FabSwingers.com forum: can personality win out over looks......

By *abio OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

in the wake of the "ugly" thread... this got me thinking...

I wouldn't call myself classically "good looking"... but what I lack in looks I think I so make up for in personality and more....

So what I am asking in how much does someone personality actually make in the decision to play with someone or not.... or is it more a case of looks first....

or is it personal that is the "dealbreaker" between playing or not.....

or have there been times when you have been mentally attracted to someone loads... but physically not so much???

seanxxxx

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"in the wake of the "ugly" thread... this got me thinking...

I wouldn't call myself classically "good looking"... but what I lack in looks I think I so make up for in personality and more....

So what I am asking in how much does someone personality actually make in the decision to play with someone or not.... or is it more a case of looks first....

or is it personal that is the "dealbreaker" between playing or not.....

or have there been times when you have been mentally attracted to someone loads... but physically not so much???

seanxxxx"
looks for me have always been of paramount importance, if i dont think "phwoooooooooooooar" then it aint happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

netty here

personality seals the deal, looks helps in the process

cant play with someone i do'nt find anything pysically attractive about

can't play with someone i don't like however gorgeous they look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

first impressions are always based on looks, however they need to be "nice people" too, to win me over.

If she's a munter, I just close me eyes or keep me shades on

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I think that looks are the first thing that will attract

But there have been times when the most gorgeous looking guy has had no substance at all

And there have been times when on talking to someone I hav'nt really found physically appealing they become more attractive as I get to know them because something just clicks

nothing to do with vodka goggles either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me that has to be some attraction there, even if they had the most amazing personality in the world I couldn't do anything if they were really awful looking.

Likewise they could be the most stunning person but if the personality isn't there then it's a no go.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Personality everytime, couldnt go with someone who was gorgeous but a comlete twat. Once i get along with people they become nice looking in my eyes anyway. I will say that there has to be some physical attraction, unfortunatly there are some people that just are not appealing. Lucky for me the guys i know are gorgeous outwardly and inwardly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks for us,combined with a nice personality.

We couldn't have sex with someone who's looks attracted us but personality turned us off and vice versa.

Initially though it's looks that attract........you can't see personality!

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By *attitude6Man
over a year ago

Ilkeston

See Fabio. Read every response. They all say looks. And yeah people say its personality too or personality even more so than looks... the problem being if there is a girl sat at the table, you have to be good looking to be able to sit next to her and show her your personality... the problem being for ugly guys, they arent allowed to sit next to them. Sure im exagorating but the point is there, if you dont have the looks then you cant sit at the table.

Btw Fabio, I dont see swingers as 3rd on the list as you put it, it is equal.. i only found out that a Swingers site existed a month ago ok pal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends...........

If i am wanting a quick meet looks wins.

If i am wanting someone to spend days out with personality wins.

If i am wanting a life partner i need both.

On the swinging scene you have to find someone personality ok but if they dont look so good visually wise well do you have sex with them? I don't.

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By *tryxxCouple
over a year ago

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we feel that looks are the first starting point,there has to be some attraction but then if the personality is not there or we dont think we would click then it's all over before its started, this is speaking from experience and aftr all it takes a while to set up meets,arrange a playtime so its not really worth trying to make something work is it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i couldn't have sex with someone i wasn't attracted to physically and mentally

eyes ass smile can win it for me and messages if i get on with someone easily then i know im 90% success for a good meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personality every time

looks only get you so far and definitely not into my bed! If you dont have the chat to back it up, what's the point?

the person doesnt have to be good looking to have an attraction, you could be attracted to their eyes or smile or laugh....doesnt matter as long as they appeal to you.

besides which, who the hell am i to decide what is and isnt good looking? gotta be some perfect beauty to be judging others looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See Fabio. Read every response. They all say looks. And yeah people say its personality too or personality even more so than looks... the problem being if there is a girl sat at the table, you have to be good looking to be able to sit next to her and show her your personality... the problem being for ugly guys, they arent allowed to sit next to them. Sure im exagorating but the point is there, if you dont have the looks then you cant sit at the table.

Btw Fabio, I dont see swingers as 3rd on the list as you put it, it is equal.. i only found out that a Swingers site existed a month ago ok pal?

The thing is though Matt,it all depends on what you class as good looking in a guy.

O.K there are the classical good looks and there are the pretty boy good looks.

But some women,Trace is one of them,can also go for unconventional looks.

I'm definitely no oil painting but Trace fancies me,even though I've no idea why,I must have caught her at a low ebb,lol.

You don't always have to look like Brad Pitt to attract a nice looking partner as I'm sure a lot of guys on here will vouch for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can personality win out over looks......"

No.

And looks don't win out over personality either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i also like confidence in a person as well x

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"personality every time

looks only get you so far and definitely not into my bed! If you dont have the chat to back it up, what's the point?

the person doesnt have to be good looking to have an attraction, you could be attracted to their eyes or smile or laugh....doesnt matter as long as they appeal to you.

besides which, who the hell am i to decide what is and isnt good looking? gotta be some perfect beauty to be judging others looks."
personal choice? Well you may think someones not so nice and il think theyre "phwwwwwoaaaaaaaaaaaaar" but you are entiled to an opinion surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personal preference has to be looks.

Its a shame all my ex's were nutters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot depends on what you look like your self. If your classed by others as having good looks then you set your targets higher looks wise. A good personality can have a bearing but as a guy i dont get turned on by someone i do not find physically attractive in some way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over the years i have had sex with not the best looking men allways....But there was just somthing about them i liked ... and when i think about it some of them was the best lovers to.... made me feel so sexie ... And again i have been with some of the best looking men ,,,,, who could easy be super models yes i did look at think god i am in heven ,,, 1 or 2 times but i had one who just loved himself so much he got of on wanking looking at him -self ,,, telling me how lovely he was ,, lol and it put me right of the sex ,, lol Looks are only skin deep and go with time .... I am picky have to be somthing i like in a person to make me feel like having fun with them not just looks. x We go on looks far to much in the swinging ... its about fun and clicking with people feeling you can trust them ... to let them into your lifes. kisses jo xxx sorry about my crap spellings xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree to a point that if you get the "phwoarrr" factor straight away, then all well and good. But there have been times when maybe someone (or people) have not initially had that, but by getting to know them a little over time, have become attractive to us in that way and we've had a fab time.

So I would say a combination of physical attraction with a fab personality in essential, someone could be drop dead gorgeous but if they have the personality of a parasite ridden weasel, then it's a no no for us xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldnt say anyone is bad looking...but i wouldnt say anyone is good looking, reason being is that my taste may be completely different to the next chap

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"i wouldnt say anyone is bad looking...but i wouldnt say anyone is good looking, reason being is that my taste may be completely different to the next chap"
but you are still allowed to have an opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i wouldnt say anyone is bad looking...but i wouldnt say anyone is good looking, reason being is that my taste may be completely different to the next chap"

Whilst this is true, it's also a little idyllic. There are certainly general society-led perceptions of what is "good" and "bad" looking. It's hard to put into words, or use a description, but to most people walking past person A in the street, you'd get a large % that described them similarly, especially if they were at either end of the spectrum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personality and someone i can be comfortable with and have a giggle with you can have the most gorous guy with a small cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we think a good mixture of both helps we like to meet couples that are good looking and have a nice personalitys we met some that was so much part of the click we might as well not bothered meeting them

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Ladeeees and Gentlemen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"personality every time

looks only get you so far and definitely not into my bed! If you dont have the chat to back it up, what's the point?

the person doesnt have to be good looking to have an attraction, you could be attracted to their eyes or smile or laugh....doesnt matter as long as they appeal to you.

besides which, who the hell am i to decide what is and isnt good looking? gotta be some perfect beauty to be judging others looks.personal choice? Well you may think someones not so nice and il think theyre "phwwwwwoaaaaaaaaaaaaar" but you are entiled to an opinion surely?

I agree, attraction is a personal thing, as i said, attraction could be a smile or a cheeky wink.

what i dont agree, is that there is a benchmark for good looking, it will differ from person to person.

however, for me, it is the personality that i find myself attracted to.

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over a year ago

"Ladeeees and Gentlemen.

Welcome to Fabs' "Thread of the Day"!!

Early preictions are for 100 posts to be acheivable.

Our pundits are expecting some light arguing, but there are no predictions at this time for it "kicking off" and our forecast is a forum ban is, at this stage, unlikely for any members.

We'll be monitoring the thread during the day to see how things progress and bringing you regular updates.

Don't forget forum fans - it can kick off at any moment, and input from the original poster can often be the key - though we've all see OP's disappear and leave the battlefield to those who want it.

Good luck to you all.

Let opinionated comment commence..."

You'll know it's thread of the day when it's 4:30, which is when the major thread hijackers come on line

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

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"Ladeeees and Gentlemen.

Welcome to Fabs' "Thread of the Day"!!

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Don't forget forum fans - it can kick off at any moment, and input from the original poster can often be the key - though we've all see OP's disappear and leave the battlefield to those who want it.

Good luck to you all.

Let opinionated comment commence...

You'll know it's thread of the day when it's 4:30, which is when the major thread hijackers come on line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a good one ,,, this post as you get some on site like this so far up there own bums. AND then you get some so scared to meet as feel thay may let others down as dont see them selfs very nice ,,, its about fun not all that crap , clicking getting on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Its a good one ,,, this post as you get some on site like this so far up there own bums. AND then you get some so scared to meet as feel thay may let others down as dont see them selfs very nice ,,, its about fun not all that crap , clicking getting on. "

*nods in agreement*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality everytime for me looks always come second

looks fade with time true personalities rarely do

yes it's a bonus if you get both of course it is

But I would really prefer to know someone that I get intermate with is a nice person on the inside

Than ta find out that the drop dead geourgous person has issues with everything

Lifes fa livin I say xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First impressions are important but not the most vital part of an attraction, as suds above has said People can grow on you, there are lots of very attractive People who's attitude and persona would shrivel yer Nudger as soon as they spoke so it's a combination of looks and personality for me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When i first met Jay neither of us where physically attracted to each other, but we liked each other. After a year of being friends and sending really long emails to each other, jay came over for lunch one day and it dawned on us both that after a year we had fallen in love. He now says im the most beautiful woman in the world and i think he has the kindest face in the world

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Btw Fabio, I dont see swingers as 3rd on the list as you put it, it is equal.. i only found out that a Swingers site existed a month ago ok pal?

You need putting in a bag and shaking up. You appear to be obsessed by your looks. Someone needs to give you a damn good reality check as i said on the previous post about ugly people, there are so many people with severe disabilities and facial disfigurements that have a wonderful happy life. Go out and bloody well start to enjoy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since starting this we have always gone with our gut and relied on personality and whether we 'clicked' or not. It's served us well the majority of the time.

However there is that old saying 'proof is in the pudding' and the usual gut instinct just failed us this one time. Guy from another site. Tall, good looking, really nice personality.

God what a mistake that meet was. We left after 15mins. Total personality change once in the bedroom. A disaster!

Just beware that when you think everything will be perfect, there's always that one that will bite you in the arse

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

"Personality everytime, couldnt go with someone who was gorgeous but a comlete twat. Once i get along with people they become nice looking in my eyes anyway. I will say that there has to be some physical attraction, unfortunatly there are some people that just are not appealing. Lucky for me the guys i know are gorgeous outwardly and inwardly"

that is exactly how I am!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks for me have always been of paramount importance, if i dont think "phwoooooooooooooar" then it aint happening

Ditto to that. She may have a great personality but if she looks like Bella Emberg she ain't getting hold of my John Thomas!!

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

What is meant by looks? Probably only facial appearance and basic body shape? Rightly or wrongly we make an almost instant decision, I suspect the basis of which is preprogrammed.

I would agree that looks are an initial factor. In perving profile pics it is easy to rule people out, not in.

But over time, say through forums or chat, personality traits appear that lead to positive or negative thoughts. What matches our own views of personality, ethical values etc wins out.

In the end it's like an unwritten rule of golf you may um and ah whether you yave chosen the correct club for a certain shot.

But once you have chosen, right club or not, just give it yer best shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks for me have always been of paramount importance, if i dont think "phwoooooooooooooar" then it aint happening

Ditto to that. She may have a great personality but if she looks like Bella Emberg she ain't getting hold of my John Thomas!!

you must be drop dead gorgeous to every person on the planet then huh?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Btw Fabio, I dont see swingers as 3rd on the list as you put it, it is equal.. i only found out that a Swingers site existed a month ago ok pal?

good call!!

i just had an excellent time with a guy who said "a girl like you wouldnt look twice at a guy like me"....i ignored that line as i thought it accused me of being shallow....walked of and he walked over and made some quip about how i at least proved his point...but he had this wicked glint in his eye i couldnt resist. had sooo much fun both in and out of bed. doesnt matter what you look like, if you have the confidence to pull it off you're half way there.

though there's a fine line between confident and arrogant.

also have a friend who i would say most would consider was incredibly gorgeous looking...thing is, he's terribly shy and a real nice guy so every woman he talks to ends up being a great friend!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes Yes Yes, we look for personality before looks when we go to clubs, ok we are shallow and looks are important too but even a WOW factor in looks wont get anywhere with me if the personality doesnt come with it, on the other hand we have played with couples we havent been particularly attracted to accross a room but having spoken to them realised that not becoming friends or playing with them would be our loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am living proof that personality works first - cos nobody in thier right mind would spend time with me based on my looks or body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on how good the personality is but lest face it of a guy looks like the elephant man your not going to sleep with him no matter how nice they are.

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By *abio OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Ladeeees and Gentlemen.

Welcome to Fabs' "Thread of the Day"!!

Early preictions are for 100 posts to be acheivable.

Our pundits are expecting some light arguing, but there are no predictions at this time for it "kicking off" and our forecast is a forum ban is, at this stage, unlikely for any members.

We'll be monitoring the thread during the day to see how things progress and bringing you regular updates.

Don't forget forum fans - it can kick off at any moment, and input from the original poster can often be the key - though we've all see OP's disappear and leave the battlefield to those who want it.

Good luck to you all.

Let opinionated comment commence..."

the only opinion I have of you is that you are a cheeky sod!!!! I think i'm actually a lot more measured about what I write now (see, this is what happens when ya count to 10 before typing)

I am not a firestarter and I don't take offence to what you put, however I could see how this post could be constued that way bearing in mind we were talking about "hijacks" in other threads

back to topic....

I don't see me as "good looking"... I don't think people tend to see it in themselves, however when I am on meets or in clubs I do think to myself "why have they picked me?"

In a way I think I have a lot more confidence now then I did when I started, and I think that does show in my personality...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladeeees and Gentlemen.

Welcome to Fabs' "Thread of the Day"!!

Early preictions are for 100 posts to be acheivable.

Our pundits are expecting some light arguing, but there are no predictions at this time for it "kicking off" and our forecast is a forum ban is, at this stage, unlikely for any members.

We'll be monitoring the thread during the day to see how things progress and bringing you regular updates.

Don't forget forum fans - it can kick off at any moment, and input from the original poster can often be the key - though we've all see OP's disappear and leave the battlefield to those who want it.

Good luck to you all.

Let opinionated comment commence...

the only opinion I have of you is that you are a cheeky sod!!!! I think i'm actually a lot more measured about what I write now (see, this is what happens when ya count to 10 before typing)

I am not a firestarter and I don't take offence to what you put, however I could see how this post could be constued that way bearing in mind we were talking about "hijacks" in other threads

back to topic....

I don't see me as "good looking"... I don't think people tend to see it in themselves, however when I am on meets or in clubs I do think to myself "why have they picked me?"

In a way I think I have a lot more confidence now then I did when I started, and I think that does show in my personality...

You may not be Denzel Washington but your not an ugly man either. If a man is attractive in some ways and has a decent personality or better he is in with a shout.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""can personality win out over looks......"

No.

And looks don't win out over personality either."

Too true!

To the people who put personality first though,just a thought.........If a good looking person has a great personality and an ugly one does too......Which would you choose?

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

the key word is ATTRACTION, it's either there or it is not.

and thankfully everyone of us is different, otherwise i'd be a busy and tired man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks for me have always been of paramount importance, if i dont think "phwoooooooooooooar" then it aint happening

Ditto to that. She may have a great personality but if she looks like Bella Emberg she ain't getting hold of my John Thomas!!

you must be drop dead gorgeous to every person on the planet then huh?!

The man has the right to choose and say who he will or won't so no need for sarcasm!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the key word is ATTRACTION, it's either there or it is not.

and thankfully everyone of us is different, otherwise i'd be a busy and tired man.

Precisely and part of that is physical and part is personality. I find its often the less attractive who harp on about it just being personality!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the key word is ATTRACTION, it's either there or it is not.

and thankfully everyone of us is different, otherwise i'd be a busy and tired man.

"
Here Here xxx god there is someone out there for everyone. We cant all like same thing ... things i find Attractive some may not ... its each to there own..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks for me have always been of paramount importance, if i dont think "phwoooooooooooooar" then it aint happening

Ditto to that. She may have a great personality but if she looks like Bella Emberg she ain't getting hold of my John Thomas!!

you must be drop dead gorgeous to every person on the planet then huh?!

The man has the right to choose and say who he will or won't so no need for sarcasm! "

wow! the humour police are in tonight then?

love how some folk are allowed to joke and others not.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks are important to most people but i know from some of the people we have met with its mainly the woman who has to impress the men just provide the cock to play with after! i cant say i would play with a 'nice' couple over a hot one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks for me have always been of paramount importance, if i dont think "phwoooooooooooooar" then it aint happening

Ditto to that. She may have a great personality but if she looks like Bella Emberg she ain't getting hold of my John Thomas!!

you must be drop dead gorgeous to every person on the planet then huh?!

The man has the right to choose and say who he will or won't so no need for sarcasm!

wow! the humour police are in tonight then?

love how some folk are allowed to joke and others not.....

Everyone is allowed to joke but just putting a smile at the end of your comments dont mean you can be rude to people and then pretend you meant otherwise. If you don't like an adverse reaction dont use sarcasm its not hard to understand!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks for me have always been of paramount importance, if i dont think "phwoooooooooooooar" then it aint happening

Ditto to that. She may have a great personality but if she looks like Bella Emberg she ain't getting hold of my John Thomas!!

you must be drop dead gorgeous to every person on the planet then huh?!

The man has the right to choose and say who he will or won't so no need for sarcasm!

wow! the humour police are in tonight then?

love how some folk are allowed to joke and others not.....

i've had and seen worse and the people take it in good faith.

the person i responded to never made any comment and if they had i would apologise to them personally.

i dont feel the need to answer to you on this matter as it wasnt you i responded to.

also not said in bad faith!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks for me have always been of paramount importance, if i dont think "phwoooooooooooooar" then it aint happening

Ditto to that. She may have a great personality but if she looks like Bella Emberg she ain't getting hold of my John Thomas!!

you must be drop dead gorgeous to every person on the planet then huh?!

The man has the right to choose and say who he will or won't so no need for sarcasm!

wow! the humour police are in tonight then?

love how some folk are allowed to joke and others not.....

i've had and seen worse and the people take it in good faith.

the person i responded to never made any comment and if they had i would apologise to them personally.

i dont feel the need to answer to you on this matter as it wasnt you i responded to.

also not said in bad faith!

You posted a sarcastic remark and if its available for all to read its available for all to comment on so you do not need to hop on your soap box. I found your sarcasm uncalled for and retain the right to comment on it.

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over a year ago

...i'm not rising to your bait.

if you want to discuss it you should do it off the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...i'm not rising to your bait.

if you want to discuss it you should do it off the thread."

I am not discussing i am telling you. Now sit down, digest what i have said and just take on board people may react adversely to your comments on here.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Now Now ladies - It is only an internet forum after all and everyone is entitled to their own opinions whether you agree with them or not!

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over a year ago

there been a few times iv seen someone and thought err no my cuppa tea but once iv started chattin with them there is something there! but on the flipside iv seen people and though phwwwooooarr but them talk to them and my will to live leaves! we funny us humans!! x

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

if the person who posted the comment has an issue with it im sure they are adult enough to either take it up with poster themself or report to admin.

if you have own issue with someones replie then you report to admin yourself and they can decide if any action called for.

as person has quite rightly said forum isnt the place for this .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...i'm not rising to your bait.

if you want to discuss it you should do it off the thread.

I am not discussing i am telling you. Now sit down, digest what i have said and just take on board people may react adversely to your comments on here. "

and i am not a three year old to be told.

if you want to talk about offensive, i am finding your attitude to one of a bully. out of all the responses here, you have singled out mine.

more than happy to discuss in private, but i'm sure you would rather have the last word on this thread for all to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brad Pitt wishes he was as good looking as me.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I am not discussing i am telling you. Now sit down, digest what i have said and just take on board people may react adversely to your comments on here. "

errrmm sorry but forum is for discussion. noone is here or has right to TELL anyone anything . if u have issue i advised goingthrough proper channels and not airing it on here where as u said ,ALL CAN SEE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now Now ladies - It is only an internet forum after all and everyone is entitled to their own opinions whether you agree with them or not!

I would fully agree with you on that. As they have the right to disagree. I respect someone's opinion but find sarcasm a rather unpleasant trait, surely a man with guiness pants wouldn't deny me that pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think that personality can win out over looks.... then it can

Vice versa is also true.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"Now Now ladies - It is only an internet forum after all and everyone is entitled to their own opinions whether you agree with them or not!

TBH you are maybe both being as bad as each other on the sarcasm front and it won't be me, in or out, of guiness pants that will be putting a stop to it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now Now ladies - It is only an internet forum after all and everyone is entitled to their own opinions whether you agree with them or not!

TBH you are maybe both being as bad as each other on the sarcasm front and it won't be me, in or out, of guiness pants that will be putting a stop to it!

I would never claim to be whiter than white just reacting to a comment i didn't agree with. As for your pants, well behave or i will give you a weggie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

was loving this post on the forum please dont spoil it .... when a post make you think its good and this one has today .....

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

...i'm not rising to your bait.

if you want to discuss it you should do it off the thread.

I am not discussing i am telling you. Now sit down, digest what i have said and just take on board people may react adversely to your comments on here. "

what the f*** is that about.i thought the comment was sarcastic and funny.is that only alloud by some,but not for others.besides one of the most opinionated,sarcastic,people on here is wishy.and i love his posts,all the better for it.calm down it was only a friggin joke,and a good one.

commence attack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" was loving this post on the forum please dont spoil it .... when a post make you think its good and this one has today ..... "

apologies to _abio and the posters of this forum

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"Now Now ladies - It is only an internet forum after all and everyone is entitled to their own opinions whether you agree with them or not!

TBH you are maybe both being as bad as each other on the sarcasm front and it won't be me, in or out, of guiness pants that will be putting a stop to it!

I would never claim to be whiter than white just reacting to a comment i didn't agree with. As for your pants, well behave or i will give you a weggie! "

Sorry but I never do as I am told - never a Sub here

Now let's get back to the OP!

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

back to the op.i find this a really hard one.i never know,whether people like me.because i have a brilliant personality.or because im a handsome bastard.sometimes having it all,isnt good thing.only kidding,its friggin brilliant,ha ha ha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

call me shallow hal...lol...

but looks first then personality...

when you first meet someone its that instant attraction that decided what happens nxt...

but as the saying going beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

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over a year ago

"back to the op.i find this a really hard one.i never know,whether people like me.because i have a brilliant personality.or because im a handsome bastard.sometimes having it all,isnt good thing.only kidding,its friggin brilliant,ha ha ha.

it's great that you can play down your looks though....hardly noticed it as it's your personality that just shines through.

....of to eat my cake and have it

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"there been a few times iv seen someone and thought err no my cuppa tea but once iv started chattin with them there is something there! but on the flipside iv seen people and though phwwwooooarr but them talk to them and my will to live leaves! we funny us humans!! x"

ain't we just

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Apologies in advance, but where is Nottsmale36 when a FIGHT!!!!!! is due?

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

if the personality aint there then person leaves me cold!

yes has to be an attraction there but for me its something that comes with time .the x factor lol!! theres ppl who you just click with on every level .thats more of a foundation than an brief "coor their hot" .has to be substance there for me

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over a year ago

"if the personality aint there then person leaves me cold!

there's a guy i work with. not what most would call attractive, not at all interesting and has the personality of a bull and is not even what you'd consider well built. but for some reason if i sit in a meeting with him, i spend the whole time wanting to jump over the table, rip open his shirt and sink my teeth into his chest.

i just cant work out what it is about him that i like

he even smokes and often smells of beer and cigarettes. there is nothing about him that i can pinpoint. it's darn confusing!

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"if the personality aint there then person leaves me cold!

i just cant work out what it is about him that i like

he even smokes and often smells of beer and cigarettes. there is nothing about him that i can pinpoint. it's darn confusing!"

hes a real guy.what every woman wants.yous just wont admit it.we all want a nice guy,who is mannerly,attentive,gives us our place.bull,that guy would bore the arse of yous in a matter of months.just friggin admit it.stop punishing yourselves.

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over a year ago

"hes a real guy.what every woman wants.yous just wont admit it.we all want a nice guy,who is mannerly,attentive,gives us our place.bull,that guy would bore the arse of yous in a matter of months.just friggin admit it.stop punishing yourselves.

hahaha...you's is probably right...he's defo an alpha male! i actually think all the men would suck his cock too if he told them to....and would be equally confused!

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

hahaha...you's is probably right...he's defo an alpha male! i actually think all the men would suck his cock too if he told them to....and would be equally confused!"

what do you mean probably right.not only do i have a brilliant personality,im unrealisticly handsome.im also never wrong.only kidding,i was wrong as recently as 1994.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Personality over looks?...ask Wayne Rooney...on second thoughts, maybe not.

I do love these models, bimbos etc..who say looks are not important..and they always go for guys with personalities etc....funny how they also seem to have a diamonnd import business or a Porsche franchise.....

Personnally...I think a woman who is funny, open and intelligent is far more sexy than some dope who doesnt even know whats in the news..(unless it involves Jordan (real name Katie Price) or some attention seeking no mark from big brother..

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over a year ago

Btw Fabio, I dont see swingers as 3rd on the list as you put it, it is equal.. i only found out that a Swingers site existed a month ago ok pal?

The thing is though Matt,it all depends on what you class as good looking in a guy.

O.K there are the classical good looks and there are the pretty boy good looks.

But some women,Trace is one of them,can also go for unconventional looks.

I'm definitely no oil painting but Trace fancies me,even though I've no idea why,I must have caught her at a low ebb,lol.

You don't always have to look like Brad Pitt to attract a nice looking partner as I'm sure a lot of guys on here will vouch for.

But thats the thing, whats good looking for some are not for others and personally i think you are hot stuff

and obviously Tracey thought so too

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By *abio OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

anyway thank you for all contributing to the thread.... have to say it made me as a "personality guy" smile........

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

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Personality does it for me every time. Looks are just a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Extremes in both cases put me off. But i will be honest and say i wouldn't get stimulated buy an ugly woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personality does it for me every time. Looks are just a bonus."

Well you're a rarity then

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over a year ago

"For me that has to be some attraction there, even if they had the most amazing personality in the world I couldn't do anything if they were really awful looking.

Likewise they could be the most stunning person but if the personality isn't there then it's a no go.

I think especially online looks does play a major part and with the high volume of mail most females get they can afford to be understandably choosy and selective on here. Your first message must therefore be as good as you can make it - this is the initial 'personality' element most ladies add to your pic to make the judgement - 'Is this guy worth it?' With no thought and little wit the answer is usually NO!

I think apart from this forum it is quite hard to strike up a rapport with individuals which I like doing

A feature where you can have a chat to people you're friends with only would be good a la Facebook. I have lurked on these forums more and more cos i do like the banter and 'organised' chat that you can strike up.

I even look on ppl's profiles who I think are cool

based on what they say - values, opinions and a sense of humour rarely come to the fore in one short message xx Plus i can see who are the perviest hahahaha

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

I think apart from this forum it is quite hard to strike up a rapport with individuals

Try the chatrooms..its virtually impossible!..unless you find 'veeeery nice' a form of rapport..

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over a year ago

I think though if the guys on here the ones that are young too good looking I think why on earth are they emailing me is it because they think im easy because I know for a fact that if they met me in a normal club they would'nt look at me twice. Got a lift to chams by two very sexy guys last night but not my type me and my friend molly all went as friends but as soon as we got in there they went of with two skinny birds I dont mind because I was having fun of my own. But my friend was insulted and thought it was a bit rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has to be both for me.

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks

looks 1st here; if they pass that test then of course then you all have to get on

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

A guy messaged me the other day, now im reall bloody fussy about who im interested in messaging back, this guy sent me a short message and i knew straight away i wanted to meet him and that was before id seen his picture. So as long as we carry on getting along i will be meeting him in a couple of weeks.

Original humour works wonders for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he says yes, she says no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks.

If i'm looking for a date the first thing that has to attract me is looks. Get by that stage then its the date to find out how that person is.

The personality usually changes months into the relationship when you find out the real person

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over a year ago

chatted to guys who have been what society dictates as attractive and they have been complete tossers. Chatted others who are not so hot but their humour and intelligence has attracted me. Its all down to peoples individual perceptions

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"chatted to guys who have been what society dictates as attractive and they have been complete tossers. Chatted others who are not so hot but their humour and intelligence has attracted me. Its all down to peoples individual perceptions

Good points there...humour is a massive turn on for me..(male half) given that male and female can often at two seperate poles, I find there is nother better than a funny woman..

There is another factor too IMHO ..the type of person you are yourself..of course all guys find very attractive women with beautiful bodies etc attractive...and vice versa for women..but reality has to play a part too...if a guy isnt well blessed in the looks/personality/body dept then he knows in his heart of hearts that a page three stunna type just isnt going to go for him...and likewise for women...lets be honest..how often to to see an ugly guy with a beautiful woman and vice versa?...rare at best..so we tend to accpet that certain types are the best we are going to get...and in most cases we are contented with that.

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over a year ago

"I think though if the guys on here the ones that are young too good looking I think why on earth are they emailing me is it because they think im easy because I know for a fact that if they met me in a normal club they would'nt look at me twice. Got a lift to chams by two very sexy guys last night but not my type me and my friend molly all went as friends but as soon as we got in there they went of with two skinny birds I dont mind because I was having fun of my own. But my friend was insulted and thought it was a bit rude."

I feel the same too hence i wouldnt meet them for all the money in china

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