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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have joined this site recently having having been a member & a mod for several years (& remain so) at another site that is focussed more towards posting of exhibitionist/erotic pics for appreciation and compliments etc, rather than personnal pics in profiles for the purpose of swinging/meeting etc.

My point is, that while surfing & reading these forums, I am often drawn by an attractive avatar image to go and check out the members profile, not looking to hook up or meet, but just to see their pics & find out what they're into, and because of the background mentioned above have had the urge to message them just to say 'wow love your pics' or 'think you're gorgeous' or some such.

While posting pics purely for comment is very much the raison d'etre of where I'm used to, I am also aware that is not the sole focus here.

What I'd like to ask is, how is that viewed here? Would messaging just to say 'god your cute, such a sexy body', concidered as pestering or time wasting, two things I know are rightly frowned on, or is it likely received as it was meant, just pure compliment on having seen something gorgeous & sexy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lovely pics

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I get loads form guys that are not after a meet but just wont to compliment me on my profile or pictures. Get quite a lot from women as well. I always think its lovely to recieve compliments with no alterior motive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get loads form guys that are not after a meet but just wont to compliment me on my profile or pictures. Get quite a lot from women as well. I always think its lovely to recieve compliments with no alterior motive"

Ditto and I always send a response to say thanks too

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I get loads form guys that are not after a meet but just wont to compliment me on my profile or pictures. Get quite a lot from women as well. I always think its lovely to recieve compliments with no alterior motive

Ditto and I always send a response to say thanks too "

So do i lol

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

We would be over the moon actually

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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I also agreee, sometimes it's good to be told you look good, compliment on your profile etc,etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been offended by anyone who messaged me to say how much they liked reading my profile or the pics, as I took that as a compliment.

I only got offended when they started to ask if I would like to meet up, and would not take no for an answer.

And I have sent messages to gents saying how much I like their pics/posts/profiles etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooo, and I would always reply and say thanks for the compliments!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well ive not been abused yet

To be honest on another site, social network type, each profile has a guestbook that people viewing the profile can sign, one can then reply to the comment if you want to. People unfortunately often leave quite nasty comments when you view their profile but dont comment, and if fact thats the biggest moan on the site, so if i pop and look at someones profile, i leave a message on odd occasions, specially if they are newbies. Do it less now i know people can see who has viewed their profile though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo, and I would always reply and say thanks for the compliments! "

I agree it's nice to get the compliments but we have usually found that when we reply with a thankyou, and we always do as its impolite not to, then it's an opening for them to send another msg.

After that they keep coming and slowly work there way up to the 'pestering' level most people hate.

It's not in us to ignore these messages because that's rude but where do you draw the line???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have more than once messaged people to comment on their pics or well written profile, sometimes they are not seeking couples and so we mention we realise that but just felt we'd like to comment.

We too have had messages saying similar, We don't find it a problem and believe it adds to the site, shows it's not all about getting laid but making friends/being friendly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jane great pics! Shows that the exhibitionism was worth it!! Are you sure you're not bi?? lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all of you for your reply's, and good news too because I do enjoy passing such compliments when I can.

we're having fun here, and enjoy the chat/cam rooms too, so wanted to be sure I wasn't treading on any toes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't search profiles as the type of playmate I'm looking for seldom puts it on their profile, so I wait for them to contact me.

However, if someone posts something interesting on the forums I'll look them up.

Some of the male members have fit bodies and I'll tell them, but only if I've "spoken" to them on the forums!

If someone compliments or comments on my pics I say thank you.

Unfortunately it seldom stops there, the ask for a meet and push til they get blocked.

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By *op77Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

I think its nice to be able to let the person know that you like there photo or photos even if your not there type its nice just to compliment others i think

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Oops...and there's me been seeing such messages as a come-on...

I've got about 3 apologies to go and make....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much the same as sassy has said ...

we've often had, and still have, compliments on our photos and profile and usually we've replied with a 'thank you' but sadly in the majority of cases (not all I hasten to add) the compliment is seen as an inroad to a meet.

It can be looked at in 2 ways, 1) a polite way to open a dialogue with another member, or 2) A sneaky crawly way to open a dialogue with another member

We always accept it for what we hope it is - a compliment but now rarely reciprocate (unless we like the perosn who sent the compliment)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally i feel that its a good way to start a conversation with someone, who maybe i think is interesting but not necessarily to arrange a meet.

the forums are a good way to get to know someone's sense of humour and personality but messages are a better for chatting

Grai

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By *arandjasCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

i personally dont send compliments now, as i di once, just as a compliment cos the couples pictures and profile was amazing and got sent one back saying "sorry you are not our type", so i thought it best not to do anymore in case it got misunderstood again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I also agreee, sometimes it's good to be told you look good, compliment on your profile etc,etc"

Ditto

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"Have joined this site recently having having been a member & a mod for several years (& remain so) at another site that is focussed more towards posting of exhibitionist/erotic pics for appreciation and compliments etc, rather than personnal pics in profiles for the purpose of swinging/meeting etc.

My point is, that while surfing & reading these forums, I am often drawn by an attractive avatar image to go and check out the members profile, not looking to hook up or meet, but just to see their pics & find out what they're into, and because of the background mentioned above have had the urge to message them just to say 'wow love your pics' or 'think you're gorgeous' or some such.

While posting pics purely for comment is very much the raison d'etre of where I'm used to, I am also aware that is not the sole focus here.

What I'd like to ask is, how is that viewed here? Would messaging just to say 'god your cute, such a sexy body', concidered as pestering or time wasting, two things I know are rightly frowned on, or is it likely received as it was meant, just pure compliment on having seen something gorgeous & sexy?

"

We would love to get emails like that, it would be nearly as good as looking at your pictures (which we must say we love! That wet boxer pic made Mrs R drool!))

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"the forums are a good way to get to know someone's sense of humour and personality but messages are a better for chatting

Grai "

Don't you find that your inbox starts to get overfull though?

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