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By *o new Winks OP   Man
over a year ago

BSE

...all you stealth browsers turn off private viewing.

I never have it on and anyone can see who I have been perving ....ahem...taking an interest in.

However, it often starts conversations and I think it is a good thing.

So, come on everybody, front up and let the Fab world know where you have been.

Who will be first ?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

No thanks! It's another filter for me

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I'm not shy in my pervery, if I see an interesting profile then I will have a look and maybe have a little fab at the same time

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

if i look and like, i let them know.

Just because I look doesn't mean I want a conversation - I might have looked and decided not for me.

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By *o new Winks OP   Man
over a year ago

BSE

As I thought...it is ok to send face pics but to be caught looking is a step too far.

I just regard it as a compliment to the person I am looking at.

I hope they feel the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never turn it on,90% of folk I look at im NOT perving just being nosey seeing who is who in the forum

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By *o new Winks OP   Man
over a year ago

BSE

I know you do Sandy...I see you regularly

The fact that anyone looks at the profile...even to decide no...can be a positive thing.

The guys who are always asking whybthey dont get replies may be happier if they know that you have at least looked. If you do it in private they can think they have been ignored.

Just a thought.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

how do you do that ?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I know you do Sandy...I see you regularly

The fact that anyone looks at the profile...even to decide no...can be a positive thing.

The guys who are always asking whybthey dont get replies may be happier if they know that you have at least looked. If you do it in private they can think they have been ignored.

Just a thought. "

Damn outed again

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"I never turn it on,90% of folk I look at im NOT perving just being nosey seeing who is who in the forum"

Same here

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"I know you do Sandy...I see you regularly

The fact that anyone looks at the profile...even to decide no...can be a positive thing.

The guys who are always asking whybthey dont get replies may be happier if they know that you have at least looked. If you do it in private they can think they have been ignored.

Just a thought. "

I'm not sure about this...

How is it better to see the number of people that look and then decide not to message?

It is just another form of finding out how many people reject you?

I'd far rather focus on the people who chat and match than the ones that decide not to.

I don't check who winks, looks at me or any of that - I'd rather go by a decent profile and then see where it goes over messages than worry about who is looking but not taking it further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines staying on its there for a reason

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I know you do Sandy...I see you regularly

The fact that anyone looks at the profile...even to decide no...can be a positive thing.

The guys who are always asking whybthey dont get replies may be happier if they know that you have at least looked. If you do it in private they can think they have been ignored.

Just a thought. "

Sorry but I disagree....I know men who think a 'look at me' as an invite to message with...

Hi, just noticed you looked at my profile....

I have enough unsolicited mail to actually invite more.

If I was a single male, I probably wouldn't be in stealth mode, but it is different for men/women/couples.

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By *o new Winks OP   Man
over a year ago

BSE

As a lady you dont need to worry about who looks. Sone of the guys on here would be happy to know they are not like BrightonSteve....invisible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never turn it on,90% of folk I look at im NOT perving just being nosey seeing who is who in the forum"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I like perving anonymously

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm in stealth mode but I never look at who's looked at me and I hardly look at profiles.

My pictures are there for all to see

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

No fecking way!!

Many of the profiles we view are off the back of incoming messages from totally incompatible people, after reading forum posts/status updates, viewing suspicious photos, or simply through browsing.

Many end up on our block list.

Many we will never want to view again.

Some we may message - but the majority we won't due to lack of interest/attraction.

You don't know anything about a profile til you view it. And once viewed you often wish you hadn't!! Wanting someone to know we'd looked? Not in a million years!

A

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By *o new Winks OP   Man
over a year ago

BSE

Well if you hace viewed and dont like...just block.

I am unsuprised at peoples respnse btw.

Mind you, if I were a lady or couple, my opinion may be diff too.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Well if you hace viewed and dont like...just block.

I am unsuprised at peoples respnse btw.

Mind you, if I were a lady or couple, my opinion may be diff too. "

And increase the amount of 'why did they block me threads'

They'll all be saying, 'but I hadn't even spoke to them, all I did was look at their profile'

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By *r jblMan
over a year ago

from parts unknown

There are a few nice ladies. But to far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know you do Sandy...I see you regularly

The fact that anyone looks at the profile...even to decide no...can be a positive thing.

The guys who are always asking whybthey dont get replies may be happier if they know that you have at least looked. If you do it in private they can think they have been ignored.

Just a thought. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think some people might worry the amount of times we look at them if i took off stealth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accidentally end up looking at profiles almost every day,because I accidentally press on a user name or thumbnail pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never used it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are a few nice ladies. But to far away "

Thanks a lot hun!!! x

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By *o new Winks OP   Man
over a year ago

BSE

I see a few are giving it a go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't make much differance to me to be honest, most of the time I'm only going on their profiles to block them anyway!!!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

No, I browse in stealth for a reason.

I'm not changing that to protect the feelings of strangers. Especially since not only is there no benefit to me but it actually causes me grief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stealth mode hardwired

Otherwise those I like the look of will think I'm a stalker

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough


"Nope I like perving anonymously "

likewise

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'll carry on looking in stealth mode

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By *inky BunnyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I'll not turn off stealth mode no, no, no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always have stealth mode on. Can do without the 'saw you looking' messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol its funny to think folk think you fancy them just cos you take a peak at their profile,dont they ever consider yer just being curious as to who is on the forum.

btw I do perv now n then

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"No fecking way!!

Many of the profiles we view are off the back of incoming messages from totally incompatible people, after reading forum posts/status updates, viewing suspicious photos, or simply through browsing.

Many end up on our block list.

Many we will never want to view again.

Some we may message - but the majority we won't due to lack of interest/attraction.

You don't know anything about a profile til you view it. And once viewed you often wish you hadn't!! Wanting someone to know we'd looked? Not in a million years!

A"

Yea, exactly so!! Most of the profiles I view I have no desire to chat to, so I'd rather they didn't know I viewed, it would only encourage unwanted attention.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"lol its funny to think folk think you fancy them just cos you take a peak at their profile,dont they ever consider yer just being curious as to who is on the forum.

btw I do perv now n then "

Plus how would you even be able to tell if you fancied them without looking?

If someone looks at me and doesn't message or wink then they either decided they aren't what I'm looking for, or aren't interested.

Why chase someone who looked but didn't initiate contact?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol its funny to think folk think you fancy them just cos you take a peak at their profile,dont they ever consider yer just being curious as to who is on the forum.

btw I do perv now n then

Plus how would you even be able to tell if you fancied them without looking?

If someone looks at me and doesn't message or wink then they either decided they aren't what I'm looking for, or aren't interested.

Why chase someone who looked but didn't initiate contact?"

jeepers creepers id never chase anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol its funny to think folk think you fancy them just cos you take a peak at their profile,dont they ever consider yer just being curious as to who is on the forum.

btw I do perv now n then

Plus how would you even be able to tell if you fancied them without looking?

If someone looks at me and doesn't message or wink then they either decided they aren't what I'm looking for, or aren't interested.

Why chase someone who looked but didn't initiate contact?

jeepers creepers id never chase anyone "

although I would run away from a few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol its funny to think folk think you fancy them just cos you take a peak at their profile,dont they ever consider yer just being curious as to who is on the forum.

btw I do perv now n then

Plus how would you even be able to tell if you fancied them without looking?

If someone looks at me and doesn't message or wink then they either decided they aren't what I'm looking for, or aren't interested.

Why chase someone who looked but didn't initiate contact?

jeepers creepers id never chase anyone

although I would run away from a few "

and yes I can run in 6" strappy high heels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stealth mode all the way for me, I sometimes look at a profile more than once or twice, sometimes by mstake but mainly on purpose. Anyway my fabs normally give the game away

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By *o new Winks OP   Man
over a year ago

BSE

Suprised how striongly some people feel about this. Live and learn.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"I never turn it on,90% of folk I look at im NOT perving just being nosey seeing who is who in the forum"

This is also what I do...but just as an experiment I'll turn off the stealth for a bit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stealth mode all the way for me, I sometimes look at a profile more than once or twice, sometimes by mstake but mainly on purpose. Anyway my fabs normally give the game away "

Agree, if I'm interested I'll wink or fab their pics, sometimes I'm just being bloody nosy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's weird is the fab or a wink from someone who hasn't appeared to browse you... surely their plan has back fired?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive seen quite a few guys in the forum have looked at my profile and I sometimes message em saying "Haha caught you peeking" im pretty certain most are not interested in t'girls but just being curious and all of them have taken the joke well and most tell me I look good but not into t'girls,lol

mind you a few are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's weird is the fab or a wink from someone who hasn't appeared to browse you... surely their plan has back fired?"

Some people you want to know, some you don't

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"What's weird is the fab or a wink from someone who hasn't appeared to browse you... surely their plan has back fired?"

How?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"What's weird is the fab or a wink from someone who hasn't appeared to browse you... surely their plan has back fired?"

People browse in stealth mode.

Why would a wink from them have back fired?

A

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

As I replied to a poster on another thread who wondered why it was mainly guys who were looking at him, "I think most ladies prefer to perve so they don't get a barrage of "I see you looked at me" messages"

I personally couldn't give 2 hoots who has looked at me, if they like what they see they will either wink or message

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

hmm.. ok then. just for today.. else a few guys on here will have me locked up for stalking within a week

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

It kind of freaks me out when I see the same person view me about 15 times a day and doesn't say anything...but that's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It kind of freaks me out when I see the same person view me about 15 times a day and doesn't say anything...but that's just me. "

Maybe they are just shy

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By *r jblMan
over a year ago

from parts unknown


"It kind of freaks me out when I see the same person view me about 15 times a day and doesn't say anything...but that's just me. "
. It not me.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"It kind of freaks me out when I see the same person view me about 15 times a day and doesn't say anything...but that's just me. . It not me. "

Ok shaggy

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"It kind of freaks me out when I see the same person view me about 15 times a day and doesn't say anything...but that's just me. "

It's the ones you cant see you have to worry about!

(The ones with calloused and blistered hands!! )

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It kind of freaks me out when I see the same person view me about 15 times a day and doesn't say anything...but that's just me. "

Actually it was 16 times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you all look at who's viewed your profile then? It never really occurs to me to do that. If they've viewed and liked it they'll be in touch, if they've viewed and not contacted me then I'm not for them or they were just being nosy (95% of my profile viewing is just having a bit of a neb). If they've viewed every 3 minutes for the past 2 months and not contacted me, I'd rather not know.

And surely that applies whether you're male, female or couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we like being stealth pervs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always browse in stealth. Prevents injunction orders being send from those I perv regularly

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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago

Greensburg

We keep our views of profiles private. Things are simply much easier this way. Too many people think a quick look is the same as an invitation or a declaration of interest. That is what winks and messages are for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've peeved on your page a few times anna

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

We have a private perve and am a nosey moo too!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We're all here with differing needs and circumstances so it's better to find what works for you and respect that others won't be the same. Tracks on or off is part of the filtering that helps keep the site successful as well as users comfortable about who is in contact with them.

If you need reassurance and validation that you're of interest to others then fab may be a tough place for you. Just keep your focus on how to find and attract who you need.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

Stealth mode for me. When on mobile I accidently click on profiles. Never look who has viewed me as tends to be cock or silhouettes

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I could do with some ladies with avatars looking my first few pictures are either silhouettes or a TV with a hard on, just a charity look please,..

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