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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So out of the blue you get a PM, not on here, but from one of your friends on Facebook.

The message intimates that whilst they know you are with someone, they wish they'd have had a night with you and want you to know that.

You would never 'go there' with someone you regard as a friend.

This raises various questions :

- how do you respond / react to the sender ?

- do you tell your other half about the message ?

- if you were the other half, how do you react to being told (or not told) ?

- is this one of those situations where there is really no right or wrong answers ?

Over to you lot ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would play my ELO double album and think it over

Then I would arrange to see them.

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Unless they are a minger

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Think your over thinking it, I would just of got back and said thanks for the compliment with no drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my mindset were to never go there as a friend, I would say to them, in firm but warm tones, that yes, it would be an interesting night, but that I would never risk ruining a friendship. Ever.

After that I wouldn't talk to them through fab at all, as it sets the wrong tone.

Me personally, I would tell my other half, but I wouldn't tell the sender that I'd told her.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

dont know how you can intimate that you'd want a night with someone, other that saying "I really would like to spend the nigh with you".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me...but I don't have another half. Do have a best friend of the fem kind.

We went there.....we are still best friends.

We go there as and when. Spend weekends together quite often....but we remain just best friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would tell my other half. ...

U may end up with a mfm...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never keep anything from your other half, it can never end well.

If your not going there, then tell them, don't give them false hope, it's probably taken a lot of courage to send that message (and probably quite a bit of vodka) so be gentle, your down the rabbit hole already the only thing you can do is be gentle and kind to everyone involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would play my ELO double album and think it over"

I see what you did there.

Nice one.

Suppose you could spend a Night in the City - unless of course they looked so bad they made you Turn to Stone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So out of the blue you get a PM, not on here, but from one of your friends on Facebook.

The message intimates that whilst they know you are with someone, they wish they'd have had a night with you and want you to know that.

You would never 'go there' with someone you regard as a friend.

This raises various questions :

- how do you respond / react to the sender ?

- do you tell your other half about the message ?

- if you were the other half, how do you react to being told (or not told) ?

- is this one of those situations where there is really no right or wrong answers ?

Over to you lot ..."

are ya wanking off to the image of this person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never keep anything from your other half, it can never end well.

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This.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Never keep anything from your other half, it can never end well.

If your not going there, then tell them, don't give them false hope, it's probably taken a lot of courage to send that message (and probably quite a bit of vodka) so be gentle, your down the rabbit hole already the only thing you can do is be gentle and kind to everyone involved."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would tell my other half. ...

U may end up with a mfm... "

....psssst they're gay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never keep anything from your other half, it can never end well.

If your not going there, then tell them, don't give them false hope, it's probably taken a lot of courage to send that message (and probably quite a bit of vodka) so be gentle, your down the rabbit hole already the only thing you can do is be gentle and kind to everyone involved."

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'm with Mysterious Guy - I'd put the record player on and ponder it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think all of my male friends know me better than that and probably wouldn't dare......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot depends on how you define "friend" in the context of Facebook.

Other than that, definitely share with your "partner". Not doing so simply opens the door to distrust.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Would never happen.

I'm not on Facebook!

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So here was what I did (I hasten to add, before I made this post)

Acknowledged the message and politely said I didn't think of him that way.

He then apologised.

Told the OH about the message on the 'no secrets' principle

His reaction was one of acceptance and understanding, mixed with a bit of 'the cheeky bastard '

It just struck me as one of them situations that, if not handled appropriately, could turn someone chancing their arm into something way more between a couple.

In terms of 'what type of friend', someone I used to socialise with and chat to a few years back, who I haven't seen in a couple of years.

He has never been, how can I say, 'inappropriate' before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with Mysterious Guy - I'd put the record player on and ponder it. "

I wondered why he was quiet tonight. Say hello to him from me.

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