are run.

On a similar thought, I see someone posted a Vanessa Mae (anti her) post a while back. Yet now he's seen to be in the right

Seems he was roundly vilified for his post. Wonder if the tearing apart he received, has meant he didn't feel confident enough to post on the recent thread? If so, might that be because he felt bullied on here.

Anyone care to discuss?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cannot for the life of me figure out how an Adult get bullied on a Website, Does someones opinion typed into a little box frighten people so much ?.

Gimp

I can't see how an opinion can frighten anyone, strange word to use, but if someone is being rude and insulting about an individual than that's not pleasant to see and there's no need for it.

You can express a difference of opinion politely.

Then again i dont watch Question time so what do i know.

Gimp"

I didn't actually say your post wasn't polite!!

But Id like to know what your comment about watching question time is about?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Now now children, let's just remember to err is human; to arghh is pirate!

And to really fuck it up requires a computer. Or a single man.

now now don't be sexist

This is fab. Single men are the devil. It must be their fault. Anything, everything, is their fault! Not sexist, just FACT!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now now children, let's just remember to err is human; to arghh is pirate!

And to really fuck it up requires a computer. Or a single man.

now now don't be sexist

This is fab. Single men are the devil. It must be their fault. Anything, everything, is their fault! Not sexist, just FACT!

lol,lol,,yea but ive seen plenty women oh and tv/ts's being knobs as well

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

I hate the expressions 'grabs popcorn' or 'pulls up a chair' for the reason you've mentioned - they're akin to a school playground mentality. But I don't think it's bullying - it's just irritating and a tad immature. I'd rather the popcorn brigade actually had something to contribute to the debate rather than indicate they were just going to sit and watch two sides argue over a contentious subject.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Now now children, let's just remember to err is human; to arghh is pirate!

And to really fuck it up requires a computer. Or a single man.

now now don't be sexist

This is fab. Single men are the devil. It must be their fault. Anything, everything, is their fault! Not sexist, just FACT!

lol,lol,,yea but ive seen plenty women oh and tv/ts's being knobs as well"

No way! I said FACT! therefore I am correct by default. FACT!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it is bullying, I think it is an expression related to getting some vicarious pleasure from watching someone get their _iews ripped apart.

It is a common dysfunction in groups."

If its so common, is it really did functional?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think its bullying...its called having a laugh...who wants to be serious all the time?? People were having a laugh, cracking jokes on the thread about Cannibalism in Wales. That ok too?"

Yes. There are NO boundaries in humour per se. The only boundaries are personal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont think its bullying...its called having a laugh...who wants to be serious all the time?? People were having a laugh, cracking jokes on the thread about Cannibalism in Wales. That ok too?

Yes. There are NO boundaries in humour per se. The only boundaries are personal."

Of course there are boundaries. Do you think Jim Davidson's jokes in the 70s about 'Chalky' or Bernard Mannings' jokes would be allowed now? I suggest they wouldn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think its bullying...its called having a laugh...who wants to be serious all the time?? People were having a laugh, cracking jokes on the thread about Cannibalism in Wales. That ok too?

Yes. There are NO boundaries in humour per se. The only boundaries are personal.

Of course there are boundaries. Do you think Jim Davidson's jokes in the 70s about 'Chalky' or Bernard Mannings' jokes would be allowed now? I suggest they wouldn't "

Jeez. Lighten up guys. Hey isn't it first lesson now

go educate those that need educating

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By *he Master JMan
over a year ago

Southall

"I dont think its bullying...its called having a laugh...who wants to be serious all the time?? People were having a laugh, cracking jokes on the thread about Cannibalism in Wales. That ok too?

Yes. There are NO boundaries in humour per se. The only boundaries are personal."

Nobody offered me any popcorn

I am going home and taking my ball with me so that you can't play and I'll get a packet of bacon fries on the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cannot for the life of me figure out how an Adult get bullied on a Website, Does someones opinion typed into a little box frighten people so much ?.

Gimp

Forum participation is voluntary and only a small part of this site. Running away from the site because of supposed "bullying" on the forum is over the top.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take your popcorn and shove it up your arse!!

Discuss!!

I'm so sorry!! I bullied you..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My personal opinion is that bullying is a misused term nowdays. Yes there are forum trolls all over the net. But I can't say i've seen any one person picked on repeatedly. You'll see a thread started which is contentious and likely to cause offence. And yes people often have similar thoughts on that post . So you'll see a wave of posts that all disagree with the OP. . That's not bullying . If I stood on a street corner holding a sign saying 'blond people in my opinion tend to be dumb' I'd imagine get a load of unfavourable responses from passers by. Are they bullys ? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I cannot for the life of me figure out how an Adult get bullied on a Website, Does someones opinion typed into a little box frighten people so much ?.

Gimp

Forum participation is voluntary and only a small part of this site. Running away from the site because of supposed "bullying" on the forum is over the top."

Why? You don't know what has been said. So how can you comment?

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By *he Master JMan
over a year ago

Southall

"Take your popcorn and shove it up your arse!!

Discuss!!

I'm so sorry!! I bullied you.......... "

Lucky it isn't bacon fries that really would hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now now children, let's just remember to err is human; to arghh is pirate!

And to really fuck it up requires a computer. Or a single man.

now now don't be sexist

This is fab. Single men are the devil. It must be their fault. Anything, everything, is their fault! Not sexist, just FACT!

lol,lol,,yea but ive seen plenty women oh and tv/ts's being knobs as well

No way! I said FACT! therefore I am correct by default. FACT!

lol,,shurup,x

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Now now children, let's just remember to err is human; to arghh is pirate!

And to really fuck it up requires a computer. Or a single man.

now now don't be sexist

This is fab. Single men are the devil. It must be their fault. Anything, everything, is their fault! Not sexist, just FACT!

lol,lol,,yea but ive seen plenty women oh and tv/ts's being knobs as well

No way! I said FACT! therefore I am correct by default. FACT!

lol,,shurup,x"

Not a hope in Heck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think its bullying...its called having a laugh...who wants to be serious all the time?? People were having a laugh, cracking jokes on the thread about Cannibalism in Wales. That ok too?

Yes. There are NO boundaries in humour per se. The only boundaries are personal.

Of course there are boundaries. Do you think Jim Davidson's jokes in the 70s about 'Chalky' or Bernard Mannings' jokes would be allowed now? I suggest they wouldn't "

No they wouldn't be allowed now, But those boundaries are forced on us by others not by the paying public.

I consciously rebel against people who attempt to force their own moralistic _iews upon me, I am not a number i am a free man.

Bernard Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think its bullying...its called having a laugh...who wants to be serious all the time?? People were having a laugh, cracking jokes on the thread about Cannibalism in Wales. That ok too?

Yes. There are NO boundaries in humour per se. The only boundaries are personal.

Of course there are boundaries. Do you think Jim Davidson's jokes in the 70s about 'Chalky' or Bernard Mannings' jokes would be allowed now? I suggest they wouldn't "

Those boundaries are personal, albeit by a significant majority of people. Nobody can stop you making jokes about any subject. To suggest they are not "allowed" any more means there has been a law passed with regards to joke telling. I wasn't made aware of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not going to hoodwink you, I honestly couldn't care less what others think of what I write.

Basically if you stay within the forum rules anything is fair game.

I wouldn't say there's a pack mentality. I'd say, like me, it's someone merely imparting their humour on a thread.

Anyhoo, there's no pack mentality.

Suppose I could've just wrote that??

Hope you ate the eggs before shitting, bet you stink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cannot for the life of me figure out how an Adult get bullied on a Website, Does someones opinion typed into a little box frighten people so much ?.

Gimp

I can't see how an opinion can frighten anyone, strange word to use, but if someone is being rude and insulting about an individual than that's not pleasant to see and there's no need for it.

You can express a difference of opinion politely.

Then again i dont watch Question time so what do i know.

Gimp

I didn't actually say your post wasn't polite!!

But Id like to know what your comment about watching question time is about?

That was regarding a previous post that suggested those that didnt watch programmes like Question Time were lacking in Intellect in some way

Gimp

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

What it boils down to is people forget about forum etiquette and basic manners. Just because you can say whatever you want doesn't mean you should say what you want. A few people on the forums could be less aggressive but they choose not to. They wouldn't interact face to face like they do on here regardless of how much they protest they would. It cracks me up how many people say that lol.

Just try to be a little less confrontational and a little more understanding when you post on a forum and a lot of people would be a lot happier using the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cannot for the life of me figure out how an Adult get bullied on a Website, Does someones opinion typed into a little box frighten people so much ?.

Gimp

Forum participation is voluntary and only a small part of this site. Running away from the site because of supposed "bullying" on the forum is over the top.

Why? You don't know what has been said. So how can you comment?"

Stop bullying me or I will run away and leave this site forever!!! (Then come back as someone else). Its over the top, and and as childish as the name calling and vindictiveness that caused it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interestingly, I've had several PMs saying about cliques and bullying and how they don't want to post on the threads anymore.

Sure many on here will see that as the problem of those who won't post anymore as opposed to the way the Forums are run.

On a similar thought, I see someone posted a Vanessa Mae (anti her) post a while back. Yet now he's seen to be in the right

Anyone care to discuss?"

I will hands down admit to being completely over sensitive due to my spoilt brat/only child condition if I post something and people disagree with me or just ignore me I may have a little grumble to myself and then I just go about my business in THE REAL WORLD. If it got to the stage that I was getting hurt by what people say on her then yes I think it would be time to leave

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Plenty have done exactly that - leave. Very sad. Forums should surely be about a bit of banter?

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By *he Master JMan
over a year ago

Southall

"I dont think its bullying...its called having a laugh...who wants to be serious all the time?? People were having a laugh, cracking jokes on the thread about Cannibalism in Wales. That ok too?

Yes. There are NO boundaries in humour per se. The only boundaries are personal.

Of course there are boundaries. Do you think Jim Davidson's jokes in the 70s about 'Chalky' or Bernard Mannings' jokes would be allowed now? I suggest they wouldn't

No they wouldn't be allowed now, But those boundaries are forced on us by others not by the paying public.

I consciously rebel against people who attempt to force their own moralistic _iews upon me, I am not a number i am a free man.

Bernard Gimp"

Did you hear the one about the English man the irishman and the scotsman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think its bullying...its called having a laugh...who wants to be serious all the time?? People were having a laugh, cracking jokes on the thread about Cannibalism in Wales. That ok too?

Yes. There are NO boundaries in humour per se. The only boundaries are personal.

Of course there are boundaries. Do you think Jim Davidson's jokes in the 70s about 'Chalky' or Bernard Mannings' jokes would be allowed now? I suggest they wouldn't "

Sadly i suspect that there are plenty on here that see no problem with racist humour. Most likely those who throw the terms PC, liberal or loony left or similar lazy insults at anyone that doesn't share their own ideals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine you're in a pub having a conversation, a stranger overhearing stops, says "I'll get some pop corn" then just stands there listening and adding nothing to the conversation. I think we'd all tell the moron to move on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imagine you're in a pub having a conversation, a stranger overhearing stops, says "I'll get some pop corn" then just stands there listening and adding nothing to the conversation. I think we'd all tell the moron to move on?"

The looney left wing Liberal PC brigade would find that remark insulting to Popcorn eaters.

Gimp

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over a year ago

Southall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!

So if someone is just plain wrong are you saying they are being bullied?"

Are they wrong though? Who is the authority on being right or wrong. Are the people all in agreement about them being wrong right? Or are they just following the crowd and trying to be part of the group they want to belong to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but we aren't in a pub!! We're on the good ole world wide interweb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plenty have done exactly that - leave. Very sad. Forums should surely be about a bit of banter?"

I can't believe you just said that

. You have criticised others for having banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The irony is I've looked at some profiles after I've read a not so nice comment to read " I'm not meeting,just having fun on the forums"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Plenty have done exactly that - leave. Very sad. Forums should surely be about a bit of banter?

I can't believe you just said that

. You have criticised others for having banter

When?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plenty have done exactly that - leave. Very sad. Forums should surely be about a bit of banter?

I can't believe you just said that

. You have criticised others for having banter

The Armours getting a bit Rusty.

Sir Gimpalot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mecca for the moronic, self opinionated and needy sheep. Bring on the wolves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

Popcorn sticks in my craw.

A cucumber sandwich and my pinkie darting at 180 degrees whilst I sip ma tay....

The last time i stuck my finger up at 180 degrees i got a slap

Gimp"

Well if you'll insist on that sharp claw on that there pinkie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

Its common knowledge some act like hyenas on here if they are part of a group people know who they are and the childish popcorn comments are just the initial spark for it to kick off. There are also others who delight in putting people down pontificating in an aggressive bullying manner often using the its not politically correct shield to defend their actions. Its all a little sad really that people have such issues in real life they have to find someone to pick on when they log in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mecca for the moronic, self opinionated and needy sheep. Bring on the wolves."

But your here too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

Popcorn sticks in my craw.

A cucumber sandwich and my pinkie darting at 180 degrees whilst I sip ma tay....

The last time i stuck my finger up at 180 degrees i got a slap

Gimp

Well if you'll insist on that sharp claw on that there pinkie!

I like to keep one long one for digging that elusive wax out of me Ear

Digger Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Y'all know the red X in the top right corner makes all the bad shit disappear, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

So what about the people that come on her and post about how muscley men are ugly or if men prefer curvy or ' boney and flat cheasted' because they got turned down for being a bit bigger, are they not doing exactly as you just described?? The 'pack of wolves' are just simply sticking up for the people they've just been horrid about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

Popcorn sticks in my craw.

A cucumber sandwich and my pinkie darting at 180 degrees whilst I sip ma tay....

The last time i stuck my finger up at 180 degrees i got a slap

Gimp

Well if you'll insist on that sharp claw on that there pinkie!

I like to keep one long one for digging that elusive wax out of me Ear

Digger Gimp

Like Shrek? For candles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

Popcorn sticks in my craw.

A cucumber sandwich and my pinkie darting at 180 degrees whilst I sip ma tay....

The last time i stuck my finger up at 180 degrees i got a slap

Gimp

Well if you'll insist on that sharp claw on that there pinkie!

I like to keep one long one for digging that elusive wax out of me Ear

Digger Gimp

Like Shrek? For candles?"

That was a Ronnie Barker joke.

Forkandles

Chico Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

No thats just pure bullshit! I's nothing about sticking up for someone its the fact they want to put the boot in. If people ignored the comments they would fade with lack of attention everyone with a modicum of intelligence knows that. Bullies will always try to justify their actions but how ever you pint it they are still bullies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not going to hoodwink you, I honestly couldn't care less what others think of what I write.

Basically if you stay within the forum rules anything is fair game.

I wouldn't say there's a pack mentality. I'd say, like me, it's someone merely imparting their humour on a thread.

Anyhoo, there's no pack mentality.

Suppose I could've just wrote that??

Hope you ate the eggs before shitting, bet you stink

xx"

I write to you now sat on the pan, awaiting my fate from He who must be obeyed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

Popcorn sticks in my craw.

A cucumber sandwich and my pinkie darting at 180 degrees whilst I sip ma tay....

The last time i stuck my finger up at 180 degrees i got a slap

Gimp

Well if you'll insist on that sharp claw on that there pinkie!

I like to keep one long one for digging that elusive wax out of me Ear

Digger Gimp

Like Shrek? For candles?

That was a Ronnie Barker joke.

Forkandles

Chico Gimp

Oh forkandles...brilliant.

Gonna youtube that now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not going to hoodwink you, I honestly couldn't care less what others think of what I write.

Basically if you stay within the forum rules anything is fair game.

I wouldn't say there's a pack mentality. I'd say, like me, it's someone merely imparting their humour on a thread.

Anyhoo, there's no pack mentality.

Suppose I could've just wrote that??

Hope you ate the eggs before shitting, bet you stink

I write to you now sat on the pan, awaiting my fate from He who must be obeyed

Thank fuck it's not a smellophone then xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!"

Maybe but it would also show that in the consensus the poster is in the minority/wrong. Having an opinion does not mean that it's a correct one or that everyone has to agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

I don't agree with you at all, if someone said something like that 'down the pub' I'd tell them what and arsehole they were. I can't stand people giving others stick and being allowed to get away with it, too many people just stand back and let people like think they can say what they like with no repercussions and it seeps into real life. We've all become so horribly passive. No wonder these extremists are so popular with the young of there culture!! We're hardly something to be looked up to!! Ranty rant rant

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts. If you have personal disputes with other members can you take it to PM please. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!

So if someone is just plain wrong are you saying they are being bullied?

Democracy is your answer wether right or wrong is decided by the masses with majority ruling.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

An interesting read. The following, in my opinion, which I hold in the highest esteem, is the funniest contribution...

"If i was to post that big girls give better blow jobs because they are always hungry, I would expect a kicking and those watching to snack as it happens."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

So you disagree with your self then? Its not ok for someone to have a controversial opinion but its fine for people to gang up and jump on someone? Really?

As for telling people they are an asshole in public well it doesn't happen 99% of the time and the people who say they would don't in reality we have been to countless socials where people meet up and there is only one forum regular who does that and its not you.

How ever you dress it up or try and justify it when people gang up and are nasty with someone its bullying plain and simple and its unplesent to see.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

So you disagree with your self then? Its not ok for someone to have a controversial opinion but its fine for people to gang up and jump on someone? Really?

How ever you dress it up or try and justify it when people gang up and are nasty with someone its bullying plain and simple and its unplesent to see."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

So you disagree with your self then? Its not ok for someone to have a controversial opinion but its fine for people to gang up and jump on someone? Really?

How ever you dress it up or try and justify it when people gang up and are nasty with someone its bullying plain and simple and its unplesent to see."

So because I've not been to a social with you, you know for a fact I wouldn't stick up for someone in public??

. If someone starts a nasty thread then they deserve what they get, if you can dish it out learn to take it. If I walked up to you at a social and said ' your and ugly cunt bet you only get pity snags' I'm pretty sure you would be pissed off if no one stuck up for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

Take the line: "Grabs popcorn."

Is that not akin to children in a playground moving into a group, shouting "Fight, fight, fight!"

Such posts add nothing to a debate. They simply add the idea of a pack mentality on here.

Discuss!

There is a gang mentality I think many people who have been here a number of years recognise the perpetrators but that happens on many forums. The popcorn comments in general are seen as the green light by some to wade in and I have yet to see a popcorn comment being constructive and positive.

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over a year ago

Ok. This is a social media site. Unfortunately the anonymity (we are all 'characters' on fab rather than our real, day-to-day selves) of that would encourage many people to say unpleasant things on a thread that they wouldn't say to their faces. Unfortunately that's the same on any site, and if we all treated others as we want to be treated ourselves (Jesus - cAD30) - then fab, and the world in general, would be a happy place indeed. Until we do, there will be those who want to mock and jibe, those who want to help, and others who sit and watch the 'entertainment' unfold! On the whole though i love the forums - and they're the main reason I stay on fab. And people have always been nice to me because i'm nice to them! (Oh - and because I have a nice arse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was going to try and read through this but have decided life is too short. For what it's worth I don't think there is a bullying culture on here, there is always the report button and block button if you feel someone has gone too far. In the words of famous philosopher,Forrest Gump "and that's all I've got to say about that".

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I don't think there is a gang mentality on here. On most questions there are lots of different opinions. Post a Ukip thread and you'll see differing opinions, not a gang consensus.

Regarding 'popcorn' comments, or when I pop in with FORUM INSURANCE, I take it as an indicator that someone has asked something inflammatory (sometimes knowingly) or has made a post that will do them more harm than good.

As to bullying, I don't think there is anything in it. People disagree with various posts and sometimes voice their opinion. Whilst you may disagree with one topic, I find I seldom disagree with them on a different matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mecca for the moronic, self opinionated and needy sheep. Bring on the wolves.

But your here too

Baa!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think there is a gang mentality on here. On most questions there are lots of different opinions. Post a Ukip thread and you'll see differing opinions, not a gang consensus.

There is though think it or not sometimes it can be hard to see it if its purported by people you feel an affinity with after all nobody likes to see the worst in friends and acquaintances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Y'all know the red X in the top right corner makes all the bad shit disappear, right?"

And with that, I will leave this discussion, in case someone says something that makes me a lickle bit sad and feeling a bit hurty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bullys? The way i look at it, if some sad fucker wants to write something online about me, ENJOY the lack of life or social skills you must have is very sad.

Her

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over a year ago

"If someone posts an opinion ir topic and one hundred people message, saying the same thing (and anti the poster). Will that not seem a but bullying to the poster?

Discuss!

So if someone is just plain wrong are you saying they are being bullied?

Democracy is your answer wether right or wrong is decided by the masses with majority ruling."

Like MPs pulling each other down to try to make themselves look better

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Is there a bullying culture on the Forums?

.....

Discuss!

Discuss what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grabs wispa bites, hate pop corn,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums are just a bit of fun...so admin say. A few ppl use the forums to shock...stir...hunt in packs like animals. I just ignore the above and follow the nice ppl

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over a year ago

"Ok. This is a social media site. Unfortunately the anonymity (we are all 'characters' on fab rather than our real, day-to-day selves) of that would encourage many people to say unpleasant things on a thread that they wouldn't say to their faces. Unfortunately that's the same on any site, and if we all treated others as we want to be treated ourselves (Jesus - cAD30) - then fab, and the world in general, would be a happy place indeed. Until we do, there will be those who want to mock and jibe, those who want to help, and others who sit and watch the 'entertainment' unfold! On the whole though i love the forums - and they're the main reason I stay on fab. And people have always been nice to me because i'm nice to them! (Oh - and because I have a nice arse!

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To bully your nice arse would be a pleasure

no popcorn involved

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over a year ago

"The forums are just a bit of fun...so admin say. A few ppl use the forums to shock...stir...hunt in packs like animals. I just ignore the above and follow the nice ppl

You are not wrong there but that's probably because people are relatively safe doing it from a keyboard.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Mods will be the first to admit that the forum can be an unfriendly place at times as they have to deal with the fallout......but you can't dictate what people agree or disagree with and that alone is not bullying.

However, if you think you / or someone you think is being victimised in any way , report the post/ posts involved and it will be looked at and monitored.

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