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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Now I am posting this just to let people get their anger etc out of their system, have the White Knights limber up their steeds etc.

This is not to debate the rights and wrongs, I can imagine how this is going to pan out, but bear with me.

Of the TWO OPTIONS would you rather:

A. Prefer someone on a single profile declared they were married.

B. Prefer not to know.

This is not a single guy bash session. Guess what, women, TV/TS etc cheat also.

This is a question of informed choice not a moral argument about the rights and wrongs.

And over to you. Remember, the block button is only a click away...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A Of course

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

'A. Prefer someone on a single profile declared they were married.'

Then I could make an informed decision about whether or not we met and if we would meet again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A is the only logical answer.

It allows for an informed choice prior to meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A every time, would prefer to have full disclosure when meeting anyone so there's no agendas hidden away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet married/attached guys and as no one can message me and I do the searching, I'd rather people were honest on their profile so I don't waste my time or theirs.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Mines A and if you have read it you know ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't meet married/attached guys and as no one can message me and I do the searching, I'd rather people were honest on their profile so I don't waste my time or theirs."

Same here. I'd rather be told straight off

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

declare they were attached and leave it at that, no justifying, entitlement or anger.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is this an everyone in agreement event? I'm impressed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will tell you what they want,even if someone doesn't say they're married it doesn't mean they're not

I don't delve too deep but I avoid those who say they're married and those who are very strict about times they can meet

I want unrestricted prolonged fun not quickies where the guy is clock watching

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People will tell you what they want,even if someone doesn't say they're married it doesn't mean they're not

I don't delve too deep but I avoid those who say they're married and those who are very strict about times they can meet

I want unrestricted prolonged fun not quickies where the guy is clock watching "

Can't argue with that, better that you know up front then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will tell you what they want,even if someone doesn't say they're married it doesn't mean they're not

I don't delve too deep but I avoid those who say they're married and those who are very strict about times they can meet

I want unrestricted prolonged fun not quickies where the guy is clock watching

Can't argue with that, better that you know up front then "

Even without them saying anything its soon becomes obvious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A..we have no problem with married people as long as they are upfront beforehand as we cannot understand the logic in lying to those you are trying to meet, Let's face it blokes are shit liars and is it worth all the bollocks for a quick dip of the wick

Gimp

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I have been buried alive in a dead marriage, so I try not to judge, but always, always A - I must have honesty, I have a right to choose.

I actually asked the question of someone who approached me recently because there were too many subtle clues in their profile, despite them calling themselves 'a single guy' in the text.

I asked point blank if he was married and he described himself as married but playing single.

Speechless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer C.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is option c?

And welcome back Gimp. I was worried that Fab Clique had cloaked your posts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A for me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would anyone choose to be ignorant of such a thing? A lot of people on here don't mind about marital status so why bother lying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A of course. Not ALL single guys are liars either, its hard enough for us without married guys muddying the water. If you cant be straight from the off why bother!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely A. Like people to be totally honest and give others the choice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely need to know if a guy is attached or not - so i know not to let myself get remotely emotionally attached. Xx

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

I would rather not know.

(could explain in more detail, but this is just a succinct answer to your question).

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

C Don't care. I'm not going to question why you are here - that's your business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A. I prefer honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"C Don't care. I'm not going to question why you are here - that's your business."

This for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my name gives my answer away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is option c?

And welcome back Gimp. I was worried that Fab Clique had cloaked your posts!"

Hya, No I was having my bi yearly electro shock therapy and it takes a few weeks for my fingers to start working again

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely need to know if a guy is attached or not - so i know not to let myself get remotely emotionally attached. Xx"

I think emotional attachment from meeting off here could be risqué whether they were married or not, unless of course the possibility was talked about.

As for being honest, as long as I'm told before meeting then I can make a informed choice ~ that goes across the board not just someone's martial status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A" of course, I cant see the point in those that play away being so secretive in here... What goes on in Vegas and all that.... Set the ground rule early on and have fun - right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A - then people have the choice to pass me by.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd prefer A, but it's not me that's cheating so they'll do what they choose.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"C Don't care. I'm not going to question why you are here - that's your business."

This is me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A. Like others have said if it's up front people can make an informed choice. There are many reasons people are on here and without knowing their full backstory I won't judge or slate people. However, it's only fair to declare everything up front (if not on profile in a very early message) so people can decide if they're happy to meet or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A.

We wouldn't want to meet someone who was dishonest about anything on here, we are honest and would hope for the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't care who they are as long as they like me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm actually an 'A'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For the record, i'm A, but you probably guessed that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

prefer not to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A

Not bothered if people want to cheat, that's their business, but i don't want any part in it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"For the record, i'm A, but you probably guessed that "

I think the 'married' bit in your profile was a bit of a giveaway

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"prefer not to know."

You do now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile States that I won't meet attached guys so I don't get too many messages off them. Most married guy profiles are easy to spot but I do not need anyone to "declare" anything to me.

If I choose to break my rule that my choice, if some chooses to cheat on a partner that's their choice....I judge no one

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Informed choice is always the best I fine

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